My girlfriend has never had the experience of cumming before.

>>17380199
never cummed too, and I gave up

>>17380199
Have you tried tongue fucking her?

>>17380207
Have you attempted any over the top methods before giving up?

>>17380212
Tounge isn't long enough to tounge fuck her but I've given it a pretty good shot. She enjoyed it.

>>17380199
anal plus vibrator on her clit.

most intense orgasms I've ever given any female, in any form. srsly.

>>17380218
She's never done anal and we don't have a vibrator. That should change soon enough. She said she would give it a try after we were together for a while. I am determined to make her cum. I'll give it a try at the earliest opportunity.

Rub the sponge inside her vagina. Two in the pink one in the stink, then anal her.

It's a joke for a reason, it works

>>17380199

To make her cum, you're going to have to stop trying to make her come.

If a girl's never cum before and you go at it trying to screw her brains out like you're both porn stars, you're going to get nowhere.

Relax and stop worrying about whether she cums or not. Accept that it'll probably be a month or more before she has an orgasm. Between then and now, just have fun. Just fool around. Tease each other. Find something that she likes and then give her only enough of it to torture her. That's the kind of playful experience that will get her closer to orgasm.

The sure way to not give her an orgasm is to get impatient and assume that if she isn't cumming from being fucked, she just needs to be fucked harder.

No. In porn, that may be true every time, but in real life, no.

>>17380253
When you say rub the sponge inside her vagina. Do you mean her g spot?

Femanon here, I had the same problem.

I'd never been able to orgasm before, not even from masturbation. Masturbation just... never felt good enough, it wasn't interesting. I touch myself to clean myself every time I bathe, it barely feels different.

Sex with a partner helped a lot, it automatically was more engaging, and thereby felt better. The problem with not being able to masturbate was that I was learning about my body at the same time he was, and I couldn't offer advice.

It took a lot of experimentation. There were a lot of times where things got really intense, but then backed off. If that happens, it means you're close.

My suggestion is to really focus on flicking the bean. Incorporate other sensations if you can. My magic combination ended up being oral and fingering at the same time. That's what did it first and that still remains the most reliable.

See if she has a sensitive G-spot. If she does (if it feels good and not like she has to pee), then utilize the heck out of it. If she doesn't,focus more on the outside than the inside.

I also suggest that if you're in doubt: go gentler. Things get sensitive down there and I'm more likely to have a harder time orgasming if things go too rough too fast. It becomes too much overstimulation, and the area shuts down. The solution is to go gentler, or even to back off for a little while and ramp up the foreplay again. It'll give the bits time to relax and warm up again.

Most of all, I suggest experimentation. Play with things, see what works. Talk to her, listen to her. Keep trying out new things to see what works. If you find something, use it, but don't be married to it. Keep figuring out what works until you find the magic combination.

Also remember: the first one is always the hardest. Once you get that one, you know what to do to get the next one. And the more orgasms she has, the more it reinforces the brain pathways. She's gonna have on days and off days but overall it's gonna keep getting easier.

>>17380286
I found that she reacted the most to that same combernation that worked for you, but oral makes her uncomfortable no matter how much she likes it so I can't do it often. Thank you for your reply.

>>17380271
Thankfully I dont approach it like porn, but that also helps explain why I haven't gotten too far. I wouldn't say I'm impatient but i do try to start working towards her orgasm too early now I think about it. Thank you for the advice.

>>17380309
Uncomfortable how so? It's too intense? Or she feels self conscious and weird about it?

>>17380319
Self conscious sort of uncomfortable. I'm the first guy she's been with that's done it to her.

>>17380328
Give her some time, she should adjust. I'd be extra careful about making any negative comments about her vag, though.

>>17380286
Tl;dr, but I read enough to see you think you're a special snowflake.

>>17380199
most boys are way too tough on my clit. Gently does it. Never really knew what my problem was and thought I couldn't cum and had sex with an older guy, he went down on me, two flicks and sucked on my pussy and I saw stars. I made an absolute fool of myself over that guy, hooked I tell ya.

>>17380433
I actually like it way more when my boyfriends are a bit rough on mine. Weird how different it can be.

>>17380199

My ex use to love when I'd work my way up to having two fingers inside her while laying next to her, and working my fingers upwards in a "come here" sort of motion. Could take my time and lick her nipples, kiss her, just really enjoy being intimate. Then, when I felt like she was really focused on everything, speed up and give her a trembling orgasm. Since then, I've found that the 4 women I've slept with since have all said that motion really blew their minds.

>>17380509
I'll try that one tonight. I've done similar to her and she's enjoyed them.

>>17380520

FWIW I couldn't make her orgasm for a really long time. It was like a puzzle, that, when finally solved made everything click.

>>17380433
She likes it both ways, as long as I work up to being rough of course, its a shame I can't quite understand how it feels for her.

>>17380389
She's self conscious enough about her body, no way I'm going to make it worse for her. I love everything about her, it'll take some time I'm sure. I'm her first boyfriend in a few years.

I don't understand why it's all on men to be good in bed. I've only received one good blowjob and it was from a fat chick. No girl has ever made me cum by riding me or jerking me or blowing me or anything. They all sucked. wtf, why should I be so concerned about getting them off if they can't me, eh?

>>17380549
I know how you feel. I've been blueballed all week. Gf doesn't seem to make the effort for anything other than sex. Great sex. I'm assuming it will change when she gets less nervous about it, but i am a very sexual person so at the moment I think I'm overreacting.

>>17380530
One puzzle I really want to solve. I like puzzles.

>>17380532
The best way to understand how it feels for her is to compare analogous structures.

The clitoris is a lot like the head of a penis. more sensitive than the surrounding area, very intense when stimulated, can be overdone more easily. Clits actually tend to be even more sensitive, since more nerve endings.

The vagina is more like the shaft of the penis, a softer but broader sensation, not as intense but really adds a depth to feeling more that just focusing on the tip does.

The vagina is also on average more sensitive in the outside and first third of it than the rest of it. Take advantage of that

>>17380213
No I've never tried because my bf put too much pressure on me, it's stressing me I feel like I have a performance obligation.

>>17380199

Had a gf of 2 years. Was a virgin but I wasnt. I had made a woman cum before with much less effort
Started literally licking her (the way she likes) for 20-30 mins while teasing her butthole (because she likes that).
Before that tehre was the ultimate kiss n hugging shiet for 10 minutes to relax her and bring her to mood.
Bitch couldn't do it.
She went to the doc and he said she doesnt have a health problem.
She started throwing comments like "It might be your fault" or "We might need more work"

NO BITCH ITS YOUR FAULT, ITS YOUR ORGANISM NOT WILLING TO COME TO ORGASM WHILE SOMEONE HAS TRIED EXACTLY THE WAY YOU WANT.

Sex session from start of foreplay till me cumming was 1 hour. After some point I literally prefered masturbating than sex because I didn't want to show to her that Im not trying enuogh.
And to be fair it hurt my pride a lot.
Thoughts that It might be that u re incapable of making her feel relaxed and great start ruining you.

I came to the thinking that these women are not really into opening up so much (possibly childhood trauma, daddy issues, too shy to open etc.)Not a psychologist though, just a guess.

Anyways TL;DR if you try and she can't , you better end the relationship. Even if she sais its fine with her it is not.Imagine how she ll feel when the whole girl group starts talking about their sexual experiences and she ll have to hide that she s never orgasmed. Ditch her , for the sake of both of yours.

just this one time

theres an area in her vagina on the upper part which feels very different to touch
pressure it while rubbing it with your fingers, 2 works very well imo
you will be rubbing her clit at the some with your palm

every single women comes from this if you find the right spot
if she is afraid to pee herself, which is very likely if she never experienced it, tell her its okay, you dont mind

not any of the bullshit in this thread

>>17380199
Let her do kegel exercise, this'll strength the pelvic muscles and should make it easier/and better to orgasm.

Some woman just have a hard time cummin. I can do it easily myself but nobody else ever managed to make me cum.

Honesty, it's feels good when someone is trying and I don't even feel disappointed afterwards because, you know, it felt nice? But my partner always gets disappointed so I try to fake it for him.

>>17381589
Actually, it's much harder to get a vaginal climax (g-spot) than a clitoral climax. But apparently more intense (never had one, I'm afraid). Maybe combining the two will hit the sweet spot for her, but if she can't cum by herself don't expect any miracles.

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>>17380199
Also, if you're planning for her to get a toy, I suggest a womanizer. Expensive, yes. But I'll be worth her while. Let her experiment with it alone before trying to use it together.

It basically has a suction and gentle vibration on the clitoris, very effective. But very expensive.

>>17380549
If they wont do you, don't do them. It's as simple as that. Anyone that expects you to go down and please them while doing nothing for you is a waste of your time.

Just my two pennies, but I've been in her situation as well and my advice is always to encourage her to make herself climax through masturbation first. Not every woman likes touching herself equally, but it strips some of the factors (wanting to please you and not wanting to embarrass herself in front of you, for example) that can add pressure. Plus, ultimately she is the one who immediately knows what feels good, when the feeling changes etc.
Perhaps that a lover who's fucked her in every position daily for five years while closely observing her can anticipate her smallest signs and bodily reactions as smoothly as she can, but otherwise she's the expert on her body and leaving it to someone else only complicates things further, like trying to read braille with medical gloves on.

But that's just me and perhaps fingering herself does nothing for her.

>>17380549
I blame both sex being so hyped among men that (especially young) women can reasonably believe that just spreading their legs will make a man enter Nirvana, and men attaching so much of their ego to how well they do with getting a girl off.

If it's any consolation, guys might put in a lot of effort for a girlfriend, but for one night stands and the likes the norm is that the female orgasm is a non-factor. Little foreplay, blowjobs are much more common than eating her out, and the guy rarely attempts to do anything with her after he came if she hasn't yet.

Also
>why should I be so concerned about getting them off if they can't me
There's a difference between not being skilled (yet) and not wanting to get someone off. If they gave shitty blowjobs and you acted like it was great, that's on you as well. If you try to give pointers and they ignore it and can't be fucked to put in effort, that's someone else.

At the end of the day I don't see the point in having sex with someone when you are not that interested in getting them off, though. Masturbation seems a lot more effective for solely tending to your needs.

>>17381576
Not every woman who has a hard time climaxing with a partner is emotionally damaged. It must feel great to know that when it comes to sex, your orgasm is not only assured, it's expected. Cumming is literally as easy as pushing a button for most men. Your ex was a bitch for laying the blame on you, but don't get all pissed off just because someone can't cum as easily as you can. I'm sure facing the reality of never getting to experience an orgasm with someone else is a lot harder on them than it is on you.

>>17381657
Came to post this. Thank you for making it easy for me.
Apparently they guarantee orgasms, but I never checked what exactly the company means by that.
If you want it cheaper, I think there's a knock off called satisfyer pro (2).

>>17380233
How is it you that's making her cum if you use a vibrator?

>>17381887

Well as I wrote in my post, I was able to make a woman orgasm before her.
The fact that I spent lots of time kissing/hugging her to make her relax and then literally 20-30 minutes teasing her with the foreplay she likes (she literally was moaning nonstop with pleasure - faked it? not sure - liked it ? im sure), doesn't look like im "getting pissed coz women orgasm needs time". Im pretty sure my opinion about "not letting herself go full relaxed or daddy issues (her dad left them , remarried , calls all the time to tell her he loves her, gives he money , but he refuses her to stay with him bcz next wife is bitch) are not letting her get in state to cum. I think the whole orgaming thing is 80% in the mind ( being as relaxed as you can , being with someone you are attracted physically/emotionally, letting the other person do anything he wants with you because you trust him) and 20% how skillfull he/she is. Thats for the women part. As you said men can cum in an empty bottle if their dick fits inside it, so no point argueing over that

>>17381942
I got the pro version, I have trouble climaxing and can only do it in one particular position.

This really made me help listen to my body more and what it was doing. The climaxes aren't the best from this, in all honesty. But it made me accept some feeling my body has when reaching climax and acknowlege them. Which helps in the long run!

>>17381657
I'm the femanon from back in the beginning of the thread who had trouble orgasming.

Even after I was able to orgasm with my partner (now husband), masturbation still eluded me. I just couldn't quite make it work. I'd gotten some toys, vibrators and such, and they helped, but didn't quite work. I'd masturbate for an hour or two trying to get it to work, for naught.

I saw a review of this and it intrigued me. I know that focused clitoral stimulation is really important for me, and this was touted as the best for that, and "the most like oral".

The price tag put me off for a long time. I waffled on this for ages, long enough for them to come out with a version 2.0 called the 550w.

Eventually I bit the bullet and jumped for it. I got the 550w, because it could both be more powerful and gentler than the first version, and was reviewed even better.

This thing was a game-changer. It's the only toy I've found that works for me. I still use the others on conjunction but if I need an orgasm, this is what I go to.

However, I'm not sure I would suggest just buying it for her. She doesn't know what she likes yet, what kind of sensation works. I know somebody who tried this toy and it did absolutely nothing for them.

Your gf doesn't know what works, yet. The best toys are ones that match with what kind of stimulation is most effective for her. Some people like me need the precise stimulation, some people like my friend need a broader sensation. And as much as I love the Womanizer, it's a very big price tag to potentially waste.

>>17381589

I believe that is exactly what >>17380509 described anon.

Femanons, how many times do you orgasm during sex, on average?

My gf tells me I make her orgasm A LOT, and each time she does it gets more painful for her, but does not stop, and if anything gets more horny.

Don't get me wrong, it's hot, but I don't want her to hurt herself.

>>17383540
It depends. Sometimes it's just once. I've had upwards of eight in one session. It's exhausting and you get really sensitive but it's also really nice.

There are ways to keep it from getting painful. Things get hypersensitive, especially right after, and if you either stop and let it cool down or go really slowly and gently, you can start building up another one pretty soon after.