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Frogposters get stitches.

>>17855877
Because they were told they weren't any other partners? Because lies are never good in a relationship literally ever. Lies only lead to more lies and more issues. Lies end up in someone trying to fix a problem that doesn't exist while the real issue goes unattended.

A relationship with just 2 people is hard to balance out so each lover has equal share, equal power and influence. relationships like this are fucking hard.

Throwing more people in there just throws in even more fucking problems. Throws in even more compatibility issues. More insecurities, more jealousy, more arguments. If marriages have just as much chance to fail as succeed then these type of relationships have no chance at all to succeed.

The only people that get into these things are children or people that get off to manipulative, abusive, bullshit and games.

Young women often prefer these things because it's incredibly easy for them to get attention with sex. They love that attention.Who doesn't? But it's fleeting. Short lived and will do more damage in the long run.

Young men dread these relationships. It's a known fact women are superficial, that the average women finds the vast majority of men unattractive while it's the complete opposite for men. They find most women ARE attractive.

However, men age into maturity, power, money, and respect because they knew the only way they could get a woman's attention was bettering who they were as a person, to raise their worth if not in that top 20%. Women often realize far too late they spent their 20s focusing ONLY only chasing sex. Spending countless hours on their phones managing their multiple relationships, managing their lies, and covering them up. Why spend time learning an impressive skill to impress others when all you have to do is wear a pretty dress? Get attention, love, money, whatever.

so yeah. Women end up old, bitter, and alone or stuck with an abusive partner while men get to play that game another 20 years.

>>17857138
Smart people spend their time increasing their own worth to themselves rather than trying to impress others.

Smart people realize that multiple partners will end in a destructive, life altering mess.

If you're thinking "But I can't do that. I'm too insecure. I'm afraid my one partner will leave me, that I'll get bored of them, or they will get bored of me."

If you're thinking that go to the top of this post and try again.

>>17855853
The easiest thing to do would be to look at other people's personal websites, see what you like and steal their ideas.

Blank page with "contact" hyperlink is pretty sexy.

>>17855853
Something sexy and functional. Pleasant to the eye.

not Flash eating up all my ram and javascript prompts

I gotta say, that joke sounds like it was in very poor taste and there is no context where it would seem appropriate. That said, who means more to you? Your childhood friend or your girlfriend?
From your description of how intertwined your lives are, I imagine leaving the girlfriend would destroy your current life and you're already pretty much not talking to the childhood friend. Part of me thinks you should just stick with the girlfriend and let go of the friend that you barely have now but I do think it's important to stay loyal to your friends. Unfortunately, you have a business together and that really changes everything.

jokes are meant to be funny...im guessing youre white.

>>17855839
can you enlightenment me as to what the joke is?

>>17855820
>phone, internet, car insurance
Are these the best options for value you could get?

>netflix
There are tons of sites where you can stream shit for free.

Also spending money on crap won't make you any less depressed, with stuff like food and weed you only risk to get addicted. Pick a hobby like reading, which is either free (ebooks) or almost free (library)

>How do you guys go about saving money?
Having a goal helps (I was skipping meals to get a new laptop, kek) but usually it's just about not blowing it on dumb things. Besides, it's always better to make more than to spend less, saving up with your shitty earnings now won't make a big difference either way, focus on getting a job that pays more.

>>17855820
How much do you make? How much do you spend for your various bills?

Lets say you make X and spend Y.
(X-Y)/3 = Z.
That Z is the money you spend every month for whatever you like. Everything else goes to the bank and you don't touch it ever.
You give yourself a weekly allowance of Z/4 and you spend just that money. It has to be cash. Have a prepaid debit card and if you want to buy something online. Do not spend money from your main credit card for online stuff, dont have it linked to any online account.

Basically dude you need to be putting money away every week that you have to vow to yourself never to touch.

You gotta transfer it to your savings account dude. You'll feel better knowing that you can blow the rest of your paycheck as much as you want without having to stress out about saving money if you just move it to the other account.

>>17855816
Marry a jewish gurl.
I'm half asian and it ain't ez either.
Black people automatically have more swag than whities- be glad

>>17855819
I just hate being part of the losing race. We may be cool but we're still pathetic compared to the whites, Asians, and even middle easterns

skin color hasnt stopped people from becoming rich and famous and well liked. this website is poison , leave now

Go for it. Be the first (if you're the first?) one to make her feel confident. Just make her feel that she's comfortable being with you and don't ever think if things going to be awkward or something. Seems that she really likes you and I think you shouldn't let it slip away.

>>17855770

Yeah I want to do all of that just not sure how to go about it.. The mutual friend of mine told me she was a virgin (at 22). She is really cute and I want to ask her out, just not getting a lot of feedback from her or any go ahead signals really, so I don't want to scare her off if I ask her out after knowing her for a week.

>>17855770
What do you mean by "being comfortable" with you?

Why on earth would you be putting yourself in that position?

>>17855846

This. Read your post, OP, and heard, "I'm going to stick a nail into my eye tonight. Not really sure what to expect."

Expect to wish you hadn't agreed to do this, Anon. Why did you agree to do this, Anon?

>>17855888
Is it really going to be that bad?

tfw no clingy gf
just find a bf that s not a c u n t

>>17855616
I've done this once. Just relax. Distract yourself, don't think about the lack of messages etc.

>>17855649
>>17855651
Im worried I'm being emotionally abusive by getting upset when Im not given attention and I want to stop it if I'm not at that point already.
Its like wordvomit and its like I cant keep how I feel to myself.

>>17855597
There are redeeming qualities in humanity
Personally I find resilience to be one that astounds me

You should really see a therapist, that's a sincere, thought out recommendation

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>>17855621
Therapy is bullshit tho

why would you recommend that?

>>17855627
Ok, I wish you the best

fucking run dude holy shit. this cant be a legitimate question. if youre looking for validation, here it is

shes expecting you to try and win her back by improving yourself as a person, she doesnt consider you actually broken up outside of when it suits her. shes trying to force you to adapt yourself into someone closer to her ideal, but shes not above finding someone else who better fits the bill. its a huge control thing, just like everything else shes doing here. just bounce, man, nobody needs that in their life

>>17855579
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Run away before you change into mindless nu-cuck pal, or even beter, kick her out

>wants to be friends
>should i stay

fuck no, find someone who actually wants you as much as you want them, everyone deserves better than being a standby BF

You already said it all. You can't properly concentrate on doing your work at home, so you need to go back to work to do your work.

What was the lack of peace while you were at work?

>>17855576
Well just ask you boss to work back in the office

>Fuck... I miss being single
Yikes

>>17855576
Do you not have an office?

>>17855572
Obviously find a girlfriend that isn't high maintenance so you can focus on career while having someone on your side.

Otherwise .... if it's career based on some passion? Fuck everything else. If it's just some shit to earn shekels? Shit isn't worth it, focus on gf.

>>17855575
>girlfriend that isn't high maintenance

Lol, well yea. Get somebody who is more understanding and mature enough to support you with everything. Growing old and building yourself with somebody is nice.

>>17855575
It's a deep passion that I feel like I'll die if I don't see come to fruition

I've never had a girlfriend that doesn't require a decent amount of maintenance
They support me but having to take her out on dates every weekend and calling her every day for hours really cuts into my productivity

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>>17855564
>How about buying a vibrator to use while having sex, good or bad? Could using a vibrator make it even harder to orgasm from sex in the future? I don't really mind, I'd rather have orgasms now

About 50% of women can only cum from clitoral stimulation so you're not abnormal, if anything your be is a champ for fucking it out of you

Porn abstinence could help
Vibrator during sex will help

You will definitely cum with a vibrator and penetration, but you're clit can become desensitized over time through a lot of use but a week vibrator break should solve that

A tertiary option is the position in pic related, it focuses on clit stimulation during penetration by rubbing the male pubic bone into the clit with each thrust
Look it up for more info to see if it's for you

>>17855564
Maybe masturbate less and go into more forceful positions, if that makes any sense.

Like the one where he picks you up and you're both embracing each other or something.

I dunno, read the Karmasutra or something.

>>17855564
No, some women simply don't from vaginal penetration. In fact, most don't. If your boyfriend doesn't mind eating you out (most men shouldn't, unless you smell or something), just go with that.

It's perfectly normal, so do what makes you cum and enjoy masturbation, I don't think we work like men do in that we get super hooked on porn and physically can't do it anymore.

>>17855509
Money
Guys can be suga baby's too

>>17855509

Just make him feel special and like the smartest,wittiest and most handsome fucker out there. Most guys can't resist that, I've found, because it doesn't happen to them too often. Just act like what he says is interesting and laugh at his shitty jokes. Also, feeding him with home made food helps, it reminds them of their mothers and men love women who pamper them. A fair warning though, be sure you want to do it, because men tend to be quite serious once they're into you, so getting rid off them can be a bit challenging later.

>>17855529
>Just be their mom that they want to fuck

LOL Freud was right

>>17855483
Your current relationship sounds bad as well. I think your partner is the problem.

>>17855483
>being constantly reminded of that person, my boyfriend sometimes says things that he once said to me and it makes me really upset
what is that? "stop being a slut"??

>>17855483
Perhaps find a therapist firt up and then if it is alright with your current standing partner seek a couples therapist or a bonding activity as a last resort so you focus solely on him. Another thing to possibly try out is by dropping frequently hints to get what you said previously "i want him to say i love you".