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>>17380510
Move on.

If she gave a shit about you she would have kept contact over 5 months.

She is clearly brushing you to the side.

>>17380503
>How bad is a gap year, really?
Depends on your discipline level. Its really easy to switch life into cruise control and just work and slowly improve your life a step at a time.

I would recommend you stay at home while working to save money for school. If you move out and work to pay bills time just gets away from you.

>>17380535
Pretty much this.

The thing about people taking gap years to work, it's really easy to lose focus on college when you start collecting wages at your job. Instead of focusing on improving your education, you're constantly going to be building up more responsibility that will make college more difficult to achieve.

2.5K is shit, in my opinion, and I definitely would not recommend adding a ton of responsibility and delaying a better financial situation for that. Rookie move.

>>17380503
yeah what's a 91 GPA? I think you mean average grade of 91.

So if you're in the US, one of the things about college is paying for it. If you plan to live by yourself and pay bills and work a job, you might have a difficult time managing school on top of that, not to mention maintaining the social life aspect, if it's important to you.

now let's say you're okay with that. If you take this gap year, the first guy is right, you might let it slip away.

If you're going to a CC, I'd say it's worth trying to find someone who will share a living space with you anyway so you don't have stay in your parents' house but still follow your plan.

>>17380432
>What are boots like in pic related called ?
Drawn.

>>17380439
I saw boots like this irl
I thought id get advice here not memes

>>17380448
Not a meme. Just a fact.

/soc/

>>17380428
I would if I had money.

>>17380428
Don't eat the seeds when you get to the bus! They cause paralysis!

Guhh

Everyone has his own reasons to live

Mine are extremely stupid - sometimes I have a good time, there are hundreds of girls I haven't had sex with yet and I want to get fit

But it's enough to keep me away from the rope

>>17380381
Do not only nurture your body,but nurture your mind and your soul.Suicide not only ends who you are,but also everything you will ever be.What do you want to be anon?

>>17380381
You're going to die anyway so you might as well exist and suffer while you can before you eternally plunge into the cold void of death.

There is no 'why', just a 'what are you gonna do about it'. You have a brain. You have assets, some more now through inheritance. You are apparently at least minimally literate and able to transport your body places. You have to put in a lot more effort but don't bullshit me. You're going to have to try at life now, boo fucking hoo. Your mother died thinking you were somebody worth something. Prove her right to the rest of the world.

>>17380429
>You're going to have to try at life now

Man, literally nothing has changed. It's not as though I was living in my mom's basement and leeching off her. The benefits are sufficient to have a small apartment and scrape by, and I don't really need much more.

The amount of effort I have to put into living is still minimal.
But just as I don't have motivation to do much with my life, I don't think merely existing without doing anything is worth it.

And it's not about proving anything to other people. It's about convincing myself. The reason I'm even posting here is because I'm hoping someone will help me find a reason as to why I shouldn't just off myself.

There are several methods of measuring a life's worth, and I fail at all of them.
I have neither the skills nor drive to achieve anything important, or even contribute to society in a meaningful way.
I have neither the social skills nor inclination to positively affect other lives in a less material way.
I have no happiness, either, so even the most self-centred life worth qualifier is beyond me.

>not staying alive at least long enough to see if America is made great again and a giant fucking wall is built
>not wanting to see if Hillary can finish selling the country to Chinia

At least hang around for 2018. Shits gonna get wacky.

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There's a lot of bad shit going on at work. I dread coming to work. I don't feel proud or happy to be there anymore. I don't feel welcome anymore. I'm overwhelmed and commonly so stressed I literally can't shit (prune juice to the rescue though). I work retail at Walmart and I've been there 7 months. I place a lot of importance & self worth on being happy and good at my job so these feelings are a big deal to me.

They work me to the bone and I realized I get little respect for it. Where before I was glad to volunteer help anywhere, I shy away from it. I'm their bitch. I was just trying to put in a good name for myself so I could network someday and ultimately get a better job.

My store manager also completely shuts me down before I even get a chance to try anything. I wanted to be a CSM, I wanted to be a department manager, but she denies me. I said "I don't know until I try" and she said "it doesn't work like that". I just want to move up and out and grow and not be stagnant in a department I don't enjoy. I'm even willing to learn but she nopes me still.

I fucking hate my department, it's fubar. We have too much merch and not enough space on the shelves. The overnight stockers overstock our place so much that merch is just laying conspicuously or haphazardly everywhere, not even professionally. If there's no room for the merchandise on one peghook they simply plug it onto another peghook which is not the correct way to do it. You need to bin or waco overstock, not lay it around the place. It's frustrating.

Also our backroom is filled with so much overstock from my department that it's bleeding into bins meant for other departments. It's insane. I don't know what to do with it and I need help. Lastly there's just 4 people in my dept. including me: two fulltimers (me and my department manager) and two parttimers. It feels like I'm burdened with a lot more work than anyone

In conclusion, I need a lot of help and guidance /adv/. I need a better job, but I feel I have a lot of self improvement to do because I'm "lacking" in traits that make me a leader I guess. And I feel so empty and alone and lonely. Sometimes I think about using a dating site so I have someone to hold at night at least

Green text that shit, nigga.

It is neighborly, and customary, to introduce yourself to neighbors once you move in (actually, tradition requires the neighborhood to introduce itself to newcomers but that courtesy is long gone). Take advantage of this. Knock on both your Christian roommates and other neighbors doors and introduce yourself. At the very least, you should exchange phone numbers but also drop that you've been smelling weed. Their face will tell you if they smoke or not. Proceed from there.

I've been living here for a couple months, I know it's not them. How should I approach the other neighbors

Yeah go knock and ask if they know where you can get some green

You look fine, I'm sure. We all feel this way from time to time. Its so common, it even has a name - body dysmorphia. Dont post your picture here to prove me wrong, that's what /soc/ is for.

could u post a pic? I mean there's ugly and there's ugly. R u fat? Being ugly for guys isn't a death sentence like it is for women. Guys can get girls or a girlfriend or a wife without being physically attractive so long as they have money and/or personality.

>>17380317
>>17380327
I'm not fat, but seriously I just have such strange, and non-matching features. Small chin, big nose (not just big but a weird shape I've never seen on anyone else, my head isn't big but it's too big for my body, my hair and hairline is weird, mouth and eyes too small. I'm skinny but have wide hips, giant feet and hands, my arms are too vascular, especially my hands, which have crooked fingers, and my arms look too long and bend weird/don't hang right.

Anyway it's just so much stuff I barely look human, at least to myself. People have said I was attractive before (cute) but in retrospect it all seems to be out of pity.

this little kitten was walking around my street, and i pretty much adopted him because he's awesomde and fucked the shit up of a large wolfkiller breed of dog. my kitten don't take no shit from canines.

but adopting a human child? lol no. not ever

It might be very difficult for you to get out of at least child support, even if the kid isn't yours, if you've acted like a father towards it. Same with your stepdaughter

>>17380329
The DNA test will determine if it's mine or not. As unbelievable as it sound exwife will not put me on child support.... She hasn't done it to my stepdaughters father. She says her kids are not car payments. And I've been with her for 7 years and many people have told her, including me to put him on CP but she refuses.

Find a different person to fuck

Seriously, even if you did steal her from him, it would be awkward and dramatic and would taint the probably short-lived relationship until it ended.

>Implying she needs to break up with her current boyfriend to be with Op

Hit it and quit it man. If she's willing to cheat go for it.

>>17380270
>>17380299

Dichotomy lol

Don't try her, unless she goes for you. Keep on being ambiguously with her, but don't try anything until she comes first. If she's good with her boyfriend, she will never do anything. If she's not, she will be with you without any violation to the bro's code.
Again, don't reject her, she will understand that you're no attracted which is false. Just keep the tension on, until she accepts it or rejects it.

>>17380257
>mental aspects of domination etc. or fetishized.
not this at all. it's just really pleasurable to play with your ass. I would suggest starting with anal masturbation using fingers when alone. Figure out what YOU like, how you like it, and how much you like. Try using a dildo, vibrator, or anal toy like beads or butt plug. Toys are a must. Try a hitachi with an insertion attachment and try to hit any spots.

Also, are you using tons of lube and doing an enema before hand? Even solo play you will want to do both of these things. I would pick up a box of disposable gloves or use a condom on your fingers as well.

If your boyfriend is just trying to cram his dick in your ass give up, anal should be about the receiver's pleasure.

-Chaz Anthony: The artist formerly known as "CHAZ"-

>>17380298
This. For a while in college, I was obsessed with anal play. I used sharpies, toothbrushes, ice cubes and enemas. It felt good. Be gentle and use something thin.

>>17380298
We did use lube but maybe not enough. I haven't experimented with it alone much but I probably should.

Also he isn't pushy at all. Very concerned and will go at the pace I'm comfortable with. We've done some finger anal play but I haven't liked it much yet.

Part of the problem, I think, might be that I have a hemorrhoid unfortunately. I used to be very self conscious about it but he reassures me it doesn't gross him out. How could I get around this?

Shut the fuck up

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>>17380254

Get rid of all your close friends you'll end up with 100% of your conversations being formal, public encounters.
Suddenly you'll have perfect english

>and only got cunt sjw's
So literally only one
If not then you're just a cunt yourself that doesn't have a grip on reality and thinks there's way more of "cunt sjw's" than there actually is.

You're not handsome. I wouldn't say you're ugly either. You're just most likely kinda creepy.

Get a good haircut.

Learn how to match your body language with your face. You don't look good when you pretend to be serious.

To be honest you'd look much better with your eyes wide open.

Just so you know I'm dead inside. Haha jk. Thanks though.

when he first started to get his delusions I would try to reason with him and tell him that he's imagining all this shit going on around him and maybe he does really have schizophrenia or maybe its all the meds he's taking thats causing his delusions(its probably both). He would get very angry and defensive and I realized fairly quickly that he couldn't be reasoned with. He doesn't beleive there's anything wrong with him and he thinks of his 'meds' as basically harmless rather than extremely destructive.

u wouldnt be able to tell that he's totally nuts if u just met him and had a brief conversation. He usually won't speak about his delusions to people except for myself and his neighbour. He beleives his parents, the government, and doctors are all a part of a conspiracy to destroy his life. When he goes out in public he believes there are people following him, talking about him, cursing at him.

he has told me he wanted to go travel with me but I no if i travelled anywhere with him it could very well end in disaster.

anybody got similar experiences with a schizo or delusional thinking? Do u think it's possible for them to improve or are they totally fucked and doomed to insanity and an early grave?

>>17380476
what medication are you on? My friend is on a cocktail that would make anyone go insane(seroquel, valium, sometimes xanax or clonazepam, vyvanse, effexor, ambien on and off, and invega). I'm surprised his brain hasn't totally self-destructed with all these meds.

anyway i was reading that a big problem with schizos(which is not clearly defined, it's basically just 'disordered thinking' often caused by brain damage) is many of them don't believe there's anything wrong with them and one of the most difficult things is to get them to accept they are not thinking properly. He's one of these types, totally hopeless and impossible to reason with.

I just kind of go along with his delusions nowadays because there's no way i can convince him they arent real.