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>He committed the mistake years ago, but can that affect what happens if police are involved?
Depends on what happened, and the law of the area. It will probably require evidence too, but again local laws are what define that.

So the main answer is yes, in some places, there are crimes(?) that if you commit them 5 years ago, you will not be held accountable for them. But local laws aren't just country to country, but often wind up being down to the city level. If you're very worried about it, you'll have to do some research.

>>17864368
There isn't really that much evidence, aside from him admitting to what happened, but from that, the person on the other end may or may not try to lie about what really happened.

And it happened 3 years ago, so I'm not that sure if that will mean anything or not.

He raped a girl, didn't he?

also is this even a good business move in terms of me and my brothers relationship? we barely talk and he just kinda tells me what I should do "hey you should do this, you should do that" so we aren't really close at all which could make things awkward for the other guys at work

>>17864344
Never trust your coworkers and keep everything superficial. Be funny and easy to talk to but never talk about other people to coworkers. Keep out of drama and gossip, be easy going and funny and you'll do fine. The one time i haven't enjoyed a job is where i got involved in bullshit and trusted coworkers. You make the mistake once. Also it's difficult working with family, keep it professional and you'll be alright.

>>17864350
thanks, that's really "look after yourself first" kind of advice and I find that really helpful but I'm more worried about who I can be friends with and who I can't. He's really close with a lot of people there and they actually know him better than I do.

cause a bunch of drama and alienate yourself in front of your entire workplace

>>17864335
It's not a work party. These are just friends and people I'm dimly acquainted with belonging to the same friend circle.

>>17864332
she changed the contract, you can change your decision.

>I also feel like my own food preferences aren't being respected here
First thing I thought. I don't how close friended you two are but I would say "since like 11 or 10 attendees out of the 14 aren't exclusive vegetarians" we should bring some meat to even the meal. Just as a joke and watch for reactions. If they won't open space for meat, I don't know about you, but these I are not my type of friends.

Then YOU report HIM and have him arrested. He is the one with fake illegal pics. Go balls out, he ripped you off, don't let em get away with it.

>>17864330
I was thinking that, but the thing is I have no way of being certain that it's CP. And I'd rather deal with this discretely if possible. I don't want questionable charges brought up to me, even if they're false.

I'd rather not have my family know I'm buying nude photos (even if of age). Certainly not over 5 bucks.

let it go

>>17864306
No, but I want answers too because my boyfriend has it. It doesn't mean you can't have sex, so don't worry about that. You just have to be gentle.

>>17864306
I think there are some creams that help though, you really can only go to the Doctor for proper advice.

>>17864345
Is his just too tight, or also connected? I'm wondering how common my specific issue is.

>>17864300
Come on man. She's using for drugs and free shit.

>>17864300
Cont.

>decide I still have interest so I tell her
>expect her to pull away but doesnt, moves in closer and asks me to chill more, tighter hugs, etc
>but this was after saying she didn’t feel that way for me
>sucks but im alright, keep talking to her about rando shit and hanging out
>eventually end up telling her we’re going on a date to see Dr.Strange since we like marvel and its trippy
>not that trippy but you know
>try holding her hand but she just looks at me, says my name exasperatedly, I let go and change subject (movie had been over)
>few days later end up at her place with friends playint dumb game, whole time shes lookong at me and touching me needlessly, hand on leg or shoulder etc etc
>mixed signals and that annoys me so I get frustrated
>decide fuck it im done wasting my time and that I shouldn’t be friends with her cause I don’t se myself not being attracted to her
>before I do thar, kinda call her on her bs, telling her theres no way there isnt a connectiom based on her attitude towards and around me
>basically was just pissed and rold her what I thought
>she hits me wirh a whopper, saying shes been thinking about that message (its been hours later at this point) and that she wants to try
>few days later we’re at her place after her work just chatting cause she has said shes unsure, becauae there isnt a sexual attraction for her
>again decide that im wastinf my time so she drops me off at bros house pretty upset thinking I hate her or whatever and she has to go take her housemates to the airport late that night
>fastforward to 5am, half awake. She calls me on her way back and tells me to be ready, she wants me to spend the night with her
>ohshit.gif
>gather my shit and wait outside, and we get to her place and get in bed
>holding her from behind, ask whay shes doing.
>says this is her trying
>she turns over and looks at me
>cue my inhibitions snapping and kissing her, end up fucking
>shit was cash

>>17864314
Cont.

>next few days shes quiet over text, but it’s the weekend and shes doubled the whole time, and when she does see me she holds my hand and shit
>Sunday night, I end up over at her place and fucking her again, more cash
>next day she has kinda a hard day (one of her friends is moving, another friends mom died, etc) and tells me she needs to take a moment before things continue between us
>my spaghetti shows and I tell her I know what that means and that its okay, she apologizes which cements for me that ive tried for her for nothing
>tell her she shouldn’t have slept with me if she wasn’t sure
>decide to stay her friend cause shes repeated over and over she doesn’t want to lose me
>end up seeing her again yesterday, holding her hand most of the night and smiling and laughing with her while she got high
>still feel like I want her

So,/adv/, how do I undo my spaghetti or is this too fucked?

>>17864290
I find that if I write my thoughts down, I think less about it afterwards.

>>17864296
thanks anon

>>17864290
I'm 19 myself, but I've been through several existential crises like that. Yeah life is pointless and we're all gonna die one day, but you've got to find the beauty in the futility of living. Certainly there are things you enjoy, keep doing those things. Accept this life for what it is and accept that it will be over one day, for all of us, so therefore you aren't alone in this struggle. Life is meaningless, sure, but that shouldn't stop you from making your own personal meaning and living by it. Use your fear of the inevitably of death to make something of yourself, to explore your pleasures and passions and interests, to connect with other humans and make them feel ok about their impending demise. You don't want to be on your deathbed, regretting how much fear of death held you back from living, that should be motivation enough to be happy. You should strive to beat life and see it through to the end, despite the hardship

>>17864256
>only about 3-4 that i 100% know they would die for me

That's pretty good man

I think you should try to reach out to them, just cuz they don't text don't mean they don't care

>>17864256
Could you give an advice on how to get/make a friend that would die for me?

>>17864433
Be more honest/caring.

go to her instead

>>17864261
Not possible. I wish it were that easy

if she knows you cheated then it's pretty much over

This is a pretty common phenomenon, anon.

You do have a psychic connection with this girl, but that doesn't mean much.

You probably had a strong connection in a past life, or in the spirit realm before you were born.

It doesn't necessarily mean that you are destined to have a relationship in this life. In fact, your acquaintance may be short and casual. She may not be a big or important part of your destiny and path in THIS life.

Sometimes souls that know each other just want to reconnect briefly and say hi.
It could lead to more, but don't worry about it too much.

Just approach her like you would any other person. Say hello, be kind, listen to her and try to get to know her a bit. See where it takes you.


A similar thing happened to me, once. I stopped by the store on the way to class one day, and felt compelled to buy flowers and a gift, even though I couldn't say why. Later that day I saw a girl at my school who I didn't recognize, a new transfer student, but I suddenly knew the gift was for her. I literally walked up to a complete stranger, handed her the gift, and said "I think this is for you"

She broke down into tears because it was her birthday, and she thought nobody had remembered.

She seemed so familiar, like I had known her forever. She seemed like a girl I knew from my dreams.

I walked away, expecting that to be the end of it, but we ended up getting assigned seats together in several classes, and became good friends.

That was one of the most intense and rewarding friendships of my life, and I learned a lot from her. Eventually, we both moved to other countries to pursue our goals and dreams, but we stay in touch occasionally as penpals.

>>17864265
>>17864246
Pseudo science. You believe what you want to believe.

the "psychic realm" isn't real
people's brains don't have the capacity to come up with a face they've never seen
her face was probably just similar

>>17864244
i can do bagging okay but if its alot of multitasking not very good at it

Just put up with it until something better comes along.

the longer you do it, the easier it will get

>>17864242
bro just get abs post some pictures or just talk to your friends from home to see if they can at least introduce you to any girls who you can be freinds with which will give u more access to women. If your actually fit it shouldnt be that hard to get a females attention

>>17864249

i only see my friends like once every other month. they are in Uni and very far away. so we very rarely get to hang out.

I'm not ripped or anything, but I'm not in bad shape.

>>17864242

>Im rich, good looking, fit
>b-b-but im also introverted and so mature
>where's da hot grillz at

OP you have an incredibly severe over-estimation of yourself

bad on your joints. But running everyday is better than not running.

>>17864196
Well should I just do every other day then? It's only been about a month but a friend suggested I slow it down and foucs more on improving distance and speed versus just times I run.

>>17864199
go to a gym instead.

>>17864170
>end your Netflix subscription
>get Hulu instead
>watch Cloud 9
/thread

>>17864181
>watch Cloud 9
I meant Superstore. my bad, my dude.

>>17864170
"Look who's back" not a show, but a movie. Fucking hilarious.

"I said clock, not cock"

>>17864162
>ride the clock
wtf does that even mean

>>17864162
dam your fucked cause they wont believe you regardless if you say you said clock. cause i mean ive never heard of that saying. If anything admit to saying "clock" and defend yourself by saying you thought you had a friendly relationship with the other person. (if she is a chick just bullshit that your a feminist and felt you had to talk to her like u would a man) which is still sexual harassment but u can make her feel like shit.