>there's no point in trying to do anything with your life because you will never amount to anything
How do I stop having these thoughts? I just turned 30 and this has haunted me for at least the last 15 years of my life. I've accomplished absolutely nothing of note and I'm basically wasting my life away playing video games, the only thing that brings me happiness anymore. And the older I get, the stronger this feeling becomes, because I think I'm already past the point of my life where it's possible to accomplish anything great.
>>18500589
The point of life is to procreate, have a lots of babies and be the best dad ever. Consult with your own dna for more details.
Tldr find 25+ years old gf and impregnate her.
>>18500651
I have no interest or desire in having a girlfriend, getting married, having children, any of those things. And even if I did, I'm too much of an autist for any girl to like me. Literally all of my friends are guys with a similar lifestyle to mine and most of them are probably virgins.
>>18500669
>autist
Have you been to doctor to get tested yet? I bet you are just introvert who sort of gave up on his dreams and life in general. Raised by single mother?
Make a decent selfie, create facebook profile, add your schoolmates, and start okcupid, meetme and badoo.
Ask girls on date before 1st conversation ends, be a bit bold and always presume they like the conversation.
http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/conversation
Or you can always do pic related. Your choice.
>you are at perfect age where girls will want you to marry, because you have just stable job and 0 emotional baggage
Aim at girls aged 24+ who wants husband. You will be perfect. Some people find happiness by making other people happy.
Introvert != autist.
http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-40504076
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Hey women (or men). My girlfriend and I are spending the summer apart (just because of university being on break and family in different places)
I feel so lonely but I don't want to be clingy... frequently I feel like she doesn't want to talk to me. How do I moderate the amount of time i talk to her? Is that an issue a lot of people have in ldr type things? I don't want to be clingy...
Are women more emotionally invested in a relationship? I keep hearing this but don't think it is true. Can anybidy give me the redpill on this
I once asked a friend out for ice cream with me in the week. She said yes first, then some days before "no I cant im busy" so we didn't go.
Anyway, is there a chance she took it as a platonic friends thing or does asking her out to have ice cream with me alone automatically imply I like her? I mean I do like her but I never flirt with her or anything, and I mostly just asked her because I was feeling like shit back then and thought she'd be available to hang out with.
I'm a restaurant manager and I just can't find good employees or managers who are willing to work weekends. I get 10 applications a week and out of those I usually like 2. Out of those 2 usually one I onboard, but it never seems to work out, they always end up being too easily confused, not actually willing to work the hours I hired them for, or just plain too stupid. My Monday-Friday crew is fantastic we actually have the fastest speed of service and customer satisfaction ratings in our franchise (20 stores) but this weekend crew is just holding me back. Working more than one weekend shift a week isn't an option for me unfortunately. Any advice for a store manager regarding this?
>>18500243
Do you have the ability to offer increased pay? That might help. What about interviewing some of the applicants with resumes you didn't like as much? Maybe they're better in person?
I'm telling you this though, you could offer me an extra $10k and I still wouldn't work weekends ever again. I did it early in my career and it was miserable.
>>18500243
Why can't you rotate shifts? Talk to the weekday crew and tell them that half will work this weekend half the next weekend etc and then use those good crew members to train your new hires. Maybe promote one of the weekday kids if he's willing to work all weekends and put him in charge of the trainings. If no one is on board with the idea ask for volunteers with increased pay (if you have that ability) or another incentive, with the ones that have been forced getting nothing.
Working weekends suck. Being out of sync with everyone else is like a slow form of torture.
The only way you get good employees to work shifts like that is to offer good pay or find a student who needs a part time job.
>they always end up being too easily confused
Then give them a better explanation. Things like this need to be ironed out in training, which could take weeks.
>not actually willing to work the hours I hired them for
Then be clearer during the interview of what hours they will be getting.
>or just plain too stupid.
Smart people don't have to work weekends. You're not going to get the cream of the crop for shitty schedules. Work with what you have and adjust your expectations.
Also what this guy said >>18500289
You need your strong team members to help bolster the weaker ones AND continue training new employees.
I am going in for an appointment on the 17th for disability and am extremely nervous.
I have a crippling anxiety and a really bad speech impediment to the point where people cannot understand what im saying. Has anyone done this before and have any advice? I am attempting to get medical record right now. They said that the interview will last over an hour and I am getting nauseous just thinking about it now. I am applying for SSI, which is the one where you have never worked before...which I hear is much harder to get.
I honestly don't buy the anxiety, aspergers disability people but in bongland you'd get loads of money for that. Doubt you would in the US since it's not a nanny state
>>18500089
>I honestly don't buy the anxiety, aspergers disability people
I truthfully wish I was physically disabled sometimes instead of what I have. It is much worse and not socially accepted imo
>>18500575
I work for the State and if it's anything like the DDD, they're not there to see if you're faking or if it's really that bad. They just want to make sure they have accurate information. They base their decision on medical history and an actual medical review by their medical doctors. They mostly want to know if it has impacted you and whether or not you feel that you can work with whatever you have. Just be honest, their job isn't to weed people out.
Vent general
I love how you guys try to blame all my problems on drugs, even the problems I had 10 years before I had taken any drug.
Maybe if you ever cared about me you would have known how depressed I have been since middle school. Maybe you would have realized the reason I never wanted to do anything, ever.
I have been depressed since before puberty. My mind is fucked up. I was depressed before I even knew of the concept.
I just realized that you lied about the keylogger not sending you data to an e-mail because you replied to my anonymous post
>>18490944
it was when you weren't home.
I also realized after I told you how I felt and that it was open heart love(before I confronted you about your incessant lying and deception) that you went into the bathroom with your phone to "cry" and I knew something was up so I went it and caught you trying to delete your history checking to see if your ex had posted something
It shows you were afraid he revealed something I might have discovered and it clearly means you've been chatting with him (apart from stalking him)
You're such a hypocrite, the worst kind for pretending everyone else is so dirty and porn is so bad and you're so non sexual. I've read those e-mails that are practically erotic literature talking about him licking your wet panties. Then you criticize 4channers when even if we lie here talking shit, it's just shitposting between anonymous people and not posting ads looking for men to chat with who think you're someone else completely and living a lie
I don't understand how someone can be so much of a hypocrite, it is truly astounding
I hope your "ex" finds out you have a keylogger on his laptop and that you've hacked his emails
Horrible person
>>18500072
I can sort of relate. I have some anger issues and when i lashed out at my mom a few ago she started to blame my meds for making me that way. I've been fucked up for years now but now they've noticed and they're blaming it on one of the few things that make me function.
My best friend just told me she got raped. What do i do? I know the kid, he deserves to rot in hell, but what the fuck do i do? Do i kill him?
Im angry as fuck right now but i dont know what to do. Whats the appropriate response to a rapist
>>18499944
Do nothing.
>>18499944
See >>18499998
Just because she's your best friend doesn't mean you have to feel like it's a matter of course to help her handle her major problems. Chances are anyway that in this day and age,she spread her legs for the guy by meeting him in a private environment and doing substances like Alcohol together.
So just take it like another story from her and keep doing you.
>>18499944
>My best friend just told me she got raped. What do i do?
Tell her to go to the cops. Do not jump in and play rambo. Console her if appropriate, but otherwise do nothing, and say nothing.
is My dick ok? it's shaped a lite differently than others.
feedback and sex tips is greatly appreciated
https://m.imgur.com/a/dznWz
https://m.imgur.com/a/i3z0U
Your post would likely be more enthusiastically received on /b/ or, if you have six or more images, on /hc/. /adv/ is a work-safe board.
>>18499906
yeah that's why I do didn't post any actual pics here. links to NSFW are OK unless it's illegal or something
>>18499895
bump
As a 30 year old guy, is it creepy for me to say a 19 year old is attractive?
I was out with a friend last night and we were talking about who our top 5 hottest celebrities are. I mentioned a girl that's 19, and my friend said I was super gross and really weird. Is she just overreacting, or am I weird? I wouldn't actively pursue a 19 year old to date, but when it comes to celebrities I'm not going to sleep with anyways, I don't see the harm. Pic related.
Although, the girl has a crush on me, so maybe she was just mad I have my eyes set on girls younger and prettier than her?
>she
Your friends probably just salty that she's beat now and someone your age is attracted to a girl in her prime age
No, even 15 is normal. It's naturally human biology. Their bodies basically change to attract us and their peaks are their teens and early 20s
Plenty of girls peek at 16 and go downhill from there whereas we peak much later
>is she
Yes, she is jealous. That's literally it.
Has /adv/ ever solved anything of worth? I've been here (on /adv/) for over 3 years and nothing substantial has ever been solved.
>inb4 what's your problem
Same as 75% of the threads made here, how to find and connect with other human beings.
The only decent threads were those NEET general threads but fucking mods delete them for some reason and leave blatant troll threads.
What is something of worth, in need of solving, that can be solved? Nothing other than trivial human "problems".
I see quite a lot of good advice posted here. the problem is it's drowned out by all the other shit, from which is it probably indistinguishable by the person asking advice.
Still, in many cases people already know what they need to do, it just helps to get some validation from other people so I think in many cases it can still help.
And remember that in some cases there really isn't any good advice other than "go to a psychiatrist"
Of course. There's been plenty of solid advice, even in obvious bait threads. Solving something of "worth" is entirely subjective but I'm sure /adv/ has helped a lot of people in legitimate ways.
how can I make sure she doesnt get pregnant. without a condom?
can I just have an all night fuck a thon and pull out each time? and just do plan b in the morning?
is this enough?
Just get her on birth control.
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control
Plan B is more expensive than other options that might very well offer both of you what you want with fewer side effects for her.
Punch her in the stomach every day.
I'm female and unhappy with my body. I feel fat and ugly most of the time. My boyfriend doesn't think I'm fat (and I think he would tell the truth if he did, since he's a blunt asshole who always voices his complaints), but I'm still undatisfied with myself no matter what he thinks. I'm a pretty accomplished person, but as a woman, I feel like I can't be happy with myself unless I also feel beautiful.
Anyway uh does anyone have a healthy lifestyle plan that has helped them?
>>18499213
There's nothing wrong with wanting to look good. There IS something wrong with being fixated on weight and thinking losing a few pounds will solve all of life's problems.
Why not modify your quest? Instead of fixating on weight, work to get fitter generally - gym, jogging, etc? You might or might not lose a few pounds (ironically any muscle gained will weigh more than any fat lost), but you'll feel better in your body.
>>18499213
>I'm female
Do you want a certificate?
>>18499213
>Go to /fit/
>Read the sticky
>????
>profit
Don't bother much with anything on /fit/ other than the sticky as you'll just get a bunch of homos screaming high test and telling you not to do anything, but the sticky contains all the basic info about how calories work and exercises that will help you lose weight.
got in a car accident, my dad is dying, I'm inheriting a house that I will not be able to pay bills for since I am in college, maybe have enough money saved for a few years. My grandpa is depending on me, my mom is depending on me, only 22 years old. I'm starting to feel like I'm fucking 30 when I'm in my 20s... my sisters are expecting me to get married soon... like how tf am I going to do that when I have a house and mother to take care of, and not even a job. I need to get a job as soon as possible to pay for the house bills and other expenses. Idk, i"m just drunk
>>18499065
damn, I realize how unorganized this shit is after reading it. Sorry
>stop drinking like a degenerate
>Why the fuck does your mom depend on you? Tell her to get a fucking job
>How much is left on house mortgage? How much equity? Either rent it out or downsize
>Tell sisters to fuck off
>>18499065
yeah my life isn't that bad. I'm getting a house from my father, a college degree in biology, money, and the other people are at fault inn the car accident so my insurance shouldnt go up, should get a check out of it... just stressed because im a spoiled shit
I [f/23] am 100% sure the daughter [f/18] of my boyfriend [m/36] whom I live with is putting moves on me. I don't wanna break up the family by speaking to him and I don't wanna live with it. What do I do?
Avoid her, or play off all her attempts. If she gets heavy-handed, tell her that she needs to stop, and that she's making you uncomfortable. It should embarrass her enough to quit.
>>18497080
Have a 3 way.
>>18497080
this is not reddit, kek
also good luck with trying to date a guy whose daugher is your age
I'm 31, female, virgin, and never had a boyfriend. How can I fix this? I don't know what's wrong with me. I think I'm terrified. I tried both normal and online dating, but I get panic attacks the more I talk to someone.
I feel like I'm unworthy and would waste someone else's time.
The people I ask out tend to reject me, and the people who ask me out tend to have a criminal record. I don't know why I attract that and repel everything else, other than people can tell something is off with me.
I've been in therapy for years and fixed some things, but not this. I don't want another decade to go by. I want to change.
>>18494089
why do you think you're broken and need to be fixed? why do you want to fix it?
Are you not-so-good-looking and/or overweight?
Do you dress "weird" or act "funny" around those who are boyfriend material to you?
>>18494089
creeps/ex-cons can sense fear - that's the only reason they're interested in you, don't take it to heart
Only 1% of people reach 25 years while still virgins
What about me could be possibly so repulsive I fail at something 99% of people manage?
I've always been average in almost everything, bad at some things and good at others but I've never been so utterly flawed and fucked up in anything. It's like, I don't know, failing kindergarten as an adult or something like that.
And it hasn't been for lack of trying either, I've never managed a 2nd date. The closest I've been to losing it was 8 years ago.
>>18493425
Where are you getting these statistics? That's just plain wrong
>>18493425
Wow I never thought I could become part of the 1% who said the American dream is dead? I did it baby
>>18493425
Virginity is social construct.
http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-40504076
http://www.cnsnews.com/news/article/barbara-hollingsworth/bachelor-nation-70-men-aged-20-34-are-not-married
Try lowering your standards or curing your autism.
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