Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1109. page

>>18498740
are you me? Im 19 and Im learning to drive too.
for advice I'd say maybe keeping the radio off so you can focus, thats been helping me. good luck anon

>>18498783
>are you me? Im 19 and Im learning to drive too.
holy shit that's literally imposible, so coincidence, such improbable

lose all faith in humanity.

helps alot.

being calm while driving is just a question of not being surprised by other people on the road with you.

>yo bitch how much you cost

>>18498739
Just send a message saying "pugs'

Maybe its because I'm mid 20's but I don't get this whole "how do I appropriately ask a girl out online" bullshit because there IS no appropriate way to ask a girl out online unless you're on some dating site.

You don't slide into DMs because any girl you should be wanting to ask out should be physically around you or in your circle of friends or co-workers or something.

Damn, yall are so pathetic, I swear.

probably not

>>18498698

Maybe.

yes, ultimately.

Also, the part about doing it "for its own sake," and not have it motivated by wanting to find an intimate relationship... how does that work? If the very thing that's sparking this is the goal of having a relationship, how do you just decide that this isn't the reason you're doing it?

I also get this sense that there is a lack of sympathy in tone. Being frustrated with not being able to have romantic relationships makes one "desperate." The tone is essentially "why do you care so much? Why are you so hung up on this?" You'll get the lectures about how "having a GF/BF won't fix all your problems," even when nobody ever implied that it would. If somebody expresses frustration with not having something else they really want in their lives, the response isn't "stop caring about that, it won't fix your problems," because people understand that nobody thinks achieving those goals will fix all their problems, it would only fix that particular one. If somebody is concerned with getting into grad school, nobody says "it's not like getting into grad school will solve all your problems; I mean, you'll still have depression." The same people who talk about how much their partners mean to them and obviously enjoy being in relationships and feel that their lives would be missing something had they not met that person, seem to downplay the value placed on romantic relationships when it comes to somebody who doesn't have one, but wants one.

Nobody is arguing that romantic love is as essential to life as food, water, and oxygen. But it is a thing that the vast majority of people consider important to their lives. Why is there that tone of patronizing shaming toward people who make this a goal? Why is it any less legitimate than any other goal, like career goals, or travel, or owning a home, or publishing a novel?

Is this advice even coming from people who have employed it and succeeded?

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The advice isn't to make you feel better. It's to make themselves feel better.

It makes them uncomfortable to see somebody so miserable, they have to find some way to convince themselves that it's all going to work out for you so that they can go on with their day.

It's like when you see a person in a wheelchair or a deformed person and avoid interacting with them not out of contempt for them, but rather to avoid thoughts of the harsh reality that such suffering exists.

>>18498755
Makes sense (thoughtfully rubs chin)

You're probably going to fail but you'll also regret it if you don't go through with it.

You're venturing into territory where you have little, if any, control over what happens. The wise thing to do is to stay at your job and relegate your work as a hobby and hope it works out. If you truly cannot do that, you're taking a plunge, and you might want to prepare yourself for the contingency that you'll end up homeless and hopelessly broke.

>>18498678
I have one good things. My parents have already told me if things don't work out and I end up broke there is always a place for me back home. So at worst I spend two years pursuing a dream and failing, but at least I know I'll tried.

I'm so fucking miserable in my current life/job that I know I need to make a change. This is what I'm trying.

>>18498678
>>18498668
Me and you are the same anon.

I'm having a shitty time at a job I hate as well, but on my days off, I really enjoy working on my own personal environments and characters to better my portfolio. I'm gonna be starting in college in September, hopefully get some early internships with either some small indie companies or the triple A studios ifi can really push the quality of my work.

If my two cents are worth something: I would say to keep your job as a source of income and just keep the video game stuff on the side until you feel ready to apply to bigger jobs in the industry specifically, or you have a breakthrough with your game.

Good luck! It's a cut throat industry, but it's very rewarding in the end.

>>18498650

Sounds like you both can't function very well as adults - everything pisses you two off, you act salty, and then wonder why shit doesn't work well 'cause both of you lost your chill.

You're pretty irrational, so's she, that's the way the world seems to be when you're young.

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>>18498662
Thanks for being real... Alcohol and drugs are to blame for the irrationality as well.

Should I just give her time to cool off or should i cut my loses? We get along great and have a lot of similar interests but completely different lives..

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>>18498662
I'd really just like to fix this and make it work and really change our illogical thinking.. Maybe I'm just too ambitious about it all.

>>18498646

Doesn't sound like you could open up to her very much there near the end of the relationship. I think you'll be okay, OP.

>>18498646
at first I was angry but then I realized you were more thoughtful than I thought.
I think you made the right choice, especially because of that
>When I'd try to start a dialogue, say I disagreed, and just express my view, she'd shut down and say that arguments made her anxious
>she was never even willing to engage or discuss.

You made the right decision, anon, and I believe I understand your pain, but still :
"Then she got a tattoo. I didn't like it, but it was too late and irreversible. But at the back of my mind, I thought our relationship couldn't be truly longterm anymore. Someone with a tattoo isn't someone I'd want to have kids with; it'd just set a bad example."
Come on Anon; I believe of all your post this is the only thing that's 100% on you. That's pure prejudice. Who cares about ink on skin ?

>>18498646
You were dating a pseudo intellectual. Her retardation was too much for you and you made a decision. Good on you mate. Find a proper lady and be happy

Well, you are a slut. Now that thats out of the way, you're fucked. He doesn't want to date. So unless you trick him into getting you preggers, you're just a fuckbuddy.
Also, REEEEEEEEEEEEE

>>18498637
you're his fuck buddy. Deal with it however you'd like

>>18498648
Cool, totally willing to have his child

They make these books for studying for the SAT, etc with vocabulary that are useful even if you've already got a college degree. Study, I mean really STUDY, them, make flash cards etc. Make yourself use at least 2-3 new ones a day.

Also, read, read, read, and any time you see a new word, keep a diary of it and come back and study it periodically. George Will is a columnist who loves to use "10-dollar" words (overly so).

>>18498632

Read. And then practice.

>>18498632
>How do I up vocabulary game and incorporate them into my everyday speech
....... start by trying that sentence again.

then realize that in today's world you're gonna find that a diverse vocabulary works much the same as a diverse population. no one understands anyone and things are less efficient and don't work out like you think they should.

you could be like me, and use the perfect words to succinctly and concisely convey your ideas and most of the population will either think that you're trying to be pretentious, or just not understand you at all. you will constantly be dumbing down your vocabulary.

sounds like me except I live with my parents
and I don't care about doing something of myself atm

>>18498614
>>18498762
Same. Debating if I should impulsively kill myself just to stop having to deal with my inevitable future problems. desu I had a good run and sure I still have a few laughs today but nothing really worth staying around for. I guess another day alive to laugh or cry beats an eternity of being dead. right now, I'm just forcing myself to complete my education and move on in life in attempt to find something redeeming. I don't think ill find it though.

huh

bump

>>18498608
Hold her hand or kiss her on the cheek. Innocuous enough to do in public but it still sends a message. Cushion it with flirtatious compliments.

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>>18498622
ok but what if I'm over 8 years old?

>>18498639

That's a big what if.

Don't do it mang. Having a big dick isn't all it's cracked up to be.

>>18498607
>tfw three fingers across
is it not enough? oh fuck, someone help, is my 6.5" girth not enough to please a woman? MY LIFE IS A LIE.

these threads never really resonate with me except for a place to brag about the size of this dick that just goes to waste because I'm too fucking picky and so many women are so trashy these days. it's a special kind of catch 22 hell. fml

The big dick meme is just that--a meme. I have a pretty modestly sized penis at 6" and above average girth, and of the 3 girls I've been with 2 of them were uncomfortable when I went balls deep. Tapping a cervix isn't fun.

Unless you have a micropenis you're good with what you got. And most girls will be more than satisfied if they get off at all, fingers & tongue is more than justifiable.

>>18498584
we're all going to die one day. I say let him

Survival of the fittest, OP. If he is stupid enough to abuse antidepressants, let him.

>>18498584
Find him a girl. When he's tripping balls tie him up and let her do whatever she wants with him so long as he cums.

>>18498557

>>>/x/

>>18498557
so wtf is it?

>>18498505
I don't know what to say, my ex fiance is now together with one of those "it's just a friend"

>>18498505
definitely be cautious. Especially if one of them is an ex

>>18498505
You aren't 100% sure she's loyal if you have those thoughts behind your back, don't think she's not being loyal unless she gives you a reason to think otherwise.

Also, be alpha as fuck, make sure her male friends know you're better than them in every way and that's why she's with you and not any of them.