>Been with GF for 5 years
>I love her, shes pretty, sexy, cool, etc. The relationship is fine, some arguments here and there but nothing bad really
>Problem is: Sex life has gotten kinda shit and has become more and more routine
This is how it is 9 times out of 10
>Weekend (we almost never have sex outside it)
>I wake up early, she likes to sleep in
>I go about my business, and wait about 2 hours or so
>I go into the bedroom in lie down, cuddle a bit
>Shes maybe half awake and just either rolls over or just lies there
>I need to undress her, then finger her for about 10-20 minutes so she gets in the mood
>We fuck for 2-10 minutes
>Done
The thing is, when we first met, the sex was amazing, and even now we do have great sex every now and then, but it usually involves some elaborate scheme on my part
What the fuck do i do?
Pic not at all related
She never initiates?
>>17856579
I'm going to the same situation with my girlfriend, but since I have some self control I try to stop for some periods of time (like 1 month) and wait for her to start the sexual interaction, it never happens but at least the sex is better than usual. I'd like to see some other advices since mine is kind of shitty.
>>17856588
It happens, but very rarely.
>have 30 euro for bf
>had many ideas but somehow he made jokes about what i would give him and he totally named all
>pretty fucked up now
>what would you give a little bit indivual guy to christmas?
just give him whatever
>>17856568
Depends on what he likes.
Make a list of all the things you know about him: what are his hobbies, what he likes, what he does in his free time, inside jokes you have, whatever.
Find something related.
I always go for a book about a subject he's interested in, a small gift with a meaning for us (something I made, a reference to an inside joke) and something useful. Usually works.
>>17856568
This is a stupid idea that came to mind, but you could buy a physical copy of his favorite album or something.
So we're doing secret santa in our uni class and I have to buy a gift for a girl
She's a smoker, listens and dresses tumblr-ish. I almost never talked to her.
Any ideas?
Yeah, get her a big black dildo. She obviously wants huge, undeserving pleasure while being able to hate toxic masculinity at the same time.
>>17856556
yeah well I thought about it at first but then I realized it might be a bit too awkward considering we'll open them during class
also, I didn't mean sjw tumblr-ish, I meant choker wearing arctic monkeys-listening aesthetic copying tumblr-ish
>>17856546
If she wears noticeable makeup like lipstick and shit try that.
Right down a list of things to do. Trust me it's magic.
I have too much drive and focus, I guess I could lend you some.
>>17856492
Find a material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want and set a date to adquire it, work towards that goal, set another material thing you want
Depression/Unmotivation
Hello /adv/, this is my first post here. But I'm just becoming really frustrated as life is just not working out for me very well.
I'm not sure if I'm depressed, I don't want to self-diagnose as it's stupid to do.
Anyway, my issue is that I'm constantly energyless, I come home, lay down, and do nothing for the rest of the day - and that's every single day for me.
And of course this attitude fucks up quite a lot for me, studies especially.
I just can't seem to get out of this vicious circle, I know it's my own fault, I'm not blaming anyone. But that makes me hate myself, gives me suicidal thoughts as I feel completely useless to society as I'm not doing anything significant.
And that makes me want to do less. It sucks.
I just want to find a way of having some sort of peace with myself, to at least do my daily obligations - like right now, I had 6 hours before this to do anything and everything, instead i slept 4 hours and spend 2 on internet. Now I'm writing this, with my papers infront of me.
I'm sorry for wasting anyone's time, but I'm sure I'm not the only one, and just wish to know what could help.
Thanks for any responses.
>>17856470
try going to a library or something after school and see if that helps. we often associate our bedrooms and such with rest, and the privacy makes us do things we normally wouldnt (like go on 4chinz).
please keep in mind that most people have this issue. we are meant to take a nap at some point in the day. the sleep cycle we abide is not the best.
so most of us get exhausted and our 'second wind' really isn't much help if its not something dire
>>17856554
Thanks, and I'm aware of this being a common problem. I just find it hard to deal with it, it also depresses me to see other people being able to deal with it and still achieving a lot while I waste my potential and don't get my fat ass out of bed. I think my problem is that I got way too comfortable and find the simplest activities quite impossible to do as "everything is harder than doing nothing". It's this kick in the ass to get going that I need. As I always fall back to the "it's not so important anyways" excuse. And now I'm stressed out about my future and my parents aren't helping, nobody is.
I feel lost.
But hey, at least I started trying(even when I'm put down like today).
So that's a move in the right direction, isn't it?
>>17856591
it is.
like i said, go outside and see if you get more productive. try working in a room that ISNT your room and you might even be productive.
make a to do list and get a reward at the ned. whatever you can do.
I need help. I've run out of ideas and I'm starting to really lose hope.
I am a 22 year old male, dating 17 year old female. And before you ask, no statutory rape is 16 in our state not 17. The long and short of it is that her mother doesn't approve. At all. It took us 3 months just to tell them that we were dating, and it's been 2 months of "playing it by their rules" ever since.
Their ridiculous rules that at first only allowed us to see each other 4 hours a week. Which later, with a lot of work, evolved to 7. We can't abide by these rules. We are very passionate people who cannot truly further our relationship without seeing each other.
Things have only gotten even more tightly gripped on her mother's end. She had me arrested for "trespassing" last month when she decided she didn't like me being in their home visiting my girlfriend. My court date for that is right after Christmas. She refuses to drop the charges.
We tried to go by her rules but every time we get one step forward it's three steps back. Last week my girlfriend was having a panic attack because of how her mother was treating her. The mother called the police and made it official that I was no longer allowed on their property or to keep in contact with my girlfriend. She thinks she's saving her from me and in doing so helping her.
My girlfriend is having sleepless nights worrying what her mom will do next. Worrying that I'll be in prison because of her mother. Her parents track her every movement on an app called "Life360" that we have no idea how to get around. Her mom wants photos of everyone she goes out with so she knows I'm not there. It's so tiring and hurtful to try and do anything.
What do I do? Do you know how I can see her? Can I get past that tracking app? I just want to be there and show her everything is ok. That I still love her and that we can overcome this.
>>17856448
As long as her mother is still her guardian your fucked, either wait till she's 18 and can move out of the house, or she can get emancipated with the courts and leave. You will just have to wait.
>>17856448
How'd you meet this girl? Is the age difference the only reason her mom dislikes you so much?
This is the kind of shit you sign on for when you're dating someone so young, anon. If you want a girl who isn't still under her parents' control, look for someone your own age. Don't drive a wedge between her and her family, it's not good for either of you
>>17856448
break up with her. no, there isnt some magical way to sneak around and convince her, and trying to do so will land you in jail.
contact the mother, say you feel strong for her daughter but you understand shes doing her best to take care of her, and that you will back out. shes an amazing mature young woman and it makes it hard to remember she is only 17, and you think it would be best if you stepped back so that she can live her young life without getting wrapped up in your adult one.
then ask her to drop the charges if shes willing but that you 'understand if she is not'. tell her you just want whats best for her daughter and you now realize that you are not whats best for her (because you're not)
I need help /adv/. I'm going to propose to my girlfriend very soon (already bought the ring) but I need help on what to do to make it special. I want to
1.do it at home
2.have it be just the two of us
3.do it before Christmas
So what should I do? I'm thinking cook something, have some wine, and ask her, but how else can I make it 'special'?
>Christmas eve
>spend part of the night by the fireplace
>after she goes to sleep put the ring in the ashes of the log
>make a loud crash in the living room
>she wakes up
>ask her to come to you
>tell her something fell inside the chimney
>she holds phone as flashlight while you look
>discover ring
>play up her confusion
>propose
>divorce three years later
>>17856436
you limited it pretty fucking hard mate.
and here's a funny thing about 'special'. the term special actually means 'unique'. which means for it to be special TO HER, it has to be unique TO HER.
so we could throw out random shit like
>BUY A GIANT TEDDY BEAR
>hide it in her food
>stick it up her butt!
but unless those are things shes specifically into its not going to feel 'special'. It'll just feel try hard. which isnt that bad in terms of a proposal, if she loves you it doesn't really matte rhow its done.
but if you DO want it to be special, you gotta make it special to her specifically. and we dont know her, so...
that being said, id do a scavenger hunt.
if you have a walk in closet id decorate it all fancy, hide there, and be on one knee with the box out. when she comes home, she'll find a note with several simple clues, and each one is tied to a different memory. each clue says something like 'first date' and she knows to check the photo of your first date, and theres the second clue there.
then when she gets to the end, she opens the door and its you on one knee ready to propose.
take her down memory lane of your relationship
>>17856451
Hey that scavenger hunt thing sounds awesome. I can definitely do something with that, thankyou anon that's perfect, and she loves cute creative shit like that.
How do I get this fat black girl at school to stop liking me?
Her Friends tried to keep setting me up with her but I kept avoiding them. It's fucking weird.
>>17856421
be straight forward. say 'i do not like you, i do not find you attractive, i do not want to date you(/your friend)
do not beat around the bush with 'oh i dunno, shes not exactly my type, im so busy these days, i kinda like someone else' or any of that nonsense. be direct.
then just refuse to comment beyond that.
>>17856435
Yeah alright. The main reason being disgusted with her besides her being a weird magical girl anime fan is that she's also black. I don't want to be with blacks and conceive halflings
>>17856442
You sound like such a pleasant person to date. . .
You should tell her you also don't want a black girl so they will all try to jump you and it'll make your day more interesting
why people expect at 20 -24 already have a mate/family; you have a whole world to explore and enjoy
and why such a sort timp to find your half i mean why is everybody going to get married the first person they meet or have a few interest but ,,they look good together,,
is high school supposed to be the time that you live you r life and everything after is supposed to be about starting a family ?
>did i just waste the best years of my life ?
>>17856410
>why people expect 20-24 already have a mate/family
they literally don't. assuming you're american at least. people are always saying 'dont get married til you're at least 30' here.
im 24 and have never had someone comment on not having a family. then again, i do live in the city, and we do have a bit of a different culture out here.
that being said ive never had any of my friends from rural america comment on this issue, and only one of them is married.
>supposed to be
it doesn't matter whats supposed to be what. cuz there is no law, there is no legality, there is no rule that says you have to do anything. not even nature, becuase nature doesn't account for society.
deo what you want and when people ask why you dont have a family just say 'lol freedom bitches' and do your own thing.
the real question is why does this bother you so much? i understand annoyance if it was a constant thing, but you seem to be taking it personally.
>>17856410
I think what you should be asking is
'Why do I care what other people think I should do with my life?"
>>17856410
different walks of life have different expectations. whenever I go back hime I see people I went to high school with that are my age (25) or even younger that have kids. They seem happy and say its all they wanted, so Im not gonna be a dick and say it was a mistake in my opinion.
However, pushing for somebody to get married and have kids is fucked up
Hi,
I've been having Diarrhea for almost 3 days now. It isn't getting neither worst nor better, I have almost normal shit at morning (but just a few) and then diarrhea at midday.
The first days I ate rise and drunk yerba mate, and I drunk yerba mate today at morning, now I realize mate was a bad idea.
For today i'm planning not eating anything, only drink water. Also I took a vitamin pill today
If the diarrhea continues I'll go to the doctor. I don't have fever.
Any advice?
be sure you're drinking more fluids than usual, its very easy to get dehydrated when you have diarrhea
>>17856385
>Any advice?
yes don't wait see a doc TODAY
or try some otc meds like "immodium"
seriously too much diarrhea can/will kill you, get dehydrated
something is wrong in your bod, food poisoning ?
>>17856462
I am, and I'm peeing almost transparent which I always thought it means i am over hydratated (untill the vitamin pill kicks in and I pee yellow/green)
>after a lifetime of only being interested in playing videogames, i've now decided to quit gaming
>why, because i blame it for being the reason why im a loser in every arguable aspect
>to make it possible i've at least temporarily dumped my pc and everything games related to my brother who doesn't need any of it (he has his own shit)
>it's now the third day with only sleep, work and a laptop that at least has a great ips screen and runs decently, but far from good enough for games
>feeling like playing something out of sheer "nothing else to do" feeling
>was totally motivated before, now i'm really just bored
hlep, should I just give up and give in or is it just weird abstinence that'll go away?
I have played most of my life. And by that I mean daily many many hours. Yet I have managed to keep a close circle of friends, multiple gfs throughout the highschool, played handball on a competitive level and attend a prestigious highschool.
Hate to break it to ya, but you were born a loser. Vidya have nothing to do with it.
>>17856413
get out
read a book.
I can't believe it, but in two months I'll be 24 and still a khv... I don't even want sex that badly, I just want to have someone in my life, but I just can't seem to find the right girl. Any date I have is shit (mostly because the girl has the personality of a brick), any girl I crush on won't give me the time of day, I don't want girls that want me...
Anyway, what's the easiest way to kys?
>>17856341
They say humans are social creatures, that they can't stand to be alone, but you can live pretty well by yourself. I tell ya, instead of feeling alone in a group, it's better to have real solitude by yourself. - Faye valentine
>>17856539
Dude, I'm seriously going to kill myself if I turn 24 while being a virgin. I'm done with this.
>>17856341
>>17856640
There is nothing more unattractive than this type of self-pity. No wonder women won't fuck you. It's this revolting blend of entitlement and insecurity that would cause any pussy to dry up and shrivel inwards
I'm a white guy who wants to marry a cute black girl like the one in the pic. Give advice, what should I do?
Ask a black girl on a date.
>>17856308
First things first, do you actually know a black girl you want to marry or is this a weird fetish thing?
>>17856325
Its a fetish to be honest. There is no black people where I live. But I want a cute black girl from Africa
How many stem classes do you guys take over the semester I am thinking of taking 4 stems classes next semester but unfortunately I always end up failing one of them. How much stem csc classes do you guys normally take per semester?
>>17856305
I usually can't fit more than 3 into my schedule. Next semester I'm taking 4, but I might have to drop one if I can't keep up.
>>17856305
Only one or two, never more than that. I mostly try to see how many language and culture classes I can cram into my schedule.
>>17856305
Nobody cares how long it took you to graduate. 4 hard STEM classes is a recipe for burnout, especially with how many of them are unnecessarily difficult gatekeeper courses rather than legitimate attempts to teach material.
I am in love with being a NEET. Ever since I moved in with my boyfriend and he told me I could do whatever I wanted, I've done absolutely nothing productive every single day except maybe some cleaning.
I'm an aspiring concept artist(professors have told me I'm really good for my age) and I've wanted to go to college, but that's 4 years of education and it's far away from my boyfriend. And honestly, I'm running out of the motivation to do any work when really, it's so fucking nice being a slob. I got a kitten I can watch over everyday, I can sleep whenever I want, I don't have to socialize with many people outside of the computer. It's the fucking best.
So please help and set my lazy mind straight on getting a job or something. I've got an application for college I need to get done TODAY, else I have to wait another year, and I still have to motivation to do it.
>>17856302
Send in that application OP. You have one kitten now, but how long before you have 30? This is literally how crazy cat ladies happen.
>>17856302
I can train your pussy if you want.
Maybe that will give you a new start
well you could always trick your bf into getting you pregnant then you can become a "housewife" which is literally just a glorified NEET but nobody will give you shit for it