I am Marine served in Afghanistan in 1st Battalion Seventh Marines one tour. I joined after HS and college (I know how fucked that U Signed Mutherfucking Contract) with creds but was scribe fast track NCO who cares. I am back and 28 and alienated from a beautiful Christian wife and son and weep and stupid shit on TV. Was always computer nerd even during tour on chan.
What do I do. I am so depressed and I don't know why and yes feel like a pussy. Please not troll I'm looking everywhere.
And asking anonymously cause feel ashamed because I had friends die and in Walter Reed missing limbs and .... Stupid. I know.
>>17879701
I don't know anything about being in the military but if you had friends die or lose limbs you were probably traumatized by all that. You are NOT a pussy for feeling that way - but the fact that you say you are means that maybe you don't acknowledge your own feelings. SOunds like you have a lot of shame around looking or feeling weak, i.e feelings=weakness). I would see a therapist or at least look at PTSD websites online
>>17879732
Thanks. I really mean it. My MOS was intel but yes was in combat. I'm not setting example with pity party but I am realizing not right. Nightmares are horrible. I don't want to goto shrink cause that's for weak but fellow jarheads say ok to go culture changing. Thank you again
Midly autistic person needs help.
My father bought me a tablet. I'm not sure what to do with it, or say. I already have one. The last time someone gave me something and I told them I already had it they seemed disappointed. Thus, I said nothing. But now I would have two tablets that I don't use, and I think I can't sell them because they're gifts.
Should I
(1) Told him I already have one and see if it is possible a return (though I don't think so)
(2) Accept it and sell it
(3) Put it in the drawer till the end of time
>>17879692
just accept it and sell it man, you can sell it even if its a gift. if they're the same model its an easy thing. if his is an obviously different lesser model that can be rough.
i really wish people would jsut give you receipts with your gifts.
my moms super fucking sensitive and if i dont like my gift she throws a fit, and if i throw it away, she throws a fit, and its hard to lie because she expects me to tell long complicated stories about the gifts she gives me.
she just bought me a bunch of new clothes but they're all too big for me and she openly told me she'd rather i lie than tell her i didnt like / enjoy a gift and its just getting frustrating.
>>17879709
>if his is an obviously different lesser model that can be rough.
Different model, I have a nook hd+, he bought a samsug tablet, and he bought it with his credit cards in 18 payments. I feel bad because I would be getting rid of it while he's still paying it.
Regift it leave it in the package and give it to a friend on their birthday or at the next holiday
Hey /adv/. I've been diagnosed with 2 mental illnesses and i'm exhausted, just tired of this shit. What should i do?
Do what your doctor told you to do
>>17879642
Which 2?
can't go wrong with suicide
Is it possible to become religious if you're not naturally inclined to be that way?
I was technically speaking raised protestant, though my dad was kind of neckbeardy with his atheism and I believe that's why I spent my teenage years being the same way, but now that I'm older I've thought of converting to catholism.
Is it possible to MAKE yourself believe in a god if you already don't?
It's stupid to make yourself believe in anything. Make believe is fantasy, self delusion - there is no point to it.
Consider everything you know about the universe and the way you think things work, then draw your own conclusions.
>>17879651
Well, the conclusion is that I both cannot and do not ever deserve to be loved.
Now what?
>>17879658
That has nothing to do with religion that's jus you being depressed go to a therapist not a priest
>soon to be 24yo khv
How do I cope with missing out on such an important part of life and never having gotten with the women I liked?
>>17879628
>not realizing that you now have a better selection of women to choose from than little girls in school
How many women have you asked out this month? You can't complain about not getting laid if you aren't trying that's like refusing to eat and complaining of hunger
>>17879649
is better a code-word for more experienced, which is a code-word for fucked a lot of guys?
Im currently a 22 year old Virgin for a few reasons. 1: I'm a bit shy and lack self esteem especially about my social skills. 2: men have tried to sleep with me a few times but I either ended it out of insecurity or they did (most likely because I didn't put out)
It's not as if I'm asexual however. I've been watching porn (mostly kinky and amature) since I was 15.
I think I'd know what I'm doing as long as they were on the same wave length. I'm into dom/sub stuff to some degree so I THINK I'd know what do from what I've watched and read. Does anyone have any experiance fucking a sexually aware Virgin submissive?
Everyone is bad their first time.
If you don't know what to do, ask your partner what they think you should be doing more of, or less of.
>>17879630
>Everyone is bad their first time.
Oh that's certainly something someone who is a virgin at 22 wants to hear
>>17879641
It's the truth though. Quit being a bitch and face reality. Whether you're 15 or 22, you're gonna suck.
Hey /adv/, senior high school fag here. There's a based as fuck janitor who's always friendly and I occasionally talk with him. I think he's a refugee or recent immigrant from Africa considering his accent. Anyway, today when I was leaving school he saw me in the hallway and gave me some really good chocolates that someone left behind (there were two left in the box).
I want to give him a gift for the Christmas break since he's a nice guy. Should I give him a gift and if so what should I give him? Try to keep our budget since I don't have much money myself.
cool idea OP. You could find out what country he's from and get him a food item, or some music from there - do you know what he's into?
>>17879600
That's pretty cool of you OP, a nice box of candies or chocolates would be a good gift IMO
> What should I get him?
A living wage.
Fucking miracle. Since month I have a gf. She's really pretty but she's overweight (fortunately she's still shapely and quite hot). She has a complex about her weight, serious complex. Once told me that she had bulimia and doesn't want coming back to that shit. I really care about her and our relationship, but I still think she's with me, cause she's desperate. I also have much complexes, since I was a child other kids think me as weird and worse. That stucks in my head until now. I'm 22 yo student, not even ugly, but I agree I'm quite weird and have weak psychology, but I don't show that. I don't want to lose her, but I think her feelings are not serious. At the beginning of our dating she confess that she's now happy thanks to me and another time she wrote me on fb that she was really excited that someone (me) thinks she's atractive. But I'm still not sure if her feelings are real or she just fool herself. Really guys, she could have someone better than me, but she's with me. I know I'm searching for problems, but if I lose her it will be really bad with me. What to do, what to think /b/?
>really pretty
>overweight
I think you should stop being an insecure faggot.
Take her word for it and don't worry about it. I was in the same situation as you with a bulimic gf. She turned out to be great.
>>17879570
Watch out, we got alpha-male here. kek
<looking at added pic>
Yup, you're 100% alpha-male.
How come males seem to find me interesting to talk to and I have a very easy time making male friends but girls never care about me? Most guys I know say I'm pretty funny and enjoy being around me but girls give me no attention whatsoever. I'm pretty sociable or so I like to think. So basically what I'm asking is why is my sense of humor so popular among dudes and not with girls?
I'm a guy obviously.
How's your relationship with your father
>>17879543
maybe you're ugly? maybe those guys are just laughing at your ugliness?
You probably come off as needy or creepy to women. Or maybe you're just ugly as hell.
Where can you get love that isn't romantic?
>>17879494
A friend
Only with friends you knew for a very, very long time. Or family.
They also must not be fair-weather friends.
Jesus. Forever and ever.
My girlfriend told me early on she was religiously abstinent and I said that would be a problem for me but she didn't want to break it off now.
Fast forward about 2 months and I'm feeling pretty hung up over it. I feel like I'm not allowed to find her attractive or have sexual thoughts about her. I feel guilty for liking her body and that's fucking with my head. I'm getting less and less motivation to work out because I feel like there's no point since I won't be showing my body to anyone. My appearance has gotten worse. I'm envious of people who get to have sex in their relationships. Watching porn used to be a stress reliever for me but now it just depresses me. I highly disagree with the taboo sentiment of sex that christians have.
I'm really considering breaking it off but I'm going to look like a complete asshole for leaving her solely because she won't have sex with me. She doesn't see sex as a big deal. Am I putting too much importance on this shit? Should this not be bothering me as much as it does? I really just want her to understand how I feel without looking like a shallow douchebag.
I also don't think I'll be happier single. I don't have any other options at the moment as far as girls go.
why sex so hard
Remove all religious ppl from your life and you will experience true happiness
>>17879445
This is called incompatibility anon. Many people take many years to learn that they're incompatible together, be thankful you've found out after only a couple of months. If sex was important to you, you were a fool for getting into this relationship knowing all this beforehand, but hopefully you'll do better next time. Godspeed, anon
>I said that would be a problem for me but she didn't want to break it off now
Excuse me? How exactly did this go, you said "yeah this isn't going to work for me" and she went like "yes it will, I don't feel like breaking up right now, just go with it" and you said OK and remained in the relationship despite being dissatisfied with it?
What the hell are you doing? Break up and find someone who makes you happier than you'd be alone. Or don't, stay single, whatever, just don't be in relationships that offer more bad than good.
I need some ideas
I want to take my girlfriend out for a Christmas date but she doesn't wanna do ice skating anymore bc she fell and hurt herself
What do we do
do some research, find the 'rich' area where whole neighborhoods have put up great lights, drive around. Depending on weather, have a picnic or just some festive snacks, thermos of cocoa, etc or end the drive at the local downtown area with the big city tree and themed vendors around. Then go kill yourself for asking stupid obvious questions.
>>17879413
Take she raspberry pi 3.
>>17879413
where do you live?
I just cost my football team an important game by giving out a penalty and puttting on a shitty performance, I feel so bad I could not sleep now. I want to quit the team and end it all, what should I do?
>>17879412
Keep playing m8, is it high school or college. I used to play a bit in high school
>>17879412
Is that you, Marouane? It's okay. Everybody does a fuck up here and there. You'll probably get some shit from the other players and coach about it, but it's just bantz.
>>17879430
It is my local amateur club.
>>17879435
Now that you mention it, I was literally him, but it feels worse cause I have actually been one of our better players and everyone expected so much from me and I just choked when it actually mattered.
I have had an ADHD diagnose since I was a kid but never gotten any help or taken any medication for it.
I could glide through all my school years basically not studying and I still got good grades. However, now I'm in university (Europe) and I realize I can't study. I get way too easily distracted and my thoughts constantly drift away, even when I'm in an empty room with just my textbooks. This makes me dread studying because of how much of a pain it is to constantly fight myself to not get distracted, so I end up studying even less. Now I'm about to fail out of uni.
Should I try medication? I've heard really bad things about the stimulants but I've also heard some great things. I just want to be able to focus without becoming a zombie or permanently destroying my brain or change personality.
Does some other form of help work?
Does anyone have any experience with this?
I find it easier to focus on something if I actually have a little tiny bit of distraction. if I have absolutely nothing going on I will get incredibly unfocused because I just need more stimulus. I'll find absolutely -anything- that will fill the space and won't actually get any work done.
You need to cut out things that you know you will get sucked into, like internet and TV (programs like FocalFilter are helpful for this), but you also need to adapt to how your brain needs more stimulus than normal.
For me, the solution is music. Music keeps me engaged and interested enough to work. It's a distraction, but it's not a bad enough distraction that I can't pull myself out of it and get back to the task I need to do.
It also, for me, helps if I make myself accountable. For example, streaming work whenever I can, or making a bargain with a friend that we're both going to do X thing. My bringing other people into the equation and making it so I'll disappoint them or fail my end of the bargain if I don't do something, I make myself more inclined to work.
Keeping a schedule also helps. It takes time to get used to it, but once you've made work a habit, it's easier for your brain to switch gears. It's like the concept of sleep hygeine, only for work.
There are ways to work around it. You need to figure out how your brain works. However, if things like this aren't enough, then you should definitely consider medication. If it's bad enough that you can't treat it through non-medicated means, that means it's bad enough that it's severely affecting your life. The right medication won't change who you are, just give you the ability to function as you should.
Also, if you take medication, ask other people to help you monitor yourself. With a good medication, you oftentimes won't even notice the effect, because it's so subtle that you feel like nothing has changed. But it will have made a difference, and other people will notice.
>>17879620
This is nice. This is what I was looking for. I've tried most of those things in some way, though. Music helps me not get bored as easily, but I have to re-read sentences much more frequently and things like that. Group projevts just make me stressed because I let the others down but I don't actually work better.
My main thing that I get sucked into is internet and phone, but even without those I get stuck in certain thoughts and I start reading things I shouldn't in the book or sometimes just get stuck and can't focus on doing what I should for no reason.
I think a schedule is the best thing, but I haven't really done that properly.
I also have trouble getting to bed on time. I procrastinate really bad.
Thanks so much for your reply!
There's this girl I know who's hot as fuck and I'm honestly 80%-90% sure she has a thing for me. I'm constantly catching her looking at me and when our eyes meet she looks away in a panic. This happens almost constantly. Also every time she talks or says something she looks at me as if to see my reaction/get my approval.
Anyway I know she has a facebook since I did a little bit of stalking through a mutual friend. "Stalking" sounds a bit harsh but I literally just went to this dudes friend's list and searched her first name and found her really easily. Thing is I want to send her a friend request but I'm afraid she'll think I really did stalk her and get creeped out.
So my question is how do I request her without her thinking I'm a stalker? Like how do I get into a conversation with her about facebook that ends up with me requesting her?
I'm overthinking the fuck out of this. This shit used to be so easy in high school when facebook was just getting popular. Everyone would request everyone just to increase their friend's list and e-penis. It didn't matter if you even saw the person in your life.
just talk to her face to face, why are you fixated on facebook?
>Everyone would request everyone
It still works like that. I get requests from people I havent spoken to in years and from people I only met once. You are overthinking it.
What's the point though? It seems like you work/study in the same environment so you could, you know, just go there and talk to her.
>>17879407
I'm not sure, honestly.
I think it has to do with how I used facebook in high school, like I mentioned.
My system used to be add a girl, like some statuses, like some photos, comment on statuses, comment on photos, pm her, meet up.
>>17879429
I've been out of the game for a few years. The last relationships I had were with friends I've known for decades. This is the first in a while I've had to connect with a stranger, so to speak.