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>>18403431

Because they're the parts people are most insecure about because it involves other people, and more specifically, it's trying to play the interactive game known as interpersonal dynamics and chemistry.

It's because people need an outside opinion since the two people involved tend to be very stuck in how they interact with one another, and they need a neutral third party to separate who's being shit-tarded, and who's actually being a human being.

>>18403431
>4chan
idiot

Same reason why there are so many breakup songs, x10000

>>18403431
Agreed. we could use a general relationships thread. Also one for the suicides & depression maybe

>>18403379
You should totally start dating him but only if you're a man.

If you're a woman, don't ruin him for yourself.

Just go for it girl.

Why are you resisting?

>>18403383
>start dating him but only if you're a man.

What kind of a women deserve him? I'm not even sure if he has a girlfriend or not. He's mysterious sometimes. Especially about these type of things. Is it possible for a guy like this to NOT be in a relationship?

>>18403393
I don't know. What if he rejects me and we will never be like we used to. He's like '"everyone's" man now.

>Can anyone explain her mindset?
She is a first wold woman, with first world problems.

I don't understand, are you asking why do people have different political views than you?

>>18403288
Opinions are like assholes, everyone's got one. But no seriously, it just sounds like she always has to be right and has to make herself heard no matter what. So she's either a extreme feminist or just the bigger asshole in the room

>>18403269
that's the worst thing you can do. go for it, YOLO she must see good in you that you can't see. sounds like a growing oppertunity to me

>>18403285
this. why would you just give up?

Why the fuck are you only concerning yourself with a relationship with her? Is it so impossible to just be friends with a chick?

You're friend zoned dude, no doubt about it. But you could potentially date one of her friends. There nothing better than having a girl talk good about you to another girl.

Do what you want

>>18403194

Okay.

>>18403201
No advice?

>>18403203

Oh, you wanted some? I wasn't aware, you just posted a statement.

>>18403132
they care if you're not a fucking insecure faggot, which you are.

>>18403132

The most important things are sexual chemistry and charisma.

Without sexual chemistry, none of that shit matters even if you have the best of all of it. If you have sexual chemistry, you can have none of those things and still find someone.

Charisma is a good bonus, it can buy you a little bit of chemistry with some people, and enough for others, but it won't work with everyone.

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>>18403132

Immediately get off of 4chan and stop incorporating these ridiculous meme ideals into your every day life. This is all just regurgitated /r9k/ propaganda about women.

There are tons of women looking for a genuine relationship with a man with genuine qualities. If you fail to find a relationship with one of those women it is because you have failed to do so not because they have failed to exist.

Genuine relationships have existed long before the internet and the invention of online echo-chambers of redpilled message boards. For centuries, every day men and women with their various imperfections and quirks have found love in common places and situations and made wonderful lives for themselves without money, perfect bone structure or designer clothes. Walk down the street in any major city and you will see relatively unimpressive people together from every walk of life. "Women" are not a hive mind. Women are all different people who want different things and its your responsibility to develop your life and personality to cater to those who share your values.

I really encourage you to stop feeding off of this dysfunctional internet mentality and go outside and experience life for yourself and form your own opinions about the world for yourself. Really man, just step outside, unencumbered of these toxic 4chan values, and you'll see for yourself how easy relationships can actually be.

>>18403073
Also, we're both in the realm of friends to one another.

I've never had anyone dump any sort of problem on my as a form of a confident.

It's so alien to me.

congratulations
you're an Emotional Tampon

>>18403079
That's a very negative way to look at it, but I suppose it's partially true.

I don't think it's a bad thing though.

...stop answering. She's wasting your time.
No need to be polite here.

>>18403024
Send her a screen grab of a chick getting banged doggy --say no 3rd date just sex

Knowing that you are always available makes you less of a priority. Get busy (or don't) and next time she texts you, tell her about how busy you are doing whatever, and how you have plans with your friends next week, and so on By doing this, you're flipping the tables and now she's accomodating to fit your schedule. This instantly makes you so much more attractive.

>>18402994

>id rather not disclose

then for reasons we'd rather not disclose, we arent going to advise you.

>>18402999
Well, there are many complex reasons, but the most obvious are
>distance
>age difference
>class/status difference

>>18402994
Don't deliberately mislead people. Be honest. We've got enough liars in the world.

I have no idea wtf you're even talking about because you rambled on forever about nothing other than you've talked about everything and he drives you crazy. You haven't given one example.

>>18402892
man, idk what your native language is, but it sure ain't english. Like the previous poster, I didn't really get what seems to be the problem here.
>He always says he is bussy with school and shit and says he has no time.
>How the fuck can you be so bussy and never have time.
>He does not even work.

It's possible to be this busy with school. I don't know what he's doing in his life, but I know people who pursue higher education and are extremely busy either because their major is very demanding, or they are studying two (or more) majors at the same time, ect. As for taking about school, well. If he is ambitious and cares about his education, I guess school is a big part of his life, so he talks about it a lot. It's quite normal.

>That feeling that you talked just about everything that needed to be talked about with a friend?

Sometimes friendships just expire, usually because there closeness and connection gets lost at some point. You can try to salvage it, but both you and your friend should want to deepen the relation.

Dunno man, it seems like you overreacted badly by blocking but it was your choice.

>>18402892
You've grown apart. That's normal.

Oh and father utter the words I never thought I'd hear. He said "I wish I died during my trip in the Atlantic in a container. That way, I never have raised two failures and monsters".

I never felt this depressed in my life

>>18402887
Sounds like he's a born degenerate. Maybe it's just a teenage rebellion and in a year or two he will realise how stupid he acts and improve his behaviour, but what you say it seems like his behaviour is already borderline criminal. I guess the you should just let him be and kick him out of the house (and your life) as soon as you can. Sometimes you can't fix a person, either with love or with strict rules or with violence, and if you don't want him to bring you and your family down, your best option would be to cut the ties once he reaches adulthood. As for now, maybe a boarding school would be a good idea? Just to keep him somewhere far from your parents so they don't have to experience his shitty behaviour.

>>18402911
Lol your dads such a faggot. Punch your brother in the face since your dad is too much of a ballcut cuck to do so.

You have the right to break up with her for any reason or no reason at all. You have to decide what you're willing to tolerate in a relationship and what you're not. It doesn't matter what anybody else thinks. If this is a deal breaker for you and she isn't willing to stop, then she doesn't value the relationship or you as much as you do. Move on to find that person. The majority of people do not smoke anything of any kind and do not do drugs.

>>18402872
Explain that you can't tolerate it anymore and tell her she has to decide between it and you. And if she breaks that rule, break up.

>>18402872
>>18402872
Yes, yes it is perfectly okay to have Standards.

It's a word you don't hear to often in people nowadays, and that's why the divorce rate is so high.

If you make minimums and tell yourself this simple sentence for even 6 things you'll do a lot better in the long run:

"I will not date or commit to a women/man who _____."

-Smokes
-Has lots of guy friends
-Idolizes anyone but god.
-Plays a Victim
-is trying to "find" herself stoll
-Has a kid that isn't mines.

You can only have babies until your 30s/40s (your mileage may vary), and you'll have a hell of a time trying to attract men when you're older too. We're biologically programmed to have little to no interest in infertile women.

So unless you're a live life solo kind of person, find a good man to settle down with as fast as you can.

>>18402815
Not really into kids and settling down to be honest.

>>18402806
I would have gotten into selling realestate sooner. Realestate and investment. I'm 35 and moved into it last year. Made 1 million in my first year. Spent 12 years as a shitty engineer on 200k but that's where the money is.

All the other stuff....
I have no regrets. Done everything except free climbing, mountains and wing suits coz I don't wanna die.

Getting my pilots licence was fun.
Spending the night with three 18 yr old red heads was great.

I'm going into space in a couple of years hopefully.

Oh - I wish I took up snowboarding earlier. That's about it.

>>18402804
also I was out in the cold, this was in december

>>18402804
bump some people claim it doesn't count as losing your virginity if you went in a bit

>>18402804
bump what truly defines a virgin I'm serious, I don't wanna be considered a virgin

Have fun with that.

I've been married 14 years. Went out with 16 women before her

There's 3.5 billion women on the planet.

There are literally billions of others who aren't friends with guys and have standards.

Roll those dice again. Breaking up sucks but being in a shitty relationship for years thinking people change is worse.

>>18402801
Yeah I've been considering it. I feel a pretty good connection between us though. Should I see how it plays out?

Do you not trust her?