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I was thinking that I'd want to leave my journal to somebody. I won't want to leave it with my best friend, because I don't want her opinion to change on me, or to have even more of a weight weighing her down.

I don't want to just burn it or throw it down the trash. I feel like I want somebody to go through it and disregard it or do what they want with it. As long as it doesn't bother them too much.

I went to a new school and started in summer. There was only another kid in the class, let's call him Adrian. He's a year or two my senior, nice to me in the 14 days I've been in the class with him. (I'll elaborate on school if you ask)

We're not friends, nor acquaintances, and I don't know enough about him to know what would happen if I were to leave a rather personal journal with him.

He's the best option, since he probably wouldn't care about it, but then again, I wouldn't know if he is the kind to get emotional over the new girl coming to class for 14 days and deciding to kill herself, because if I were him, I would loose myself over it, which is why I need advice.

I don't want to cause him to freak out over something like that, but I feel like if I got to the point where I knew how he'd react, I probably wouldn't want to leave it with him.

I'm thinking of if I should put Adrian's well-being first, if he isn't the emotionless type, but I'd feel so unfinished if I just left my journal laying by my bedside, or make myself feel secure but at the potential burden of a random classmate.

TL;DR do I leave my classmate my personal journal to get it off my and my closest few's chest at the possible expense of his well-being and hope he's the emotionless type,
or
die insecure about my journal, which I am bothered by since I believe in the whole afterlife stuff.

Thank you to anyone who gives me advice. It is really appreciated!
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>>18496190
I really think you should not be considering suicide.

>suicide is a permanent solution to what nearly always a temporary situation

You have no idea how loved you are, and how much of a gift time on this world is.
I notice that your pic is Wirt from Over the Garden Wall (i loved the show). If Wirt had just given up, and let the Beast claim him, he wouldnt have been able to get back to Sara! And all the things that Greg and Beatrice had done for him would've been for nothing..

Hang in there anon. Better times will come.
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I think you watched too much 13 reasons. If you want people to find your journal, leave it by your corpse
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>>18496190
u sound like a fucking loser who has watched 13 reasons why too much

grow up u stupid high schooler shit

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>be me
>22 yo 8,5/10 blonde guy with nice eyes and upper body
>20 yo law student gf
>have a start-up that actually makes money
>talk about having kids and stuff
>"I'm in Anon, but I could never leave school, this is my dream, I'd finish it even with kids"
>"Ok Dear, no problem for me"

---few months later---

*fails on most of her exams because she doesn't give a fuck about it, after 2 years she still have 5 years from the 5 year course*
>"I can't believe you want me to leave school"
>"wtf I never said that"
>"But I want to work before having kids, and not many, max 3"
>"Dear, as a lawyer you can work even from home"
>"Yeah, but being a lawyer is my dream and you hold me back from reaching it so I break up with you"

She doesn't even deny that she loves me just repeats that it's her shitty dream. I tried to talk to her for 2 weeks now, but all I got was she getting on the train and not even looking back after giving me all my stuff.
Why isn't being a mother and having a family enough for women?
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Women only settle down with a good man.
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If your gf is unmotivated, see if you can deal with that first before moving on to anything else. That seems like a much larger issue than the fact that she won't live out your 1950s Nuclear Family fantasies with you.

>>18496070
op BTFO
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>>18496059
>Why isn't being a mother and having a family enough for women?
Probably for the same reason you wouldn't be content with just being a stay-at-home father? Or maybe you'd love that. I don't know. If so, you're unusual. Most men wouldn't.

I mean, Christ, I thought you were about to tell a story about how your girlfriend went on Tumblr and started ranting about how all men were rapists and your favorite video game was problematic, or whatever. Instead you're just whining about your ex wanting a career? That's not even particularly feminist, you're just a douchebag.

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OK guys i need some advice let me just start by saying I'm a 22 year old male premed student. I'd like to think im a pretty honest person but lately i've been going through some shit so hear me out please i really need some advice

I've been with my girl for about 4 years now we fell inlove and all that gay shit i can honestly say i love her. We have an 9 month old son and he is the love of my life. But not everything is going good our sex life is shit. Mostly on her part she has the lowest sex drive i have ever seen we can go weeks sometimes 1 or 2 months without sex. My sex drive is on high mode all the time im guessing is because i'm 22 and not past my prime yet. I've brought it up to her many times but she just tells me its not me its her that she has low libido. shes a great gf and want to marry me and have a cool family but fuck guys i can't take it anymore she wont even let me look at porn she freaks out and tells me it makes her feel insecure about herself. Ill post pic of her body time (not her) but close to her body recently some girls at work have started hitting on me nice thick perfect ass but fuck i always fight the urge to hitt on them back im afraid that if one made a move on me i wont be able to hold back. And i don't think i would be able to live with myself if i did ever cheat. Wtf do I do this is drving me crazy ill provide more in if needed thanks

>Not her in pic
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>>18496058

Anon there's probably more to it than a low sex drive. Maybe y'all need to spice up the bedroom (role playing, toys, that kinda shit) or maybe you're fucking her in a way she doesnt like. What I mean is Women are weird about that shit and if they get even slightly uncomfortable about something whilst fucking then their sex drive goes down the drain. Maybe you're fucking her too hard? Or in bad positions? Also, have you tried getting her drunk and asking her about it? Don't force yourself on her, the alchohol just tends to bring out the truth in people. And if I'm wrong about all this, then see if she'll give you noodles of her to rub out to. You can even make the act of getting nudes fun! But anon, if she even says no to that, then that's a serious red flag and it might be time to cut the chord. Just being honest bro. Was in a similar situation a few years back and we had to call it quits. It sucks, and I know you've got a son to think about. But bro sex is a basic human need. I wanna say it's selfish of her but idk yalls full situation.
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>>18496058
Couples counselling!! This is exactly the sort of thing it's good for. Chances are there's much more than a low libido at work here, and you need a thrid party to help bring it out.
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>>18496523

*too hard can also mean raunchy or domineering. Not all women are into that.

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I'm depressed af and want to kill myself on almost a daily basis.
This thread isn't about bf/gf issues so it wont get any replies.
fishing for attention
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>>18496056
durr just kill yourself dipshit
i mean
if ur not obsessing over sex or women then youre a chad fuckin normie dildo
better off w/o you in the world if you arent criyng over a girl or jacking off to porn
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>>18496056
go jack off
or talk about trying to have sex with girls

thats all that matters in life right
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Why are you so upset?

>grill agrees to date (via OKCupid)
>have to reschedule
>98 messages and 2 weeks later
>"I usually like to talk a lot before meeting up" and similar replies

Now I just want to stop talking to her on principle.
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I dunno, bro. Maybe she isn't interested and just wants to be polite, but you'd think she'd just ghost you instead of dicking you around so long.

I find that too much text chat kinda kills the attraction.
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>>18496045
I asked for her number. If she's leading me on then she'll say no and I'm out. If she says yes I'm probably going to get led on for a while anyways but at least I'll have some fucking progress.

She's really shy, literally maximum in "less confident", and she lives with her parents no full time job.

But even with that a man's gotta have some standards shit. I ain't that big a fuck up.

Also great point about text chat.
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>>18496035

If you or a girl can't hold up a conversation in text, you're gonna fail like fuck in person. I don't date any girl that can't hold a conversation online, because it means she's a stupid fuck. And if you can't, it means you are too.

But it does sound like she's shitty anyways, so maybe you should establish some better standards for yourself, instead of a girl that lives with her parents.

Hey /adv/, should i find new friends?
>just got off discord
>kinda shitty right now, really high but this guy is a stoner bro but its also really late so im tired
>join discord after finishing show
>he wants to play some horde but hes in a game
>man its late, i dunno how long i can honestly be on
>constantly ignores me
>continues rambling on about him and his gf and facebook shit. Packs that he bought and other useless filler
>tells me every single skin hes gotten today and how he levels so much due to how much he plays
>crack a joke because its pretty awkward with just me and him and im struggling to think because im beat man
>but did you get the awp skin anon
>…
>fucking dead silence
>(him to me) anon, you what me boy?
>i was telling a shitty cs go joke lol
>oh thats right, I couldn't hear you because I was tuning you out and looking at my phone
>his exact words
>give him a slight chuckle
>yeah ehhhh imma go to bed
>wait don't go
>continues to tell me about skins
>continually announce I'm leaving as he keeps changing the subject
Am I in the wrong, guys? Need serious help figuring this out. We've been friends since high school and I like the guy or I think so sometimes but is this some kind of mental disease I don't know about? Inb4 autism
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>>18495951
I used to be best friends with his ex gf and she said behind closed doors hes a fucking psychopath. Like cuts and burns himself in front of his parents when he was younger to get what he wanted
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>>18495951
Bump
Cmon guys, I'm twisted over whether or not I should let my best friend of five years go or not. What's even worse is I think did he's fried from all the tripping and binders and shit. Can someone give me an opinion/some insight/fucking anything?
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>>18495951
Bump finale for thess pics, its all i got. I hope someone finds this.

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One of my friends admitted to me that he has a feet fetish.
After he told me about it he asked for some pics of my feet.
We are both male and i am hetero.
I dont care about my feet but it still feels weird if someone jerks off to one of my body parts.

Should i send him my feet pics or would that be weird for the friendship?

pic:random german math
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Think of your feet as your private body parts. Would you show your friend your penis, balls or bare ass?
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>>18495936
If you dont actually care flip the pics. Sell them 3 a pop with it being printed out.
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>>18495936
He's going to jerk off to your feet pics

That should help you decide

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If a man has the option to live at their parent's house for free, or go to college and take on student loan debt, along with the gamble of whether they'll even get a job with their degree, how dumb do you have to be to pick the latter?

Even if you worked as a wageslave at Walmart starting at 18, if you invested 90% of your income into stocks, you could very easily be a millionaire by 30, or even by 25 if you were a highly skilled trader. At this point you could already retire and live off stock returns.

Meanwhile the kids getting out of college are over $20,000 in debt and many of them won't even be working in a job that requires a college degree.

Men can do this because at 30 it's still ok for them to start having kids, women don't have to work, they should basically never go to college (some rare exceptions), they should prioritize being good housewives and mothers starting at 14-20.

Why are people making life so hard when it doesn't have to be?
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>Even if you worked as a wageslave at Walmart starting at 18, if you invested 90% of your income into stocks, you could very easily be a millionaire by 30, or even by 25 if you were a highly skilled trader. At this point you could already retire and live off stock returns.
And yet I have never met a single individual who had done this. Something leads me to believe that it is much less feasible than you make it out to be. Unless you can provide some success stories I am remaining skeptical.

>Why are people making life so hard when it doesn't have to be?
Also because most people have dreams and ambitions beyond working at walmart for over a decade while living at their parent's.
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>>18495925
>And yet I have never met a single individual who had done this. Something leads me to believe that it is much less feasible than you make it out to be. Unless you can provide some success stories I am remaining skeptical.
Most people are dumb, especially women, the same kind of idiots who in this day and age take on massive debt to go to college for non-lucrative degrees.

How many wealthy boomers have you talked to? Ask them about the stock market, because I'm sure they've been putting money there, and that's a big reason they're as wealthy as they are.

Market returns 20% a year on average, a braindead monkey picking stocks at random could get that, if the portfolio was diversified enough and you held those shares long-term.

A highly skilled trader can get over 100% returns a year. Again this is people who are highly skilled, put in a lot of effort and time, and know what they're doing though.

>Also because most people have dreams and ambitions beyond working at walmart for over a decade while living at their parent's.
How is a 30 year old retired millionaire less of an ambition than being 30 years old, decades away from retiring, and still paying off student loan debt?

Many college graduates end up working at Walmart anyway, except they have $40,000 of debt.
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>>18495918
>thinks you can "easily be a millionaire by 30" by playing the stock market
lol kid

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Non white here, maybe the /Pol/ memes are just getting to me but I feel like I should kill myself because I think they are right about IQ and being inferior I tried not to be those things but now I realize that in the end when the others start the day of the rope/race war I'll just be lynched along with the rest no matter what I try to do so I think I'll just do the inevitable but I can't help but feel the day of the rope isn't real and I'd just be killing myself for nothinf can you anons give me insight before doing such a task ?

I still might just go through with it considering I thought this out and planned it for a long while.
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No, they are fucking retarded memelords.

Live like an individual. Stop latching on to movements.
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>>18495867
This. OP stop being a fucking retard. There's nothing bad about being a non-white.
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Don't die because of memes, anon.

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I'm subject to sweeping mood swings, taking me from overjoyed to depressed and back again throughout the course of the day. I want to be in a lighthearted mood all the time, one way I've learned to do this is by exposing myself to that kind of music/media. Are there any ways I can do this more reliably?
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>>18495848
Exercise and sexual activity generally do the trick. Eating junk food too, but obvioisly not recommended as much.

btw, it sounds like you've got a bipolar disorder, you might want to consider seeing a doctor about it.
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>>18495848
You might be bipolar. What helps me to calm down is chill hip hop and lo fi. Also look into stoicism.
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>>18495859
Yeah rare type it seems

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Is it almost always a bad idea to get into a serious relationship with a girl that has a dogshit family? (Abusive parents)

I come from a fairly dogshit family too and I can't imagine having to either exclude her family from our lives or even worse, having to find a way to somehow live with them.

Dogshit as in I would never willingly conversate or associate with these people, and they would not receive an invitation to my wedding, though I would invite my own parents because they weren't abusive, but are kinda just dickheads.
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>>18495817
>they would not receive an invitation to my wedding, though I would invite my own parents because they weren't abusive, but are kinda just dickheads.
First of all, you're getting ahead of yourself. Secondly, you can't just unilaterally place a total ban on her family from attending this hypothetical wedding. It's up to her to decide if she would invite them, not you.

That said, if that's how strongly you feel, then do her a favour and don't date her.
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>>18495817
someone who has their dogshit family out of the picture or under control? yes. someone who's dogshit family is in the picture and out of control? no.
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>>18495846
No, she's not a fan of them either. I have told her that her parents will never be alone with our kids, will never attend wedding etc and I only tell her that because I know she understands why.

I just don't know how hard of a life it's going to be without having grandparents on her side. Part of what I wanted in life was a huge, happy family and I don't see that happening with two sets of parents being absolute shite

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We went on date, after the date he asked me if I wanna go to his house which I rejected. But I told him to come over mine in the weekend.
I changed my thoughts tho. I texted him again told him that I want to hangout first like literally just hangout. He seems okay with that.
Since we planned to go to dinner instead of coming over.
Is he a good guy? I don't know if guy thought about getting laid ever be serious with anything
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>>18495790
>Is he a good guy? I don't know if guy thought about getting laid ever be serious with anything
what?
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>>18495822
Ah I meant in early stage of getting to know each other haha!
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>>18495826
Your English needs work. I can only guess what you're trying to say. You're asking if he still takes the relationship seriously, after you told him to come over your house and then rescinded your offer?

If that's what you're asking, I think he still can take the relationship seriously. If the relationship is good, one little mistake like that is not going to ruin it!

Also, my first date with my first love was pizza and a movie at her house. We didn't even kiss for a month, but our first date was on her couch making fun of a bad movie. It was intimate and nice, even though it wasn't sexual.

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If there are millions of fish in the sea, why do people marry to a particular one?
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seems 2fishy
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>>18495774
Because polygamy is illegal in most jurisdictions.
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That's just what we tell depressed people to keep their hopes up.

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She's turning 18 this month, and I'm worried about her. She's good with money, has a job and saves every penny. I went deep into debt putting myself through school, and I don't want her to go through what I did. What financial advice can I give her?
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Get a time machine, go back in time 18 years, and open a private fund for her.
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>>18495757
Couldn't afford to then, can't afford to now
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>>18495784
Educate her on the fafsa, pell grant, scholarships, and grants. Tell her to do the first two years at a community college because it's usually only like $1000-2500 per semester which is covered by the pell grant if you're as poor as you make yourself out to be.

I don't know how I've gotten to this situation. Well, I do. I basically pretended to be someone I'm not and got this lovely, intelligent 9/10 girl to go out with me. Problem is, she's also a career focussed, relatively left wing (not an SJW, more classic left wing), agnostic atheist girl (we met in law school) and I'm conservative and christian. I just sort of, scooted around it.
I've really fallen hard for this girl, but I believe firmly in male provider/female housewife dynamics etc. Is there any way to change her way of thinking?
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>>18495706
Now you decide what's more important to you: your relationship or religion. Can you coexist with someone who doesn't share all/the majority of your beliefs and values?
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>>18495706
a. if you're *simply a conservative*, and not one of these retards trying to defund foodstamps and planned parenthood, then the two of you can still get along. you said she's left-wing, but she's not Joseph Stalin, right?

Our world is very liberal and centrist at the moment. It's not a hard environment for right-leaning and left-leaning people to be friends. The truth about all these people dissolving their romantic partnerships and friendships over "political disagreements" is that one or both of them is a fucking cook.

b. you mentioned religion. would you really try to convert your partner? that could be problematic. can you see how that could be problematic?

tons of religious people see "agnostic" as a sign that someone can be brought into the light of the Christ, but all that means is that she recognizes atheists have no proof either.
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>>18495734
>a. if you're *simply a conservative*, and not one of these retards trying to defund foodstamps and planned parenthood, then the two of you can still get along. you said she's left-wing, but she's not Joseph Stalin, right?
No, not Stalin. The main issue is the housewife one.
>b. you mentioned religion. would you really try to convert your partner?
Potentially. It would be hard to bring her to my parents if she didn't have some form of belief. I don't know why it would be problematic- religion makes you a better, happier person.

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