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Why? Sex isn't a big deal.

Losing it with someone you love will be a far far better experience.

>>18398247
do it man its okay no scars for life bulshit its just sex

>>18398247
Don't man you'll feel like shit. Sex isn't so vital and important that you should fuck asap to get rid of virgin stigma. Having sex with someone you actually connect with is much much better. Fucking a random gets your rocks off sure but its practically just as good feeling as jacking.

>>18398075
You have enough money you can buy anything but doesn't mean you'll keep them. Women like this know they are too pretty to be monogamous so they never are. They are arm candy but you never take that shit serious.

Women that pretty are also looking for a man to love them and share life with. They can just afford to be picky and have high standards. All the more because you probably want a woman who looks that good, who's also sweet, reasonably smart, sexual etc.

Improve yourself in any way that you can. Absolutely work on your body, all the more if you are rail thin or skinnyfat as is. But the most important skills are social skills. People aren't robots who select a partner based on a list of information. Your "CV" only really starts to matter (in real life, that is, not talking online dating) after you made an impression on her by making her laugh, flirting, having fun playful interaction, whatever.

So if your #1 goal is to land a top quality woman you need as much experience as you can get with women.

>>18398075
She knows she is hot shit and you would have a very hard time getting with her and if you did she would just leave you eventually. Hell in this day in age any woman who thinks herself to be a six or higher thinks she can have the pick of the litter and he shit doesn't stink. You could get rich as fuck and that's about your only hope. But a girl like that is going to only eventually settle down after she's done good digging, and riding the cock wagon for her 20s. Then she will settle down with a guy she deems to be high on the social ladder, seems alpha to her, is wealthy, and good looking ontop of that. Just lower your standards OP.

Gradually, baby steps, but by forcing yourself. No need to go all out right away, but take constant steps at opening up towards people that you feel are deserving of that amount of trust (I assume you have such people in your life).

You'll have to come to terms with the idea that you will be hurt again, but that this pain is not something that will destroy you. It'll hurt, but it is an acceptable occasional tradeoff for the benefits you get out of intimacy with people you like. If you can think of it in those terms, you can find the motivation to make progress.

While seeking to avoid pain is a natural and understandable reflex, you need to identify when that behavior is destructive to your life. Some pains are necessary for growth, some pains are necessary for progress. It is not a bad thing to grow more circumspect of people if you have been burned - in fact it's a vital lesson that you have learned. However the lesson isn't that no people should be trusted at all, but rather that you should expect these sort of things to happen occasionally and to be prepared for it.

>>18398078
Why should I accept that. If somebody is trying to hurt me I will hurt them back. Why should I have accept more people hurting me that's horseshit

>>18398096

You misunderstand, it's not about accepting the pain as if you deserve it, but it's accepting the fact that life isn't ideal, and that some undeserved pain will be sometimes unavoidable.

The utility of the mindset is to not be governed by the fear of getting hurt, which would make it hard for you to open to others. You should instead steel yourself against this sort of pain through gradually achieving the kind of emotional maturity that allows you to take the blows without crumbling.

Nobody said anything about not fighting back.

>>18397903
I've been alone for years OP. Man up and make some online friends, or find some hobbies

>>18397909

How do you make online friends? If I knew how to do it I would have done it already. I have hobbies, I just can't seem to find people that share them. Specifically ones of the opposite sex.

>>18397920
What sort of hobbies? I am in the same boat as you OP but I've only been alone since last week. I am having horrible nightmares every night, just woke up from one of them. I'll do anything to escape this feeling.

>>18397890
Tell her you're into X, Y and Z and tell you would not dare asking her but you feel like it could be a fun and intimate experience because you have always wanted to try it, and she is the one who could.
Give her some weeks to digest the news.
My gf is into sex in public places (forest, beach etc...), I am not into it because it's boring as hell but I make an effort. She probably has some of those as well, don't hesitate to ask.

Yes, congratulations, you are the equivalent to a woman who got off the cock carrousel and mysteriously finds that after living a life full of over the top sexual thrills she doesn't love monogamy.

Good luck trying to straighten yourself out. Sure there's no doubt improvement possible but the thrill of sleeping with an objectively gorgeous girl, the power trip of paying them and/or sleeping with new people all the time simply won't be there no matter how you look at it.

>>18397908
>Tell her you're into X, Y and Z

This works very well if OP's gf is ok with him doing model X,Y and Z while she watches in the corner.

>>18397823
What the fuck did you do with your car?

>>18397823
Semen has a smell? I guess I never put my nose close enough to the stuff to know.

Please tell me someone wanked into your air vents.

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>>18397892
It smells like sweet chestnut (blossom).

>>18397759
Study medicine

>>18397759
Fuck those chicks, noone would find out. :)

>>18397759

>Shower everyday
>Get a haircut , grunge is dead. You're not 13.
>I know you're fat but buy clothes that actually fit you.
>Clean your room.
>You only have 8 hours of classes a week , go to them.
>Walk for 30 minutes each morning.

>You'll feel better I promise.

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>>18397730
>every problem can be solved through exercise, meditation and yoga

>>18397730
Yes, I know what you mean. But seriously, I've never got much out of it. My doctors, friends, relatives, coworkers all try to cram it down my throat. I used to be an avid exerciser. Then I quit, started again, then quit. I've got clinical depression and it never really made much difference. The endorphins that I'm supposed to feel, never showed up. I'm just exhausted, and that's it. So I believe like anything else, it helps many and is good for the body but is not the miracle cute for all ailments.

Meet through friends?

Mucho Autismo

Epic win.

Long story short your a mummys boy & one day your gunna be a cuk._

>>18397622
I thought I made it clear I resent the fuck out of her.(thoigh still love her) she also ruined me getting into college this spring semester
>cuck
how? I actually stole my girlfriend from some short Jamaican kid.

>>18397671
Lol shes still getting dat bbc on the side trust me kid

You are a cuck m8

>>18397598
>Thing is, I've had depression for a long time now because I'm ugly.
Dude, you're on 4chan. We are all ugly.

>>18397918
Still, that's why I'm trying to do something about it. I'll go mad if I move and I'll go crazy if I stay, I have to choose between two shit lives...

>>18397598
For the love of God stop calling yourself ugly!I am not gonna say that you are beautiful or anything.I am gonna give you some advice.The way you look at yourself reflects to the people you interact with.I mean that if think you are ugly,people are gonna see you as ugly.Just don't think about it and develop your inner self

>>18397558
a real head scratcher

>>18397558
do you have her nudes?

>>18397558
If you are westerner, you will be exotic to them.

It should come pretty naturally. If it doesn't, it probably wasn't meant to be. I've written some decent stuff but if it weren't for ideas flowing from my subconscious regularly I would never ever have been able to do it. And even at that, I've only written a small amount and find it hard to continue, because my brains funny and I'm on antipsychotics (like you probably are). I try to look at what others do. Obviously that's very important. But I try to break it down a teeny bit more carefully. Like, braggadocio hip hop is better generally, and provides endless subject matter to write about. I don't know why this is but I use this as an example. Anyways, good luck, you're going to need it.

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Here's how you start:

1) Write a page every day.

That's it. Sometimes it's hard, sometimes it's easier... but you have to put in the work.

>>18397556
So you want to be a writer?

If it doesn't come busting out of you in spite of everything - don't do it. If it doesn't pour out of your heart and mind - don't do it. If you have to sit up for hours staring at your computer screen searching for words - don't do it. If your doing for women, or fame, or money - don't do it.

If you have to re-write it again and again - don't do it. If it's hard work just thinking about doing it - don't do it. If have to wait for it to roar out of you, then wait patiently, if it doesn't, do something else.

- Charles Bukowski

I don't, my girlfriend does those, very severe. I had depression once, but I got over it.

For me personally changing my situation helped I left my job and even though I was then unemployed for 6 months I felt a lot better.

As for anxiety and depression. Working on building self confidence and just talking with people helps. There are other things you can do too like going sleep the same time everyday and getting enough sleep like 8 hours minimum. Doing regular exercise. Taking up new hobbies.
Then there is also getting help from a doctor too, with therapy and medication. It really depends on the seriousness of what you are feeling.

But from my personal experience and that of my girl changing your environment and situation is something that can be quite effective.

Hope you're alright :)

Changing the situation does help alot bro. Also improve your perseived self worth, go to chuch or a gym and set goals that you can reach. Dont forget to reward yourself for noteworthy things.

All the best love
Anon

>>18397513
Bout ate a 12 guage for lunch a few weeks ago.

On meds.

What u wanna know about my constant worrying about shit that doesnt matter and suffering in hell?

Why do you want to display affection like that with people who are not family or your significant other?

>>18397452
haha wow, that's a fucking autistic thing to ask, and i'm on the spectrum.

I don't have an answer for you OP, other than to say that it's more acceptable to hug people and kiss the tops of their heads when you're socially drinking, e.g. at bars etc.

>>18397478
I'm not autistic, just a sociopath.