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>>17853057

You got exactly what you wanted. If you want to change the relationship you should do so.

You can maybe be a little miffed because there is a difference between one time and multiple times for the health reasons you stated above. But other than that no.

>>17853071
that's the only reason I feel justified becuase she lied.

You are being clingy/jealous because of all the chemicals you've received from having a lot of sex with someone. Your brain thinks "this is my partner now".

For like the first year of the relationship with my fiance, my ex who didn't even talk to me was more important than my girlfriend.

You're in a position to leverage yourself above that friend just because you have more exposure in terms of quantity and intimacy.

Go on some kind of trip together where you're the only thing he knows.

in what situation and when and how did he say she means more to him than you

>>17853011
>Any guys or girls in my situation?

Yes ;)

To all women:
Got to know a woman from okcupid (two weeks ago), we haven't met but I like her and it seems, she like me too. She messages me a lot and also sends/sent me photos from her current vacation. After a while I mentioned the fact I was born in soviet union (she in germany) and I don't really know, it seems like something changed. At first the amount of texts was the same, but reduced then. On the vacation she had an dress (for an event on an evening) and I asked her to show it. After she *just sent a photo of the dress* laying on the bed, I ask also for one in which she wears it. Now it's almost two days since we texted (actually this happened already twice: Once she was busy and another time when she drove to her vacation).
Women: Did I fucked up? Might it be because she doesn't want an not-in-germany-born? Should I ask her if me asking her in the dress was a mistake?

>>17852997
Most likely she just found someone else more interesting.

These types of questions come up a lot, is it so common for men to be this invested in mere texting?

>>17853100
So should I just let it go, without any messages? What if I'm interpreting it wrong?
>be this invested in mere texting?
Well, she already wanted to meet up but I hadn't time and a few days later she was on her way to her vacation.
I don't want to spend too much time on texting and want actually to meet her, that's the best way to get to know each other.

>>17852780

There's not root cause. People don't like one another for a variety of reasons. All you can do is look for less toxic relationships. You piece of shit.

>>17852780
I'm with you on this OP
>>17852785
I've met so many people in life who are like this, and I ignore them but damn why do they do it?

I believe that most times it's an agressive approach to transform or keep the pecking order in a social group.

If you step over someone it means you're not at the bottom and that assures you another day without the anxiety of being seen as what you truly are.

I don't really need to turn my life around, although I do need to make it better. 25, and graduated in July from Univ so have my Masters now. Need to find a nice job so I can move out of town and really start the next stage of my life.

General advice to others:
- Eat healthy
- Go outside, even if it is just for short walks
- Be grateful for some of the most simple things, like waking up in the morning and seeing the sunshine go through your windows
- Try and practice meditation, which is basically just being silent, and focusing on passing thoughts through breathing in and out
- Call your parents every once in a while
- Make your goals clear and obtainable, or just go with the flow as you see fit

I began to "re-invent" myself a year ago, when I realized my life was going nowhere, I spent 5+ hours daily playing video games and all my relationships had been with semi-psycho women.

Starting out I did some basic things to build up self-control again, like block off reddit(lel), 4chan, news sites, facebook and steam. I would still unblock them in the beginning, but I got complete control of it in the end.

Now I:
> Lift weights x3 weekly.
> Do yoga x5 weekly, when I'd otherwise lift.
> Eat a planned diet, that actually covers every micro nutrient daily.
> Bike to work.
> Study for a second masters when I get home from work, essentially till I sleep.

You might think "nice social life fag", but I actually had barely any before and now I talk with probably 40 - 50 different people on any given day. Friends from gym, yoga studio, cooking classes on weekends, biking tournaments I attend in summer and fellow online students.

I'm glad there is such a thread for a change. Indeed the other threads seem to be pity-parties, and to be honest, at 25 your life is just fucking starting senpai. I'd say it's the perfect chance to do turn your life around.

As for me, I've been learning programming for about 3 years now. However I feel that programming computers is not so much my thing.
I'm learning about networking as my main thread, so I can get some jobs with network administration. I'd like to actually git gud and specialize in traffic analysis and network security.
On the other hand I am interested in low-level programming and handheld devices, I think I'm going to start learning electronics, see if I can get something done.
I also have a little netbook running FreeBSD and I want to get to know it inside out so I can tweak it to my needs.

I live with my parents, and a part of me wants to leave, but another part of me wants to keep playing with new things and I don't have friends out in the world anyway. However my parents are pressuring me to do something with my life so I don't really have a choice.

Probably not.

What do you want to go into?

>>17852526

Depends. If live in the States and had to get a loan, then no. At least try to walk out with something to show for it.

It is if you are not interested in whatever you're studying and only accumulating debt.

Work for what? What are you hoping to accomplish with it?

>>17852455

Lack of motivation

>>17852453

Fapping can make you tired. It also is a good time sink, so if you are bored you might spend a few hours looking for porn and shit.

So yeah, dropping the habit a bit should help you out.

Ideally you should be able to fap every once in a while instead of everyday, several times a day, though.

Guidance? You want to sit here and read a bunch of opinions on 4chan regarding patriarchy? This is something you need to decide for yourself, and the last place you should be getting help from is here.

no its not a thing
its our culture for women to look good
its not inherent
but this is what our culture is
you cannot change it overnight, because waaaa patriarchy
if societies, the ppl, believe, this is a bad thing, and women should be all physical workers, then our culture will change

feminism have failed, the ppl did not accept this new belief of stronk fat women unshackling themselfs from the mysterious patriarchy

Just make an opinion that you're most comfortable with, if people say you're wrong, you're free to study about it or just ignore them.

>>17852321
I masturbated in the backseat of a bmw when I was 13 while my uncle and his gf drove back from las vegas

They were not aware as far as I know

>>17852321

What do you mean with "next to"?

At home we had enough room so I could fap on my own room and be pretty sure no one was gonna walk by for a long while. But that's as "close" to a family member as I got.

>>17852321
I spent the night at my cousins house, her mother was out with her boyfriend. We got drunk and high, generally having a good time. Eventually, we got tired and we retired back to her room. I was too horny to sleep, and my cousin is the hottest women I've ever seen. She was passed out, I couldn't wake her. I pulled down her pants and lifted her shirt, she has the most perfect ass and pussy. The warmth and sweet smell coming from her pussy was intoxicating. I furiously fapped, I eventually blew my load all over her pussy and ass. She woke up the next morning and confronted me about it. We now fuck at every family gathering.

>>17852129
That the cutest teddy doggo I've ever seen, 10/10 would cuddle all day. Please post pictures of the others.

Tell him you understand that he's excited to have found you, but he's still a complete stranger to you and you need time to get comfortable with the idea that your biological father is suddenly trying to become part of your life.

Also, have some empathy, even if it's hard.

>>17852163
Well he makes it difficult to talk. He is one of those
People that sort of talks a lot
And doesn't need a reply and I am a much more passive person that tries to give subtle
Hints.


I don't know how to jump
Right out and say paternity test. Last time he was here he invited us to his house for dinner and my husband gave him this no way look and he was like "oh too soon?" Yet here he is stopping by today "with a special gift"


What empathy????
I was given away at
Birth and another man raised me. This guy will never be my father. He has his own kids.

your husband is a retard
ofcourse you want your real father, thats why you want to see him
not to know how he looks, photos are for that

maybe you stupid women shouldnt lie to us and go with the bullshit we invent to satisfy your stupid ass, because you arent, you just pretend

>>17851956
Why are you doing both? If you are using the pill correctly you don't need condoms.

Talk to your doctor about it, they'll give you some others to try until you find one that works for you. It's a common problem.

Or research other contraceptives with better reliability than condoms.

Also yea. Get the shot.

You're going to get so many posts about abortions, inducing miscarriage, and speculation that it's not yours or that she did this on purpose to trap you, I hope you know that.

Anyway, if you're sexually active, this is something you should consider and something you should have talked to her about. That's just what a responsible adult does. That said, what's done is done. It's possible that she could miscarry between now and then, but it's also possible that you're going to have to face the fact that you're going to be a father.

>>17851878
I almost wonder if she really did do it to trap you. The pill works in several ways, stopping multiple processes of the female body, not just one single pointnof failure. It stops the body from releasing eggs, makes eggs unable to stick to the uteran (sp?) wall so they cant grow if they are fertilized, and also makes the vagina more acidic to kill more sperm. It's like shooting someone in the head, stabbing them in the heart, then drowning them -- but they still live and you have to provide for them for the next 18 years as they suck the life out of you and severely limit your potential in life.

>>17851900
You say that as if the pill is 100% effective. Which it is not.

you don't. unless you have the money to meet her.

>>17851766
I want to become an airport employee so I can fly to her for free. Maybe a flight attendant. The passengers will enjoy my jokes.

Her

>>17851776
If that's really possible for you, then step it up and be constant, just that
And test your relationship

>>17851549

not if you're doing fine in real life.

>>17851552
If I was doing fine on real life do you think I would be on either OKC or a Laotian Reptile Breeding Enthusiast Forum?

>>17851554

thats the irony is that a lot of guys use it for the wrong reason.

its supposed to be a supplement. if you cant get a girl irl you cant get one online as a general rule.

>>17851276
Be confident, but not a douche. Be kind, take an interest in them.

>>17851284

this basically

you're not going to be irresistible overnight. focus on #1 being able to talk to people and #2 confident enough to assert yourself in a social situation. that's about all it takes.

>>17851297
OP here. What if I'm shy or socially awkward?