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>>17854939
Bump

>>17854939
One last bump, i dont wanna be a cringey idiot anymore at random times.

Just B urself :^)

>>17854933
>But once the lease is done and I have the money in gonna leave this place

definitely this

if that roomie was able to ruin your relationship with your "bf" then sadly he didn't really care too much anyway

find a new guy !!!

>>17854933
Yea dip out

I think it's funny you called them delusional dorks
It sounds like a sitcom episode but at the end of the episode they would realize they're dorks in the line at the club and agree to go back to beg for oh to take him back

Your boyfriend sounds like an idiot, and you sound nice enough to do better. If he really broke up with you to go clubbing he's an immature child. If he's not sure of his love go find someone who is. And kick your roommate in the head for being a cock

>>17854893
I'm not an expert on BDSM, but from what i know, it's a very intellectual form of kink. Why am I saying that? Because you always need to find more and more clever ways to stimulate yourself and your partner each time. If you engage in BDSM you will be spending a lot of resources into that kink because of what it requires both money-wise and time-wise.

Also the most important part is finding a willing partner, which is difficult because not everyone likes pain, I know I hate pain

>>17854893
>Is there any risk

lol

you want to meet unknown people, get naked, have them tie you up & get beaten so you can squirt some cum ?

what could possibly go wrong ?

clearly you haven't been reading books or watching movies about the kind of creeps out there

BDSM is well into "kinky" territory and you want to spend time with those freaks ?

it depends on how serious you are about your fetish. but as it seems, you care more about your reputation than your satisfaction and i would thus recommend you to not go.
on the other hand, everybody that goes there relies on the hope that the other don't use that information against them so it's like a secret pact. but ofc it might happen that you walk in and see your boss or whatever.
so, what i would do in your situation is inagine what would happen in a worst case scenario.

lets imagine you go there and there's someone you know. who would you want to meet there the least?

Guy here

You're a piece of shit. If she's really your "friend" then you'd show some fucking respect.

>>17854841
This. All together kids... WASTEMAN.

>>17854835
Im all for seducing bored gf's but affairs are too messy if things go awry

Just be subtle and see how she reacts

Halppp

>>17854818
Sometimes you have these lightning moments where two people's chemistry aligns jusssssttttt the right way causing you to feel a shock down your spine, time seemingly stops and for a moment no one else exists in the world but you and her. Then you stumble and headbutt her in the teeth because you're drunk af


But yea appreciate the moment for what it was
Like a really good memory to go back to, like the first time you set off a firework, that's what life's all about

>>17854818
I feel the same way about someone but that's because he was my first and so far last kiss.

I guess the best way to get her off your mind is when you find another girl

>>17854809
that's horrible

some key sentences you typed....

>So they gave me an ultimatum and i reluctantly complied.

maybe it is time for you to revisit this decision. knowing what you know now, would you still have moved with that person ?

>My partner became almost entirely immersed in some online community, basically only marginally concerned about
what i was going through.

> I'm confused if i should stay and keep trying because its been so long

why keep throwing your life away on a failed relationship ? it kind of reads like your "partner" doesnt really care about you too much and you are just something in his/her life, kind of like a pet, if you leave then they will just get another one
this is a major red flag, not the online comm stuff but that your "partner" ceased caring about you as a person & what is happening to you

as you get older you will defintely hit more shit in your life and if your "partner" does not help you deal with it, what the fck good are they ?

>>17854832

Thank you for your response. I've thought about these things too but i get hung up on our history and the better parts of it.

They do little things that make me think they care.I just don't feel like a big priority to them anymore.

An example would be when we went out the other night and it was time to go home they wanted to stay out to drink more so i went home alone.
i guess it sounds even worse when i type it out

>>17854856
well hmmm

trying to change somebody else is very difficult, it's even difficult to change yourself etc

so trying to think of things you can do to "change" your partner may not be a successful way to deal with this, or couples counseling ?

what do you want in the future ? to marry this person ? to date them for awhile ? maybe it is time to find somebody new ?

or maybe tell your partner you need some "space" to evaluate your self, your future and this relationship - altho this is almost always a 1st step towards total breakup

you're right to think about what a new person may be like, it's not that easy to start over but its also not easy to accept - this is what your partner is like for the rest of our lives

otherwise idk

reddit has some relationship advice 4ms maybe post there get more feedback from females, also they have registered ids so usually much lesss trolling

TITS OF GTFO

>>17854774

That's not a bad look, you have some nice legs.

Otherwise, just use it as a functional rather than fashionable clothing item.

I mean, yeah, it's just not a very attractive jacket.

>>17854782
Wrong board dude. /adv/ is like 40% female.

>>17854761
tell his parents

call CPS = child protective services

call 911

otherwise watch him die.......

>>17854761
teach him to meditate
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLjelIPg3ys

Just tell him his depression is a meme phase and he'll get out of it once he stops being such a whiny beta bitch

>>17854741

You made your move, she shut it down. It's over.

She didn't slide through your fingers, you didn't even date her.

Move on, keep an ear open for if she becomes single again ("great girls" rarely stay single for long), but otherwise just move the fuck on and forget it.

>>17854741
Theres nothing else to "get" from her other than what you already experienced.
She may like you as a person but what shes really enjoying is the attention she is getting from you. And the fact she has a bf and is doing this is a huge red flag if she would emotionally cheat on him she'd do it to you also. It's best just to move on. You will get over her faster and if you stay friends you will feel like a cuck.

1. Do not think you are lovable. If you thought she loved you, but mistook her kindness the wrong way, it does not mean you are hopeless.
2. She might not want to really /be/ with her boyfriend. But this is not your decision to make. You can get to know her better, and still want to peruse her, but don't ever think that you have a right to her. She may not know how to break it to her bf, or may not know how to deal with her own feelings.
3. Or she just might not be into you, but wants to be kind and doesn't want to make you feel like shit. Do not take this the wrong way if this is the case. She has a right to reject you, but tell you you have value.

I spend so much time alone guys. I spent the last two days basically talking to no one but two of my friends, and it wasn't even pleasant. I'm dying here. I really am.

At work for example, I used to always be the happy guy. Making everyone laugh and bring up the mood; people loved me. Now I can't hardly even keep it together. I give away half my shifts. I go to the back and litterally punch and kick and break things regularly because I am just that much of a mess.

as someone who smokes a ton of weed and occasionally dabbles in LSD, take a break my dude

you need to be sober and actually think about what it is that is bothering you

being fucked up is just a waste of your time

if you wanna do that go for it nobody's stopping you, but if you're young you might as well get it figured out and ironed out now, then go back to the weed and LSD.

Is it possible I could have mild, somewhat undetectable autism of some sort?

>>17854718
Find other *NT* people.
Normal people don't care about how the world works. They mostly just want to live life and pursue social/emotional goals and chase their simplistic half-baked dreams.
I don't like them either. I'm also INTJ. Most of my closest friends are *NT*, some *ST* especially *STJ.
I can't really relate to most **F*s. They think I'm cold and unempathetic, I think they're idiots relying too much on their lizard brains who aren't interested in fixing their actual problems. C'est la vie.
If you can understand other people's emotions and don't have any of the weird idiosyncrasies commonly referenced for Asperger's, then you're not autistic.
*NT*s advance society. Everyone else mostly just operates within the existing system, but we're the ones disproportionately driving it forward.

>>17854718
What city are you in? What do you do?
Also, read Dale Carnegie. Read it again every 2 weeks until it sinks in. Fake it.

continued

I'll add a little disclaimer as well, just to say that I don't generally pick up my phone around her, I like to give my girl my undivided attention, but if I'm waiting for her to get ready or come out of the bathroom I'll respond to a text message. The other night we were having a really good time together until she walked up to me responding to one text from a female friend while waiting for her, she completely overreacted even while I listened to her calmly and agreed that it was impolite to be texting in the setting, (I didn't touch my phone for the rest of the night) but she just wouldn't let it go. She sent me walls of messages about it the next day. I wont pick up my phone around her anymore. I try my best to reassure her, but I don't know how much further I'll have to go.
I assume she's been burned by infidelity before, which would explain her feelings partially, but I just need to know if there's a way for me to get through to her and at least earn a little more of her trust.

Finally
I quite like this girl so no "break up with her" advice please. We all know that's an option, but it's not one I want to explore. In simple summery we have great compatibility, I've lived through enough to recognize when something just fits. She's beautiful, intelligent, skilled, warm, funny (the whole package really). This is the one point of contention.

>>17854710
>at least help her realize her irrationality?

This is impossible

Jealousy comes from fear
Fear of losing
Fear of inadequacy
Fear of past occurring again
Possibly fear of being found out themselves (cheaters worry about cheaters a lot)

This is my method, and it has always worked for me, that's all I'm going to say, criticize if you'd like

>The way you assure a woman that you are loyal is to say you need to talk
>She automatically is going to assume this is bad, this is ok and will work to your benefit
>Once you sit her down you have to first acknowledge her feelings.
>Tell her you understand why she could feel this way while being sincere about it. bring up a previous action and reaction here
>then reassure her.
>if I wanted to be with someone else I would be, but I choose you and I wouldnt have it any other way
>throw in a joke to ease the tension and make her smile
>shit if Ariana grande was ON MY bed, NAKED I'd be like nuh uh bitch I got me a real one and run my ass to your place (this sounds cheesy but girls are dumb and it's only an example)
>then tell her that this doesn't mean she can't ever get jealous again but just to tell you directly when she feels a way so you can work through it together
>then you fuck her to seal the deal while she says I love you

>>17854665
Selfish

>>17854727
You're the first person who's ever said that!
Thanks for the insightful opinion!
:/

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Not here to judge. Try this, should be the best way

>>17854649
You're asking 4chan?
Either this is some bait with a lot of effort behind it, or you're a moron.

Dude, marriage is stupid. Embrace yourself, love yourself. Nothing wrong with it. I'm a straight conservative type. You're fine. Maybr move away from family. But fuck gay, nggers, jews, blacks. People in groups are awful period. Imdividuals are what matter.

>>17854663
Out of curiosity, isn't 'the sanctity of marriage' etc. a big part of the conservative mindset?
You know, women should be in the kitchen and raising children, everyone should have 2.5 kids and the white picket fence and a suburban house?

Use a fucking condom...

Durex avanti bare feels like nothing..
same with Their extra sensitive

and crown.. use condoms...

>>17854646
She can get injectable birth control. Good for months.
Vasectomy NOT usually reversible.

>>17854656
Just condoms alone don't feel safe enough to either of us. It can break and pregnancies can happen just from pre-cum if she's at the right time of the month and you get really really damn unlucky. All it takes is one time drunk to slip up a little and you got a baby on your hands.