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Hola amigo, soy un español (de España, obviamente), te deseo suerte aprendiendo este idioma.

So yeah I'm a Spaniard which learned English through watching TV stuff. I first started with Anime (top kek) because the English fansubs uploaded with better quality, so I forced myself through watching it with English subs. Everytime I didn't understand one of the words in the subs, I'd open up Google Translate and look for it. Sometimes I needed a lot of time to finish an episode, but I had the patience to do it.

Then I slowly progressed into movies and tv series. Still used English subtitles because the Spanish ones I found were full of mistakes.

Obviously I didn't learn only through this. We have mandatory English classes since 1st grade, but the curriculum is shit and your average Spanish student won't be able to hold a decent English conversation, either for lack of practice or because of lack of confidence.

My pronunciation is shit, it's what happens when I just spend hundreds of hours listening but with nobody to really speak to in the language, so remember that. I'm very proud of my vocabulary and I really need to polish my grammar, as I still make mistakes and I learnt it through memorization/feeling and not studying the actual theory.

I'm learning an Asian language too, but I don't watch its TV series because they don't interest me, and it's so different from our languages. Spanish and English are so similar that a lot of the times you can infer the meaning of a word. Yeah sure, there are false friends, but depending on the context you can identify that something is fishy and search for it just to make sure.

Not sure if you should watch telenovelas. I don't know what variety of Spanish you want to be fluent in, and I'd imagine the dialogues are somewhat exaggerated/melodramatic. Investigate Spanish speaking cinema and directors, as a starter I'd recommend Almodóvar, as his movies tend to be "slice of life"

No lei nada, quiero ver mas de esa tetona
Quiero que se tire un pedo en mis crunch berries
Oh y eres un maricon

>>18500936
What are some good TV shows in spanish?

To be fair, obnoxious as your friends are about it I do sort of see their point. It's not really about there being no point in living life unless you get married. But rather that there's more to life than trying to chase fleeting hedonism 24/7.

Either way I think you should not try to argue but shut them up by rubbing it in how rude they're being. Just a curt "I'm happy with the way I live my life and not looking for opinions" should do the trick. If they don't knock it off tell them it's getting old and after that that they've outstayed their welcome.

>>18500892
i'm in the same sorta situation anon

there really is no way to solve the jealousy of your peers who are unhappy and have convinced themselves that unhappiness is just somehow correct

you should allow them to keep saying that, because they are unhappy you should allow them to take pride in it, it's a coping mechanism

You're both right. You're not in the wrong for enjoying your life for what it is now, but they're not wrong when they say that your life will be a lot different once you get married and have kids (assuming that's what you want to do).

The issue lies in the fact that you and your friends are at different stages in your lives. You see them as resentful and jealous of you, they see you as immature. I don't know if there's any truth to either perspective, but my advice would be to find new friends where you're not at odds with each other, especially since you called them 'friends' in your title instead of just friends. That said, if you're over 30, you're going to find it difficult to find friends who are living a similar lifestyle to you.

I'm the female equivalent of what you want to be (the big sister/mom friend) and I think a lot of it is just inherent in my personality. I've always been calm, organised, sympathetic and empathetic, dependable, etc. I'm not a stick in the mud or anything and I can make people laugh just as much as the next person, but I don't think I could ever be the 'clown' of the group because my personality is just naturally not like that.

What I meant to say is that I don't know if you can, at least not unless you mature somewhat and maybe friend a new social circle to be this big brother friend for. I mean, you could try and identify what traits you'd like to develop and try and change your personality, but I don't know how successful you'd be.

>>18500838
your friends probably don't care about what role you play as much as you think they do

just do what you're comfortable doing and don't try on faces and roles because you are interested in appearing that way

if you don't have the stuff to be that person, then you're just not, you'd be that person if you were that person

if you feel boxed in by who you think you are expected to be, then relax

like i said, they probably don't give a shit about what you do and if they do they are garbage

>>18500871
I guess I would just want to be more calm and organized. I don't know if I could stop being goofy, but I guess i'd really just want to be someone they could depend on. I feel like I'm useless, like although I can make them laugh, they'd never be able to rely on me for anything.

dmt or something probably

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>>18500834
Check out this guy
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Bsyplaii9p4

Accept Jesus Christvas your lord and savior.

But in all seriousness, thats what the Jesus story is all about. Watch or read "the last temptation of chris"t if youre secular.

probably go to therapy

you can't quit fetishes but you can explore their roots and become more in touch with yourself and alleviate your condition

>>18500825
Any ideas if I can't do therapy due to circumstance?

>>18500857
and what circumstance is that?
you really should go out of your way to do therapy from what i hear

other than that i can think of doing drugs that distance you from yourself

How old are you bud?

>>18500685
27, I have some dating history but I'm not great at dating. She's moving out of town (not far, 20min drive) but I think she's been waiting on this for awhile. I'm good at getting girls but they usually figure out how depressed I am and realize I'm not the guy they wanted.

Break up with her first (I'm only half joking). It might shock her into "holy shit he is assertive and not my pet" or something like that. At least hopefully.
But even if it doesn't, at least you're the one who ended it (;

>nobody will ever make this post about you

Holy fuck why don't I just die in a car wreck already

Use the pussy your mom and dad gave you?

>>18500642
I'm sorry anon

>>18500647
I feel like there are some steps missing

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practice recreative boxing, not amateur
state that you have an invented sickness or syndrome or something if any coaches wanna make you spar, but they wont make it if you barely start practising
sparring is for seniors

Boxing is cool, you don't have to step in the ring or spar or anything to do it, and that's usually fine. But the thing is practicing isn't the cool part.
You should do it, practice until you want to try sparring. There are few things that work to get a man motivated like testing his fighting ability, it will be effective in getting you in shape probably for this reason. Try it, you'll die early if you're fat anyway.

In a social setting? Yeah. I might as well not exist. Wife tells me if she didn't know me before seeing me there was no way she would have shown interest.

It's kinda why I started working out and lost like 100 pounds since I met her. That kills self esteem.

>>18500604
Very much so, yes. Even worse if you're also short.

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>>18500604
Post your pic. Being repulsively ugly is rare.

>>18500586
A locate girl (online, social events, friends friends)
B chat her up
C extract her phone number
D ask her on date
E enjoy the date
F go to D until you either break up or marry

The whole process can be done at various stages with multiple girls at once, just dont sleep around too much until you pick up one and let down the rest.

The most important part is communication. Which is obviously weak skill of yours since you had to divorce in the first place.

Your first question in online dating should be
>what are you looking for
And go from her reply. The sooner you ask her on date, the sooner you can either look for new girl or really go on date. Once you are ok date, it is the same thing for centuries now. You smile and both of you are awkward togehter until love or sex happens.

>why did you divorce? What have you done wrong? Details pls.

>>18500677
Thanks for details, could you expand point B? Because I feel like I am stuck in bullshit conversations that go nowhere and would like to get out of online bullshit asap and talk to real person for good or worse.

As for divorce, well we got into hell of routine and due to neglecting health sex was gone also. Good thing is I've learned my lessons and gone thru real major self-improvements.

>>18500711
>bullshit conversations
Use what are you looking for question and simply ask them on date. This is the part where majority of them will flake you or refuse you. If they flake, tell them you have to go and simply go chat other girl and try your luck with her next time.

If they dont want to give you her number, she doesnt want to date you anyway. Just be bold. Ask them if they like going on dates to dinner and be smooth.

You have nothing to lose by being direct.

>>18500574
I don't think social anxiety just comes to you. There must be something you are scared of happening, while having a conversation. Embarrassment, fear of being ignored, low self-esteem?

>>18500645
Honestly, I just get really nervous and uncomfortable even initiating a conversation. I don't know if its a fear of anything I just can't bring myself to do it.

You need to be better looking than them. Women are fickle. They will only date up. If you want a chubbo, you gotta be at least average weight, average height, average looks in general because fat girls are below average.

>>18500573
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Driver%27s_education

Look at car board and just buy some old used cheap car and follow your states laws in order to get licence.
>>>/o/

I didn't get my license until I was 24, part of it was a fear of driving but for the most part I felt like a loser going in there at 24 to get a license for the first time. Do you have the money to buy a car? Or can you borrow one to practice?

>>18500697
to be honest it would be incredibly embarrassing to be in a class with what is probably a bunch of high schoolers, but i'm considering it as i don't really have a way to learn outside of a class

>>18500702
i do have the money to buy a car, but don't i need someone to be in the car with me to learn? i don't want to get in trouble and i don't have anyone like that.

Since I have no idea what the context of your breakup is, my default advice would be to cut all contact with her and do stuff you love to keep your mind occupied. Almost everyone will go through heartbreak at least once in their life (I'm going through it as we speak), It'll get better though, that much you can be certain of.

You just broke up yesterday, don't sweat it. You'll think of her for a while. It takes a different amount of time for different people to get over losing others. Took me about a year to get over my first long term relationship, though we were together for 5. To speed up the recovery process, here's what you do - focus on improving your life. The easiest start to this is physically - turn that emotion into rage that you no longer have what you want, as usr that rage as fuel to work out. Becoming more physically inclined will increase your testosterone and confidence, and lead you towards doing other sports and activities. By doing more things, you will meet a few people and thusly your social life will grow. The more social you become, the more socially adjusted you will also become. You will gain a clear perspective, and good mental health will follow. And one day you'll look back and forget that you were ever upset about the loss of someone who then will mean so little to you.

Dude its only been one day don't sweat it. This girl just broke up with me 2 weeks ago and I felt like garbage for a full 7 days, and even once or twice this week even though I WAS PLANNING ON BREAKING UP WITH HER ANYWAYS lol. Not to mention it was a pretty casual thing and I didn't have feelings for her. Ill look in my room and be like, "the ash in that tray is from her cigarette", or "that scrunchie in the corner is hers".

Once more time goes by the experiences you two shared together will become hazy memories that don't really mean anything to you any more.

Best thing to do is to get rid of the stuff that reminds you of her, and to go do something new that you guys never did together. And of course, go out and hit on some random female somewhere. Not even saying you need to get laid or anything, just smile at a grocery store cashier or jair dresser and flirt a bit. The best thing to fix dwelling on a female is remembering that there are 3.5 billion women on this planet.

Unless you're clinically retarded or a woman you should pass it easily on the first try

>drive around the DMV as the road test usually circles the DMV
>adjust mirrors even if already perfect, just touch em
>seat belt; remind instructor to wear seatbelt
>no music or AC just drive
>who cares if people honk, obey speed limits
>turn signals and 100% stops
>two hands on wheel at all times
>parallel parking is a bitch desu

good luck faggot

>>18500529
Try not to kill anybody on the road and you should get it

Why didn't you go to the cops right away?

>>18500484
Because who would believe me? It's punches to the arm not my face and bruises don't develop for a few days if even

>>18500478
Why are you still with this idiot?
You should have:
1) called the cops when he hit you
2) got a restraining orde
3) moved out
4) send him a text telling him what you're doing, you're done with him and do not contact me again
5) call on family, friends or women's battered shelter to help you move on.

My guess is that this isn't the first time he's done this. Here's the message. "GET THE FUCK OUT".