jp told me to post here instead so i'll copy/paste it over
hi there! i'm really not sure if this is the right place for it, but i'm looking for people with some knowledge of japanese culture for advice concerning a tattoo of mine. first, here's me, showing off part of the tattoo as is. it's going to be a full sleeve, and will be colored in and everything. you can't really see much of it here and what you do see is mostly background.
continued....
here's some more of the tattoo. what you're looking at is a cherry blossom tree. but what i need your help with is what to put in a blank space the artist intentionally left blank for now.
it's hard taking pics like this. but anyway here's the blank space, it goes from my pointy elbow all the way down.
the reason the artist left it blank is that he thought cherry blossoms were really best used as a sort of frame for something cooler. his idea was a "badass katana" and i'm not sure i want to go that route. another idea he had was a geisha unbrella. as you can see the space is relatively narrow, but i'm not sure how limiting that really is honestly.
so like. japanese culture people! can you help me think of something awesome to tattoo on myself? religious imagery, possibly? or even anime type stuff. i am big into fantasy...
Isn't it very taboo in japan to have a tattoo because only the mafia have them?
Hey /adv/
I want to know how many sex. partners a guy should have before settling down/marrying
>>18331006
That's completely subjective.
>>18331006
Eternal sex partners thread?
>>18331006
>Eternal sex partners thread?
Eternal sex partners thread.
>manager pulls me aside today
>looks at me angry and asks 'do you think you can do this job?'
>'you are risky to the business, you are a liability, I will lose my license to do _______ and ______ etc etc'
>I ask her 'so do you think I shouldn't be here?'
>she says 'I am starting to think this yes'
>after berating me some more tells me to go upstairs and take a 5 min break
>mfw I got back home today from work
Has she threatened to fire me?
I work in a crown post office, basically a main branch in the city centre.
I just started this job a month ago and was told I would get really good training and someone to sit beside me and guide me through everything for the first two weeks. But I never did, because we're badly understaffed, or my manager doesn't give a fuck, and probably both those reasons.
This is really fucking awful, I constantly feel like I am treading on egg shells around her, its making me stressed and worried. She seems really exasperated and impatient with me, whereas I get on well with the assistant manager who steps in when the other is busy. I feel like the assistant manager actually 'manages'. I acknowledge I have fucked up a bit but I have no problem with being pulled over, being told I've made a mistake, why its a mistake, and what I should do next time so I can write it in my little note book I keep for next time.
I've just joined a union because I am genuinely worried about my job security. What else should I do? I am in the fortunate position in that I work two jobs, so if I get dismissed I do have something to fall back on.
Oh and just to add, whilst she had pulled me over and was doing this, another colleague walked past, and she stopped talking and waited for the colleague to be out of ear shot before continuing.
>>18330928
Did you do something wrong that was clearly your fault? Was it the first time making a mistake or have their been repeat offenses?
Is this job better than your second one?
>>18330961
it pays better but is a lot harder and more complicated.
Some of these 'mistakes' are mainly just bad habits that other colleagues do as well. And I make more mistakes when she breathes down my neck, as it gets me stressed and worried. Just little mistakes like forgetting to hand the receipt to the customer, or doing things in a different order to the way she would do it.
Alright so my boyfriend and I got into a little fight over nothing then we stayed in seperate rooms of the house for a while. Then I hear him on the phone with his mom arguing. He hangs up and almost immediately comes into the bedroom and hits me several times. This isn't the first time though. Later on he leaves the house and messages me that he's going for a walk to "calm down". Still totally pissed I reply with what's in the screen shot.
Is he being genuine? If he says he loves me why does he do this shit?
>>18329346
>Is he being genuine?
Nope. He wants to sweep everything under the rug so that you'll continue to take him back. He doesn't want his actions to have consequences. If he really wanted to change himself, he'd try harder and/or seek out professional help.
>If he says he loves me why does he do this shit?
He doesn't love you.
>>18329346
Cuck him with a black man. Its expected at this point
>>18329346
>he hit me but he loves me :)
Why do peoeple always do this shit?
He doesn't love you.
He'll do it again.
Dump him now and prove to yourself that you're not a retard.
So my girlfriend is planning to have a bunch of her friends over for her birthday at her place in the next month or so. It became apparent that her gay male friend is going to sleep in her bed with her that night and it has really been making be uncomfortable.
Mainly the fact of they "dated" before when they were younger and before he came out. From what I gather he is gay, but it's not entirely defined. I have met the guy and he seemed nice enough. I just can't get over the thought of a another man holding my girlfriend close, regardless of their orientation.
It doesn't help that every gay man I've known has slept with women at at least one point in their lives. In a roundabout way I brought up that I would be uncomfortable and she seemed to say that he doesn't appear attracted to women at all and I wouldn't have anything to worry about. Evidently her ex had an issue with this too.
I'm feeling very conflicted and it seems most people only fall to one side or the other on this subject, but I feel that my feelings are valid. If the roles were reversed I don't think she would be very comfortable. Part of me is angry that I even I have to explain my case and that I would be taken more into consideration.
Am I overreacting or does this seem to be a serious issue?
>""""""""""gay"""""""""" friend
At the very least his morning boner will poke your gf's butt. I hope you haven't been toghether for long, because the eject button is flashing...
You sound completely reasonable to me. This is something you need to talk about with her, and not in a roundabout way. The way you explained here sounds like a great way to present it to her. Try not to attack her about it, but be direct that you're not comfortable with it, not as a demand that she can't, but to bounce how you're feeling off of her.
>>18328520
I'm hoping it won't be relationship destroying event. That's the other part is I have an inkling that they're not entirely gay. Another part of me feels it's wrong even if they're gay. Why do they get afforded the privilege to sleep next to her?
>>18328522
Thank you. I only went roundabout because it wasn't set in stone and was just mentioned that it would most likely happen. I don't plan to say don't do it or it's over, but I will make my feelings and point of view known. I will definitely be upset for awhile if it does take place. I just hope it doesn't turn into a situation where she ends up being upset and all her friends think i'm an asshole, but I don't want to bottle it up either.
I was talking to a good friend of mine today. She said she was worried about the fact that I spend all my time working and barely socialize with anyone outside of work (I even stopped posting on 4chan for a few months and only came here to post this.) She suggested that I use Tinder to talk to women and also network. Her reasoning was that she uses Tinder to go on a bunch of dates with guys whom she is simultaneously dating. She thinks I should do this because I have a month left in this city before I leave for a PhD program and I need to start acclimating myself to being around people in social settings.
How do I do this? I want to make a good faith effort to follow my friend's advice because I gave her a book that helped me with my emotions and I want her to make a good faith effort to read the book (in other words, I don't want to be a hypocrite.)
But I haven't been on a date in years, and I have never used Tinder before. I am not a virgin but basically have a very low libido and have never been into sex other than a couple of times when I was younger to see what the fuss was about.
What do I do? Please walk me through this like I am a retarded person (which I basically am when it comes to social situations.)
>>18328096
This is going to sound like an /r9k/ rant, but women are clueless about what online dating is like for the opposite sex. Don't bother with Tinder: best case scenario you'll get some landwhale or shallow bitch looking for a sugar daddy. Most times the women won't even respond, however, due to being swamped with attention from men.
>>18328128
Well, I brought that up and she said I should just brute force it, like a hacker or something.
>>18328136
Basically all men swipe right on every photo already. Have her set up a profile and try to find a match for you. It's a win-win, really
>women know better what women like
>she'll get clued in on how horrible women are online
Mulatto here and I have a problem that confuses me. I am not attracted to black girls or mulatto girls AT ALL.
Now I will admit that blacks generally have many ugly people, but there are still some very attractive ones out there. And I feel no sexual attraction to them in any way. I don't understand why that is. I had some chances in the past. I've heard from whites and blacks that I am good looking. I was always more attracted and aroused by white girls though. Looking back at the girls that were into me, I've given white girls who were objectively less attractive than the black girls who liked me a chance, while completely ignoring the black ones. I can't figure out why I feel this way. I really dislike trashiness and maybe I immediately associate black girls with that? Although some of them might have been sweet? I also hate trashy white girls. But that aside.
How can I feel more attracted to blacks and mulattos?
>>18327492
You just instinctively prefer X over Y.
Only you can change that.
>>18327492
>how do I change my sexual attraction
Oh look it's this thread again. Like a clockwork
The answer is you can't.
>>18327492
You just realized that white race is superior in all aspects.
Listen to your dna calling and date some white qtie. Good luck!
>>>/pol/
How do you show love and support to your dad as an adult son?
Just visit him every weekend if possible, pay for his lunch or dinner and talk about life.
He will be glad to see you doing well in life or help if you are going through hard times.
By not being a disapointment
Know his love language. Cater to it.
hi just venting
Today is my birthday, I am a guy who doesn't like attention at all, I've specifically asked my mom to not invite family over today to celebrate
>nah don't worry i won't call anyone
its literally 4 hours later and there are over 15 people in my house.
Why would she do that I don't understand, I'm super uncomfortable and just locked myself in my room the whole time.
She baked me the cake I like and just knocked on the door now asking if she can give it to the guests.
This feel like a joke and I feel pathetic.
Time after time she makes me feel like this and i just dont understand why.
ffs shitty birthday
>>18332627
Your birthday is to celebrate the day your mother squeezed you out of her cunt and she'd probably lonely and dissatisfied with her autistic son and beta husband who couldn't raise a man so she's filling that void with people who she thinks give two shits about her who also provide her with social validation.
Go out, eat the cake and make your mum happy until the last relative is gone, then go out and don't speak to your mother for some days
Its time to leave home then old dude.
If I'm a virgin and want to learn how to do it right before my first time, would it be a good idea to look at those Girls Do Porn videos? Unlike other porn it looks like pretty realistic sex with realistic movements
>>18332229
Real sex is never going to be like porn. It's not supposed to be. Porn is entertainment, it's fake. Real sex requires emotion and bonding (ideally). You don't want to cheapen the experience by trying to act out moves you saw in a porn or trying to cum on her face at the end. You'll never be able to prepare yourself anyway, you'll forget everything you think you know once you get in the moment.
>>18332239
I get that, but have you seen those GDP videos? Am I wrong in thinking that real sex mostly looks like that? If not, what about straight up amateur porn
>>18332242
I've never seen these videos. Give me a moment and I'll report back.
I've been friends with this girl I know since middle school. I've told her multiple times that I like her (about 3 to be exact over time) and first two times i got rejected. Third time was a little recently actually, maybe about a month ago. She said that this time shes been waiting for me to ask her out again but she was going through family stuff so we decided to try everything out afterwards. Fast forward to last week, she tells me she wants to go out now, and I agreed of course. But ever since then shes been kinda distant to me and i think im just more confused than anything. We're really close friends, like we regularly talk about sex stuff with each other, but ever since she told me she wants to go out, its been kinda weird. Also I get kinda nervous because school ends next week for us, so I wont be able to talk to her as much. I do live close to her, but the real matter is I'm just confused on why shes just being so distant towards me. Pic related. Have a nice evening. :)
I guess the best way to find out is to simply ask her about it my dude
It's amazing how things that we think are so complicated really aren't. Almost every single guy goes through something like this at one point or another and the cure is always the same.
Do not get emotional. If she withdraws, you withdraw harder. Make her crack. If she comes back to you, great! If not, it's better that you don't emasculate yourself by saying some stupid shit like "I just feel like ever since we started dating youve been so distant...."
Women hate emotional guys. They lie and say they don't. Be a fucking man.
>>18332125
She sounds insecure af.
Is it bad to see a therapist if you think the therapist is attractive?
No, I do not have any sexy pics of therapist before anyone asks. I'm just wondering what /adv/ thinks of such situations out of 98% pure curiosity.
I had a therapist that was very attractive. I found it mostly annoying and distracting. Wouldn't recommend.
>>18332123
I actually find ugly and old or male therapists to be more distracting.
For some reason, I feel like I can't talk to them.
>>18332100
yes because you'll be distracted by her beauty instead of being in-tune with your emotions. This will negatively impact your progress as a patient. I really suggest switching to a therapist that is male.
>be me
>shy girl is into me
>take shy girl out on date, pay for dinner
>she has expressed before that she is into me
>after dinner she leans in to hug me
>I hug back and say bye
How do I actually kiss her? She is shy, and I am the first guy she has been into / gone on a date with. I do not know how to initiate a kiss.
Do it when you guys are alone..
When you're holding hands or something when the timing is right just lean in for a kiss, she's in to you so no reason she will back off..
hell, i dated a really shy girl and when we were sort of alone and the atmosphere was right i asked her if its okay to kiss her she got red af but closed her eyes and just kissed her.
good luck anon
>>18332124
>i asked her
Give it some time then just kiss her when you feel like it. In the right moment, not awkwardly in front of people. Do it in private. Is this your first time too? Sheesh.
Do I have a legal case against my ex to sue her? We got out of a 5 year relationship and I'm still really salty about all of the money I sunk into her, things like paying over $600 to get her car fixed and not fixing mine, paying for her medical bills from her apendectomy, and other various things. I also quit my job and moved to a different state for her, just for her to kick me out 4 days later. For awhile it didn't seem like I would really have a case againts anything, but I recently got her to "confess" in a text. I had asked her why she had me pay for her stuff, move and whatnot when she supposedly was unhappy with me and wanted to leave me and she said exactly this "Because I fucking hated you." Is this any kind of admission of guilt? Would I have any case against her? Or am I just being salty still?
>>18331513
>Do I have a legal case against my ex to sue her?
Lol. No, you don't. None at all. Any lawyer would laugh you right out of their office.
Being a bitch and using you for your money is not an legally actionable offense, unfortunately.
You can't sue someone because you gave them gifts and then regretted it later.
Assuming you are serious, I would see a lawyer...dont ask 4chan because we are autistic and give pretty generalized advice.
You have a right to be salty. Females are filled with spite and thats fucked up what happened.
Most likely I feel like since there was no written/ verbal agreement to pay back or exchange goods, she could just say it was a gift and then the case gets even harder...
I had just finished watching a video about a guy who was going to take his date to small claims court for $17.31 for a movie ticket because she was "rude". That's really what sparked this idea. I thought to myself, "man I was fucked over much more by a hoe.
There's a girl at my work that's impossibly kind to me. Never done a thing wrong. She always talks about how this job is her second job though and her other job makes more money, and said she does art commissions.
I thought this was really cool but then I found her on myfreecams. In fact, I frequent her room now and see her shows pretty much every other night.
The guilt is starting to get to me, especially since I just go along with her cover story and her lies. I wanna stop fapping to her but I can't, and I figure if I'm paying her for it, no harm no foul right?
My only issue is I blabbed about it to another guy at work. I felt like shit immediately and told him yesterday to never tell a soul. But I might have just unknowingly outed this girl to everyone because I really doubt he won't say anything to the other guys.
I feel like shit seeing as she's helped me a lot, things like spotted me change or helped me with assignments at school and all of that, and just is always nice to me and covering for me.
I can't concentrate because of the guilt. Am I an asshole for saying something?
>>18331457
No she is just another internet whore that uses her body for money. I am sure she isnt ashamed of it.
I wouldnt tell anyone you subscribe to her but if you mentioned that you found her online then youre fine.
You could always pull her aside and keep telling her she looks crazy familiar and you cant figure out from where.
Telling other people is what made you an asshole.
Fapping to her is fine.
>>18331477
Honestly, I wouldn't want to do that to her. She's nice, I don't really care that she cams. I felt scandalous and got caught up in the moment of talking about how hot she was and just told my closest coworker, but she doesn't deserve that.
She wears a wig so I'm pretty sure she's trying to hide her identity online, or else why would she lie about what she does too? I did tell the guy that I subscribe to her so I feel crappy now, but I definitely did stumble upon her on accident. I almost didn't recognize her until I saw her tattoo and then heard her speak.
I'm thinking I'm not doing anything wrong by fapping to her but definitely feel like shit that I told a guy that I know is going to blab. I didn't tell him her cam girl name even though he pressed me for it at least.
I'm honestly so fucked in keeping her as a friend.