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OP, I feel the same way. I got into social media just to talk to friends over the internet. And you know what? They don't bother starting a conversation, or schedule where and when to hang out. It stinks...

>>17874280

I did too. I even have a Facebook account and I barely use it. Nobody from school bothers messaging me, yet I see post after post on everybody's profiles directed to others and plans with specific people tagged. These are people I knew in school who wouldn't seem to notice if I just kind of vanished. I just don't know how literally everyone else seems to be getting smothered by people when I don't even have one person to talk to or do anything with.

It makes it even more difficult for me when even my long distance friends I met online and went so far out of my way to visit have stopped trying to talk to me. It's like, they'd all be okay with doing something if I asked, but they'd never ask me, and if it came down to someone else asking someone to talk or do anything, and me, they'd choose them. I'm not "first" in anybody's book and among that group of friends, probably last or near last in everyone's.

If its a friend youve lend money to i say have a talk and relate to your need for the money, if its a stranger try collecting it through other means by that i mean lawfully hiring a debt collector. What ever you do, dont act out of the law for this type of thing you took a chance lending money if youre not an experienced loan shark try to look for a way to settle the matter without causing harm to yourself or others.

>>17873856
I have been trying to get him to meet with me, just to discuss when he could potentially pay me back, but he is not even willing to talk. I can't do it lawfully, because it was not a legal transaction.
I don't think I really care if he gets harmed, because I feel it is his choice to void this responsibility.

>>17873877
>not even willing to talk
His friendship with you was worth a few hundred bucks to him. Just drop it.

def break up with her beforehand, if you pump and dump you'll never talk to her again

for you and her, just break up, this is coming from a dude

trust me its just way easier

there is plenty of pussy out there

Either way youre going to breakup but virginity is sacred to certain people and knowimg youve been together 6 months says enough about that so i suggest you be smart about it instead of doing something that might cause mental trauma or make the situation complicated.

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>>17873813


Keep in mind, chances are that relationship you have at 19 probably isn't long term. There's a difference between having fun in a relationship just for the moment and explicitly letting this girl think you care about her more than you do just to use her for sex.

The second thing is a really shitty thing to do and if you have any kind of salvageable conscience you'll feel really shitty later.

I dunno man, if I were you I wouldn't want to think back to the time I lost my virginity and always remembered that I lied and crushed some girl's heart just to do it.

>>17873803
Forgot to say
>inb4 move on

>>17873803
Don't fake an account. Be a man talk to her over the phone or in person. Make it mutual though. Don't force it.

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>>17873803
>>17873812

Move on, weirdo.

Who they are? I guess not?
What matters is if they're responsible people, not slobs and can do their share of chores in the house.

Living the dream OP this could go in so many different directions, whatever you do dont make yourself out to be a beta first impression is key be the chill alpha

i lived with 3 girls for a year. it was a good year

no this isn't normal.

and why i'm depressed? I keep getting used and it's easy for me to get used. oh and fuck that "but you're just a woman" bs. like, no mother fuckers, i'm too god damn trust worthy of the wrong ppl and i'm sure it's from my brain chemistry and i'm sure if i was a dude i'd be the same way. i'm called andrew jr for a reason. named after my dad, for a reason.

>>17873773
Ik, i am also a good guy and a lot of people use me too for dirty work, since i cannot reject if someone needs help or anything

>>17873780
ouch that's a bummer. recently i've been stolen from. surprised i got my bag back. but oh well. but umm... had a "friend" who kept taking from me too, had to pay the tab on a chinese take out even tho she called the cops on me cause she thought when i said "the restaurant is holding me hostage" it was literal cause her dumbass was supposed to pay the tab but i did it for her and my family saved me and came through and did it with my money and picked me up. and ugh. shit's been rough.

>>17873731
lol'd

normies will freak out occasionally though

>>17873731
I get you. People want to seem all compassionate and like they give a fuck. Most don't. Its the same people that will come out of the woodwork and fake feeling remorse for some celebrity or some shit. I can't deal with all these fake people.

>>17873731
I'd like to know too because I don't see anything wrong with you, in fact I'd like to have more friends like you or be in a relationship with someone who has the same dark sense of humor.

Escorting?

You're not going to get a real job being here for a month, and you probably can't legally work with your tourist visa.

>>17873715
Worse problem about working in America it can take weeks if not months to get a job. It would be easier if your cousin found you a job that wouldn't require you to live in the united States for a set amount of years.

>>17873715
short term job, probably working illegally
in ny

not a great plan, you might land bar work or waitress; but the wages in the states arn't great to say the least

try to save up

Don't take him back. He cared more about himself than you while in the relationship. From what I can tell, it looks like he just misses what you added to his life instead of just you entirely. I had an ex who seemed to only care about me when she was afraid of losing me on my terms, but otherwise she didn't seem to care a lot about me as a person and only liked what I brought to her life for the most part, so I know somewhat how you feel. You definitely did the right thing leaving him and I wish you the best in finding someone who actually cares about you instead of what you provide for them.

That's pretty complicate. It could have been that he had so many problems like you stated and he actually need the support of someone to overcome them. One person who gets problems from external connections might deliver them directly at his internal connections. Like a hate cycle, where the boss screams at the employee and the employee kill his wife. Of course sustaining a healthy relationship is pretty hard, it's a commitment of great responsability. Maybe you could give him another chance. Or, tell him to suck a cock because he looks like a bitch.

>>17873624

How do I stop myself giving in? I'm such a pushover. I know I deserve better but he claims he will change and I ask myself really because he didn't for the ex he actually loved before me.

I feel like if he really loved me he wouldn't have done or said a lot of the things he did

So why do I feel so funny without him looking after me or being with me?

bump......

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>>17873578
be strong

Don't be afraid to cry, OP. Cry all you need to if you feel like it. It's also not a bad thing to just lay in your bed for awhile and be in your own privacy. Take a nap. Drink some water. Don't freak about the pregnancy unless you're 100% sure you're pregnant. Are you able to buy a pregnancy test soon?. If so, I advise you to buy one. Any cheap one should do. If you're pregnant, decide whether you want to keep it or not. Don't feel guilty for any decision you make. I ended a pregnancy this year so I can somewhat understand that part of your situation.

>>17873577
Bump

>>17873577
>or should I just move out of the house and let her deal with it herself?
Got it in one.

>>17873616
I was thinking about it, and I will, I'm tired of it.

It's unfixable - just keep wasting away until your inevitable death.

>>17873573

do you literally and legitimately have no redeeming value at all? is there nothing positive at all about you or your existence at all?

>>17873573
See a therapist, get diagnosed with Avoidant Personality Disorder, start recognising the signs, and do the oposite of what your inner voice tells you. Backwards engineer your personality.

Depends on the girl, the app, whether you know her, or just matched - and what she got on her profile, and what you're looking for, what time of day it is, and what time of day you matched.

I usually come up with a comment or question that isn't too typical.

>>17873569
Know her from one of my classes but barely know her. I feel like "hey whats up" is too boring

>>17873575
It is.

More context please

>Putting out in exchange for rent
>Not being your landlords fuck hole

Goddamn bitches are entitled. Do you have any idea how much rent and utilities cost?

Renting out your roastie ass cooch is only worth half of rent tops.

>>17873555
dumbass bait b.s.

selling sex for rent is illegal in USA other countries idk

no landlord is going to sign a lease like that

anything agreements would have to be verbal & you sign normal lease

>>17873677
lots of things are illegal and yet done

Sex for reduced rent is pretty common and has been offered to me before i got into this business (i refused it then as he didn;'t want me doing anything else but basically his live in fuck toy with no other guys)

>>17873543

a lot of people like you are simply wrong / ignorant about your self.

there's usually a lot right on the surface taht you don't acknowledge. nothing exceptional or anything, but it doesn't ahve to be exceptional, it just has to be yours.

pick your favorite beer, your favorite movie, and then leave the third one as 'a secret restaurant i only show the pretty girls'.

as for goals, you literally have one: find someone to share some fun times with. beyond that, just think about goals in a casual sense. you dont have to put down 'become manager in five years'. if you're a goofy person have fun with it.

3 goals:
>make a pretty girl laugh
>find my missing remote
>did that second one make you laugh?

things you are good at
>my job, shockingly
>making lists of three

then leave the third one blank.

>what am i doing with life

just repaint what you said
>what am i doing with my life?
>taking a break from it so I can actually enjoy it.

>>17873570
See I don't know how to be clever on a bio or anything. I just post what I like. Gamer/Gym/drawing just random shit like that.

>>17873620

and thats fine, you don't have to be clever. not all profiles need to be silly or funny.

assuming you're serious about the gym and have at least a 'toned' look, you'll do great with any moderately geeky girl by throwing down gaming and drawing.

if i could draw, id be working on a comic for the record.