Sorry for decent people here but I wanna talk about my love for my little sister.
She and I have a great relationship, we don't see eachother so much (I live alone) but when everytime we do we spend every minutes together, talking, playing, hugging etc... She tells me she loves me half a dozen times a day and I do too. I'm attracted to her but I'm also not an idiot and realise how wrong a romantic relationship would be. I vowed to never activily try having sex with her but now I realise we may be going this way without pushing it. You judge:
She oftens like to play games on her phone and do so while nesting in my arms on the couch or bed. At first I use to caress her arms or legs nonchalantly by pure reflex but now I can teaser her (covered) tits and she doesn't react. When I stop massaging her legs, she often take my hand and put it back.
Last time she was at my place, she took a shower and I offered to dry her hair (OK that was totally not innocent on my part but fuck you, I'm a weak Man) and half way threw, while I was behind her, she dropped her towel and claimed to be tired to hold it. Sadly mirrors didn't show me the front but I was hypnotized by her naked back and said nothing. When I turned off the dryer she grabbed the towel and told me to leave so she can dress up.
WHAT DO ?
>>18335669
what the fuck did i just read :)
yup, she either just loves to play you like a fidel or she's actually interested in seeing how far you two will take this. donmt overthink and just let happen whatever happens.
my husband thinks i'm a mean mom.
he thinks that because i have a "sink or swim" mentality.
it shows itself in situations like the kids wanting to be picky at the table. either they eat what's on their plate or there's no food till the next meal. i never cook something that kids don't usually like. for example, todays lunch was oven potatoes, grilled chicken breast and tomato-mozarella salad.
another example happened today. my sisters boys (5 and 2,5) are over and they wanted to bring the bikes to the garage. so they got into the elevator (my son was with them, he's 6 and knows very well how to use it).
downstairs, my son and the older nephew got out, but the little one didn't want to get out, so the door closed. he immediately started to scream on top of his lungs, even thought absolutely nothing else had happened than the door closed.
ofc i rushed to see what happened, i quickly opened the door and wanted to comfort him. he refused and instead made a huge drama. i took him up and back to the apartment, where i told him that i understand he got scared but that it was just the door closing. i asked him if he wants to get some cuddles, but he just wanted to sit on the couch and scream. so i decided that he can do that if he doesn't want to be comforted and went back to cook lunch.
then my husband came in to see what's the matter and when i told him, he found i was being very mean. that he might now have an "elevator trauma" for the rest of his life, to which i replied that if you get a trauma from THAT, maybe you need a trauma (yeah, that was a bit mean...).
he then went to my nephew and started to play right into his drama. "oh, poor little boy! did the elevator scare you? awww, such a poor baby...". ofc my nephew was very pleased with the attention his fit got and started to scream even more. my husband then had to leave for work and, oh wonder, as soon as he was out the door, the little one stopped crying alltogether.
cont
there was another incident at the table.
the older nephew refused to eat his (two thumbnail sized pieces) of tomato. it's a table rule in our family that you can't have a second helping if you haven't eaten everything on the first plate, that includes veggies.
he started to whine about how he hates tomatoes, to which i replied that one can't always eat only the food one loves best. sometimes you have to eat what you get because you're hungry. and it's not like i'm asking him to eat fish eyes. it's only tomato.
he then started to cry.
i stayed firm and, surprise surprise, he ate his tomatoes and found it not even half as bad as he thought it would be.
at home, he just never has to even try if he simply says he "doesn't like" something.
i can't help but feel like this approach will only create little pussies who love to play victim. i don't want my kids to end up being entitled drama queens who think the world revolves around them, but it obviously makes me think that my husband believes me "mean".
what do you think, /adv/? do i need to tone it down?
>>18335350
>>18335405
Wtf. Stop questooning yourself, and stop seeking approval! Of course you did the right thing! Carry on! Your parenting is good from what I've read!
>>18335416
i don't usually question my parenting, but it does make me stop and rethink if my own husband thinks i'm being mean. after all, i'm the mom of HIS kids too and i can't just parent them however i want.
i do think we should have some common ground.
problem is, his parents never did what i did. his mom is even proud to tell me that my husbands brother didn't eat anything than plain pasta for two weeks straight and she cooked that for gim every single day separately. i can only shake my head at such foolery.
i on the other hand got raised in a similar fashion that i do it.
and just as an example of a possible outcome, i don't like coffe and chocolate. that's it (from all the food i ever tried. can't say i've tried ape brain for example). my husband on the other side doesn't like cheese, mushrooms, anything spicy, almost every veggie, garlic, onions, all herbs, ginger, the list is almost endless. if he was left alone, he would only eat pizza margharita and mac and cheese like a 3 year old. i don't want my kids to end with such a restricted view of life.
Let's post the best advices we learned or came upon in our lives, general or specific.
You can even post the story behind which you came to the conclusion of said advice.
Some advices I came upon recently:
-Any job is better than no job
-If you can't hop or climb over an obstacle then go around it
An old conclusion I came upon long ago:
-If you let hate and madness reign over you then things will only worsen, you are the only one who can atleast reign a measure of stability as a ground for future improvement
>>18335278
Sucking up to the people higher than you on the food chain works wonders.
An ugly wife is a treasure in the home.
>-If you let hate and madness reign over you then things will only worsen
Simply not true OP. You have to learn to harness your hatred. I have abstained from drugs and alcohol for almost 30 years using my hatred.
I actually had a guy come up to me last year and apologize for making fun of me all the time when we where younger because I refused to drink. It was part of his 12 step program.
What are some good sex toys for a gay male?
Both for partner use, and lone use.
>>18335142
Im assuming a double sided dildo of some sorts
>>18335142
You should have bought couples buttplugs for V-day. Missed opportunity, OP.
>>18335166
lol, good idea.
I actually spent V-day making bacon and pancakes, and then just chilling in bed all day watching netflix.
I do have 3 buttplugs in ascending size, and also an inflatable/vibrating one.
>>18335162
Could work. Currently I got a strapon harness and some interestingly textured and sized dildos. Since there is a limit to how much a human dick can do, but not how much a dildo can.
I got a lot of stuff already, which is why I'm asking here for inspiration.
Considering getting a collar and such, as well as some really, really big toys.
I kind of consider getting a 'sex egg', i.e. a smaller vibrating pill like shape, haven't ever really played much with vibration.
>manlet
>a little ugly
>tried every dating and hook up app for the past month and some change with no results
>lost my virginity to a single mother 2 years ago using one of those apps
>self esteem too low to go to a bar or club
I can't keep masturbating lmao i start to get constipated and I'm always horny. Sucks to suck
>>18335073
what happened with the single mom?
If you really wanna get laid that badly, get an escort.
If you're too poor to afford one, why would any other woman wanna fuck you?
If you're too much of a pussy to approach an escort, why would any other woman wanna fuck you?
22 is the age you should be investing in yourself so you can fuck those 18 year olds when you're 30.
>>18335079
One day on her kik i saw she was sporting some guy's name with hearts. I confronted, she said you never text me enough. I said I'm always fun and funny in person what else could you want? I'm introverted and aint nothing to really text her bout. I always was good to her in person though, we'd laugh a lot and always gave her a goodbye kiss. I wasn't in love but I enjoyed my time with her.
>be an introvert fag
>try your best fag
>she is talking about this guy she who is fucking with her feelings, trying to keep her in the thirst trap
>she suggest there is more to life, like her career, than even giving a fuck about these feels
>i then mentioned that I have feelings, similar to what she feels for him.
>then i mentioned I might want to kill the feels
>(then she said that).jpg
I suck at not obsessively thinking about this, and I am so impatient. Also I don't know how to interpret it: let it happen could mean it wont happen and let it die naturally, or it could mean let the feelings develop because it takes time for this shit to develop?
me: incel, beta, r9k, recluse, ocd/gad, but not a virgin and she knows that about me.
Ask her...?
you getting friendzoned here
whoever cares more loses
you clearly care too much
gotta act aloof and dont let it occupy your thoughts
>>18334953
Are you sure? Are you sure she doesn't want me to kill the feelings? She did kiss me first as I left the cab and I was too autistic to kiss back, instead I handed her my metrocard.
>>18334936
She tells me to chill. Knowing her, I think she likes the the development of feelings, the falling into love part. But I have no experience what to do. red pill help isn't helping.
She also said being indifferent is sexy.
>Bring girl to my place
>Watch movie, then go to my bedroom, play some light music
>Start making out, she starts getting really into it, you know how it is
>Starts pulling at my clothes, obviously it is time to fuck
>Pull back to adjust my hair since it's long and was in both of our faces
>Suddenly "Oh, I didn't know it was this late, I should get going, but let's get together soon"
That's never happened to me before tonight. Did I just get turned down? I'm confused. Sex is like a 30-60 minute process usually, what couldn't wait an extra 30 minutes or so? I'd usually accept that she wasn't interested but the wet spot on my sheets says different. But it was so abrupt, within 5 seconds she went from ready to fuck to the opposite.
Girls on /adv/, what am I supposed to make of that?
>>18334780
Your picture is retarded
>>18334876
Taxation is theft.
>>18334876
Not OP, but I think there is a point to be made in that you're never actually given a choice if you want to live in society, and that's not really fair. You can't just go and live in the woods because all land is owned, so that makes you a squatter which is a crime. And you can't just buy land and live primitively on it because you still need to pay property tax on it.
But really this issue pales in comparison to the fact that creating life is inherently unethical because people cannot consent to be born. All the people who were born with extreme birth defects that give them terrible quality of life, all the people who have mental illness and want to die, all the people who grew up in extreme poverty or died as children from war or terrorism, the list goes on. Was it fair to those people to have created them without their consent just to have them suffer and die in a cruel world? And the real kicker is that once you're here you can't even kill yourself, because that act would be unfair to your family and friends who will suffer emotionally from it.
I cheated on my long distance S/O and it wasn't worth it, I feel awful about it. I can't tell them though. It'll crush them. I just miss touching someone and being touched.
I don't know what to do. I'm honestly the worst when it comes to relationships. Why do I do this.
Because you're a whore, man or otherwise. You're also a liar. You also don't respect your partner. Honestly, there's nothing good about you.
But now that that's out of the way, the only choice for you is to tell your partner the truth, and accept that it's going to end the relationship. Even if they don't leave you, it'll never be good again.
>>18334557
>I can't tell them though. It'll crush them
You can tell them, you just won't because you're a coward. If you're feeling bad about it now you're just gonna continue to feel like a giant piece of shit until you come clean. Might as well get it over with now.
we need the physical contact, it's just our biology
don't feel bad, but you should tell your partner, or you will lose self control over being honest with him/her
My good friend (female) is a great person in every regard, HOWEVER she's cheating on her long-term boyfriend of 4 years. Her boyfriend is significantly older and works in a different city and spends half the week there and half the week with her, in the house he bought. My friend has been cheating on the boyfriend for half a year now. Whenever the boyfriend is gone, she'd bring home a guy to fuck. She's told me that she feels remorse and extremely guilt, but she can't seem to stop fucking the other guy because he's "amazing in bed", while the bf is lackluster. She's tried a few times to stop cheating, but always ends up bringing home the other guy and fucking him.
Anyways, the bf is planning a month-long trip to europe with her soon. And as a guy who wouldn't wish for any man to be cucked like this, I feel the urge to tell the bf. Should I do it and how? She's been nothing but an amazing friend to me and helped me with so much, should I intervene in her personal life?
Fuck off
>>18333628
Yes, ruin her but make sure you have concrete proof
>>18333628
No, you shouldn't.
You should encourage her to tell her boyfriend and to break up, but you shouldn't intervene personally.
I know it's the right thing to do, but you have no idea of how much shit you'll get not only by your friend, but also by everyone around you for doing so.
A week ago, I completed a 5 day stretch without eating or drinking calories (a 'water fast' is the popular term online). It was incredible.
A 375lb hamplanet who has never missed a meal in his life, I could not believe what it felt like. The first 48 hours had a nagging urge to eat, but it wasn't "STARVING" like I expected. I had energy and an profound need to pick up my laundry and clean stuff. Water, black coffee and oxygen were the only things I consumed, and yet it felt like I was 10 years younger.
My fast ended suddenly and with discomfort, but without damage. I ate too much too fast (like I always do), and I instantly felt sad that I had done so. The urge to eat at the time was incredibly strong, but again, it was never "HUUUUNGER", it was this nervous, panicked "hey hey remember eating how fun that was go buy some macncheese you love that shit". The same kind of feeling when I quit smoking, something that gets in the way, but something I know I can defeat cold turkey.
A week after, and feeling bored, depressed, and worthless, I'm now in the process of dumping the little food in the house down the drain. Its not much, I ate most of it already, and unopened gallon of milk is the most money I'm throwing away, and $4 is nothing for me.
I'm willing to take another spin without eating. I've read the warnings, I know the to-dos and do-nots, and I know how to get help and support if I need it. I'm feeling ready to improve myself.
Witness me.
Fasts are a terrible way to lose weight OP, your metabolism slows down and when you start eating again your bodys blood sugar will rise causing insatiable hunger
>>18333008
Actually when your blood sugar rises you want liquids and water, when it's low you almost want to eat how the first time you smoked weed
Fat is nutritionally complete. If you have enough fat, you can live for over a year with no food, and still have no adverse health effects. Evolution is an amazing thing.
My husband leaves in the middle of the night. I want to know what he is actually doing. I can track him and see where he is but for various reasons am unable to follow him. What can/should I do?
>>18331849
Install a trial of refog on his laptop. It's a key logger that also takes screenshots of his online activity. If he's leaving in the middle of the night he's most likely cheating but he's never going to admit that. Download the trial the next time he's out.
>>18331849
Ask him
Whats he say hes doing dont you talk to him.
what about hiring an investigator.
Hello, /adv/, I have a story and a question for you; is it rape if the woman provides affirmative consent and is an active participant in the sex acts, while not under the influence of drugs or alcohol, and without retracting said consent at any point during the sex acts?
>Be me, 22yo man
>Be several months ago
>Hanging out with best lady friend, 21yo woman, supposedly lesbian
>Both lonely after breakups
>Asked before hanging out if she'd be down to do stuff if she's okay with that
>She says yes
>We're about to do stuff
>I ask her again if she's comfortable with it all because supposedly she's a lesbian and I wanted to be sure
>She says yes
>We start doing stuff
>Be paranoid, ask again if it's all okay
>She says yes
>She orgasms
>I orgasm
[SIX MONTHS LATER]
>She hits me up on facebook saying she secretly hated it and her and her now-girlfriend-but-was-ex-at-the-time-of-us-doing-stuff are accusing me of rape
So, /adv/, the question stands, was it rape?
>>18335097
>was it rape?
From what you've said, no. But it's your word against hers and who knows how that could go.
>>18335102
I just wanna know how it's fair to me that she can just, literally lie about being okay with doing sex acts and somehow that makes me a rapist
Lol what a cunt. God bless you OP
So, I was at the bar last night hanging out with some friends and having a few drinks. I accidentally kissed someone with a cold sore, now I'm flipping out. It was a quick peck on the lips, and right after I went to the bathroom and washed my mouth off with liquid soap. What is the likelihood I contracted it? How long will it take for it to show if I DID get it? What should I be looking for?
Fml...
>>18334626
Go to the doctor immediately, if you've contracted a disease you might be able to eliminate it before it entrenches itself.
>>18334626
it's called HSV-1, look it up & the symptoms. you can find an ETA for symptoms and all answers to your questions in Google.
you will get one or two, and then it will never happen again as your body makes immunity to it.
>>18334673
.....I don't think thats a thing.
What is a short haircut that would look good on me? I'm sick and tired of having to deal with my hair every single morning, and just want something clean looking and effortless.
>>18334450
>What is a short haircut that would look good on me?
I think any haircut that doesn't make you look like the rich bully in a kid's cartoon would benefit you greatly.
>>18334450
>>>/fa/
buzz it
>>18334450
damn you're gorgeous
no homo
ginger people are beautiful
20m, somewhere between het and demisexual. INTJ personality type.
All my hobbies are almost entirely solitary. Fitness, cooking, languages, and video games (ladder based multiplayers, been top 500 in a couple, I care more about winning than networking cause soloque). I'm primarily solitary in my free time, but keep a super tight knit group of friends. I'm out of school right now, but going back in 3 months. Job (small buisiness retail) is solitary as well. Outside of customers, I really don't interact with women much.
I tried online dating, but I really can't make it work. I end up swiping no on 95% of profiles because none of them are interesting and I don't really get much in terms of purely physical attraction. I get matches, but even then, I didn't really feel compelled by the lack of interest from the other side. I'm well aware it's cause they have 50 million guys messaging them, but the lack of interest is such a huge turn off so huge I can't justify continuing to chat. Even past that, I can't in a million years see myself participating in the 'date tons of women until one sticks' thing that a lot of people do, I don't really have the ability to not really invest in a relationship, it needs to mean something or I'm entirely uninterested.
Logic tells me I should join a club when I go back to school, but every nerd in existance wants to meet girls through that. Nerdy chicks usually dont give two fucks about fitness, and fitness chicks tend to dislike video games. 'Average' girls tend not to care about either at all. The few fit or at least not-legbeard girls that do enjoy gaming and keep in shape are jumped on by 50 million guys I feel, basically as rare as a unicorn, so everyone wants them.
This is the scenario I think I'm in, I guess I'm looking for direction
I'm a nerdy girl. You say all the nerds will be after us. That's true. But guess what? They're all unattractive as fuck. I've been single for a while and I haven't met a single nerd that I found good looking, and I've met a LOT. I say go to those clubs and you'll probably be a better candidate than most.
>>18334068
>95% of the women I find online aren't good enough for me
>I'm not interested in the 5% that I do match with because they don't seem excited enough to be talking to me
You sound like a bit of a twat, honestly. I mean, if you're looking for a reason you're riding the struggle bus with girls I'd put my money on that.
>>18334068
I'm a female and we sound very alike. I have all of those interests. The problem with girls that enjoy solitary like you is that we are hard to find. I barely leave my house except for basic shopping and to go to class. I can tell you the places I do hang out though are the library, cafes, grocery shops (especially health food stores), video game stores, thrift shops, sometimes (but rarely) a venue to catch a nice Folk or acoustic show.
I would also suggest to try striking up a conversation with girls in your class. Clubs would be a good idea, but the problem is that I find it hard to fit in. I tried clubs and everyone seemed to already have developed relationships with each other. It was hard to fit in so I gave up. Clubs at your school might be different though.
On online dating - I completely agree on that. I couldn't care less about looks, but then their personalities are just not enough to keep me interested. We have rare interests unfortunately, so I understand you on this one, but a bit of compromise could be useful here. The chances of you finding a girl with all of those interests is unlikely as you stated. But there's nothing wrong with getting a nice nerdy chick into fitness. If she really likes you, she'll be open to trying new things with you.
Have you tried multiple websites? I would do this to expand your options until you find yourself an interesting lady. Good luck!