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>>17878160
Ok. How do I overcome social anxiety and better manage work and social relationships? How do I overcome my lifelong fear of rejection and insecurity? How do I stop being an autist and become more 'natural' around people? And how do I avoid forgetting it all and relapsing, particularly under stress, like I have in the past?

>>17878265
Also deep-seated abandonment issues, further exacerbated by getting fired for not fitting in twice. I struggle with social anxiety and insecurity myself. I did extremely well academically and had some high-paying jobs but got completely murdered by office politics. Longer term, career development seems to be almost entirely about relationship management and networking, both of which alternately terrify and exhaust me.

>>17878160

How do you feel about how 4chan will likely drag you back down again for posting here? Seriously, if you made it gtfo this board before you screw it up again.

>>17878150
Pop them. So satisfying.

>>17878150
Benzoyl peroxide medicine helps, make sure you research it in case of any negative side effects.

Not getting them in the first place, have a balanced diet

>>17878109
What about experiences? Swim with sharks, high rope course etc. May be a bit more expensive though. That's the sort of stuff my gf gets me as I am hard to buy for like your bf.

>>17878118
things like that are my go-to for him too. but i can't afford to do that more than for bdays and christmas... if i had the money, i would

>>17878124
This is a fair point. Going out to the movies? Gold class, if you have that where you are, is always good, and a much more "romantic" setup than crammed in with a million other plebs.

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>>17878089
i guess i will start
> well mate nothing is wrong
with me or my life im normal
> and very average
> single and lonely
> my hobbies are play games and work
> what is so bad you ask???

> this week i learned that im not even a secondary character in my own life.

>TLDR: i hate myself, for having the courage to face and kill my self.

>>17878126
Kek. Why not just switch your life up you lazy shit.

>>17878128

i want to but its like watching a movie you know all the lines to... in short.

>>17878077
master beer brewer

work with kids to trigger his drive to procreate

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>>17878091
>work

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>>17878069
>being this much of a faggot

holy shit OP consider suicide, seriously

>>17878082
Dude, what are you doing here? Seriously why even post if that's all you've got to say? /adv/ is not /b/.

>>17878088
What the fuck? Relax, faggot. Smoke a joint or take a chill pill omg. Can't you take some light banter?

>>17878066
keep taking drugs if they give more quality to your life. who cares if it's cheating? this isn't some pointless test or a game. it's your life. the better you live it, the better.

you wouldn't be the 1st drug addict nor will you be the last, so do what you want, fampai

>>17878084
I feel you.
I've never been addicted to one particular substance, I usually tend to cycle what I take. For the vast majority of the week, I am sober...it's just that those sober days tend to suck.

>>17878066
As someone who uses drugs and also makes a point to abstain from them for a period every year, I honestly think that the old cliche of "it was in you the whole time!" holds a lot of water. So much of this is a subjective mindset that can change so quickly.

Drugs can make you feel better, and they can intensify certain aspects of your personality, but they can also be really good at tricking you into thinking you're doing better when you're doing worse. Do you really objectively think someone who does opiates regularly is headed to a better place in life? What about someone who smokes weed every day? We're not exempt from trends, you know?

I don't really know how to explain it but it's possible to try and recreate the mindset that you're in when you're high while sober, you just have to kind of reach for it emotionally. Sometimes you see through the cracks and realize how many of your feelings are a choice.

>>17878049
As I got older, I started to see how terrible his personality really was. He was stuck in the past and wouldn't be open-minded about anything. Gays, women, black people, muslims....it's like he's 4chan (/pol/? I don't go on there; I've only heard stories) but without the memes. As he got older, he stayed a fucking racist but calmed down about women a bit at least. He just didn't have the energy to be mad about everything all the time anymore. But after I had taken my mom's side, he started talking shit about me to family members behind my back. Tbh I don't remember what he said - I mean maybe it was paranoia or something. But I vividly remember hiding every time I left the room just to listen to him talk shit. I don't know why I did that. I just needed to know.

About 5~ years ago, he was diagnosed with lung cancer. I was sad at first, because of how mellow he had become towards most things. But I couldn't shake the fact that he's an asshole. He never apologized and he never really changed. I don't know how far along he is or how long he has to live and...I'm not sure if I want to know. He has appointments once a week and I just...don't care? I mean I do but I don't. I figure there's nothing I can do anyway. And whenever I think about caring, the memories I had of him being an asshole reawaken and I change my mind.

I know it's immature and petty and just horrible. But I can't bring myself to care - not to the point where I'm going to his appointments or telling him how much I "care" or at least pretend to care because he's dying. My friends tell me that I shouldn't force it, but this is the sort of thing that even the worst of people would care about. Do I just have some sort of black hole where my heart should be or what?

>>17878052
It's also possible that it's denial or my brain trying to block it all out, because I have no idea what will happen once he dies. I don't have anywhere to go and I'm still saving up for my own place (super expensive where I life). But I may not save enough in time. Even then..! I'm more worried about myself than him. I don't think what he said and did justifies me not giving a shit about him dying. What should I do?

Carry on your life as usual. If he wanted you to care he would of cultivated a good relationship with you. He didn't, therefore you're not under any obligation to give a shit.

>>17878014
buy a strapless dildo and have lots of kinky sex

video games on steam

>>17878067
That's a pretty good idea. Thanks

>>17878008
I would say something like "best wishes for the holiday season and success in the new year," especially if he's from Israel (and therefore Jewish?). It's more inclusive to someone who doesn't celebrate Christmas that way.

Your english seems okay, at least written. It's not perfect, but it's fairly fluent. I suspect from your grammar that you might be French?

>>17878017
Thanks for reply, actually I'm from Poland, but it makes me curious where do your suspicions come from? :)

happy hanukkah

camwhoring

I advise you make lots of it.

>>17877978
Slave labor like mturk is good although you will not be making big money (usually like $5/hr for tedious shit like transcriptions) and they tend to prefer US workers.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VfImCA22DmA

Most people don't want to fuck a boring but hot robot for their life, they wanna wake up and talk about and do interesting things.

>>17877976

not being obsessed with romance? i mean fuck wahts the point in being in the top 10% if someone only stays with you because of your looks?

try not defining oyur life by dating.

>>17877960
all of this could've been avoided had you not been a lazy sack piece of shit and stretched during your teenage years

>A FUCKING HALF-INCH
the half-inch you lack which condemns you to being a manlet for eternity

the half-inch which condemns you to suffer throughout your entire life with tfwnogf

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>>17878090
i've since grown half an inch

>>17877960
are you a girl?

you rated taylor swift 10. no guy would think that

Yes she cut contact with me. We eventually started talking again.
Why do you ask, Anon?

>>17877947
Yes sometimes after a very long time. Do not mistake this with they want to get back together asap. They just want to check up on you out of pseudo courtesy or they still really care but are not in love.

>>17877947
i cut contact myself
if we ever speak or even see each other again, it will be too soon

I think it's that you tend to judge people without knowing them or understanding the circumstances, and you willingly set yourself apart from others, in a bad way. Maybe you are scared deep down that you won't hold their interest, so you just dismiss everyone.

You say 'normie guys aren't intelligent' but it's just that no one is going to have deep intelligent conversations with someone they don't know. I don't think you have really tried to get to know people yet. People usually have a lot more depth than terms like 'normie' imply.

>>17877033
Could try to get involved with your classmates by forming a study/work group and get to know more guys.
Clubs/sports are a great too because same interests.

If you enjoy your major then the chances that guys in the same major enjoy the same things as you are good.

The normie/hygiene is pretty clear and the niceness is also clear if you interact regularly.

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>>17877933
lol i typoed the 9 for a 0