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You can get it by using a towel that someone else wiped their junk with.

>>17878911
You can also get it while using condoms. Same goes for most STD's... The chances are low but condoms aren't 100% and there's always user error which makes up the majority of transmission while using them.

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>>17878708
>"brazilian wax place"

cont.
The problem I have right now is that my friends were all enthusiastic about "setting us up" and shit, one of them actually told me to "not fuck up". I do not want to
look like an idiot in front of them as they are pretty much the only people I have really connected with in Uni. I have not revealed my inexperience with relationships
too them and I did not really plan to do so, as they are all really casual and open about that which I found refreshing and interesting. I am afraid I will be kind of left out if I do so.
I am not a kv, but I am inexperienced, everything that "happened" for me was in the last year and was always very short lived and with people I met just that evening.
I am afraid that I am already pretty much laughing stock now since I am still not very secure about myself, so I pretty much dodged them too for the last weeks, which was easy since
I was not in my city anyways due to appointments.
How do I break this off properly now? I do not intend to pursue this girl anymore since I already feel like I made a joke off myself, but I definitely need to properly come
to terms with this so I can go on, so I do not feel like I can just wait it out. I feel like doing this in a good and reasonable manner is crucial though since my friends are
somehow involved. Any tips? I also had to get this out atleast, I have not talked to anyone about this in a satisfying extent, just shook it off but this new situation (I know I sound
like a 14 year old) makes me very uncomfortable.

You're making too big a deal out of it man. You went in for a kiss, she rejected it and went for the awkward hug, so what? That happens all the time. You didn't do anything weird or embarrassing. If anyone asks you what happened just tell them the truth - "I went in for a kiss, she wasn't into it, so I just never called her back"

It's really not a big deal at all man. Just forget about her and move on. If you're ever forced to interact with her at a social event just be cordial and polite.

Getting rejected isn't some awful reputation-killing deathblow. You handled it gracefully; just leave it be

>>17878711
I feel like I still need to unravel the situation a bit, like putting a line under it not only for myself but also for her. I know she may not care, but that does not feel good for me.

>>17878667
>I realize everyone gets rejected at some point or another, but if I could hear about it happening to other people it would be a great help to my self confidence which hangs in the balance.
LOL I'm an average looking guy without excellent social skills, my life is pretty much a big rejection.

>saw this girl at college and thought she was perfect
>ended up talking to her for like an hour (while we were both drunk)
>walked her back to her room and said goodbye
>thinking about hitting her up again
>realize she's been kind of avoiding me on campus
>talk to a mutual friend who says she's in love with some other guy

Shit sucks man. But you just gotta move on. There are others out there.
If you think about it from the other way - I knew this girl was into me and I wasn't feeling it. It's not to be mean or anything like that, the attraction just wasn't there. If you look at it from that perspective when you get rejected, that makes it a little easier I think.

>>17878688
I dunno, man. Subpar social skills and pretty average looks are kinda my thing, but I feel you and I do realize I don't have it nearly as bad as others. Keep at it, there are girls who will be into you!

>>17878650
You just need lotion/lube to masturbate with now, ya n00b. At 29, how can you be so obtuse?

>>17878658
>>17878658
I did use lube, and I am also aware that I need to relearn masturbating from the ground up now that my foreskin is gone. It's just that even after 2 months of complete abstinence, I have yet to manage to make myself get even remotely close to an orgasm. Even after hours of work.

>>17878666
Use porn. On your bed, on your back, with tissus.

yeah chat her up a few times before tho....make sure shes down

>>17878646
thats what my plan was, just making sure i wasn't crazy.recently broke up with a girl so i'm pretty nervous)

>>17878649
Just ask her out, maybe she says no maybe she says yes. Else you will never know.

She's bored of either you, the long distance relationship, or both. Anything you do will turn her off more. Sorry but you're in a dying relationship

>she says she feels I'm suffocating her and she says I make her feel guilty when she's not spending time with me. What should I do? Am I just a shitty lover who needs to back off and that's it?

Yes. Guilting people into spending time with you will always push them away. If you want to keep her, you'll give her her space and freedom. If she goes to hang out with other people, tell her to have fun (genuinely; not in a faggot passive agressive way) and you'll talk later. Let her initiate/text you back, and don't blow up her inbox while she's away.

Carrying on like you are is only going to get you dumped.

>>17878621

tl;dr

How about: stop being an asshole, be nice to people and make friends

>>17878630
The problem is that I want to stop being alone, just for my own benefit. I am unable to be interested in others.
>make friends
i have friends and i hate those motherfuckers

>>17878642
Don't cut yourself on that edge OP

>>17878609
wew lad. sounds like a coping/defense mechanism you developed when your parents would "abandon" you and gtfo to vacations and shit when you were a lil kid

its a way to avoid being hurt

>>17878609
It's allright to keep yourself away from needless stress and fools who will bring nothing of value to your life.
But the problems happen when you close yourself off entirely. Conflict for its own sake is bad, but ignoring/fleeing from problems instead of trying to fix them is not okay either.

>>17878609
Conflict builds character. Youre not willing to face conflict, then you're not gonna mature as an adult. You need ti learn to reason with other people and be willing to see things from their perspectives, so you can understand why theyre all acting like a bunch of fucking retards.

>>17878603
Holy shit OP, are you literally me? I am going through the exact same thing. Also considered the military.

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>>17878967
What service? What corps? If you want advice, try /k/ on this.

>>17878603
Contracts suck, generally speaking. Maybe you are ok with them, but I would feel uncomfortable with a stipulation that tells me I can't even leave my job.

Oil rig work pays "well" because it's shit work. Maybe you would enjoy it though, who knows before you try.

If you don't know what you want to do with your life, you need to try as many things as possible. My parents made me promise not to sign up for a military until I finished my undergraduate, and I would say it is good advice. The feelings you have now are temporary and don't require such a permanent "solution" like dropping out.

My advice: don't drop out. Get a lab job, or job in your or another interesting faculty on campus. My entire outlook on my major/school turned around literally in the final semester, when I first did "real" work in my field (geology). Look for an internship, network more. Some of my friends took a semester off because they were very depressed, maybe consider that. I more or less did the same, but unofficially (I just stopped really "attending" most of my sophomore year)

Don't worry about your grades so much, the purpose should be self-development.

hate them back and be a bitter cunt lmao

but srsly, go talk to someone qualified if this anxiety is consuming you. Or you can choose to ignore gay hating cunts but that probably isn't the only thing you are anxious about.

>>17878573
I got over all the hate by realizing most of the people against it are stupid waifufags and teenagers who get upset over anything. They're nothing to be anxious over.

>>17878581
>>17878579
No I mean I'm anxious that if I suddenly start going against gay Traver I'll be lynched (I always fear being the "evil" guy). I still support it tho

When was the last time you had a pleasant human contact?

>>17878560
I have a girlfriend and friends I enjoy.
They only keep me from being much sadder, don't make me happy unfortunately

Do you have something that's not redeemed? Shit like that bothers me, such as my shitty childhood.

I can't make you stop worrying, but I can tell you that you are worrying about things that are not really important.

At 19 you are still very much a child, and I don't mean that in a condescending manner. When I was that age I thought I was completely grown up as well, but the next years to come are generally the most exciting and you are going to change and develop as a person a lot. I'm glad I didn't make any extreme or live-changing decisions at 19, even when from a purely legal standpoint I could have, because in hindsight I realized that I still wasn't sure enough of who I was and who I wanted to be.

Living with your parents at 19 is something I consider perfectly normal, and the kissless virgin aspect is something that is overblown as well. I keep reading that teens today lose their virginity earlier and earlier, but I honestly doubt that that includes any meaningful sexual encounters. I lost my virginity when I was 24, and now at 28 I'm still together with the same girl and the intimacy still gets more exciting. Losing my virginity back then was a big deal for me because I was able to tell myself "Done it! Now I'm part of the initiated circle", but the sex back then sucked compared to what I experience today.

Personally I can't relate how being skinny is something to worry about. You don't need to have the body of an athlete unless that is something you really want to. Also no one expects you to have a career at 19. I spent ten years in university and had a relatively shitty paying job on the side the entire time, and those were some great years.

Lastly, a hobby is something that you are supposed to enjoy. It's not about being the best at it, it's about doing something that you like. The journey is where all the fun is, and as long as you are having a good time, it doesn't matter how good you become in a hobby.

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 20. Now I'm 23 and have had 8 sexual partners. Relax. Go to the gym if you don't feel attractive.

I also lived with my parents til I was 22. I saved money to pay off my student loan faster. Now it's paid off. Do what you need to do to keep your head above water.

Having a minimum wage at your age is not that unusual. Just don't consider yourself doomed to that wage. Develop skills, and improve yourself.

Stop whining about having no hobbies. Pick one, and enjoy it. It might take a while for you to really get into it.

>>17878536
>OR: How Do I Stop Comparing Myself to Others?

this will never happen even as you get older

the trick is to not get too upset about it, somebody will always be better off than you are, and also somebody will always be worse off than you are

go volunteer at homeless shelter for motivation & get cracking on your own life

Bump^1

Bump^2

>>17878519
Time is all that will help. Eventually you think about her less and less until shes just the the girl you dated a couple of years ago. Create goals to pursue and be more open about meeting new women and you'll be fine.

Depends what you want out of it.

Personally, I'd never be able to have any respect for a girl who gives it up before the third date.
At the very least it indicates poor impulse control, which instantly invalidates her as a potential partner for a serious relationship to me.
No respect = no relationship, but it's fine for a hit and run if you have any interest in that kind of thing (just use a condom, because if the access to her pussy is easy for you, it will have been easy for others before you too).

But why are you even asking us about something as personal as this? It's your life, do with it as you see fit.

>>17878488
I think so, personally. I prefer to take things a bit slower. I prefer people who do as well. But it's your life; it's subjective. I like long-term, slow-burn relationships more than brief explosive flings... usually, anyway.

>>17878515
>At the very least it indicates poor impulse control
That is assuming she actually -wants- to save it and is not genuinely okay with having sex as soon as she feels like having it.

Then your sexual morals might not be compatible but it doesn't say anything about her impulse control.

>>17878449
delete the messages. masturbate. listen to music. do something else that will take your mind off it for a little while.

do this and you will soon not give a fuck.

"I opened up a floodgate and water is pouring in.. Do I shut it?"

>>17878817
>delete the messages
will i ever regret this? and is it normal to feel shitty after reading the conversation with an ex even though it has been 4 years?