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bump because I'm interested in how this pans out

>>17460090
Well, of course this is a job for TOUGH MOTHERFUCKERS

I can tell you something from the other side of the bar; you need to be respectable and likeable at the same time. Which is fucking hard to balance. You cant be a pain in the ass for everyone, but you also cant be a mellow weak fag. Its hard to balance it. One is sure - dont show fear .

>>17460090
dont do it OP
you can do safer security jobs for near the same pay.
unless this is your only option i'd suggest you keep searching m8

Get a better job

Don't be a lazy, entitled faggot, OP. You need a second job, go get one, or learn to do something that pays better.
Or both.

I haven't worked less than 80 hours a week since I was in my mid-20's, Until 5 years ago, I worked 100hrs a week. When I was fresh out of college, and had shit jobs, I just worked 2 of them.

Quit crying. It's your fault you didn't learn something of sufficient value to provide you with the means to support yourself to the degree you want. That's OK, few people actually do that, but don't make it our business when your problem is that you're lazy.

>>17460019
Turn to a life of crime.

>>17460011
it's called dating OP. You are getting to know each other, kiss a little but you are nowhere near a relationship. It's like a probationary period and both can see if they want to have another date to get to know each other a little more. Know too, that she may be going on dates with other guys too and kissing them.

>>17460015
So, is it acceptable for me to go on dates with other girls? Im at a point where girls are literally throwing themselves at me, but I dont do anything because I feel like a bastard, as I really like this girl.

At what point does dating become exclusive? does it vary or am i going to have to ask her some cringy shit? I really like her, we share the same views, enjoy the same things, have fun together, but idk. Maybe I am rushing in.

At the same time, again, it seems life is throwing me a bunch of tests as I feel similarly about a number of diff girls (although I dont know them as much as I know the girl in question)

I dont mind being exclusive to her, but I dont know what SHE is planning/how she feels/ etc so part of me wants answers and to act upon those answers. How do I communicate this at such an early stage? Do I sound too autistic/needy/rushy?

>>17460011
>I might have come of strong
you saying that is exualy really funny and cute. something out of a feel-good-movie trailer

I gues it's superfluous /adv/ but say this:
>"hey anona, I honously really don't know what I'm doing because of *import your history*"

ig? hire a prostitute?

Am I the only one that thinks her body is disgusting? Not because of >muh shitskin, but the proportions? It's really grotesque to me.

>>17459980

She looks fine to me but I understand what you mean

>>17459908
You're a faggot. Finding a virgin only has got to be the most faggot assed cringeworthy advice I've ever heard. The only reason why you would seek this out, is if you're looking for some dumb girl who has no idea to compare whether or not you are worthless or gods gift, because she has nothing else to compare you with. This is a loser mentality that reeks weakness.

>>17459920
>getting dicked imparts relationship knowledge

Yea because sluts are so good at knowing what they want.

>>17459927
Oh yes. Because Everybody who has ever had sex is a slut.

Just shrug it all off, and continue working out and look good. Theyre prob just jealous cause their fatass cant even sit on a normal chair.

talk to them and tell them that you find their words disrespectful. tell them that you enjoy your life and your body and you're doing this because it makes you happy. tell them if they can't accept that then they should keep their negative comments to themselves.

here what I think:
your weight loss is a direct attack on their belief that it's ok to be OVERweight. it's their justification for not taking the steps that you've taken in order to improve your health. this is why I suggest appealing to their emotions as logic may only make them defensive, and in turn more aggressive toward your "thin privilege".

>google bmi chart
>see where you and your family fall on the scale
>next time they give you shit, tell them where you fall on the scale and where they fall (normal weight, overweight, or obese)

>>17459854
You can meet women anywhere.

Is there a particular kind of women you would like to meet?

>>17459854
Library, shops, swimming pool, pub.
In general - everywhere! Go to place what you like and try to talk to girls there.

>>17459862
>>17459864

non-advice

Pirate a DAW of your choice or get Reaper for free. From there, you just need to learn to program and sample. Getting a midi keyboard would help too.

>>17459645
Sounds like a plan, that's actually what I thought what I should do to get started but asking here can never be wrong

>>17459638
>I don't really care how long it takes to get into making music with a DAW
10 years is the average from when someone begins work on their career in music to when they actually make it in the business.

>>17459619
One of the most important life lessons you need to learn is life is hard, unfair and painful.

If you're learning this now you are one of the lucky few that were sheltered from it by your parents.

Nobody had one bit of valuable advice for me after the platitudes in high school

no one on here will have valuable advice for you either

The best advice I can give is that if you want to be happy you should google "self actualization" and figure yourself out from there. Watch videos, read books.

Happiness is what you decide it to be. Not what you're told it is.

>>17459588
Yes, I did.
Pick the frat your friends are in. If there is more than one, figure out which ones are best professionally and choose the intersection between that and friends/personalities.
Your social radar had better be too-notch though or you will never figure it out fast enough.
Most do not take sophomores so you only have one chance.

>>17460876
Top-notch

>>17460878

Also, I guess a few that come to mind:

PKT - well-regarded, high-end professional people, somewhat competitive to rush, plenty of finance and high-end tech people

PBE - very rich alumni, great network, likes huge parties, very competitive to rush, but intense pledge process - good mix of finance, tech, consulting, VC

LCA - jock culture, issues, bad reputation for women; I think they are currently being purged / wiped.

ADP - quiet, bookish, low profile

AEP - very Jewish

ZBT - largely Jewish and far away, but often extremely talented people

Chi Phi - old money, mostly tall preppy guys, mostly tend to go into banking or PE, fair number of assholes but some decent people, very valuable house

DKE - lots of sports
KS - lots of sports

DTD - reminds me of a nicer version of Chi Phi but this is so vague as to be almost useless

DU - odd blend of high-end traditional finance and jock culture, but the latter is not universal within it. Tends to be secretive. I knew two great guys there, but also a couple really unpleasant ones. Good network.

TEP - not a typical frat - more like an extension of parts of Senior Haus or EC's Third East hall. Lots of academics, crazy east-side culture, very accepting of unusual lifestyle choices.

Nu Delta - iirc a black and/or hispanic frat

Number 6 - international students

Phi Delta Theta / Phi Delts - fratty

PKS / Skullhouse - I don't really know

Pi Lambda Phi - lots of traders and high-end software, but also values diversity - generally friendly people

Theta Chi - reminded me of a quieter version of PKT - had some extremely talented and professional people when I was there, nice house and decent parties

Theta Xi - there was something odd about this one but I don't remember what

Zeta Psi - fairly low-key, fairly friendly, close house, decent parties but typically not high-profile

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>women

Off to a good start guys.
I don't think we can have these threads anymore lol.

I'll attempt to revive by asking a question at least,
Does anyone else find that when you get those "pick the picture" captcha that's like, the disappearing picture where you're supposed to keep clicking the like images until there's no more left, that it never fucking works?
Idk if it's just me. The ones where it's just "click the like images" work fine, it's just those "keep clicking till it's gone" ones that don't.

>men

How do I help my boyfriend to be more comforting when something bad happens to me and I need him to be there for me and give me support?

I can deal with most shit on my own, I'm not overly emotional and everyone I know tells me I have a really thick skin. But sometimes bad things happen to me and I just can't deal with it on my own, I need my boyfriend to help me out. I just want him to hug me and tell me it will be alright and tell me he loves me and then say some positive things about me to make me not feel so down on myself. I don't get mad at him for not knowing what to do, I totally understand and I just straight up calmly tell him when I'm upset that these are the things he could do to make me feel better. But then he just doesn't do them. So then I feel like he just doesn't care because he does nothing, but he keeps telling me he cares and wants me to feel better, but he doesn't know what to do. Even though I've made sure to tell him what to do. What do I do?!

>>17459500
Take your sister, dumdum, She's a girrrl
>For Your Health

>>17459500
don't date a girl prettier than you are handsome. you do you will never have a moment of peace.

She knows it and all other men know it and license for them to take their shot and she will be flattered and encourage it

What if I'm a straight girl?

Afterward, she would go out of her way to tell me she thought about other men the whole time. After several months she was vaguely softening. I would beg her to take me back and I'd forgive her for all of it. A couple times she let me take her out, and she'd have a good time, and promise me we'd talk about it, but at the end she had changed into the other personality and would just shut down and tell me to go away. She eventually started seeing a therapist. After two months, she totally changed. She was diagnosed with BPD and autism, and started taking skills therapy as well. By Christmas we were back together. She asked me if I still wanted her or if I hated her. It was both. I took her back, but I almost wanted to beat the living shit out of her stupid crybaby whore face. Every time that I've tried to closely examine that day, or how it felt when she was emotionally cheating, she begs me to stop because she was a different person, and feels horrible about it, and says it reminds her that she doesn't deserve me, and that she barely deserves to live, and that she would take it all back if she could. I understand the guilt she feels, but I need to talk it all out. I never have. She's encouraged me to see her therapist or any other, but I know I can't afford it. We couldn't afford it the first time. It's been three years now and I don't trust her 100%. A part of me died forever that day. The optimism and hope is never gonna be all the way back. I'll always know I wasn't good enough to keep her unconditionally. I just want to get old and die already. I wish I was never born. I love her so much, and she's a better person now, but I don't think I'll ever get out of this downward spiral. I want there to be a God so he can take me away. What do I do? I don't want to live, and I'm afraid to die. I just want to stop suffering.

>>>>>17459478(OP)

You are fucking pathetic. Please use the

helium method.

>>17459483
You are a sad empty man. Just a shell of what you used to be.

>>17459447
From the outside you appear gay, from your view you are what you think you are and from our view it'd be more of a bisexual thing.

>>17459469
Bisexual? I dont want to be gay...

>>17459602
Then follow the norms of sexuality and don't go over to the gay side.

>>17459414
Imvite them over to mc donalds every night and don't eat anything.

What do you guys think of accidental slip falls? Falling on slippery surface and breaking their head.

Kill the cunts then eat them. You'll at least be satisfied and full afterwards.