I have trouble connecting with other people.
I've been trying to make new friends since my breakup and whenever I'm online talking to someone, I feel like I end up making myself look like the biggest sperg in the world and the other person typically ends up not giving a shit about me.
I'm an INTJ which I've been told is the most socially retarded type. Thing is, I can talk to people irl and "normies" just great, but I want to have friends with some people who share my interests. It's seeming impossible though. What's wrong with me?
Is it possible I could have mild, somewhat undetectable autism of some sort?
>>17854718
Find other *NT* people.
Normal people don't care about how the world works. They mostly just want to live life and pursue social/emotional goals and chase their simplistic half-baked dreams.
I don't like them either. I'm also INTJ. Most of my closest friends are *NT*, some *ST* especially *STJ.
I can't really relate to most **F*s. They think I'm cold and unempathetic, I think they're idiots relying too much on their lizard brains who aren't interested in fixing their actual problems. C'est la vie.
If you can understand other people's emotions and don't have any of the weird idiosyncrasies commonly referenced for Asperger's, then you're not autistic.
*NT*s advance society. Everyone else mostly just operates within the existing system, but we're the ones disproportionately driving it forward.
>>17854718
What city are you in? What do you do?
Also, read Dale Carnegie. Read it again every 2 weeks until it sinks in. Fake it.
>>17855678
By which I mean: normal people expect you to care about pointless crap like their family, their birthday, what drinks they like, their recent vacations, etc.
*NT* people usually just care about whether their friends know interesting things or have interesting perspectives on abstract aspects of the world, and then talk about that.
Normal people are concrete communicators and mostly talk about irrelevant local arbitrary crap (why does it matter what my mother's name is or whether I like orange juice? I'm just an arbitrary person, it isn't important). *NT*s are abstract communicators and like to talk about how the broader system works (hmm mothers in general are getting older because of career pressure driven by macroecononics, or let's talk about how the orange juice futures market works and how to make money on it, etc).
>>17855693
No ones described my feelings so accurately
Do you think it's needed to fake care about people's shit like favorite food
>>17854718
>I've been trying to make new friends since my breakup and whenever I'm online
Read no further - there's your problem.
Make friends in real life, not online.
>>17854718
I'm INTJ,what you want is a social group.
Too bad,INTJ's are too intelligent for that.
Solution: Embrace who and what you are,enjoy your twisted introverted mind.
>>17855674
Yes!