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I am a failure
Never had a gf, bad grades, fat, no social life and obviously have no friends. I can't even get a fucking driving licence and I cry like a little bitch.
My father left and my mother cries every night thanks to me.
My life is a fucking mess and I feel sad and not loved.
Sometimes I think about killing myself but I can't let her suffer more than this...
I can't find the power of will and to fucking do something to get out of this nightmare that is my life.
I accept any advice... Just please tell me what to do and don't ignore me.

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>20 years old
>get first bf
>fall in love
>we get engaged
>lose my virginity
>he needs to transfer to different university 8 hours away
>we promise to make it work in LDR
>plan to visit each other once a month by bus
>first 3 months go great
>we're still in love and everything is normal
>4th month comes along
>"I cheated on you at a party"
>i feel dead
>break up with him

Like, I still want to get married some day. But I'm not a virgin anymore.

A lot of guys still want virgin brides and think nonvirgins are sluts so I am considering hymenoplasty at this point. I go to a top university with the "nerdy" types and a lot of guys here are virgins. I don't care that they are. What if I want to date one but they won't accept my past?

Problem is, I don't know. My marriage would be doomed to failure. I would be lying to my future husband forever and that seems scary and not right to do but then again I dont feel like a guy would take me seriously anymore.

Should I just accept this and forget about marriage? Thoughts?

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do all guys actually want a gf with an "ideal" body?

my bf and i started dating when i was 7kg heavier than i am now. i plan to lose more. i could stand to lose a total of 18 more kg's and be at the low end of a healthy bmi. i probably won't go that low, maybe only 8-12 kg more.

problem is, i think he genuinely likes my fat body. he might even be a chubby chaser. he tells me he thinks my body is the epitome of female beauty and that, if i was to ask him, i should never change a thing.
is it inconsiderate to get skinny if he signed up for a chubby/fat gf?
i've asked him and i can't tell if he genuinely don't want me to change or if he just says that because he thinks that's what you're supposed to tell your gf.

pic is somewhat the level of fat we're talking.

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Let's say you know a guy who's straight and is going to throw in the towel when it comes to women.

Maybe he just isn't handsome or charasmatic enough to keep the girls he's talking to interested.

Let's say he's giving up, because not even the ugliest, fattest, most revolting women don't like to talk to him and rarely give him the time of day.

Wat would you say to such a guy?

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Brevious Bread: >>18342905

GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships, fart guy and the guy who stuffs his pants
Fuck off

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Singer or comedian? Or anything else?
If singer which genre? Can I be at the point of doing open mics?
I'm tired of the games.

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>Make account on Tinder
>Only sluts and instagram whoring stacies im not interested in
>Make account on OKC
>Only fat armpit hairy feminazis sjws im not interested in

Is there not anything in between that?

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Ask for advice. Vent. Write letters you will never send. Confessions are always welcome.

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What do you guys think about revenge? For a long time now, people would hurt me and I would just accept it? A part of me is wondering about exacting revenge? For example, a woman severely lead me on recently and told me to fuck off and that she used me. A part of me just accepts it. The other part says "how much longer will we let others hurt us for free? The only justice you get is the justice you take"

I just hate it when people can hurt me for free. That's all. I feel like I don't get a chance to defend myself or retailiate. Karma doesn't seem to work either. What good is karma if it won't pay back the person until 59 years from now or some shit?

Anyway, talk to me about revenge? To me revenge is nesscesary because otherwise people will just hurt and hurt. Once you strike them with true shock and awe... they stop. For good.

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Hey, so my mom and stepdad say that at the end of the Summer since I'm graduating from high school, they're gonna make me pay a 200$ rent. I work at a grocery store that barely gives me hours and I'm trying to buy a car, but I can't save and pay up because of my terrible hours my boss gives me. My mom and stepdad also verbally assault me on nearly a daily basis, my mother has called me a failure many times who isn't doing anything with my life. I just want to buy a car, get /fit/, and move in somewhere nice with a better job.

I could move out and live with my dad, but his house is horribly filthy, not hoarder-tier, but the carpets are coated with dog hair, parts of the walls are missing, the beds are covered with hair and grime, it's not where I want to be but it's my last resort. What can I Do? I need to move out quickly. Please help and feel free to ask other questions if you think it's necessary.

Tl;Dr faggot has to pay rent he can't afford to verbally abusive mum and stepdad, needs to move out, halp

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Is there any way of getting out of the friendzone?

I've been seeing this girl for about a month and a half, and she's been hot and cold towards me. I started off giving her quick goodnight kisses after we'd hang out, then one time we held hands for a movie, and the goodnight kiss turned into a makeout. Then she said she was unsure if she wanted to be more than friends, but likes me enough to keep giving it a shot, and wants to take it slow. I'm fine with taking it slow, but i want to be close to her. We cuddled a week ago, and she kissed me back when i kissed her goodnight, but there's been no physical contact after that. I hung out with her all afternoon and evening yesterday, we cooked dinner, saw a movie, and came back to watch game of thrones. She sat on the other couch instead of next to me.

I'm starting to feel like giving up, but i really like her and don't want to just throw in the towel. I don't know why she would want to spend so much time with me if she just wanted to be friends.

I feel like texting her asking if that's all she wants to be with me, but that's probably a bad idea. What should i do? It's getting extremely frustrated keeping my feelings inside and not being able to express them, since lately she doesn't seem to want to be close.

She also has anxiety issues, so i don't know if she has a problem with physical contact, if she wants to wait awhile and be friends first, or if she's just not into me that way. But i'm too nervous to ask in person. I feel tensed up around her when i don't know what she's thinking.

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Me and my girlfriend were going through a huge conflict recently.
Early April she told me she doesn't want in my life anymore because I was going to through a relapse in my depression and crying about everything she said that was slightly mean.This had been going on for quite a while now so I guess she was finally fed up with it. We stopped talking for a while and she said she'd talk to me when she's decided what to do. She called me morning of this month on the 10th saying she wanted me out of her life. I said I wanted to be friends because I love spending time with her. Long story short she said we could talk once a month.

A week later (Around 17 or 18th) the I was yet again relapsing and being annoying so I texted her that I wanted to talk and she called me. While we were talking we talked normal. We were laughing and casually talking like there were no problems. But then I started getting emotional and started asking her if she thinks we'll ever be together again and I was saying how much I love her and all this shit. After we said goodbye and hung up. I texted her again saying again how much I lover blah blah blah. She texts back 10 minutes later saying She can't do this anymore and she's blocking me.

And so she did. She blocked me on everything and I spammed her with calls because I was having a panic attack. She told my friend to tell me that she doesn't love me anymore and this is the end of us.

I've been doing some thinking and I do want to move on. If it is possible for us to be friends I'd be happy too but if she doesn't want to thats fine too. But the part thats bothering me is that I still want to talk to her one more time so we can at least sort things out and talk and leave on good terms. I don't know. How do I go about this situation?

tl;dr
GF broke up with me and blocked me. I want to talk things out just so we can part ways in a more positive manner.

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A little while ago I got dignosed with narcissism. Eversince I can't think about anything else. I've been reading about narcissism constantly and watching videos (of narc victims and the therapy they need). I'm actually starting to feel like a psychopath, because everything I read and see about narcissism is right about me. I lie, cheat and deceive without feeling remorse. I play with emotions to get my way, because I don't feel anything. But the more I feel like this, the worse it gets. Before I knew about my disorder, I actually loved and cared for people.

Does anyone have more experience? Will I be able to beat my narcissism? Or will I need to pretend for the rest of my life? Because I can't even get myself to go to work right now.

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Let's get this out of the way, admittedly I am somewhat fat. 5'9 180 pounds. Every guy, even the ugly ones like me are looking for babes. What do I do? I'm not looking for a quick fuck either. I want to get married one day. I've started learning to cook, and I'm proud to say I'm good at it. How do I meet more guys? I've tried cold approaching but usually they just look at me with amusement. If they're with friends they laugh.

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Girlfriend dumped me because she doesn't think that it is right her hurting me (even though she doesn't hurt me) and that she isn't giving me enough time.

She says she loves me but cannot be in a relationship right now; which is unusual considering she is the one who asked me out and we have been close except for yesterday, which was out of the blue as she was sending me naked pictures and talking about how she wanted to fuck me at the weekend when we were supposed to see each other again.

She is always mentioning a Cinderella-story future between us and it is a future we both want but for some reason she has randomly dumped me.

She has depression and is under a lot of stress from parents and her current exams but she had been managing to fit me in well with a once a fortnight visitation routine and 2-3 calls a week with regular texting throughout the day.

(P.S. : The last argument was 1 month ago.)