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I'm gonna need a picture.

Everyone has their shortcomings. For you I guess it's the ability to never be loved. Your only option is to stop caring what people think and try to get other things in life. I know it sucks, but that's your one choice. You know what your other choice is. And don't worry, you are not alone, about 40% ofpeople are hideous and go through life never been loved, it's only the top 4% that really have it covered.

>>17449894
honestly i can't handle being made fun of for how ugly i am right now. there's nothing to do to fix it.

i really just need advice on how i can live without being made fun of or judged or making anyone upset because they saw me.

>>17460388

Maybe its the other way around? That he realised he wanted to be with you and therefore didn't want to mention his past with her?

Also, at the time, you two were only dating for a month. It could be he had mixed feelings back then if he just came out of another relationship.

It does seem trivial, but to what you gotta do. Be polite and understanding about it, though, and be open for whatever the answer may be.

>>17460407
Thanks dude. I knew about this girl at the time and their past, including why he ended up not being that into her. He just didn't mention the party involved her, and that's information I personally would have made a point to mention in his shoes. I'm sure any omission was done with good enough intentions.

>>17460388
>exclusive

So GF & BF or JUST exclusive FWB's?

>>17460367
If you value your virginity and you want to lose it to your life-time partner, but you don't think it'll work, don't have sex with him.
Most people don't make such a huge deal about your dating history as people on 4chan say.

If you think the way you lose your virginity matters, nothing short of doing it in the bed with rose leaves on the night you get married with the 10/10 man of your dream is probably going to be worth it. Your situation is a prime example, there's this person you love and you probably want to have sex with, but you still have some doubts.

>Will guys in the future judge me for being a slut?
Men don't have a magical part in their brain that is able to deduce details about another person's sex life. The vast majority of them will not care, or even inquire.

>>17460385

>The vast majority of them will not care, or even inquire.

Utter, fucking bullshit. Guys do care and they will judge you. Having flings with guys who aren't going anywhere is going to be looked negatively upon by the future husband. You are out of fucking mind if you think a vast majority guys don't care.

>>17460338
your only concern seems to be this "favor". Just don't do it. Be flirty and be polite but don't do anything that would give her an advantage. If you really want to change things up why don't you ask for a favor first?

Neither of your scenarios do anything for you.

>>17460338
Don't be TOO nice.

Don't be clingy and dependent.
Don't compliment her when she's clearly asking for it.
Do favours for her, but don't go too much out of your way for her.
Keep dignity and balance in your relationship.

A big part of it is just about the way you talk to her. Learn how to build a playful, flirty tension between you two. I generally prefer a guy who teases me and jokingly insults me than a guy who is overly sweet and kind to me.

This doesn't mean you have to be an asshole. You can be an amazingly nice and sweet person without being a little bitch. Don't treat her poorly and don't be an abusive prick or something. Be kind and sweet, but don't ALWAYS do it.

You aren't polite, you are nice. You can be polite and be based at the same time, you need to get off this idea that treating everyone like they are a saint is a good idea. Just be yourself and keep the effort level to a minimum. You don't know this person and they don't know you, why should you do her a favour when you don't even know her? If it was me, I would have flipped it and said kiss me right now if you want the favour. If she refuses you can laugh it off and walk away. Maintain control by demanding not asking.

same situation a while back, i had a bigger hemorrhoid but when it popped, instant relief. the wound reopens time to time(small bleeding) but there isn't any pain, the thing is if you have a bad diet and such it won't heal right and it doesn't help too that your butt crack can be often moist. I went to the doctor though they gave me some antibiotics. Prior i took a lot of hot epson salt baths, i guess that helped make it pop.

I wouldn't worry too much, i'd buy some hemorrhoid ointment for now

>>17460339

wut... hemorrhoids aren't supposed to "pop"

>I suspect my chronic constipation and reading while straining to dump logs is what might've caused this.

yeap that's what caused it for sure, weighlifters get hemorrhoids just from lifting weights and its common for preggo women to get hemorrhoids too from pushing babies.

>>17460318
I have the same family setup and we do the same thing. They like you

>>17460325
They've treated me like this for five years. What a shitty way to express liking someone.

>>17460318
Just ignore them.

In the grand scheme of things they mean nothing, are being bitches and bad mouth you regardless of how you act.

My 27 year old wife has dentures because her mom punched out her teeth when she was 16. Try staying civil with someone like that at sunday dinner.

What are your interests? Find places where others share that same interest, join groups/clubs etc

>>17460319
Video Games, Comics and Movies pretty much. Should I look for clubs/groups at my school or around my city?

Check your local events and see if any weekly get togethers are available.

I was honestly like you back in November of last year. I moved to a new city for a new job and had no friends. Tried reconnecting with old friends from the past but the distance was the problem. Looked to see if anything was going around in my area and suddenly I now volunteer and have one day a week were I play chess with guys in my area. We drink beer, talk about life and have a good time. Went from friendless to having a solid social circle.

If you are in school, then it is even better. Plenty of clubs and people you can strike up a convo in your classes man. Make the effort.

>>17460193
Other background:

>He paid for one sister's class behind parents' back to hide bad grades

>Helps them move residence without reciprocation (whole family and friends helped them but only I and his friend helped him)

>Sees them as a golden standard ("well my sisters do/wear/listen to/bought X so it must be good")

>Expected me to answer my phone during class when their car battery died and they needed jumper cables

>They have an app to track each other's location. He was on his phone during a play. I didn't know what he was doing and he got mad when I said something ("I'm making sure my sister gets home safe, is that a PROBLEM?!")

>Becomes angry and accuses me of putting myself above them when I question his actions surrounding them. He has called me dumb, insulted my intelligence, and once threatened me saying "I don't know what I would do" in a menacing tone when he thought I might accidentally hurt one of them

I am always afraid of not doing what they ask. I have given one of them a ride across town because she didn't plan her transportation well. She even made a comment about being able to use the subway even though "My brother doesn't like it." It was like she KNEW I'd fear his reaction and say yes.

Recently we changed a date to a restaurant I dislike. One of the sisters works there and she needed a ride home that night due to riding her bike and it started storming. Once we got there the rain let up and she dismissed our offer of a ride. I was quiet when we left and he asked what was wrong. He blew up at me and called my feelings dumb when I answered that it was not cool to reject a ride when we changed for her.

Is this level of devotion normal? I like his sisters but after his easy anger and meanness scares me.

>>17460195
Maybe he's a sis-con. Seriously though he's acting like their mother, and I doubt even their mother acts like this. He sounds extremely overprotective which you'd expect from an older brother, but this is just weird. I can only imagine what your daughters would have to go through. Talk to him about his anger, and if he responds with anger then I think you know what you need to do.

>>17460268
I don't think there's anything that level. They don't hug or touch each other or show open affection. He thinks incest is really gross to the point of talking about it every time it came up on Game of Thrones. And no their mother is not like that.

Besides the anger, is there a certain level that I should just ignore the closeness?

Like the date change situation; I was going to just think about it on my own but he asked so I was honest. Is there ever a point where I should just let it go and say nothing is wrong even though his devotion inconveniences me? It is possible that one day these girls could be my family too. I want to be able to have a real relationship with all of them rather than having to tiptoe.. And I certainly don't want to force him to become distant from them either. I just want him to be rational about them.

>>17460088
Have you considered that you are needy?

>>17460088
What makes you say they don't care about you?

>>17460093
:/ no

She's your ex for a reason, bro. Move on, have some self-respect. Don't be that clingy child

Dude, best case scenario is I get her back.

She's not worth it, I can dump her. Just as long as I don't fall for the sunk cost fallacy.

She's worth it, jackpot.

Options are always a good thing. If I don't get her, my only option is move on to someone else.

>>17459978
>How do get ex back?
You don't. Life is not a rom-com. This goes double if she's actively trying to distance herself from you. I'm sorry, OP, but you have to let her go.

Do you exercise? Have a routine you do every night? Have you tried sleeping aids?

>>17459957
No
No
Just music I find on Youtube, unless you meant drugs then no.

>>17459944
Melatonin is great for this. Exercise can also help.

>>17459912
Hit up the deepweb, and find a marketplace

Just do meth if you want a crippling addiction

I was on high dose Xanax for years, don't bother. At a certain point all you're doing is feeding your addiction. The drug doesn't even do anything anymore.

>>17459898
Fix my life?

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Force is strong

>>17459885
Wow on a scale of 0 to completely retarded, you went way off the completely retarded end. Who the fuck says "average". Probably best to kys now.

>>17459885
Can't you get your other friends to apologize to her on your behalf? You've blown your chances with her but you might be able to get back in the lan group.

>Do you guys feel like im in the wrong?
Yeah, that was really insensitive. If you get with a girl and then call her 'average' it sounds like you're trying to belittle her. Hopefully she will understand that you were just being dumb.

>>17459885
Reach out to her some way- I know you're blocked, but get one of her/your friends to get you unblocked. Even if you don't have a chance with her anymore, apologise and say "I was literally on drugs, I'm so sorry. I don't think that, I don't know why I said it you're actually really cute. HMU so I can make it up to you."
Then buy her some of her favorite lan snacks.

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>>17459860
WAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA HAUSHSUSHSUAHSUDHAUDHSUAHDUSKKKKKKKKKKK good stuff anon

>>17459860
>should i casually mention something about it or let it slide?
I think letting it slide was what got you in that situation in the first place, amirite?

seriously though, the classy thing would be not to mention it. so they probably won't. if they don't bring it up, you shouldn't either. chances are nobody noticed anyway.

how dark were the slacks/jeans you were wearing? did it soak through those?

>>17459860
let it slide. dark pants from now on OP