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I don't think anybody can be happy being sad, it's kind of absurd, you just learn to live with it.
But evading happiness because you were not comfortable with that is just plain ridiculous, just experience and enjoy it, you'll get used to it and if you're happy, your significant others will be happy too, think about that.

>>17873267

I'm not saying im happy being sad. But it's like, normal, like a comfort zone.

>>17873248
Yeah I get what you mean, happens to me a lot. Like I'll be feeling like shit all day but then something happens to cheer me up but I start thinking nah I don't wanna feel like this. I prefer being sad again. I was happier that way. But probably like you said. Comfort zone

Ego only gets in the way.

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>>17873215
that might be true
but its not like I can help feeling bad after getting rejected...

also think about getting rejected 2000 times! Man, idk why I feel that is terrifying.

(THe reason behind this method is so that you will see patterns in social interactions which will thus make you better at them)

>>17873213
Well part of the issue is that if you didn't care, this would all be 100% easier. The other half is understanding social norms and subjects.

That's really all there is to it. Unfortunately, the point of talking to all those women is to get you to a point where you don't care but have also gathered what the social norms and conversation topics are.

For instance, where I live, drinking and hiking and doing things outdoors is a big thing and talking about those things will get 99% of girls interested in you. The real hard part is when you figure all that out and then understand that you don't give a shit about most of it. Then you have to figure out how to follow your ideals and be happy while also being able to mesh with the rest of the population.

Good luck when you get to that part. it's a real bitch.

Ask her about it
Tell her why you have your suspicions

>Ask, don't accuse

>>17873245
>Ask, don't accuse

THIS! Avoid saying stuff like

>You always...
>You never...
>You did...
>You didn't...

Let us suppose she's actually cheating on you, which seems a likely scenario. Ask her why before throwing a raging fit, and keep your cool at all times. Let her explain all her points and if she says something that might not be true, don't jump to correct her and start an argument. Rather, let her say everything and once she's over you'll have your turn to say your own stuff.

When it's your turn to talk, explain calmly how all of this makes you feel, and make sure your own feelings are validated as well. And discuss where your relationship is heading to.

>>17873245
>>17873253
I asked her about the bag thing and she insists that she had it with her, but she didn't.

Also, to be fair, it's also very unlikely that she's doing anything since we spend most of our time together and the only time she leaves is to go to work or shower at home for a quick second. So it's virtually impossible that anything is happening due to lack of time, really.

I dunno if I might be overreacting.

no raids this is /advice/ what advice you need brah

Well what do you suggest I do then?

>>17873268
uhh.... join MGTOW i guess idk
your predicament basically falls into their platform

Learn to cook.
It's not that hard, and it's an important skill to have.

Cooking can be as easy as putting some ramen in a microwave oven, are you saying you can't even do that?

>>17873234
I can't make eggs without breaking the yolks.

>>17873157
OK and, you think you're the first person to lose a parent?

What advice were you looking for?

where you from man?

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I know a guy who saw his dad blow his brains out with a shotgun and his mum OD'd the year befoe so he had no one to go to. so he went to the ymca or something for counselling and he made friends for life there, you can only go on by lving your life.

Let's see a pic

Go to a doctor, get knee braces.

>>17873572
I'm an adult and the cause of my knock knees is a genetic feet defect which gradually fucked up my knees in recent years (and for some reason especially in just the last few months), so I'm 90% sure nothing apart from surgery would work - and my case is mild so I'm more interested in how to stop being so self-conscious and insecure about it, and stop letting it ruin my life.

>whore around

You're not going to find anyone with any self-esteem with an attitude like that.
You sound like you've got a lot of baggage there, and it's probable that they picked up on that and dumped you because of your bad attitude.
Acting holier-than-thou makes your plight just sound like sour grapes.

>>17873149
Shut the fuck up

What you really need to do, OP, is to approach women in the street and practice your game with em. You'll eventually get numbers. And don't forget to lift.

>>17873155
PUA eh? You know that women with any sense see that shit from a mile away, right?

>>17873122
If they are a legit standup comedian I would

Fuck what people think
I'm willing to risk the chance of robbery to help people

>>17873136
His shit is fairly good from what I've seen on youtube. I wouldn't mind getting in on the ground floor of his career, either haha.

Thanks for your input.

>>17873122
As long you get to know the person, even on a very basic level and don't get the "will murder me in my sleep and fuck my body" - vibes from them ... it sounds perfectly reasonable. Jesus, airbnb does it as a business model and examples of when shit goes wrong are very rare. Sounds like people around you are bit too paranoid.

>>17873136
>I'm willing to risk the chance of robbery to help people
Pretty much how I see it.

I don't have a life plan
My goal was to become a video game designer
To poor and dumb as fuck
I'm at home wasting my life in a website

Wanted to become a writer since I am 15 or so. Ideally a published one and then go for something bigger but just living from day to day and writing is fine with me.
Pretty much everything gone right.. Quit job and university, got more time. Life is great.
Not exactly "gone wrong" but I feel that I am not as productive as I could be given all the free time. I still get about as much shit done as when I did when juggling college, friends and work.

>where you are at right now
Procrastinating ... I mean, collecting my mind.

>Go pro at some level as hockey goalie
>Naturally flexible, pretty good
>Was a manlet when all the other guys were recruited
>Got tall, top 5 goalie in league, might be able to go D1 or at least high level D3.

My advice? Be tall. That's it.

>>17873096
Read 1984

Because, deep down, you know that being "politically correct" is such a fucking meme but don't want the bullshit that goes with not being "politically correct"

Find a way to "not give a fuck" and continue on with life.

>>17873096
What do you mean with politically correct? The term lost all meaning long ago.

Depends on the university you want to go to.

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>>17873075
Well I want to go to Stanford, if not probably go to FSU. I don't understand why they want students to be involved with social events and gatherings. Not all of us are extroverts.

Yes it is. Often times, Your extracurriculars alone are what get you into college. I should know, my grades were all As and I got into Stanford, I know a guy who was a c average and got in just because of football.

>>17873030
Sell it, fuck him.

Oh and I let him borrow the laptop for school.

>>17873035
I really want to but I'm worried of legal bullshit. Technically I bought the xbox but threw out the reciept, still could prove it from purchase history. Yes I am am idiot for doing that.

Depends. Do you want to fuck her?

>should i confront her about this or what?

Nope. Women just go nuts sometimes and say shit they don't mean. Don't stoke a fire you don't want.

>>17873033
uh yes senpai i do

>>17873014
Elliot, is that you?

>>17873017
Yea man its me heh

Anyways the answer is: I don't ask people out, I don't hit on people in any obvious way.

How do I do this? These are skills I've never worked on. How do I do this in a way that's not creepy?

>>17873014
You're probably a fuckboy tbqh. Do you offer them anything other than an attractive physique? Are you emotionally mature? Do you have any interests outside of your own narcissism? Do you come across as only wanting sex?

>great social skills

Alrighty, you keep telling yourself that.

>>17873017
Next shooting, look for this anon