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>Get gf
>shes been through some rough fucking shit
>at 14 her dad starts beating her
>15-16, dad goes to jail for rape and attempted murder on the mom
>mom withdraws as a parent for a few years
>best friend doesn't know how to console her, so instead awkwardly ignores her/they never really talk again
>stressed out, she goes to her first high school party and gets drunk
>3 boys take advantage of her
>she never told me details, just that they did everything but rape her before a 4th guy came in and broke it up
>ever since then feels like she will never be able to truly trust/love someone
>meet her when we're both 21
>we date for 2 years
>just recently broke up with me out of nowhere
>says she loves me like a brother (not the best choice of words, we're still hooking up a month after the breakup) but never felt that burning desire that she imagines true love is like
>says she needs some time to be a single adult to learn both how to be independent, and how to be comfortable enough to open up to people
I'm pretty heartbroken. Is this a real thing that people with traumatic pasts go through, or am I the reason she never loved me?
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>>18396412
tobh looks like she's never known what love is. You can't blame her or yourself but best thing for now would be to respect her wishes. Don't try to compare her life with others, too much. She's not really your responsibility, focus on yourself for now.
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Where do you guys find these women lmao. This sounds awful and a waste of time.
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>>18396412
Tough truth, but you've got to look for another girl. She's not interested in dating you, and she probably wants to sleep with other men.
It's hard to accept, but there's not really anything you can do about it.
>met a nice guy I fell in love he fell in love with me I think
>he is very nice and gentle towards me
>I'm a virgin and he is my first kiss
>I hate myself and I don't understand why he loves me, I constantly ask him why he does. He tells me I'm kind and loving and that he's here to help me
>I break down last night crying because I'm reminded that I have never experienced hanging out in groups. Because he told me he was hanging out with a group tommrow
>I cry and he tries to reassure me and whatnot
>I get drunk alone
>tell him and he gets upset
>I ask him what does he like about me
>"anon I'm not in the mood for this"
he says he wants to spend his life with me and whatnot but idk does he really love me...
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>>18396407
There gets to be a point where you love and are interested in someone. However they constantly put that into question on their own with doubt and their actions. If he gets to the point where he has to keep revaluating everything then at some point he might ask himself if all your positives really out way the negetives. If he loves you, he loves you. But if you fish for it a million times and it isn't out of his own volition then eventually he might put his love into question. Coming from someone who had a depressed partner that pushed it too far. He loves you, if you love him then have some faith. If he didn't love you he wouldn't be with you
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>>18396407
kek you think you have problems with relationships and shit???
just look at my face and tell me if you think I've had a gf before
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>>18396433
Cut that hair and stop smoking weed and you're good to go
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Where the fuck are all the 20-something year old females? 2017-06-08 01:52:40 Post No.18396365
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Where the fuck are all the 20-something year old females?
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I am really distraught because I can't find people my own age to meet or do stuff with I guess. I am 26 and ever since I graduated college, I NEVER EVER see women my age or within 2-3 years of it.
I look around me while driving and all I ever see are women in minivans. Old geezer women. Crazy women who are like 45 and just completely nuts. Obese brood mother women with like 8 kids in tow in the mall.
I never EVER see women who are like 20 something just hanging out or out and about doing stuff. Why is that? I am looking REALLY hard too. Like actively scanning people and trying to figure out their age.
Is it just this aids ass city I live in? I live in Springfield, MA and I thought it was a okay city? Maybe not?
Is there just not a lot of mid twenty something females in general?
Women who are like 23-27... Where the fuck are you?
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Nowadays, they're all in the basement online. Just like the young men.
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>>18396378
is this really it? cause I had this thought today as well.
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>>18396378
This is not true at all. Women don't basement dwell like dudes.
Anyway, I am just discouraged because I desire to meet new women and actually try to make sociable connections I guess.. but I honestly cannot find women my age. Its such a weird feeling when you can see teenage women, old women, middle aged women but NO women that are your age.
Maybe I am seeing women who are in their mid twenties but they look way younger than they are?
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My girlfriend and I are becoming stable again. For about five days we had multiple fights, two of these days we almost broke up. The main reason we started fighting, was because she was going to hang out with an old "friend". Before we started dating she was hanging out with this guy, eventually they became friends with benefits. She thought he was cute, and messaged him. He broke with his girlfriend because of her. They both were attracted to each other, but she tries to deny this, by saying he was only a friend with benefits. Well, there was some overlap with them hanging out and our relationship. I thought nothing of it, she told me they were friends. So when they hung out I never said anything, but always had a sick feeling. One day she told me they switched clothes as a joke, and I was pissed. We talked it out, and it seemed like she would cut off all contact. But she didn't. They still talked. One day I was hanging out with my friends, I decided to call her. Well, she said she was going to hang with him and he was going to take pictures of her, because he's a photographer. I got livid. After that day after day we were fighting, but as I said things have been going steady. He's her only friends, and she felt like I was controlling who she can cannot hang out with. Which I can see her point, but this is a guy that she had feelings for and vise versa. I felt like a dick, but I don't want my girlfriend being around this guy without me. She said he wouldn't do anything or cross bounders, but he already did with the switching of the clothes. The issue isn't resolved and I don't know what to do about it.
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Break up, feel bad about it, and cry if you want. But, you have to get the fuck out of that relationship anon, it is going to hurt more down the line.
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>>18396305
I just can't bring myself to breakup with her, I love her so much. I just want things to work with us.
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>>18396392
It won't work out, you're asking her to choose you or him and women don't like conflict, she'll either lie more or just grow distant.
As a man that went through something similar, take the pragmatic approach and cut it off.
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>Have mostly perfect relationship with gf
>She's just really petty and defensive even when she's wrong sometimes
>Facebook pops up in conversation
>It took a huge argument to get her to do the relationship status months ago
>We broke up for a little, so she deactivated her Facebook
>We got back together, this time seemingly for good
>Months later, her FB is back up, in a relationship with me
>She says today that it's deactivated
>Tell her that it's still up
>Prove it to her
>Says she thought she deactovated it
>Ask her why she reactivated it in the first place
>She doesn't wanna answer
>She keeps saying "don't worry about it"
>Tell her that she's basically creating needless doubt in this relationship by not telling me
>She doesn't care and our arguing ends in her leaving
Why does she feel the need to create needless doubt in this relationship? It's unhealthy. I'm pretty sure nothing is going on, but it seems like she's creating fake shit to be defiant about, like I'm her dad trying to get her in trouble or some shit. Or like I'm being intrusive.
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>>18396255
Grow up
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>>18396379
this
>>18396255
holy shit wtf are u in middle school?
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Upvoted.
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>try to talk to grill
>she stop responding after an exchange or two
>you call her out on being short
>"lol, sorry, im just sooooo busy lately"
literally every girl ever
why do they do this? and how to combat it?
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>>18396206
I wonder how old these women look today
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>>18396206
You again. The girls don't like to go out with creeps or losers
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Monitoring. Can't stand it these days.
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I need help. I cheated on my boyfriend, and it wasn't my fault, but I feel like it was. Someone else kissed me but I didn't push them away or anything and kissed them back. I told my boyfriend, and he's fine with it. But I'm not. I hate myself over this, I'm extremely suicidal and I almost died over this, got off with only a lot of cutting. Because he says I'm the only reason hes happy and still alive. Which makes me feel even worse. I don't know how to make myself accept that I did this, and how to move on.
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If I kissed another woman
>b-but she kissed meee!!!
I'd be looking at a divorce.
You are feeling guilty because you would not tolerate the same behavior from him.
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>>18396183
>didnt cheat
>kissed someone else
First off that is a very loose interpretation of cheating.
Second if that is your interpretation then mutual kissing would fall under that.
Third he definitely cares that you kissed another dude but only in the same way that he would care if you slapped him in the face.
If you are remorseful then make sure it never happens again.
You can even go overboard and stop associating with other dudes for all that matters.
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To the men reading this, do know that this is exactly what happens when you put pussy on a pedestal.
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I got severely bullied in school and I'm in my early twenties now but I'm still scared of strangers or people I don't know very well assaulting me, I don't want to be physically or verbally abused anymore
How do I calm down around people?
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>>18396121
Get martial art lessons, helps with feeling Safe.
There is not much else you can do, except maybe meeting with psychotherapists to deal with your PTSD (post traumatic syndrome disorders).
Social anxiety could get better if you get out of your comfort zone (pushing your limits). Every day a little victory is what you need to win the war against those invasive and negative thoughts
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>>18396152
Thing is I'm a girl so I could never defend myself against a full grown man, and pepper spray is illegal in my country.
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>>18396156
Get a pepper spray anyways, if it gets confiscated buy another one, it's like 5$.
Also, I can promess you you can beat a guy with almost any decent martial art. You're not as helpless as people would love to make you think you are.
Get to a psychotherapist. I do not know your country but there are always competent people at schools, universities who studied hard to deal with the issues you currently have, and it's free.
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When you are on a date with a girl, can the size of her purse give away what she is expecting or thinking?
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Worry about getting a date first OP.
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>>18395982
lol
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Yes, generally large purses indicate a fondness of dogs, smaller for cats. If you're not an animal lover in general, you shouldn't fucking date women.
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How do I introduce myself to someone when I'm boring as fuck?
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>>18395925
Make shit up nigger
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>>18395925
All u have to do is memorize a few details about ur self, then add some fake shit to it
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>>18395925
Does she play gwent?
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What's a decent job that'll give me weekends off? Like, a receptionist or something?
I'm sick of never knowing when I'll have another day free.
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Fight attendant.
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>>18395823
I've considered being a baggage handler, even though it doesn't give weekends off.
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>>18395948
Maybe consider being a package handler
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I'm just wanna find fuck but also poor and don't have an apartment. I can afford modest dates but can't takes girls back to my place for sex, neither can we fuck in my car because the air conditioning is broke and it'll be a few more months before I can afford to fix it.
So how do I approach this? Do I ask girls straight off the bat they wanna take me back to their place? So I don't waste money on a date going nowhere?
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>>18395745
>So I don't waste money on a date
Tinder isn't really a fuck app. If you match someone on tinder you will have to go on a date with them. If you think the date is going well enough for sex. Take her to her place.
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>>18395769
it definitely is a fuck app, the fact that people use it for dating and/or free meals doesn't change that
anyway should I bring it up beforehand? I don't really want to spend money taking some bitch out and then her trying to get back to my place then awkwardly realizing that neither of us have anywhere to go to fuck. basically kills the moment.
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>>18395778
>it definitely is a fuck app,
Not really since there are real fuck apps. Like Fling
>anyway should I bring it up beforehand?
Sure it probably wont go the way you think, but you wont waste any money.
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Heavy vaginal bleeding 2017-06-07 08:59:48 Post No.18395690
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Early Sunday I masturbated too roughly and have been bleeding ever since. The first couple of days the bleeding was pretty heavy. Last night it was lightly bleeding but this morning it's gotten heavier again. It doesn't seem like it's my period. The bloods a bit darker and hardly any of it gets on my pad.
Since last night i've started feeling sick(headache, wanting to vomit, lack of appetite).
I don't know if I fucked up something down there or if it's a weird period. What should I do?
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>>18395690
Go to a doctor.
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Post pic I'm a doctor
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>>18395690
Doctor now
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That feel when I often get self-conscious and paranoid that everyone is judging me and thinking I'm weird. Don't know how to address it.
I tend to get into this defensive passive-aggressive mode where I'm being rude on purpose, autisticly stare down random people who I think have challenged me, and generally fill with seething hatred.
I'm not proud of it, but often I can't help myself. I'm not sure what other reaction is appropriate if people really do find me weird, which is a big anxiety of mine. I'm working on myself, dress decently, am in shape, been told I'm good looking. But I just can't find my own fucking place. Don't feel like I belong.
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>>18395528
Most of it is probably in your head its ok to have walls to cope, but you have to distinguish whats logical or not
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>>18395528
Yea not sure dude . Maybe get some tacos and crawl back in your ahit
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OP are you me?
you can fake emotions, to try and forge genuine ones. Remove the hatred - care for an animal, a dog?
Feel like you don't belong? focus on becoming a nice person, the world needs more nice people. How can you not belong to the world then?
we're both on the same journey, the best is yet to come.
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my libido has gone down to zero and i know why, but not how to resolve it.
my sexual desire is responsive rather than spontaneous. meaning that i need some explicit sexual context to get aroused instead of getting aroused and then seek sexual situations.
practically, that means that i would never need sex, but if a situation can arouse me, i am very sensual.
the problem is, that i've always been an extremely sexual person. and that was because i almost constantly exposed myself to sexually charged situations. i've always been somebody who loves to flirt and generate sexual tension. it made me feel incredibly sexy and desireable, which promptly made me horny.
now i'm in my first very serious relationship. it's been two years now and i feel like a frigid asexual nun. i never feel desireable and in turn, it's almost impossible if not entirely impossible to arouse me. i don't really know what the problem is. my bf still tells me i'm sexy and beautiful. he has a high sex drive and initiates often. but somehow it has no effect on me anymore... i have bo idea what to do and i really don't want this. i miss the old kinky me and i want it back. but how?
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Do you watch porn?
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>>18395492
You're probably taking birth control, aren't you?
Get off of it and you'll be desperate for coco within a few weeks ago most.
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$20 says you've stopped flirting. Go to dinner once a week and flirt the whole time. All the conversations you used to have with the same type of eye contact. Tell him you want him to touch the small of your back as he holds the door open for you and pull you into a coat closet and make out with you at the restaurant. Get frilled up, do your hair up nice, he should do the same. See a nice movie and have his hands on you. Go shopping for lingerie, bring him, and try on different types, and show him.
You're not flirting anymore and not putting yourself in a position where he recognizes you want him to flirt with you. He will never, ever read your mind. You will have to tell him what conversations and behaviors excite you. He'll be happy to oblige in increasing your sexual desire, I'm sure.