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Girlfriend met a guy for dinner 2017-06-09 11:58:19 Post No.18402767
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Girlfriend met a guy for dinner
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I'm 25M in a 4 year relationship with my gf 26F, about to move in together.
My girlfriend met a guy from her old work for dinner without telling me, I only found out after the fact.
She claims she was meeting him to hear about his life turning around since he quit/got fired from that place because of his substance abuse issues but is now sober. She's sober too so I guess she felt like that is enough reason to be friends and talk about how great that is or whatever.
I think I'm getting cucked and started flipping shit, am I insecure? He is bald and fat and has face tats while I'm tall and make a lot of money but I still feel very threatened. She says she conveniently didn't bother telling me about it because "I wouldn't have wanted to go along anyway". I have never done this before but checked her facebook and found about 2000 messages, nothing sexual but a lot for someone who was only mentioned once in passing around the time he was fired a year ago.
Am I a whiny bitch or is she a cheating ho?
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>>18402767
>My girlfriend met a guy from her old work for dinner without telling me, I only found out after the fact.
So what?
>She's sober too
Oh, I see, she's a degenerate "former" drug addict too.
I would say GTFO of there, but you are probably trash too.
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>>18402790
>you are probably trash too
That's not nice.
She was into alcohol but not drugs.
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>>18402767
This for me would be a huge red flag. Not that I think she was cheating on you with this guy but essentially what she was doing was lying to you. She was spending a significant amount a time on someone other than you. Also, trust is the cornerstone of any relationship. The question is why would she jeopardize that over something like this? The other concern is that as a former addict, hiding and sneaking around would raise my suspicion about relapsing and hiding it.
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I like this girl a lot: I talk to her, autistically, I talk to her over facebook (which is awkward and autistic on my part), and I feel like a fraud whenever I start a conversation. How the hell do I put all the autistic (I don't understand people) shit and get on with making something out of this relationship?
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>>18402764
Well I dont know anon
I don't know what talking to someone "autistically" means.
Can you elaborate on the things you consider bad?
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>>18402764
i know what you mean man, i have the same issue. I think its insecurity, but accepting insecurity is hard
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>>18402764
After reading the post i was thinking man, me and you, you and her, you and whoever, we are all humans man. We work on relations, if you get mad at me, i will feel that even though you dont show it. The same goes for affection, if i like you mate, you will feel that, even over the fucking text, you can feel my energy so to say. With that logic, the girl you like, likes you, maybe a bit shy, maybe she doesnt know what to do. If you were in her shoes, wouldnt you want the other party to carry? youre a carry man, carry her ass to happiness. leggo leggo gas the jews and kill niggers heil hitler
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Any dancers around here? Would you advise dancing to loosen up a bit? Here is my story:
I'm joined up some dancing classes. Naturally, I selected dancing that requires partners to get more in touch with other people, specially women. After two months, feels like barely anything has changed besides grasping dancing a little better. Feels like I'm witnessing a group of buddies that already know each other and I'm just a stranger. I don't have the darnest idea on how to approach them. I guess I am probably approaching the issue in the wrong angle. Yes, the ultimate goal is to get laid, I admit it. But I think I should worry first about approaching them in general. And this thread is for dancers out there who were mostly shut ins all their lives and to ask them if they got more in touch with women in general because of dancing. How did dancing helped you?
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>>18402524
Bump, the same thing keeps happening to me in group classes like this. No idea why, especially when socializing is okay in most other situations
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>>18402524
You're gonna have to take the initiative and try to talk to them after class or during dances, not a bad idea, to start with the male first either.
Not a dancer, but you can't always wait for people to come to you. And in my case you never can.
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Dance classes are for people in their 30s. Are you in your 30s?
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>sitting in train station in central London
>unsure whether I should walk outside and observe the Chad and Stacey hedonistic paradise I'll never experience due to my ugliness and shit social skills head on in order to have some sort of catharsis or just go home and sleep
>know that I'll wake up to a sunny morning where people act nice and the girls look more innocent and once again I get deluded in to thinking I can ever have social success
At night women wear much less, the men are much louder and boorish. Why do non Chads or Staceys act as if they have a hope in hell of succeeding in this environment?
I'm viewing people living the good life as I rot in my ugliness. Lifting weights did nothing for my ugly face.
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>London
Stay safe, bro.
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Post face
Also "chad" and "stacy" don't exist, sorry to redpill you
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>>18402519
Just know that your in a better situation than probably 3 billion people, so stop feeling sorry for yourself jackass
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Need Advice with a Girl 2017-06-09 10:29:07 Post No.18402476
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I just turned 18 before you ask.
>be me
>senior in HS
>march, random 9/10 girl in my math class (let's call her A) asks me to go to prom with her and her friends (mixed m and f)
>say maybe, the thought of attending an event with alot of people (240+) makes me sick
>fast forward 3 months
>after being super indecisive I agree to go
It's at this point I should mention I am unable to walk unaided for anything more than a few feet, always have to be leaning against something.
>Get on my black suit, heeled dress shoes, full windsor tie and mother offers me a drink, 4% alcohol volume ginger beer or something
>start panicking like a motherfucker
>harshly decline, say I can hardly walk as it is
>I'm also a lightweight and don't want to make myself look stupid, but I keep that to myself
>go to the school and sit until I see A
>get up, she looks incredible, compliment her and she goes for a hug
>first time hugging a girl and it's with a 9/10, shocked
>takes pictures and stuff, compliments my suit
>tell her her dress looks stunning (it genuinely did)
>so nervous at this point
1/2
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>she takes me to the group, recognize a few of them from my classes
>not "creeps" like me, not jocks either
>after meeting the group and trying to participate in small talk we go to the cars
>I sit in the front, two guys sit in the back, she goes to another car
>get to the venue
>ask the guy who I recognize from my chemistry class to "give me an arm" to my seat
>attempt to make jokes about him looking like a fag now
>laughs and replies with more banter
>get to seat and I thank him
I sat for a few minutes before the others arrived, A sat at the other table after chatting briefly.
>A comes up to me and says in a joking tone "Why don't(unsure if she said don't or can't, music was loud) you look like this all the time?"
>reply "Not every day I get invited to prom."
>she says "True, you shaved?"
>reply "Yeah, first time in ages.. I hate shaving my neck, feel like I'm going to accidently slit my throat."
>continues for a few mins, she tells me to enjoy my meal then strolls back to her table
>90 minutes of talk at our table ensues
>try to contribute to conversation, generally has a very reddity vibe but I'm just happy I am not being excluded as always
>dinner has meant to arrive at 7:30, arrives at 8:30
>was very nervous I would spill something, but the meal goes smoothly, as does the conversation
She came over a few more times to chat but nothing eventful happened, just general small talk.. I text her once I got home saying I enjoyed the night more than I thought I would and she replied she was glad I came..
Do you think she like me? Or is she being friendly? What would be the best approach to a situation like this?
Also any tips on how to get invited to events more often would be great..
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>>18402485
Do you really think she could ever love a cripple? What the hell is wrong with you?
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>>18402485
Why are your legs fucked?
Reading all that shit, it did occur to me that she could just be pitying you because of your disability.
She could also be attracted to you. Without pictures of you both it is very hard to say desu mate.
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I've been in a long-distance relationship with a guy for about six months. He's into me, I'm into him, but we're on opposite sides of the country so travel would be expensive ($700 for a round trip ticket).
I really want us to meet in person though, so I am willing to do anything I can to make this happen.
He doesn't have a lot of money right now so I offered to pay for part of his plane ticket to come see me, but he was hesitant, and he gets nervous whenever I bring up the idea of meeting up.
I love the guy but I'm frustrated, I feel it's not a real relationship until we actually see each other IRL.
(I could visit him, but he lives with his mom so kind of hard to fuck. I have my own apartment.)
He says he's going to get a job and save up enough money himself, but that's going to take forever. How do I make this happen sooner rather than later? Is there any way to get him to accept my help?
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Why do you think he's nervous to come see you?
Also, how old are both of you? Might help paint some clearer context
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>>18402462
Okay so to better help you I need a couple of answers.
How old are you?
Him?
Did you know each other before you started dating?
Are you intimate?
How much time on a typical day are you two in contact with one another?
Does he love you?
How do you know?
Do you love him?
How do you know?
Also, are their racial differences, cultural, and name 5 things you both have in common.
No worries we are anonymous here.
I promise if you ask those questions I'll give you a very well thought out response. My wife is a psychologist and does some relationship counseling and we actually are the product of a long distance relationship. :)
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>>18402462
This thread abandoned?
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>Invited over to girls house for drinks
>we both get wasted
>have sex
>never heard a woman enjoy herself as much as she did, it was like something out of a porn movie
>loud moans, saying things like "fuck yes" under her breath, scratching my back, biting at my neck, the whole mile
>next day i get a text saying she remembers everything except the last couple of hours (aka the sex part)
>didnt think anyone who experienced that much joy could ever forget
>scared she'll react badly if i tell her we had sex, even though i think she is lying and does remember
wat do /adv/ ?
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>>18402374
It's totally possible to not remember and even likely given how she was acting. Sounds like blackout sex to me.
You dun goofed. Unless you guys weren't safe I wouldn't mention it, honestly.
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>Oh yeah I had a lot of fun too, would love to hand out again
>I think I blacked out after [number of drinks]
Crisis averted
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Maybe she's testing you to see if you'll answer truthfully or hide the fact that you "raped" a girl
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what is your opinion on a 19 year old guuy dating a 16 year old girl? is it wrong? help /adv/
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Listen, it's like this
The younger you are, the more age difference matters. If you're under 21 then my rule is this: 2 years difference and no greater.
Think about it, this 16 year old girl is in the middle of high school, thinking about boys and her selfies and who's crushing on who.
This guy, however, (Which isn't you, surely, right OP?) is out of high school, probably working a job and thinking about finances, his future and the career he's pursuing.
For them to be together? That's fucking weird. Plus there's the whole statutory rape thing which is, uh, not good.
Look, once you hit 18, stick to girls who are also 18+, it's not worth it at all. Besides, that 16 year old girl will be a completely different person in under a year, teens change like wind.
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>>18402362
Whats the age of consent in your area?
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>>18402415
yes, on my post i am talking about myself. I had the same opinion as you before i met her, i thought the youngest i would go was 18, when i met her, i thought she was that age, it wasnt until the day aftes that i asked her her age and really i was shocked, i really like her but the age thing still bugs me a lot.
>>18402465
i live in mexico, here the age of consent is 13, something that i find extremely weird
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>Be me, really like a girl
>we have been intimate emotionally and physically/sexually
>she considers me a "close friend" that she can share her thoughts with
>talks to/hangs out with me on the regular for some weeks/up to a month before ghosting me for weeks/months at a time, rinse and repeat
>this kills the man.jpeg
>doesn't talk to me when other people are around but is very close when alone
>when i ask her whats wrong i get no answer
>recently tried to get me to go across town to buy her shit even though it would be faster for her to walk the distance both ways than for me to drive one way because she was too lazy to do it herself
>she has been doing this more and more lately
>tell her no every time because im not her personal slave orbiter
>Also lately whenever we hang out its on her terms, whenever i suggest something she shoots it down
>this behavior is really starting to annoy me
>feel like im being used
I really like this girl, but i am approaching a breaking point. how do i go about telling her to get her shit together or she can forget about whatever "relationship" it is that we currently have without sounding like a total asshole?
>pic kind of related
all answers appreciated
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>>18402333
Drop her
who needs shitty people like that in their life? She'll only get worse
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She's trynna cuck you it seems. Get her to screw off.
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>>18402333
Emotional tampon.
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>gf moving to a new apt for school
>won't tell me if one or more of her roommates might be a guy
wat do
I'm always bothered by the notion I might be "insecure" just for asking, but I'm bothered even more by feeling like a potential cuck waiting to happen
>inb4 she's fucking everyone
It would be nice if you didn't take this opportunity to try to troll and instead actually gave me sound advice, but oh well
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>>18402183
If you don't trust your girlfriend, break up with her.
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>>18402187
How do I ask her though? I don't wanna distrust her but at the same time I find it worrying she won't say anything about it... does it have to be this one-sided? Why can't she trust me to tell me? Is it really that common sense?
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>>18402193
maybe she simply doesn't know yet.
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>search for job offers that DO NOT require any experience
>only 22 results in a large city
>17 of which are from the same company, don't give any indication what the job is, and may possibly be outdated, it's not clear
>the rest are definitely impossible for me for various reasons
Why can't I apply for a job cooking burgers at McDonald's without first having minimum 5 years experience cooking burgers at McDonald's?
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But you can.
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>>18402167
Look for jobs that are hiring seasonal employees. They will lower their standards a bit just to fill positions, and if you work hard enough you'll probably be kept on for year round work.
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>>18402170
Not in those search results I can't. McDonald's requires experience. If it didn't, it would be on that page of search results.
>>18402175
I am limited to that page of search results. Those are the job offers that exist in my area without mentioning experience. Are you telling me to narrow down the search even more?
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I hadn't been checking my email at work today except at the beginning of my shift. I usually switch my attention to it when I get an alert or something, but didn't see anything today for whatever reason.
Turns out my boss sent a request in the late morning...since I never saw it he ended up cancelling it in the afternoon. He made a second request as well and it never got my attention for it until he messaged me on skype.
Did I fuck up really bad? Or should I just make a note of checking my email more often?
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>>18402139
I don't see the issue here. If you were busy with something else, the boss should know your busy, yeah?
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>>18402139
My number one advice to anyone in business is to check your email and reply very promptly - even if it's not with the answer they need, explain what time they should expect a reply given your workload, at least when they are internal emails.
You definitely messed up, but apologize for your lateness in replying, accept you made an error, and explain it won't be an issue going forward. And then, make sure it isn't.
We all have bad days, we're all human, and it's a Friday. Just make steps to fix it.
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I am losing connection to my childhood and it makes me scared
20 yo male
What do
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What do you mean by "losing connection to your childhood"?
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>>18402089
I don't feel like a person I was in childhood, something changes, subtle but noticeable change
Also memories slowly fade
I cannot believe it has been 10 years already since 2007
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>>18402087
Life's like a boat cast off at sea.
You could either enjoy the ride for what it is or look back and miss what you can't have.
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How do you gently break up with someone?
My relationship with my boyfriend has been strained lately due to his stress. Ever since completing college last year, he's been struggling to find a decent job. Which, in turn, has made him a much less happy person nowadays; and, as you can guess, it's taking a toll on everything.
What became the last straw for me was Tuesday. We were on the bus, and I tried to address to him what he's become now. Call him out on it. And urged him to be more calm and collected, or I'm leaving.
And in no time, he started twitching, drooling from the mouth, feel to the ground, and laid face down, while others tried to help, despite being unresposive. Once the ambulance came and took him to the emergency room, the doctors determined he was just overloaded with stress and had a break down.
So, I want to take this time to break up with him and move out while he's still in the hospital. But I want to do it gently and with minimum impact. Because he's no longer the man I thought he was when we met. And he's become too much of a worse human being for me to continue. :/
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>>18402054
It's much easier to just kill him and sell his organs for money.
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Don't think you're going to find a lot of sympathy here...
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>>18402054
There's no way to sugar coat it. You'll just have to be honest and tell him exactly why you're leaving. I wouldn't try something like telling him that you can mend things when he changes back. In his eyes you're abandoning him in his time of need. It'll sting like hell for sure. But you are also your own person. Live for yourself, not for others. If you honestly can be with him, then it's no use forcing the issue.
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How do I find females that aren't a part of the infidelity pyramid scheme, it seems like basically every female I meet is a part of a pyramid scheme based around pretending to be boyfriends of people they are targeting then having sex with other men to enslave them. Now obviously these women aren't high quality to begin with if that is their source of power, so I don't really care. I'm worried that I am going to have to wait until I am like 40 or 50 or something to find a female that isn't a part of and is immune to this business type.
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I don't have too much experience with that, but try looking for women who are older and have a good job. I think the women you describe are probably young and party hounds.
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>>18402016
What are you even talking about?
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>>18402016
Wtf are you on about mate
Easy before you choke on those red pills