Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 3377. page

>>17758851
Sounds like a panic attack, my whole body shakes too. My body seems to be relaxed but my brain starts to panic forcing my body to shake uncontrollably. After some deep breathing and listening to the sounds of waves or some relaxing music it goes away but this has only happened twice.. and it was the first month or so I got my Medical Marijuana card..

>>17758851
I get swollen tongue when I have panic attacks, I'm ashamed of it when it happens and it just makes me more anxious.

>>17758851
>3 times a month
>often

I know people that get high 3 times a week. Alot of them are high functioning, bankers etc

>>17758786
Sounds like she changed her mind, sorry brah.

>>17758794
Her actions make me think so too, but her texts make me think otherwise, as we both text some flirtarious shit left and right. That being said, she never texts first, so maybe you are right.

>>17758814
I went through a similar thing like one week ago, so I feel you, and she stayed nice throughout it all, which kept me going, until she finally said that she wasn't really interested.

I don't know how many times you've asked her out for a second date, but you should stop, before you start to come off as needy or desperate, and just leave it up to her.

Just go to erowid and read up on things there


General things: have some food prepped and ready somewhere beforehand, make sure your tripping area is clean (if you're going to stay in an apartment), put all sharp things out of sight, have an idea of what uou want to do before you trip, maybe some things to draw with, music to listen to, whatever.

You'll find out that once you start tripping all plans go out the window so it's best to make everything you want to do immediately available to you

it's best to trip in a dark room with some ambient music playing like the following:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vbK2GKGeEI&

make sure there are plenty of mirrors and keep sharp objects nearby so you don't vulnerable

>>17758696
Make sure you've planned for a situation where it's OK if oyu're totally helpless. Most people will tell you how to have a good time, so I'm gonna tell you how to be cool through a bad one.

Here's the advice I've been given:

Every trip is different, but generally people think in a pretty similar way. Everything has its box: A classification in relation to others, that being building blocks of reason. It's only natural to think this way. So what you'll probably try to do at first, is try and put everything in the boxes that you're used to them being in. They're not gonna do that. Don't worry about it. Let them go, they'll find new boxes. The fun is in seeing where they end up.

And my own:
Your trip will end. It will be over. It will be hard to know when. But if you're having a bad time, remind yourself at every opportunity that this is not permanent. We've found that people who go through bad trips, actually get some mental benefit from it. You could be literally tackling your demons. And in the end, you still have a totally unique, irreplaceable experience out of it.

>>17758623
>aren't capable of loving you
Ftfy

Stop being a shit person, and stop chasing shit women

>>17758623
Pat yourself on the back kid, it takes a lot of effort to be that unloveable

Dammit that picture needs to be a lot bigger

>>17758591
No, that's literally how dating is supposed to work. You get to know her a little bit, and either you start liking her more and more, or you realize the chemistry isn't there and it isn't gonna work out

Never force it, I never understand why people "settle," a bad or mediocre relationship is worse than being alone. You just add a ton of social obligation and responsibility to your life with very little payoff

>>17758591
you're just black

>>17758545
Does she know about your feelings?

>>17758561

I don't know but I haven't told her how I feel.

>>17758561
>>17758567

This is what I'm essentially asking. Should I tell her how I feel and this is why I don't want to spend time with her anymore?

>>17758505
lol
its gonna get worse when you get older
feel bad for your gf if she sticks around.
Maybe try chemical induced erection?

>>17758505
at least you have a girlfriend

>>17758505
Are you maybe used to watching lots of porn when masturbating so perhaps you are missing the visual side of things when you are close and fucking. Also the inside of her vagina and mouth are softer and wetter so might not feel like the death grip you give your cock. Maybe consider having gentle wanks for a few weeks with less porn and by gentle that can be using lube etc and just making it more wet like when inside a pussy or mouth.

>>17758496
Hang in there Anon, you'll be through this alright? You'll meet other people that's gonna treat you right, maybe even better than her.
But remember, in the end, all of us will die alone :)

I wish it would kill you on the outside.
Go find some real problems.

>she has a boyfriend

Tell her boyfriend what happened. I say this because she says she doesnt love him, but keeps him around because he keeps his mother's head above the poverty line?

A fucking leech is what she is. Be willing to put your balls on the chopping block, for better or worse. Let her be held accountable for her actions.

by speaking loudly about how well hung your new black bf is and how it satisfy your needs :)

>>17758482

Be cold, be distant, avoid them until they take the hint or develop another crush.

>>17758487
He knows I fucking hate sex and the only black guy in the village is married to a woman hotter than me.

>>17758472

Gradually drink less of it every day until you're down to zero. Maybe try caffeine pills if you're really desperate.

>>17758472
You're addicted to sugar, and that shit WILL kill you. Start switching to diet, then start switching to water. I can't even drink that kind of shit anymore, your body will re-adjust, there's nothing like a glass of cool, clean, refreshing, life-giving water that won't gunk up your system or make your heart start racing...

>>17758554
Do this OP. Quitting cold turkey is a good way to fail.

If you drink eight 8 cups a day, drink 7 plus another cup of water. Do this until you adjust and keep working your way down.

File: 1472666756143.jpg (35KB, 757x757px) Image search: [Google]

35KB, 757x757px

>cute girl on bus sits next to you than with a greasy creep

>>17758441
She read your mind and sensed the intolerance

>unconsciously take a glance at someone
>they quickly avert their gaze
happened yesterday at the store. i'm really not anything to get nervous or intimidated but it felt nice because rarely does that ever happen. it's usually me that freaks out when someone looks at me.

>>17758440
I feel you anon, i'd like to find another hobby as well.

>>17758440
Fishing

Learn a new language
play chess
draw or write a page every day
learn to dance
learn a programming language

try a lot of things and stick to the ones that you like the most

>>17758430
>I drifted apart from all my friends when I was with her so I could be closer to her.

That's your problem. You don't want her. You just don't want to be alone.

It's pretty understandable, and the solution is pretty simple. Build relationships again. It's gonna be hard, but not impossible. And after you do, you'll feel a lot better.

>>17758430
Holy shit OP are you me?

Except just over half a year ago
I just work out, and on the worse side I have problems with hearings in about my career etc about the mobbing I was under. So I just work out, sit at parent's home and apply for jobs/courses. I get a bit of relief coming and speaking here.

It's rough. Don't know what else to say, but you're not alone, OP.

>>17758439
>You just don't want to be alone.
Yeah, I don't think I'd be so bad off if I had stayed closer to my friends or had more. I was so infatuated that I thought she was the only friend I needed, and she was certainly the only one I wanted.
>Build relationships again
I'm honestly trying man but I don't know how to turn a casual conversation with a stranger into my best buddy. I talk to qt girls all the time but I still have no idea how to take that step from polite conversation to fucking.

>>17758449
I'd like to say it gets better but I'm still waiting on that part

Which military?

>>17758550
The American military. I was thinking the Marine corps or the Army.

>>17758724
Your contract won't be worth the paper it's printed on. The defense department is full of lawyers who will stop you from getting any benefit from this whatsoever.

I am in despair. I get you might not see this, but the anxiety I feel everytime I get close to a person knowing how badly I will fuck up is unbearable. So I stopped getting close to girls two years ago. I've had sex, yeah, not too much, not too little, with girls I barely know. That way I don't give a fuck about me being a priority or not or if I am the best motherfucker that fucked her. I don't care that way. But this girl I know too much, I've been waiting for too long, and I've been preparing myself to fuck her after her relationship failed, as I saw it was doomed from the beginning. But yeah, what I wrote above is what happened.

Now the competition thing, yeah, it's a competition for me the second I start fucking her because I want to make her want me, and no one else but me. I want her to want me so fucking badly that she doesn't care about fucking with others. Now that's not going to happen. And if we fuck, I'm gonna start a new episode of shitty days, anxiety and jealousy.

So I come here, /adv/, to ask you: I need fucking therapy, right?

And thank you for reading this, anon.

>>17758414
I think fucking someone's GF is probably the reason you can't trust people.