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Do I tell a girl that's about to kiss/fuck me that I'm a khhv? Will it make things better or worse?
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>>18405042
worse. dont tell her.
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>>18405042
Did you just post this in /r9k/?
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>>18405042
If you did, my first piece of advice is to stop going on /r9k/. It will twist your mind in the exact same way Tumblr will, just in the opposite direction.
Anyways, whether or not you should tell her depends on your relationship with her. Hookup? Probably not. Dating for 3 months? Probably should. It more or less boils down to whether she wants to hear about your life or not.
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Good movies/tv series 2017-06-10 02:52:58 Post No.18404468
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Recommendations?
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for every thing you post that you have seen and liked, I will offer a suggestion
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Roll :,c
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Black books: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eCT-PImSMzs
i got more drunk than i ever have before last night. i haven't checked the full extent of the shit i spammed to my social media contacts and i'm not sure i want to. my room is in a mess- there's match sticks all over the floor, for some reason. All i know is that i feel so fucking bad for allowing myself to get to that state. i'm genuinely considering suicide. female, jobless, unattractive, boring personality, mentally ill, unloved. I'm just so alone. how can i guarantee quick death?
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>>18404396
>female
what the fuck man
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>>18404396
post pic before you off yourself
for research
nude is good, too
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>>18404403
>female
>unattractive
there's your answer
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As a resident of the extroverted bracket, how would you deal with guys from the introverted bracket?
Long story short: I cook. I cooked something for the guy. Guy gives me something more valuable back. Now he won't even see me. Holy shit.
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So, you are extroverted and this introverted guy just stopped seeing you? Maybe he's just waiting for you to contact him?
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that "long story short" is way too short and I really have no clue what you're talking about
please elaborate
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>>18404205
>Guy gives me something more valuable back.
His introverted penis?
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I met a guy online roughly a year ago.
We really cared about each other. We talked all day, we'd spend all weekend together on skype. he was really a great friend and I was very in love with him.
He was planning to come here this summer, then I was going to visit him in fall.
If everything worked out, we wanted to move in together next year.
He died.
The last thing he told me was that he was going to marry me one day.
The night he died he sang me to sleep and told me I was the love of his life.
How do I stop feeling this dead inside?
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>>18404169
How did he die?
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>>18404172
An accident.
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>>18404169
>How do I stop feeling this dead inside?
By realising that it was just a fantasy, its ok to be sad because he died, but if the reason is because you're not going to realise your perfect fairy tale love history, then, you should be aware that this wouldn't happen either way.
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Give me rational reasons why I should care about anything that doesn't affect me.
Am I missing something or are people just sentimentally inclined idiots?
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the latter
but once you start thinking like the latter, they will get to you soon enough
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>>18404079
>Give me rational reasons why I should care about anything that doesn't affect me.
>Give me rational reasons
>for why I should care
>demanding logical reasons for having feelings
Wew lad. I'm not saying it can't be done, feelings are logical in that they exist for a rational purpose, but this is absurd on its face.
We live in a society, robot. It's not really any more complicated than that. If you're confused as to why this is relevant to your interests, look up the tragedy of the commons to get a logical grasp on the concept of shared resources as a contingency for group and therefore individual survival. Report back.
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damn, i've read hannibal as a kid but i guess i wasn't ready to grasp that. very well worded.
you're not missing anything. people "care" about stuff that doesn't really affect them to appear like "oh such empathic people" or to feel good about themselves. the real motivation behind it is always egoistical, but they would NEVER admit that, most don't even know it themselfes.
ofc there are exceptions, but let's take the dalai lama as an example, the epithomy of "caring about stuff that doesn't affect me directly out of principle". he himself reported that he spends 3-4h a day in "spiritual practice", which means he spends that much time doing nothing of value, maybe chant and meditate. he doesn't help anybody with that, he's selfish like everybody else. and besides, he might not be the best example since his drive to change something came from something that directly affected him (racism against indians...).
another example might be that lady who saved hundreds of jewish kids during ww2, risking her own life with it.
she might have actually acted selfless, but i don't know if almost everybody in her situation would have done the same. i think selflessnes is born in the moment.
other than that, i assume you are talking about shit like caring about refugees, african kids and animals. which i can safely tell you is just people trying to appear "holier than thou".
If I generally like a guy, but I'm not sure how serious he is about me. I don't want to get pumped and dumped, I want him to seriously, truly care about me and truly love me before I have sex with him, so that after sex he still is with me and is a good partner for me. I don't want him to use me. How do I do that? No religious/alt-right ideas please, those are harmful to me as they go against my interests: I want to have my own (good) money to get myself whatever I want whenever I want which means work is a necessity, since work gives me money, and religion wants to deprive me of a lot of things I want and I love, which again is bad for me and that's not what I want.
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Just don't have sex with him until like a month or so has passed duh
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>>18403974
if you're hot and you don't sound like a dumb hoe he will stay.
>inb4 i'm hot
yeaaah
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>>18403974
>wants her cake and eat it
traditional courtship, lady. look it up.
oh and stop picking the wrong fucking religion, would you?
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10pm gf goes to bed
>mute tv
>spend hours on tablet browsing etc
>go out for coffee and snack
>home again browse 4chan or read
>430am I should go to bed so I don't sleep all day again
>5am fk it I'll stay up and watch another movie
>6am dog barks stfu! Gf feeds him, ah peace
>back to movie/tv shows
>8am gf goes out to get our morning coffees
>815am I decide to go to bed, I'm so tired it hurts
>sleep, cool dreams
>4pm wake up, repeat
Most of my days are like this, I'm wasting life away. I'm also over 60 and retired. Looking for advice , perspective, something.
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>>18403926
I can only give you the advice i would give myself... Torrent ableton live and learn to produce and/or record
Or perhaps reach out to some of your closer friends for support.. Do something new and creative/productive with them
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>>18403926
Install cs:go, make twich account, buy some super comfortable headphones and above average microphone and start streaming.
Become the first old man getting gold nova in match making. Show the youngsters you can do it.
Have fun.
>i hope you have grandchildren
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>>18403926
Is there a reason you don't go to bed at night? You should address that first. Also, I don't understand why you have a gf that sits around all day while you sleep. You should be doing things together and spending time together.
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/adv/, please convince me I'm going to be all right.
I'm 20 years old. My girlfriend of 7 months broke up with me a few months ago. I loved her, but it was clearly puppy love. I obsessed over her and wanted to protect her, forcing her flaws out of my mind and putting her on a pedestal. I know it's unhealthy.
The problem is that I've never loved someone before. Hell, I've never even /liked/ someone before. She was the first girl I had sex with and the first girl I ever introduced to my parents.
Since then I've become a bit of a manwhore and slept around a lot, but it was never as good and nothing helped. I just want to believe that I'll find someone else worth loving but after 20 years I've only met one. Will I ever meet another?
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Sleeping around is different than a relationship. You should try dating instead of man whoring, you might meet someone interesting. Other than that it's just life and you gotta keep moving forward.
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>>18403900
Yes man, you're going to be fine. The rebound shit is pretty normal for breakups but I agree, just hooking up isn't as good as "the real thing". You've had it, you want more.
You're only 20, of course you're going to be all right. You might not find another girl you actually love for a while, though, understand that. You might even lose that girl after a year or two, too. And that's okay. That's just how it goes. Yes, it sucks.
You'll be fine.
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I can give you two options. First, move on, I know it's hard since she is your first girl but move on can give you a relief feeling and you can learn your lesson for next relationship. Second, is quite hard, try to make her fall in love with you once more. If you choose the second one, that mean you're really love her and perhaps that will be your last journey of love live.
What can someone do to make you feel special?
My boyfriend told me he feels nothing and that he has no desire for anything. We have not had sex in 2 months because of this(I tried, i don't want to force him). He says that he is just in a state of being, he doesn't feel "alive" and the only thing that makes him happy right now is Black Desert Online. He never really wants to go out and I feel terrible that I can't make him happy. We live together so I cook for him often, but should I encourage him to go out more? I really want to make him feel special and cared about. I would like to know what are somethings that would personally make you feel special so that I may be able to incorporate some ideas for him.
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>>18403830
First thing's first. You're not his mum. He needs to want to get better himself, and thus put the effort in.
He clearly has depression. It's a serious problem, but with easily attempted remedies.
>eat well and regularly
>keep sleep schedule regular
>less computer, more natural light
>go on walks
>avoid drugs, no more than one unit alcohol a day
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>>18403854
I know I'm not his mother but it's kinda hard seeing someone you care about be so sad. And thanks anon! I'll try to make him go on jogs/walk after his workout.
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be cuddly and affectionate
>tfw you realize not a single woman you've dated has given a shit enough to think
>I really want to make him feel special and cared about.
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How do I become more fun?
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I'm a drag. I have a small group of friends and I don't go out at night. I can tell my wife is unattracted to me because I don't have any fun at events/parties and I'm a drag the whole time because I hate retarded rap music and watching people make fools of themselves.
How do I become a more fun person to be around? How can I have a better attitude at events and gatherings?
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>>18403778
Why not taking dance classes?
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>>18404348
more like fag class lmao
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>>18403778
If you don't like parties then you don't fucking like parties.
Get a new wife
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I landed a job as a dishwasher 10 days ago and the anxiety is killing me. I suck at it and I'm scared I might get fired.
What are the best tips to go fast? I don't have any machines btw.
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>those green wirey brillo pads.
you should be able to get cooked on chili out of a hot well pan in no time with one of those. note that you will have callouses in no time and it stops hurting then. also
>no machines
good cause then you have to clean everything, then put it through the machine, then wait on it, then fix the stupid machine, then finally get the like 20 or whatever number of cups the tray holds, out.
see if you can beat my best time to a low management position of, I think it was like 2-3 months. do it. you got this. stop being a dishwasher fast.
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>>18403766
>scared i might get fired
Who cares op? It is just a job. Just try your best.
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>>18403766
>I landed a job as a dishwasher 10 days ago and the anxiety is killing me
it's killing me, too.
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Intelligent people tend to be busier, more deceitful, and overly self-conscious. They're somewhat rare too, if you can't afford a good position in life or a prestigious education.
Stupid people and I bore the hell out of each other, though, probably because neither of us is capable of stimulating the other. Sometimes we end up talking in circles like children, or watching something on television that is borderline retarded. What's worse, with enough information, everything they do is predictable!
Still, I would much rather be friends with someone who is more prone towards contentment and kindness than deceit and stubbornness, at least speaking of someone in their twenties.
If you don't agree with me, watch an intellectually disabled person play with children's toys, and then ask him for a hug. Come back and tell me that there's no correlation between their stupidity and the extremely contended way they're capable of being.
Is getting along with people who watch Family Guy and eat propaganda for breakfast, people who are incapable of reflecting on their own lives, really possible? The alternative seems to be a battle of egos where nobody wins until they're old and established.
Some "wise men" (whatever that means) said to think of all people as children. Children aren't supposed to be condescended. They're supposed to be treated with compassion and understanding, with respect for where they are mentally and physically, right?
It's just so hard to do this. I want to scream most people out of the haze they're in.
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You sound like a bitter and unlikeable faggot.
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>>18403594
>What's worse, with enough information, everything they do is predictable!
Didn't think I needed to say this, but this request for advice was not directed at the stupid.
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Well, what do you understand in that the majority of people fail to?
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I went camping with some friends, and they were all paired up except for me and this girl who was a friend of a friend. This girl and I ended up sharing a tent as we were the only single people camping in the group. The first night was awkward, but the second and third night were really nice, we stayed up late and talked about shit, and found we had a lot in common. Anyway while we were packing up, she shyly gave me her number and loaded up with the girls and drove off... I'm thinking of calling her but my friend say shes leagues below me, and I can do way better.
Part of me doesn't care... should I?
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not yet.
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No you shouldn't care. Yikes had a nice time camping and found some common interest. Go for her!
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Your friends come and go. Not going to lie you'll lose your college and highschool friends. Follow your dick.
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Girlfriend threatening to break up with me constantly? 2017-06-10 05:04:24 Post No.18403456
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Girlfriend threatening to break up with me constantly?
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Hey, /adv/, so I've got a.. dilemma. My girlfriend of 1 month is pretty upset with me, we'll call her Patricia. Patricia and I happen to work the same job. Earlier today a coworker of mine, we'll call Julia, was being flirty with me. I kind of notice, but I don't pay attention to it and ignore it. Later I find out someone is relaying this information to Patricia and she gets very upset. So upset to the point that she says "I would rather we break up, I don't want to deal with this". We have a long argument and this what I've come to understand: She believes because I do nothing about the flirting means I'm disrespecting our relationship and giving a big "FUCK YOU" to her. Fine, I'll do something about it, I will tell her to leave us alone and stop this shit from happening. Cool, we're alright now. I know I should've said something when she started the flirting. Sometime later as we're talking I mention that there was another girl that I was talking to just about how the store was dead (I work at a grocery store) and hopefully the closing crew isn't there for long yknow small talk. Patricia hangs up on me and texts me on how could I do this and disrespect the relationship even more. She then threatens once again to break up with me, because I obviously don't care about the relationship. I call her back and we talk, she's apathetic and doesn't really care what I have to say.
What the fuck. Please help me, I'm starting to think if she's gonna keep doing this that I might as well break up. Also some background information, she was in an abusive relationship so her threshold for BS in a relationship is little.
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>>18403456
So break up with her. No more problems.
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>>18403456
>Patricia and I happen to work the same job
Hooo boy, did you fuck up.
>I might as well break up
Yes, that's your answer right there. This girl is an insecure nutcase, and now you're going to have to deal with her as an ex-gf at your fucking job.
Sucks to be you, bro.
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>>18403464
I'm gunna have to second this
She sound incredibly insecure and controlling. If its only be a month and she already literally threatening you with breakups, over a conversation, the relation will go absolutely no where, unless you want to be a total BETA cuck for the rest of your life.
You deserve better Anon
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>she was in an abusive relationship so her threshold for BS in a relationship is little
This is untrue, its higher than it would have been without the abuse. Shes just testing you. Pushing you away to see if you come back. Get to like, 6 months to a year, and youll be able to do whatever you want to her, though I wouldnt advise it