Is there any risk to pursuing BDSM interests? I'm a man

>>17854893
I'm not an expert on BDSM, but from what i know, it's a very intellectual form of kink. Why am I saying that? Because you always need to find more and more clever ways to stimulate yourself and your partner each time. If you engage in BDSM you will be spending a lot of resources into that kink because of what it requires both money-wise and time-wise.

Also the most important part is finding a willing partner, which is difficult because not everyone likes pain, I know I hate pain

>>17854893
>Is there any risk

lol

you want to meet unknown people, get naked, have them tie you up & get beaten so you can squirt some cum ?

what could possibly go wrong ?

clearly you haven't been reading books or watching movies about the kind of creeps out there

BDSM is well into "kinky" territory and you want to spend time with those freaks ?

it depends on how serious you are about your fetish. but as it seems, you care more about your reputation than your satisfaction and i would thus recommend you to not go.
on the other hand, everybody that goes there relies on the hope that the other don't use that information against them so it's like a secret pact. but ofc it might happen that you walk in and see your boss or whatever.
so, what i would do in your situation is inagine what would happen in a worst case scenario.

lets imagine you go there and there's someone you know. who would you want to meet there the least?

>>17854921
Yea. I just have a feeling like I don't quite understand what I'm getting myself into. I've watched lot of porn and did a little reading but I still feel like I'm missing some puzzle pieces.

I like the idea of completely dominating a woman in several different ways and having her love it as well. I don't want to truly hurt anyone but I do want to do those things to a person and have them love it.

>>17854926
I'm pretty sure you didn't even read the OP. Thanks for stopping by I guess.

>>17854926
Ignore this OP.

To me the main risk of BDSM is people who are into it to take out their anger/ego issues on other people. If you're gonna get into it, you must realize that these experiences must be built on a foundation of trust and boundaries. Other than that, take it slow, be open minded and have fun learning!

>>17854966
Well that's the thing. I've noticed as I looked backwards in my life that I've always had a slightly sadistic streak. When I get really turned on, I sometimes lose my awareness and have found myself with my hand around a past gr's throat without realizing I got there. Luckily they all thought this was hot and as I said before, I don't want to really hurt people but I wanted to explore it rather than completely repress it.

I am the boss where I work so I'm not worried about finding mine and I have a good relationship with my employees so I don't fear anything there either. Honestly I'm more worried about this somehow coming back to haunt me if I run for office or become a big name one day which is a serious possibility for me.

>>17854984
Yea I read and understand this. I sure as hell wouldn't want to do this with anyone I don't trust and certainly not as a sub.

You sound like you have some experience in it. Care to share some thoughts for a complete newbie to the "scene". I'd really like to understand what I'm getting into. I was a bit thrown backwards when I messaged a place to confirm an event and the person responded with an email name subbie something. I thought that was a bit much for such a public greeting which is what really got me thinking.

>>17855007
ok, that doesn't sound too bad. then you should ask yourself if you really give a flying fuck about the opinion of people that judge others based on their fetishes? if you ever want to run for office or whatever, do you want to be that kind of person with a smooth, generic personality that doesn't rustle anyones jimmies?

personally i would also dig deeper for the reasons you are drawn to powerplay. it might be important to keep it on a playfull and enjoyable level. it is suspicious that it just "happens" with you and with people who didn't first give consent.

>>17855007
I'm actually a newbie myself. Most my experience comes from watching BDSM exhibits at some of the clubs in LA. Both Doms and subs are respected there. I've seen people get tied up and spanking each other with paddles and whips and then hugging afterwards. Its all about the thrill and the fun. The boyfriend and I have done some light BDSM with roleplaying, I've called him Master and I've also spanked him with a whip. But we haven't done anything super hardcore. Really its a lot of fun and nothing to be ashamed about. The other guy calling people "freaks" is probably just ignorant.

Also if you're going to be a Dom you should work your way upward. Its not healthy for someone to be a Dom who doesn't also know what its like to be a sub.

I'll say from (limited) experience that it is worth pursuing, if you have the willpower to commit and invest in it. My biggest advice is to stay Safe, Sane and Consensual, and to be informed, do a little independent research. Don't ever stick your dick in crazy, but especially don't stick your dick in crazy in bdsm.

>>17855023
Yea I was a bit worried about it as well but less worried when I saw that it's common in the scene for people to train each other and help get them in the right mindset. I've always been very aggressive and dominant even as a child. I've held back a lot because I that would often get me in trouble or hurt someone else which is why I'd like to explore in an environment where someone else craves that.

>>17855036
I'm also near LA as it turns out. Do you have any suggestions about places to start?

I understand what you're saying about subbing and I've thought about it but I really can't imagine subbing to anyone. It's just not in my nature. The best I can do and usually do do is equals.

>>17854893
Go online looking for BDSM groups and meet-ups in your area. Most have nonsexual meet-and-chat meetings or social getogethers where nothing is going to happen but you can talk with more experienced people.

>>17854893
better to be seen as a dominant guy during a BDSM course, than as a sub during an ass training & pegging course lmao

>>17855082
I don't think it is a requirement that you need to be a sub to be a good dom. My master never was a sub; however, he does always try his new tools on himself first to make sure he isn't causing me harm.

The most important thing is that you learn to communicate with your partner to make sure you are not going beyond your or her limits.