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The more I think about it the more pissed off I get. This "best friend" and her talk a lot, and he's her emotional support. When she has anxiety attacks or whatever, she goes to him for support, which is understandable since I'm really bad at that kind of stuff. I didn't think much of it because I thought she should have her freedom and choice of friends. She also has mostly guy friends. I realize now that these are all major redflags. I just can't believe I had no fucking clue for 6 months, everything seemed absolutely fine.

>>18490773
>>18490784
Man, grow a pair and kick that bitch to the curb. That'll cheer you up in the long run.

She's genuinely sorry that she was caught.

If you think its a long shot, then pursue something with him, but keep your options open. How far away are you guys from eachother and how many times per month can you even expect to see eachother.

>>18498029
>despite being really smart

How the hell could you tell this? Did you make him take a test?

>>18498046
He can keep up with conversations about pretty much every subject. He is not afraidnof saying he doesnt know something and he wants me to teach him. He is stubborn and arrogant about his point of view, but he can also admit when someone else is right when they strongly prove it. When he argue about something, he always have legit sources to defend his point. He is capable of learning everything he wants by himself. I could go on, but it's a long list

Kys before it sets in! It's not too late

>>18498016
I figured I would get that response lol but I'm partial to living even with this shitty thing

Cereal tho, anything at all?

What did you realistically think you were going to get when you paid your "buddy that knows how to tattoo" 50 bucks an hour?

>>18497827
Im also in a LDR and before we met in person we'd normally have phone sex or mess around over FaceTime. But now that we've met in person we both would much rather save our sexual frustrations for when we meet up. We don't meet up very often either, but if you really do love this girl you're going to have to deal with irl sex only.


If you can't handle that break this off now so you can fuck a girl thats closer to you

You have to decide for yourself whether the relationship is overall worth it to you, not because of some perceived token of masculinity that might get taken away if you run with this.

Having said that if she feels this strongly it is not worth trying to change her mind to begin with. She will feel cheap/gross/at risk while doing it and resent you for that. There are enough risks associated with these kind of things if your heart is really in it.

>>18497827
Jesus Christ. Is there anything more beta than a LDR. I would feel real fucking sorry for myself if they only pussy I'm getting is 300 miles away telling me what her pussy is like over the phone. You might as well just jerk to porn.

Get new friends. I was friends with these types of people in high school. Very cool to me, they were my best mates, but there was always someone in the group who they ridiculed and I didn't like being around it.

They tend to eventually grow out of it once they realize they're shitty people, but you don't have to wait around for that at your expense. Fuck off from them and find better friends.

To be honest, you sound like a pussy.
You have to realize that these dudes arent really your friends. If they were, they wouldnt berate you and tell you youre lower than them.

1.What do you get out of hanging out with them?
2. If you did "confront them" what would you truly gain from it? Would you ostracize yourself more?

I would suggest dropping these dudes and finding better people more worthy of your time. If they actually care about you, someone from the group will reach out to you. If not, nothing of value was lost.

This happens in lots of social cliques, especially with young people. You being the butt of every joke is a familiar ritual the others feel at ease with because it boosts their own confidence and re-asserts them as better than you for whatever reason.
Someone has already acknowledged this to your face so at this point I severely doubt that they are not realizing what they are doing and would feel remorseful when called out. You can still try it, though. When a new remark comes, ask them with a blank face "Why do you say that to me". If they do the whole "it's just a joke bro" ask "why do you always make those jokes about me". Even if they don't have a sensible answer at the time it could set some self-reflection in motion.

Alternatively and what I would recommend, you just snap when they say something like this. Tell them to fuck off, that you're tired of being their token pun, then actually leave. Next time rinse and repeat, whenever they make a shitty joke you grab your stuff and go. This is a more risky strategy because you are much more likely to outright lose your friends (at least the group as a whole), but it also has a chance of getting through to them when just verbal confrontation won't. I also think that if they don't change, you're better off finding new friends before this impacts your own self-esteem too much.

Also try to amp yourself up by imagining it's your own friend (or better yet, if you have one, your little brother or sister) who always gets to deal with this shit. That should bring out anger.

Whether you are by definition an alcoholic is hard to tell, but you are definitely showing an unhealthy dynamic with alcohol. The reasons why you drink (fun, relaxation, social reasons, or stress, loneliness and boredom?) are ultimately more important than how much you drink to indicate budding alcohol addiction.

>>18497833
>stress, loneliness and boredom

Yeah those 3 for sure resume my day, actually it's been a rough week, i'm actually considering to give up on my social life as it is now and like starting to see new people and moving to new places but it's easier to say it than to do it

>>18497857
Maybe you should try to cut back on the alcohol. Only get drunk one time a week, and every other day limit the drinking to no more than one drink a day.

>>18497748
why did she dump you m8?

>>18497748
> 8 months
She doesnt love you, and she never did.. Sorry anon, move on, try to find another girl.

You have encountered great and now horrible feelings on the shores of the river of life. Just keep floating. There will still be many great and horrible things coming. No matter which branches of the river you follow. highs and lows will come. They will be less intens when much older. Just keep flowing. let hours become days, and days weeks.

>>18497717
Therapy

>>18497717
I used subliminals to get over it. I listened to subliminals to be like Tyler Durden and it changed how I acted and looked for the better.

>>18497721
For how long did you listen to subliminals?

Is this your first time on /adv/? Half the posts are from men doing the same shit.

weak bait/10

Because it's very beneficial for them. Being single means they're vulnerable to unwanted advances from creepers, they're also instinctually aware of their helplessness against a man who wanted to harm them, so they tend to Tarzan swing from one dick to another, not letting go until the next one is in their hand/ass/mouth

>>18497668
But we don't really discuss relationships with other men. Especially in real life. How many times have you discussed about relationships with guys and not just ass and titties. I haven't had the experience that much.

>>18497511
no that's obsessive you need help. you don't even have insight.

>>18497511
Think about why she's your ex and not your gf.
Then burn the letters and move on.

>>18497519
Wait, looking at OP's pic, it looks like she's a girl, because that is the girliest writing I've ever seen on an envelope.
Revised: think about why he's your ex and not your bf; then burn the letters and move on.

Loaaaads of women seem to have it. I think it is linked to some forms of cancer
It's really disgusting how common it is

HPV is very common in both men and women. Infact it is so fucking common almost everyone gets it at some point in their lives. If you have raw sex you will contract the HPV virus. Although she may not show symptoms, she could pass it to you and you might have a different reaction. HPV can lead to literal cancer, and it can be spread by oral contact as well. I would not have sex with this girl my friend

>>18497483
>really disgusting how common it is
HPV (literally speaking, not just referring to the strain of HPV that causes genital warts and cancer) includes herpes, mouth sores, hand warts, foot warts...It's an extremely contagious and common strain of viral infections with a low symptom profile. People also can't tell when they're contagious or not, although an outbreak is a good sign that you're extra contagious in the moment. Some strains, such as canker sores, people inevitably get from their mothers. Other strains can be transferred by sharing a cup or shaking hands.

And yes genital warts cause cervical, anal, and penile cancer. Try to focus more on the facts of the matter than being an incel about things.

>>18497471
>is it a big deal?
It's not like having a partner with HIV, *but* personally, I wouldn't date someone with HPV unless I was really in love with them and planned to get married. I'd get HPV from my wife, but not from some chick I'm just trying to bang.

For instance, you can get HPV from some ho and then end up giving cancer to someone you have sex with in the future. On the other hand, if you get married to this woman and only have sex with her until you kick the bucket, then the HPV would maybe just be a bit irritating - you wouldn't be giving cancer to anyone.

So I would take it slow with her and see if it's someone you want to marry. Don't have sex unless you're both looking to get hitched.

>>18497460
What are you, a brainwashed anime loli assassin?

Consume estrogen.

reichiantherapy.info

Download the pdf, do the exercises. Crying happens a lot with that. It's emotional/trauma releasre type of somatic therapy.

Check out Raynor massage or Bercelli's TRE, same concept

>>18497437
to clarify, by
>I have a very low perfection
I mean
>I have a very poor ability to perceive myself

>>18497446
*perception.. shit

>>18497437
Try doing the things that you want to do instead of the things you think you should be doing

>>18497410
Let her fuck you with a strap on dildo

Your friend left it at yours when he was drunk and you're too embarrassed to give it back and don't know what to do with it

Why the fuck do you even have an 8 inch dildo?

>>18497408

now stop being retarded.

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>>18497421
done

>>18497408
How does one go out if their friends are boring as fuck and would rather hang out at their place than actually going out?