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I've got this problem too. I've started mentally pushing it away, kinda hard to describe. But when I feel like I'm blushing and push it away it usually goes away

cuuuuuuuute

>if grill
It's kawaii as fuck, don't you dare get rid of it
>if guy
Become less awkward.

Nothing, keep searching.
And tell your friend to not pander to the stereotype. We aren't all sexual degenerates

that's what men are for sweetie

>>18343551

*shrug* I'm a straight dude, my best friend is gay chick, I've wing-maned for her for years. I've also got attractive as heck straight female friends that are constantly having boy troubles, am myself an attractive straight dude who's had similar problems, and have had other attractive male friends go through the struggle.

The struggle and the dating grind ain't exactly rare, nor is it limited to any particular gender or orientation.

Just keep at it and keep an eye for people with similar views on life with someone. Sad thing is you're right at the bubble where most people are still trying to calm the fuck down and figure out if they want to slow down and figure shit out, or if they want to go for a last hurrah, so there's a lot of confusion there and it makes things a bit harder.

Keep at it, grind it out, and just keep an open mind about meeting people is pretty much all I can tell you

>>18343301
She's being cautious in her own way, and thinks that you're sole reason for being there is to have sex.

>>18343320
Shit, I meant "your"

She's being insecure.

Next time, ask her as neutrally as you can why she asks that. If she asks why/wtf say you noticed she asks this a lot and that you don't know how to respond to it, you are sure as fuck not thinking of other girls when with her. Ask her how she wants you to react.

Anyone?

>>18343220
You ignore them. If she wants to decide that her date was "bad" and be stupid about it you have the right to ignore her childish antics.

>>18343220
>So we went on the date and I thought it went well; we ended up making out and holding hands etc.
NICE. High-five, anon.

>Fast forward a couple of days, I tried to set up plans to see this girl again but she gave me a bullshit "I'm busy I'll have to get back to you" response.
Was this your first contact with her after the date?! That might be why she's pissy.

>It also now seems that people in my program that were once very friendly with me are being unpleasant/unfriendly to me
You might just be imagining things. Don't let it bother you. Continue to socialize as normal.

>Thoughts on how to "get myself out" of this?
Time and experience. Even if your program-mates are pissed at you for some reason, it'll settle down if you don't start isolating yourself. I made this mistake in law school after an embarrassing night at the bars. It was 100% in my head, but I let it isolate me from all the friends I'd made that semester, and naturally they stopped talking to me. I regret doing that so fucking much.

You might be on the asexual spectrum. You are a minority but you are not alone.

>>18343146
Same. Though I don't think there's anything wrong with me..I wake up in the morning and know it

>>18343146
Quit watching porn

>>18343042
How are we supposed to advise you when we have no clue what this "high risk investment" is?

>>18343042

stop blogging.

Here's an advice : don't. You're the same age as me, I'm also unemployed. Many of my friends were in the same situation, most of them finally got something. Not a glamorous job, but it'll work for now, until they can find something better. We'll get there too, eventually. Little by little. Don't do anything stupid, you're way too young to just give up.

>>18342657
seek help

>>18342657
Get those stress balls. Listen to loud adrenaline pumping music. Yell.
Remember that your dogs are your friends and that it's better to have them by your side when shit hits the fan.

See a therapist before it gets out of control, really. Honestly.

>>18342497
be more dominant and fuck her harder

also you are supposed to get married to a 20 year old at 30

>>18342497
Talk about why she feels the need to talk and get attached to other men, and why she feels "all mixed up".

In the mean time, do things together and enjoy your time with each other. Try to be kind to her, surprise her, make her feel good about herself.

>>18342513
I'm not gonna lie. I'm a beta male. Not that I am femenine. Quite the contrary, i compete in weightlifting tournaments, shoot guns, and other things like that. But I am over emotional. It's not hard to make me cry or to make me apologise. I'm not a natural leader. That may make her less attracted to me. Also, I've been a cuckold (haha). I've been attracted to the idea of dominatrix and jealous sex. I know now that I need to stop that but until then, I'm not having any sex.

Not to mention, her relationship with her dad is complicated. He was there but he wasn't very affectionate.

It's a miracle i haven't been cheated on.

I guess the manlet meme really got to me

>>18342476
You want to be a Garda?

>>18342476
You could get some good insoles and ride your height by an inch, then the Garda boots will raise you at least another inch. That might bring you up to 5'8"

Why don't you focus on enjoying the time you spend with her instead of trying to get into her pantsu

>>18342286
I enjoy it greatly, but it gets tiring not being able to go all the way,

It also fucks me up not knowing if she doesn't want to, instead of just can't

>>18342272
>couldn't compare because every person is different

That statement is completely true. Just enjoy yourself and try not to let your pathologies to cause problems this early...

>dating this girl for about a month.
you should be wearing a condom anyway, you never know these days.

If you both want to do the dirty then you'll have to risk it.
Condoms are good as long as you apply them correctly. There is always a risk though. The pill is useful but it does come with risk as well, and while you can suggest it, it's entirely up to your gf. As for expenses, condoms are the cheapest. If she has Healthcare the cost of the pill can be covered.
The rubber and pills aren't overkill, but a damn good option for stopping a baby. Just because she's on the pill don't go thinking you can cum inside her. Some women forget, others may try to surprise you. Always cover up.

If you want to err on the side of caution, they do sell condoms with spermicide in them. Use those.

>>18342168

You are being paranoid to be h onest. There are alot of girls who get it without protection at all and dont get pregnant.

I would suggest you become a Fapper, fap at least once if not twice a day. This will keep your spermcount rather low.


Take off the condom and go bare.
(and use spermicide lubricant, you'll need lube to make it go along smoothly anyway)

Do this shortly after her period is over, about 4 days. This is called the rhythm method. She has very little chance of getting pregnant from this, even if you're a hung black dude with a billion sperm per load.

When you're about to finish try to cum midway inside, not full penis length but not shallow that way you both still get the enjoyment of it. And then keep thrusting until you get soft.

After you finish... try to get hard again as quickly as possible and continue (passionate kissing should help with that). But do not finish in her the second time.

The shape of the penis tip is evolutionary, it will start pulling out cum that you left inside successively with each thrust.

I had sex with a girl bare and I tried to hide the fact I came and I just kept thrusting until it spontaneously got soft (it was intense). When I fell out I noticed a glop of cum was on my dick.

> spermicide ought to mitigate most of the sperm left in there, and the natural acidity of the vaginal juices ought to kill the rest.

Guys need ALOT of sperm to just get over the fact that the opening to the uterus is so small, the vaginal juices are deadly, and if the Cum falls out quickly it will carry a bunch of those sperm with it. And not all the sperm are eligible either, straight swimmers.

> you're being paranoid

>>18341946
You sure you're reading the situations correctly?

>>18341958
Yes.

Really, no one has an answer for this?

Mate, with everything you just said, go for it, we only live once

Had one in university a couple years ago. Albeit I was 27 at the time. Her daughter was a student also and I met her on parents welcome day.

Would sex every time she'd come to visit her daughter. Bake me an extra tin of cookies just because. I never took any thing of monetary value from her as I didn't want it, just an eager to please milf.

Shit was cash.

You can find them at the chic wine/martini (cougar) bars, wineries.

>>18341943
Huh, thinking about it, my friend's mom is always flirty with me.
She's single.
Should I?

>>18341784
>Is this an eventual eventuality, that all females will become complacent if they find a caring significant other?
Yes, and all males will as well. It's not a gendered thing, it is a people thing.

To be healthy and happy in a relationship, you need to understand how to set boundaries while taking care of your partner.
Devote your life to making your partner happy, love them, put effort in making the relationship interesting and fulfilling. But, at the same time, don't take their shit and don't allow them to mistreat you, make sure they are doing their part, make sure they are working to make you happy as well. You don't need to do the same things for each other, but you both need to feel like you are getting from the relationship more than what you are putting.

This is something very hard to do, and probably it will take you a lot of self reflection and hard work to learn how to do it if you tend to allow your partner to take advantage of you. Almost no one does this purposely, it's easy to start taking your partner's work for granted.
Make sure you communicate a lot with your partner and tell them when they are crossing boundaries or what you expect from the relationship. Make sure you both put a lot of work in the relationship. Make sure you value yourself and you don't let your love for your partner destroy your self worth.

Hope this helps you somehow.

>>18341784
Your practice gf is not a real relationship pig fucker just kill yourself. Tl;dr 10 yrs of autistic trash

>>18341784
I don't know man, i've been in a relationship with a girl for 1 year and things were from amazing to meh and FUCK YOU quite quickly. She's the type of girls who love to be independant but would repent on the sight of losing me and will cry and make a huge drama but still not willing to give away any of her "freedom" in order to keep me.
I would just want a normal girl who is willing to give as much as i give and put me in first priority over the rest of the people/duties. But i guess this is a problem for today's women since they prioritize their own personal interests over their partners.
This is key for love, if making your partner happy cannot be your number 1 priority then you're not ready for love. I'm not saying you should jump from a building in order to love, but you cannot think about your parents friends or a shitty job as more important than your so called significant other. I just cannot accept anymore girls saying they love me and then telling me they cannot move back with me because they want to be close to their parents or have a job in their own city. Fuck that, really. that's just plain egotism

>>18341769
Do you do anything sexual with her? If not then she clearly doesn't know what the term means

>>18341776
>her

We are gay, no we don't do anything sexual, we just make out together, that's all

gay men just act like women