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I have a horrible phobia of driving. It's so bad, I get nervous just making left turns at stoplights. I can only drive on surface streets, my palms get sweaty just from looking at pictures of highways like pic related. My school is about 25 minutes away if you drive on the highway, but it always takes me at least 45 minutes to get there. It's also annoying because driving on surface streets uses more gasoline.
I'm going to my grandparent's house on Christmas. Someone will drive me there, but I'll have to drive myself back. I'm trying to find a route that will avoid highways, but if I can't find one, I might just have to skip Christmas. Honestly, I don't really want to go to their house in the first place, but it would really upset them.
What fucking do? I don't want to upset my grandparent's, but I'm so scared to drive, I don't know if I can do it.
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get a uber
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Keep driving. With more experience you'll be fine. I was kind of the same way when I first started driving in Houston then later Chicago. When I got my first street bike the fear was 10 times worse. Started on residential and out of city streets. Within a year I jumped on the highway. Fear isn't a totally bad thing. It can keep you alive. Keep driving. You'll have less fear with experience.
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>>17876673
It's a pretty far drive (~1.5 hours via highway, probably around 3 hours via surface streets). I don't know if Uber even goes that far, and if they did, it would cost a LOT of money.
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im going to be banging this chick tomorrow, but im kind of a noob at this
how do the male players do it? i want to make sure she doesnt get pregnant
is condom the only thing?
i saw some spermicidal lubricants also. how can i make sure? or, i know its not 100% but whats the best way to go about this
shes not on the pill. so what can i do? my friend says he just pulls out all the time, and hasnt had any trouble, but wanted to ask you guys first
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You're too noob to do pull out
It's an advanced technique that requires high resilience and low int
Stick with the starter condom
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>>17876572
CUM IN HER MOUTH
SEE IF SHE SPITS
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Use a condom.
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Whats the best way to buy a vape pen without looking like a faggot?
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If you plan to actually use it, looking like a faggot when buying it is the least of your worries
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After you get it, punch it through your carotid artery, like a badass.
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Even if hide it and only use it when im alone?
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Getting rid of bi urges? 2016-12-21 12:21:43 Post No.17876516
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I'm a bisexual girl, in my first relationship. It's fantastic, he's fantastic, at this point I never want to date anyone else etc. etc.
The only issue is, I've never dated or had any experience with a woman, and there is a part of me (I'm about 50/50 attracted to both genders) that would like to.
I don't want to be in a poli relationship, because I think it's stupid and unrealistic.
My question is, is there any way to get rid of those kind of urges?
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>first relationshit
>never want to date anyone else
You lack perspective. All that shit will eventually pass as you mature, and you will be able to accept and explore your sexuality guilt free. As a bi girl you're living life on easy mode. Just suck it up while you're with this guy and play around with girls at a later date.
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We've been together for a long time though. It's not some 6 month thing.
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>>17876556
Doesn't matter how long you've been together, it's the perspective of having dated other people that you lack.
First relationships always feel like they'll last forever. You have to go through a few breakups before you mature and realize that relationships are at best transient and last only so long as both parties wish to be in them.
On the balance of probabilities, the relationship you are in will not survive longer than 5 years, at which point you might realize that you can actually be whomever the fuck you want to be.
Until then, there's FFM threesomes.
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Transgender Question and Dating 2016-12-21 12:20:46 Post No.17876513
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Transgender Question and Dating
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Should a transgender person reveal their former gender upfront if they are dating.
This question came up in at dinner tonight, and as the only male in attendance (with my gf), her lesbian and 1 trans friend did not take to kindly to me saying that Yes, a trans person should be upfront about their past to mininmize and potential shock, embarrassment and rejection at a later stage of the relationship if they are now invested. I did not offer an explanation at first, saying thats just my belief, but they would not accept that a person can just believe in something so I had to offer an explanation.
Imagine a trans girl (former guy) who gets a date with a guy, who has no idea she is trans. How do you think he would react to being brought to bed and seeing this "girl" has a penis???
I tried to boil the argument down to, imagine buying a Mercedez Benz C63 AMG. You imagine based on the badge, and class that it will have a 6.3L engine, but when the car is delivered it only has a small 1L engine that was swapped out by the manufacturer beforehand and not advertised
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I agree, thought I don't think it requires an analogy to explain. It's just safer and plain courteous to tell someone upfront. Depending on how they meet and whatnot, perhaps the first date may not be appropriate, but as soon as possible once it's clear that there's some sort of romantic overtone to the relationship
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can't relate to the car comparison but i totally agree that it should be brought up.
though most transgender people are also lgbt+ activits so there's a hint at it.... imo they should be prepared to face such questions.
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The argument is simple, consent. How can a person consent to a relationship or sex act if they are unaware due to intentional omission on behalf of the other party, of the true nature of the act they are participating in?
Fundamentally, not disclosing that you're trans, and fucking someone, is indistinguishable from rape by deception.
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For a while now, I've been having mood swings.
Throughout the day I'm happy/or normal, and then suddenly I'm depressed (self loathing, etc).
This has been going on for a few months now, and I haven't went to a doctor for it.
Tried to talk to my mother about it, but she usually dodges the question and switches the talk to whatever she's reading/watching (which I can understand, as if I had someone talking to me about mood swings I'd probably feel uncomfortable as well), but I digress.
Do you guys think that going to a doctor about this would help me out, or should I just ignore it and try to go about my day?
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Probably doctor time. If you're that worried about it, why not go in? Be wary of the stuff he/she prescribes though and do research on whatever you might get. Probably won't give you antidepressants on the first visit though. Anything in your life you can try to help your mood naturally. Diet/exercise? That can really change your mood and life outlook around. Pretty vague post, OP. Any other shit going on?
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Oh, welcome to the club. I've been dealing with this shit for years. Adding fish to my diet helps some. Doctors? I choose to stay away. They will probably want to give you drugs and tell you shit that you already know. I worry about a bad national news making event should I start taking drugs.
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>>17876709
I honestly feel the same way, I don't like the idea of taking a drug day by day by day.
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flirting tactic y/n ? 2016-12-21 12:18:10 Post No.17876506
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>crush is really into music and stuff and i'm basic i don't really know shit.
>crush says listen to radiohead
>me: listens to radiohead
>now i /love/ radiohead im into it
>im becoming a radiohead nerd
>also considering taking music writing classes
is this weird? or creepy? i got into this because crush was into it, but now i want to be a music nerd just like crush is. what to do?
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you find other stuff related that they probably don't know but you think they'll like and share back - radiohead is pretty indicative of taste - find more stuff you like and share it - then you're even!
i'm a big radiohead fan myself - found this and can't stop: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cqdv032mFbg
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>>17876536
I used a different topic than the actual one cause crush lurks 4chan......
Ultimately I just want to know how /adv would react to this kind of behaviour of my part?
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>>17876603
gotcha - sorry?
and yeah that's fine... you like a band he showed ya and it makes you wanna get into music more - unless you start drawing pictures of said band and sending it to him or only talking about it.... its normal
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Hey /adv/, I had to share this story because I'm extremely confused and surprised and I don't know what to do. It's easier to share it as a greentext, so here we go
>be me, 21 years old guy, recently finished college and working part-time job
>have relatively small family, most members are already dead, both young and old
>only relative I have is my mother, father, grandma (my mother's mom), grandpa (my father's dad) and my aunt (31)
>I know the aunt since I was young and she was like an old sister for me
>she usually hangouts with us, and there were nothing weird about it
>when I went to college, I decide to "restart" my life, lost some weight, ate healthier, etc.
>that's where story's getting kind of weird
>aunt starts to make some "interesting" commentaries, like how we should get married because we're both single, and that I look nice and I'm a "nice party"
>recently wants to hangout with me, like a lot, daily
>there're these weird conversations about personal feelings
>then a few days ago, at her apartment (she invited me to watch movies because "she was lonely") soon, during the movie, she actually caressed my face and said "you're cute, you know?"
>it was weird af, didn't know what to say or do
>fortunately I had a call, said I have to go
>still didn't talk with her
I don't know what to do. I mean, she's indeed cute but she's actually a family member. I'm confused and I don't want to do or say anything bad.
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bump again
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Is she hot?
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oh my gawd bump - usually this board's all over shit like this
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Friend is being selfish but is honest about it 2016-12-21 12:00:08 Post No.17876432
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Friend is being selfish but is honest about it
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I have a buddy that is really becoming super selfish about things. He's not willing to listen to any of his friends' problems, doesn't want to contribute to anything, will complain about whatever, and is pretty much just driven by money.
The thing is, he admits it - the only thing he wants to do with us is party or get lunch or whatever as long as we don't really talk about anything serious. I talked to him about a problem I had, and he said "I'm going to be honest, I didn't listen to that and I don't care."
But he's a generally sociable, fun dude as long as you just treat him like a drinking buddy. Should I drop someone like this or just accept he doesn't really care about anyone but himself?
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>>17876432
It's fine to have friends at different tiers of closeness.
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>>17876432
It's up to you
If keep him around as a drinking buddy
At least he's honest about his assholeness. This means you always know what to expect from him
I have lots of friends that I only really see at parties
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Well, maybe I should have mentioned that this isn't how he always was - I've known him for about 15 years and the reason we'd become great friends is because he gave a shit.
This is a new development.
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I'm trying to investigate this guy on the FBI ten most wanted list so I can find him and collect the reward money and pay off my student loans debt. Is it worth the time?
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If the FBI can't find him, what makes you think you, with zero resources, can?
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just calculate an educated guess on the expected value of the reward / time spent
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>>17876427
Because he committed his crime in the same state I live in.
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Long story short, I've been surviving off frozen foods and instant ramen for a while because I'm on my own now.
I've recently come into some money (scratch ticket) and I can afford to buy decent, healthy foods to prepare nice meals for a while (but not forever) so I want to make it last.. The problem is, my parent's never really valued healthy eating so I only know how to buy frozen shit. This is why I had to teach myself how to get /fit/ and eat healthy. So I need to learn how to properly buy groceries BUT I still need to save money.
TL;DR: How do I buy groceries without breaking the bank?
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Its impossivle to break the bank buying groceries unless you buy a whole bunch of food that expires before you eat it. You need to make a judgement call on how much you think you can get through and then freeze anything you cant
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Start with some recipes and use them to make food in bulk, and then freeze those. You'll end up buying a lot more than you need at first (e.g. a whole bag of salt when the recipe only calls for a spoon) and it'll cost you a lot more at first, but eventually you'll build up a pantry.
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I'm joining the navy in the new year... and i'm a fag.
Yeah I know it's fitting the stereotype but are there any do's and don'ts for a faggot in the armed forces? I just want to get through and not cause trouble.
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Don't tell anyone unless they ask. Seriously nobody cares unless you are the type that "needs" people to know.
It doesn't - fucking - matter.
If they do find out you may get some banter for it, just like someone would get banter for being a soulless ginger or an ugly bald domehead. Get over it and don't be a faggot about it, don't make it what you are known for/part of your identity. It should be just another attribute of you, just like the colour of your hair or the gaps between your fucking teeth. Nobody fucking cares.
I wish it could be like this in wider society.
Source: British military
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>>17876404
your sexuality doesn't matter in your job unless you work in the sex industry. If you think it does then you are doing something wrong
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>>17876404
If someone drops the soap in the showers don't try to stick your dick in their ass.
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What do girls really think about submissive guys? 2016-12-20 11:46:36 Post No.17876389
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What do girls really think about submissive guys?
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I've been turned on by dominant women for about as long as I've been getting turned on. I'm sure every submissive has slightly different kinks, but what I love is feminine girls who use their sexuality to tease and manipulate men, and overpower them that way. It's hard to explain why it's so appealing to me, but I just like to be chased and played with until I finally give in and am 'beaten'. If I'm the one doing the chasing, it doesn't really do anything for me at all.
I've never had the chance to explore this side of my sexuality in real life. I've only ever told one girl that I'm a submissive because I thought she seemed dominant, and although she tried to humour it a little bit it's clear that she preferred to be the submissive one too. In her words "I don't know if I like that you're so shy around me... sometimes I wish you'd just throw me onto the bed and fuck me without asking first". That's the impression I've had from most girls, and the impression I'm starting to form of women in general. Even those who find submissive guys sweet would still prefer to be chased and fucked by a more dominant guy. I'm not bitter about that, I'm just starting to think that's the way it is.
But maybe I'm wrong. If you're a girl, how do you feel about submissive guys? If you're not into them yourself, how about your friends? If you're a submissive guy, what have your experiences been?
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Yeah, most every girl I've known has been more submissive - I've met some more aggressive girls, but frankly, I can't get into it, and it just seems pushy.
But even the last girl I dated, who was the closest thing to a "pure virgin waifu" that anyone is gonna get (sans the one guy she had sex with before), wanted to be fucked like wild in every room of the house and wanted me to cum on her face and shit.
I think as a submissive guy, your chances are going to be much worse of finding someone that fits you. Hell, I'm somewhere in the middle of all of that, and have to push myself to be more dominant.
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>>17876389
Your impressions are correct. Statistically females are more likely to be subs and males to be doms.
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It would be fine if nature had granted an even number of submissive men and dominant women, but my experiences suggest that even that is far from the case. Anyone who's been on fetish dating sites knows that for every 1 dominant woman there are 100 submissive men bombarding her with messages (and she's not even a real submissive, she's more often than not just someone who's looking to exploit financial domination).
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I met this girl through a fake account I made on snapchat pretending to be a model, we started talking and turns out she'd be perfect for me, she's totally my type and in my university too.
But the holidays are coming now and uni is closed so how I start talking to her with my real self now or get in touch for real
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ya fucked up buddy
just do the reveal
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I can't
no girl would talk to you after that, it breaks trust on the spot
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Why in the world did you make a fake account in the first place? What did you think would happen, some sort of Hollywood bullshit where you'd reveal your true self and she wouldn't care because 'it's who you are on the inside that counts'?
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Alright I need help not to seem like a desperate loser.
>Be gross fat guy
>currently losing weight
>but still 269lb at 6'3'' from 318lb
>after the work Christmas party
>a group of us decided to go bar hopping
>End up at some club
>Everyone seems to be having a good time
>nerdy girl and I hit it off
>Shes really touchy ie. Resting her head on me, nudging me, Play slapping me softly while giggling (is that weird?)
>Told me I was "really funny" and "wow you're tall"
>When one of the guys (my best friend) lost his wallet I picked up his tab
>She said "you're a very good man"
>asks for my number and facebook
>When I get home she sends me a text "Have a good sleep! OvO"
>Seriously one of the best nights of my life
>fast forward to later in the week
>I walk past her at work a few times through the day and she doesn't even acknowledge me
>One night she comes through my till (we work at a grocery store) and she talks to me and is genuinely friendly
>Every other day past that she doesn't really talk or notice me
How do I not sperg this up? Do I text her? I really fell for this girl and we share a few interests. I want to recreate that night but I'm worried it either won't be the same or the connection between was just in my head.
Tl;dr I'm a total autistic virg when it comes to women, please help me.
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You're one of her many options. All women these days have a buffet of cock via their smartphone. You might of stood out due to perceived attractiveness, compatibility, etc.
State your intentions, get hers. If you're rejected move on. Saves the pain of not knowing, etc.
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>>17876360
Yeah I guess,
Honestly she's no Stacey, and I'm no Chad. I don't think she has a "buffet of cock" but I'm sure she's got options.
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Sounds like she was drunk dude.