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Do you look like a typical fat, nerdy, awkward online gamer?

>>18497925
yeah... shes pretty awkward and is fat... but shes really nice and is very cute, she also has a big ass which is always a plus in my book.

>>18497950
Hit the gym, fatty. Stop wasting 8 hours a day playing games online and give yourself more value and confidence. Bitches love that shit.

>>18497801

I've had that to some degree, but instead of pity, I like to think about it as finding that everyone has an interesting side to them. Like, I have this one friend - he's really shy, and introverted, and has a hard time relating to a lot of people in a "party" environment. I think he's probably legitimately got Asperger's. Since we had known each other for so long, I sometimes felt "pity" for him and took him out to things, thinking he needed to be social like me. But now I've seen awesome things in him, like how great of an artist he is, his curiosity in science, the awesome way his mind works when it comes to coding and tech.

So I dunno anon, maybe it's time to accept that people see something awesome in you, even if you don't see it in yourself.

>>18497801
what's the pic from?

No, I have very little chill so there's no one I'm nice to out of pity. Either I'm nice to you or I'm not.

I don't know what to tell you. Sadly, this thread will get way less attention than the "ask the opposite gender anything", "get it off your chest" and "i'm a girl xd wat do?" threads, and those who respond will most likely not know what you've been through.

I really want you to find the answer, and to live a fulfilled life. Have you tried meditating at all?

>>18497701
Move to a different city, start a new name and life for yourself.

>>18497701
Get a dog dude.
Start going for walks.
Keep your circle real fucking tight.
Meet some new friends.

Don't kill yourself.
How old are you? Early 20s?

>>18497698
How do you define "ghosting?" Some people just don't like to text all day long, if that's what you mean

A girl I was talking to recently also ghosted me. We were hitting it off really well, she was interesting, kind, and it was very mutual. We went on a date that I thought went pretty well and pretty much the next day up until now she doesn't talk to me.

Sometimes people just aren't emotionally available and despite having a plan in their head of wanting to pursue something, cannot follow through with it.

>>18497704
Went from talking often, to once or twice a week, then I hadn't seen or really heard from her in over two months. She came by my house randomly about a week ago to hang out, and that was when she said the thing about the drinks. Things seemed fine. But now she's back to ignoring my texts or snaps. Considering she used to call me in the mornings to talk, the about face seems odd.

I'm socially conscious, so it's not like I sperged her away.

But why?

Dig in the garden and just pluck em' out then do your nasty thang.

>>18497534
japan is a dying country

>>18497504
>how can I help my sister?
get her some quality counseling

>why did this happen?
human is just another kind of animal

>>18497504
Your dad is trash and your sister is dumb for thinking bad things can't happen to her. Take her to counseling and enroll her in some self defense classes.

Have you tried talking to her? Asking if she wants to talk? Letting her know that you're available to talk should she need someone.

That's a start. And for the love of God, don't text it to her.

>>18497364
Ask for a raise.
No raise, no work. Sit at your desk doing sweet fuck all.
If you quit or get fired you can always count on them neetbux

>>18497364

I have quit every job I've ever had without a backup when I've come to the the realization that things had passed the point of no return. It's all about having a plan. Money saved, a sound explanation for why you left the company, and your work gap. But time away from work can give you time to recharge, to refocus on where you want your career to go, and things like that.

I highly recommend leaving when you're not being appreciated. Just do it intelligently.

>>18497369
I really wish that was an option, I brought up to my boss that I'm being underpaid today, and she literally just gave me excuses and told me I'd have to bring it up with a different boss. Their tactic has always been to put the blame on different higher ups, but the same higher ups blame those bosses when you speak to them, and no one is willing to take responsibility for anything. And at the same time they wonder why everyone quits.

>>18497332

how many months along is your wife?

"Never initiate unless they physically provoke you and harass you. Also, ALWAYS use self-defense."
That's what I'm going to tell my kids, and what I told my lil' brother

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>>18497332
I had a single mom (black) who taught me that i should be able to talk my way out of any fight. As a result, I was a miserable beta little shit until deep into my 20s.

Your kids are lucky to have a dad to teach them to stand up for themselves. Show them some very basic moves to avoid being mounted and such but notging too fancy.

>>18497313

with actual distance. then with actual accomplishments.

its stupid to hate people simply because they are simple or chose a normal life. you are also a country raised idiot. im not saying you gotta love em, but if they didnt do anything wrong whats the big deal?

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>>18497313
Jesus Christ, OP. Try to put yourself in their simple-minded shoes...they are probably very proud of you and love you.

>>18497319
I agree with this guy. I have a sibling who seems content with being a NEET and mediocrity, but I still love him and miss him. Just let people be happy and offer encouraging advice from time to time.

>>18497313
What's with whites and their lack of family bond?
Never seen people so eager to have their kids move out and so eager to place their parents in a nursing home to wither and die

You can say that I could use some type of wax or spray hair but that is another part of my obssesion, that I don't want to use any product in my hair, only the necessary, like shampoo to wash it once a week. So finally, now I don't know what to do. I don't know if making a buzzcut, but I would feel bad also with that because I would think: "I am so insecure that I only can have a buzzcut and people will notice it" or cutting it a little more in the sides, making a fade or something. I don't want to do a fade either becuase I am tired of see everybody with the same shit and I get sad seeing everybody with the same hair cut.

That's my obssesion with my hair. I know it's ridiculous and that's one of the reasons I can't talk about it and I feel worst because such a stupid and not important thing is affecting me so much, but it affects me very much. One of the compulsions that I have related to that is repeating phrases in my head all the time like: "my hair short so I don't need to comb it". I have learned that is a type of compulsion called neutralising, you repeat a phrase in your head or with your voice to try eliminate the obssesion but it only makes it worst.

I have had the same OCD with the beard for example but it has mostly dissapeared because in the past I had long beard but now I am shaving and I only let it grow a little, not so long. That gives me some hope that it could be the same with the hair but with the hair the obssesion is stronger because even doing a buzzcut I think I would feel bad and the obssesion will continue with another thing.

I have other little obssesions like, obssesion with order or things like that but they don't affect me so much. This obssesion with the hair affects me every day.

Ok, I think that is enough. I know that nobody will read this because is too much long, my english is not good and is a stupid problem but I needed to write it down because I have learned that it helps.

Anyway we can talk about OCD in general here.

>>18497273
I have OCD as well OP. And I can relate with the whole hair thing. I hardly washed it or did anything with it and I got bullied for it on a regular basis. So since grade 9 before leaving the house my hair has to be at least passable if not looking it's best. Whenever I go to school or work now I carry a hair comb in my bag. That has to be the most tame side effect of having OCD. The obsessive thoughts drive me nuts dude. Loads of fun

>>18497327
>The obsessive thoughts drive me nuts dude.
For me OCD is the worst thing. I now there is worst psycological problems but OCD affects me every day and it only needs a little trigger to come up again like seeing a guy guy long hair or with a good looking hair style that I don't feel confidence to do and the ocd comes again.

I have other psycological problems that affect me as well, like fear to speak in public or fear to figths but those fears only affect me when I am in those situation, not daily. That's because OCD for me is so much worst.

One thing I do similar to you carrying a comb everywhere to be perfectly comb always is not open the car windows because I don't stand the wind messing my hair.

How long have you being lie that, doing those things?

>>18497257
Seems worth a try. I didn't even know that ketamine was now being used as a legit antidepressant until I read your post and googled. Amazing.

>>18497270
Yeah I've heard about it before, but never gave it much thought for some reason. I guess it also helps with chronic pain so I would definitely like to try this out so I don't have to take Vicodin anymore.

I want to do this, but I don't have the money for it.

>My girlfriend hasn't spoken to me in a few weeks

It's basically already over. Go ahead and end it officially.

>>18497207
Just end it, the relationship is obviously toxic and your heart isn't in it.

>>18497223
Yeah, I figured so. I won't waste my time though. I'm waiting on her to say something for us to meet up.

>>18497088
You stop browsing 4chan

Post boring shit about yourself all day.

>>18497088
You need to be more specific, why do you feel you are not "normal"? As a follow up, why do you want to make this change?

In general though, you probably need to be more sociable.

Also, a good start would be to stop classifying people as "normal". (Almost) everyone has their idiosyncrasies, thinking otherwise is going to hold you back.

Bump for interest

I sit on tinder and bumble, both. OKC is for fat/ugly SJWs or people with made up sexualities or genders.

Tinder is for pretty average girls, a lot of basic girls there, but some really interesting women as well. Not all of them are just trying to get a hookup, though some definitely are. I've had many good dates from tinder.

Bumble is 75% Jills, the super hot chicks looking for Chads. I'm not a Chad, but I've managed to meet a few girls there's. It doesn't actually take any pressure off of you, it's actually pretty bullshit. The whole system is designed just so that the girl has to send you some bullshit message like "hey" or "how's it going?" You then have to make the conversation interesting on your own. It's more of a frustration not being able to message them first and feels like a White Knight system more than anything. Women put zero effort into messaging first. It's just an extra step you have to wait for some bitch to do before you can get the ball rolling. Still, recommend though. Bumble has the most attractive women for sure, and many fewer blacks than Tinder..

Oh, and the Facebook tie-in... I think you can see from the app which of your Facebook friends also have tinder, but it's obscure and I don't think many people know about it. Plus, only people with tinder can see you on tinder. Why do you not want to be seen there?

Oral sex, fast way to get there

>>18496560
Doesnt work. She just wriggles around like shes in pain

Fuck, try to masturbate her, It seens shit, but you'll begin to understand how to give pleasure, helped for me