I just moved into a studio with my little sister. My fat, depressed, clingy, and super Christian neighbor claims to be in love with me.
But I have this fear of being mean, and though I've made my sexuality (lesbian) very clear, I couldn't just ignore the guy. Now he thinks there's hope for us and he keeps touching me and trying to hold my hand. I'm freaking out and i need to end this. But how?
>>17852792
>But how?
Have you tried doing the most intuitively obvious thing? Have sex with him.
you have to learn to stand up for yourself sweetheart
so fucking sorry
Be mean. You have no obligation to be nice. Also by a gun and carry it with you everywhere. I don't care if you don't like guns, men are entitled animals who kill when they're spurned. He will probably try to hurt you or sister, and it is your duty to protect yourself and her. Keep an eye out every time you go in and out.
Ayy guess what - It's another relationshit thread, except with options.
>1) Burn all bridges, move on easier.
>2) Try to stay friends, probably get depressed once she finds somebody else.
>3) Try to reignite romantic attraction.
Both of us are 26, been dating for 3 years. Last couple months have been quiet and distant. Skipping all the minor stuff she sent this yesterday:
>I love you Seke, I do... However I think it'll be best for me to not continue pursuing a romantic relationship with you.
>I feel like we have a lot to offer each other that we should continue to do, without being lovers, just friends. I want to talk with you and be your friend, just not continue the romance. It sucks, that it took me this many years to figure it out, but I think it's what's best for me.
>My feelings have changed lately, that's just how things go.
>>17852694
1, always 1
After a year think about 2 if you'd like
>>17852694
2 is not an option. Getting friendzoned by a girl you used to date reflects so fucking badly on you emotionally and personally plus she's just doing it because she thinks having your support is a guarantee no matter what. Fuck that. You're gonna want to make her regret her tactless idea to break up with you on the terms of that sudden moment of "clarity" she had.
Since she made the decision I say you will want to do number 1. You can mix in a bit of 3 in there if she ever comes crawling back by trying to appeal to you. But first and foremost you need to establish that you cannot be her friend.
Man I love 4chan's fierce no-friendzone policy
This is more of a rant than anything else, but any advice is welcome.
I recently finished my masters degree at a good University in a STEM field. I scored a decent grade and completed the degree in the minimum time period.
But damn, it's hard to find your 1st job. I never thought the process would be this slow. I've sent Hundreds of CV's now and I'm still waiting.
What can I do? My university didn't provide internships and I have no prior working experience in the field.
>HE FELL FOR THE STEM MEME
>>17852666
>666
You never tricked me Satan.
"a stem field"
Performing arts field here, it sure must suck to have a category that Patreon doesn't hand free money to.
I've gotten fat over the past 8 years and now I've found out that my thyroid is pretty much the reason for it.
It's almost completely shit down its work, I'm constantly tired, sleep 13 hours a day, lack motivation to get out of bed and do anything, I'm losing hair, my memory keeps degenerating and so on
My doc also refuses to give me proper medication to fix my problem. Therefore first of all I'm looking for a way to get that fat off my waist. Maybe that'll help me with my mental state aswell.
The problem is just it's ridiculously hard to do so when you have a dysfunctional thyroid, so is there anything I can do or should I just give up and live with it?
...see a different doctor?
Your current one sounds useless and he's not helping, what are his suggestions for getting better?
>>17852521
He's currently giving me pills to replace the missing thyroid hormones in my body, but the dose is way below my needs. The symptoms aren't getting any better but he said my dose is fine, the problem is just that he's the only doc around 10 miles since the village I'm living in is pretty small, and I can't afford seeing another doc on a regular basis.
>>17852535
Go online and figure out how to get more thyroid medication legally or illegally. Or decide to walk or bus more than 10 miles to get a new doctor. Is there no public transportation? You'd only need to do it once a month for your prescription I think. You need to be proactive for your health.
I'm so poor I can't even afford ketchup. How do I make money without a job?
Become a camgirl?
>>17852511
a can of beans is cheaper than a bottle of ketchup
Dont be a lazy bitch. Go start your own door to door buisness. What can you do? Mow lawns? Rake leaves? Start a garden area for someone? People love this kind of shit and you can make like $5- $10 - $20 a job.
Why do people say it's wrong to try to score with a girl who has recently split up with her boyfriend?
I mean if you were interested in her since before it's okay right?
And even if her now ex-boyfriend is/was your friend, right?
Also, not really related but why is it considered bad for a guy to be "used" by a girl who just wants to make someone else jealous? Does it count as "used" if the guy is aware of it and okay with it and enjoying the moment?
>>17852446
Most people would not like if there best friend swept up their ex
It's makes it hard to get over her when she's still going to be around
You have poor empathy skills
>>17852518
Even so, I don't get why some guy's feelings are more important than your feelings for a girl.
>>17852446
Several possible reasons, maybe a few at the same time:
-She is sad and vulnerable emotionally speaking, so it could be seen as taking advantage of that.
-You are closing the door on her getting back with the guy if you move in too quickly, so it's bad form to do it if the guy is a friend. Also, they may have had a fight and would get back together in a few days.
-It might look like you guys had something going on before the break up. Like you were waiting to make it public when the original couple splits up.
-If you get with her, you might want to have her hang up with the group. Your friend might not like that. Also how can he complain about his break-up if you re gonna defend the girl?
I'm sure there are more reasons, these ones are just the first that I could think of.
>chilling at girl's apartment smoking and watching TV
>her roommate and roommate's boyfriend come home
>roommate's boyfriend starts sayings a bunch of weird shit out loud like how the girl I'm with likes anal and how she used to be into religion
The whole room would just go silent every time he said something like that, how are u even supposed to respond to that like um what
When someone is repeatedly going over an others boundaries, is it totally okay to tell them to shut up and/or get the fuck out.
>>17852410
This. Don't just stare in shock.
And don't ask him to stop it, tell him to.
>>17852410
>>17852435
They all knew each other, they've known each other for years now, so it was hard to know where the line is drawn between them I guess. It was only my 2nd time over to her place and the 1st time meeting that guy
I masturbate 2-5 times a day.
How do I stop.
>>17852345
Get something to do during the day. A job, classes, volunteer work, etc.
Keep busy, basically.
>>17852345
Don't touch your dick other than to piss, the fuck is wrong with you kids these days.
Despite what you've read online masturbating 2-5 times a day is absolutely harmless.
Hello Anons,
I'm creating this thread to gain the opinions of others to see if the business world is for me. When I say this, I mean is there a profitable role in the business world that is tailored to my skill set and there's a good chance of me making profits.
The reason why I'm asking this question is because for the past one to two years, I have been searching for a side business venture. I currently work as a full time police officer and serve in my nation's military part time.
Often times on my days off I feel like I could be making extra money. I already put overtime in both of my jobs and have enough time to do other social/recreational things (i.e. friends, girlfriend, working out, going out etc). I guess you can say I'm looking for another hobby/skill to spice my life up a little bit and at the same time make some money.
I'm not your typical anon looking for some quick get rich scheme. I'm fairly comfortable with life and with what I make/do. Though what I am looking for is something more that's on the side, that's interesting to learn and can make an extra couple bucks a month. I'd figure something in the business world could possibly fulfill that. Hence why I've been looking.
I'm also not a "NEET". I have a major in Criminology and a minor in Social Work. I've also had the opportunity to train at the international level with other military's in terms of tactical training. I volunteer time to time with my nearby community center and have enrolled in additional courses offered by external companies (i.e. conflict resolution).
The catch is that I try to be business minded and have been told growing up. So far I've been relatively smart with my money and save most of the time (60k+ saved and no debts). At the same time, I'm horrible with math and numbers. I've looked into business education but majority of it doesn't seem interesting to learn.
To be continued below. Thank you for reading this so far, it mean's a lot.
Continuation.
Though I find the /biz board particularly entertaining and intriguing. It's cool to see the business community interact and talk about various topics. I guess you can say I'm interested in money making but it's harder than it sounds.
I've consider stocks, e-commerce, real estate and running my own business. Though I don't find that interest spark when I look into those ventures. Futhermore, I also can't think of what skills I could use that would want a customer to buy in. As you read most of my skills is within the law enforcement sector (fitness, tactical, public speaking etc).
I'm not going to ramble on further but to end off, my great grandfather was a great business man. He owned his own sand and gravel company and owned multiple properties. I thought moving forward, someone in my family should follow in his footsteps in some way or another.
So anons, is business for me? If so, any suggestions on what to look into? If not, then please let me know!
>>17852336
> I'm horrible with math and numbers
This should generally disqualify e-commerce and own business (unless your idea is so great that there is barely any need for that and you can afford someone doing it for you... which is very unlikely)
Stocks is pretty much educated gambling that requires research and technical analysis, specially when it comes to short term trading. Investing is pretty slow and almost as boring as putting money in a bank but if you diversified your shit well enough, it's basically free cash.
It's generally interesting once you passed the learning curve ... if you like reading political and business news it's worth a try, just be reasonable and don't waste more than 1-10k
Real estate is almost idiot proof but requires a high initial investment, so you're forced to take it serious from the get go.
To answer the initial question, there is nothing really tailored for your skills but most things are open game if you're not an idiot (as the degrees suggest) or/and have some money to burn. Obviously, if you want to do something really shady, it'd open another world of easy money but that doesn't sound like your main motivation either way.
>>17852383
OP here, thanks for reading and the pointers! I'm not into politics and in terms of business reading sometimes it can get a little confusing as there is so much to read. For real estate, where I live especially the market is way too high right now.
Though I was thinking about a dropshipping business (ecommerce) as I heard it's easy to do. Other than that I was also thinking about a fitness social media business. I would mainly sell apparel, workout routines and meal plans to my following (i.e. Instagram and twitter). Thoughts?
How much compromise is too much? Where do you draw the line? And once that line has been crossed, how are you supposed to end an otherwise loving relationship?
S/O compromised to accept a no-kids policy, I compromised to accept small town life with no opportunity. These are big things. I hate to know I'm depriving S/O of having a beautiful family and I hate knowing that my career options are forever limited. I want to break up so we can both live our lives to our full potential rather than doing this dance, but we're still in love. Neither are happy, but it seems foolish to throw away a loving 10 year relationship when there isn't even any fighting involved. It's a weird feeling. What would you do? And if you'd break up, how would you get over the guilt of breaking the heart of somebody who loves you to the ends of the earth?
You obviously are answering your own questions, friend. Never compromise with big life decisions. I say, live the only life you will ever get, instead of giving it to someone who may someday not be part of it.
>>17852297
Thanks for your input friend. I just wish others had some similar experiences they could share. I hate seeing all the threads on here from people who are still torn up from a heartbreak 3, 5, 10 years later.
Neither of you are happy and the point of life is to be happy. Love can make you happy. But in this case it isn't.
You see all those threads of unhappy people because happy people sure as shit don't come on here to complain about how happy they are.
>P:tfw anon I hear your not so well, whats up with you
>me: I have major depression and take meds...(talk about how all symptoms without talking about my anxiety, sucidal thoughts, worse symptoms)
>P: what I always thought eveything is easy. don't worry I have those sad days too, just need work and fresh air/sun
>want to fucking kill P, because P doesn't understand me, avoid talking to P
>P is almost every person of my family
another one
>go to uni
>new guy sits next to my only female friend (we're just friends, she has a bf)
>no place for me
>have to sit somewhere else
>get fucking angry at her, ignore her till next lecture, want to fucking rape the bitch
>next lecture, talk to her everything is fine, want to deepen friendship with her
>she has not much time, doesn't talk much
>become fucking angry, want to fucking burn her car and kill her
Borderline, guys? take venlafaxine 75mg at the moment for my major depression
>>17852230
You don't deserve to have friends. Just fucking get over yourself.
>>17852391
I can't. Sometimes it feels like it's not me acting like this. The rage simply builds up and overwhelms me. It's like a panic attack, my thoughts are chaotic, my heart beats quickly and I feel an intense urge in hurting myself by doing those things. Though my depression and anxiety got better, I still feel like I have to fulfill all those defense mechanisms.
>>17852643
Have u told that to a psychologist?
How do you get over being dumped by your ex which was way above your league?
It's like, I don't want to data anyone else because my other prospects aren't as good as her
Age?
>>17852203
Then get used too being alone with high standards
if you're worried about 'prospects' and shit go fucking mine gold. just get over her and date someone in your own league who will actually provide you with real happiness not shallow materialism.
What the fuck is wrong with my poop? Is the white stuff mucus? I can't find any images on google that look like it.
My anus (especially the inside of it) hurts all of the time, and it's excruciating while pooping. It's gotten increasingly worse the last two days, and started after (too dry) anal sex.
What do I do?
Go to a doctor you idiot this is not normal
>>17852179
Sounds like an infection or std? Take it to the doc bud.
Lol it's the walls of your ass trying to heal. Maybe use lube next time.
Oh, people! I'm loser. I took my father's money, 25000$ and lost all on stok market. I have no ideas how give money back to father. It's really shit situation and why I so stupid?
Are you a stockbroker? Did you hire one? How and why on earth did you put that much money into the market without research? Did you think you knew what you were doing?
>>17852171
Wow your dad is Gonna be mad!
I hope this wasn't all
His savings
>>17852171
Wtf? I have so many questions.
How did you get his money without his permission? How did you lose all of it? The stocks couldn't of plummeted that much in value (or did you buy penny stocks??).
Is this bait?
Hey, /adv/. I am contemplating suicide and need your advice to maybe avoid it. I have been suffering from probably depression, have been lying to my family for years about attending college, an atheist in a moderately heavy religious family and tired of constantly trying to keep that secret, probably can't feel romantic love due to another mental problem and therefore can't have a relationship of value, and have recently experienced a death in the family that has accelerated whatever problems I have. Is there anyway to come clean to my family and get the help I need to live a fulfilling life and not become a pariah? Thank you.
>>17852115
Just try to come clean to your family, tell them about your issues, and I would say 9 times out of 10 they will be there to support you because they love you. It might be tough initially but once everything is out in the open you will feel incredible relief and can begin to take the steps needed to get your life on track. As you are now it must feel suffocating, just unburden yourself, the people around you should understand.
As for the love aspect, I think when you find your feet and meet a person you click with it will just happen naturally, I used to think I didn't really have any emotions but I met someone and fell in love. Some people just have a way of getting through to you and breaking down your walls.
The thing is, though, that everyone else in the family is having their own problems and I don't want to seem like I'm trying get all their attention on my all the while admitting that I'm an utter fuck up and disappointment. It just feels like that quietly slipping away and then dying would be much better for everyone, since eventually everyone would move on and forget about me.
>>17852115
Fuck, I'm in the same boat. Won't even tell my family because they'll just say I need God in my life and take me to church instead of a psychiatrist.
I've been reading a lot and trying to change my life on my own, so that's my advice to you. Can be tough sometimes but just hang on. Camus helped me a lot.
Good luck buddy, we're all gonna need it.