So my gf is everything that I want and need in a girl. Still,

>>17778081

Have you actually loved her? Or do you just feel like you should? If you've just drifted apart, what might work is to do things people in early relationships do; go on dates, spend time together, do exciting things and have lots of sex and try new things in bed too. That in some cases work. However, just because she seems like your ideal girl now, doesn't necessarily mean she is. Not all relationships last, even if they seem "good", and dragging it on might just make things worse. There might be someone better suited out there for both of you.

>>17778081
End it

>>17778109
>Have you actually loved her?
I have, we've been together for good 3 years

We live far apart right know (and will continue for the next year), because of college/work, so we can't really spend a lot of time together.

>dragging it on might just make things worse
Maybe. I'm just afraid of letting everything we build together go. I'm also afraid of being alone.

Anyway, thank you for the advice

OP here

I'm afraid breaking up might led her into giving up her studies. In case I actually do it, how do I avoid this?

>>17778118
>We live far apart

This sort of explains why you feel this way. For a relationship to feel close and loving some level of intimacy and actual touching is needed, because that's how humans work. Touching releases hormones like oxytocin and dopamine that are needed for that feeling of loving someone. Either you need to arrange more time together or just try to hang on with the knowledge that the relationship is worth it some time in the future. LDR are always challenging, so you shouldn't feel bad for feeling this way. It happens for reasons that are beyond just human logic.

>>17778126

Say something like you're proud of where she's headed in life right now, but that you don't think your relationship will be one of those things

>>17778081
>>17778118
It's normal for love to wear and fade as time goes by.
A relationship that is a good fit should feel like being with and having sex with your best friend, but maintaining the spark and attraction over a long distance rarely works out well in the end - every romantic relationship has a minimum requirement for physical closeness and intimacy, because this is when the brain releases chemicals which fuel the bond partners feel for each other (more so for women than men, but it does apply to both genders).

Fake it till you make it. And fake it thoroughly. Play the part of the romantic, doting boyfriend. Touch her a lot. Force yourself to notice the little details like where she has a freckle on her body, the little smile she has while reading, the shadow her eyelashes cast on her face. Hype yourself up for sex with her and do everything you can to make it into a passionate experience every time. When you notice yourself picking on unimportant details about her you find annoying or unattractive, distract yourself as soon as you realize you're doing it. Whenever she does something sweet for you, deliberately notice it and point it out to yourself - "I love how attentive she is", "it's so cute that she always remembers the details of the stories I told her", "she makes me feel like I could tell her anything and she wouldn't judge".

If this doesn't land any concrete improvement after ~two months, I'd just accept it's doomed.

>>17778081
What is love?