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I really need some kind of input, because this is an unusual thing to try. I see no problems with it, it actually seems like a very nice idea, but more perspective is needed.

In NY there is section 8 housing, pretty cheap in nice apartments. Might be similar by you.

>>17462017
In Australia we have social workers who do exactly this sort of thing. Perhaps you should try to contact these people about old mate if you have them in burgerland?

You've already been told what to do, and have chosen not to do it. Would us telling you to 'get help' make you any more likely to do it?

There are probably reasons that you are depressed. It may be repressed childhood trauma, being neglected by family, never feeling acomplished, lacking a sense of goal and direction in life, lacking passion and a thing to do, to think of, lacking of significant other and feeling of intimacy.

What it is for you OP? It can be great and horryfic journey to self-knowing, because you might discover some things that your repressed (but have to deal with to be happy) like metaphorical skieleton in the closet.

I would advice geting new creative hobby, learning to play instrument, learning to write, to photo, to swim, to sail, to film, to fish, to shoot, to fight. Point is, it should be new and it should be creative/taxing with some sense of acomplishment. Also reading books helps as you must interpet things yourself and find some things in you that you didn't know about.

Clinical depression happens independently of how good your life is. It's a chemical imbalance in your brain. There's a good chance you can't "pull yourself out of it".

>>17461932
Who the fuck delivers for more than a year or two?

>>17461982
This 15 years wtf OP? Don't you have any goals in life?

>>17461989
You better fucking belive I do. Today has lit a fire under my ass the size of a SpaceX rocket. Putting my two weeks in tomorrow but I just want to prevent as many people as I can from making the poor decisions I have.

It's called getting a roommate. Your living costs literally halve

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It's really not. It 100% depends on where you live, but even in my low cost of living state it would be 54 hours at minimum wage to afford a one bedroom apartment comfortably (as in around 30% of your income to leave enough for utilities, food, etc). If you live in a city of any kind of size, you're going to have to have a decent job first, otherwise you'll just have to resign yourself to dealing with roommates.

>>17461928
I lived with a friend of mine at his place about a year or two back, and it just didn't work out. We're good friends but we still annoyed each other, and he just had a lot of shit going on in his life. Baby, crazy ex, etc.

>>17461930
I feel like I'm going to attract the rage of /pol/ here, but I'd at least be able to get on EBT if I got my own place, as I'm pretty sure I'd qualify. Not sure if that even puts a dent in the cost though.

Well, you have three choices here, only two of which are healthy.
1) Continue to be so paralyzed by your future death that you do nothing, risk nothing, and don't ever really live "because it's all pointless I'm just going to die in 60 years."

2) Realize that you are going to die in 60-80 years and LIVE. Like, really live, try new things, learn new things, push your limits, use up every last precious second. I mean, if you want to be really real, you might not even make it to 24, there's tons of people that die in car accidents, have a freak aneurysm, etc. There are two or three year old BABIES dying of cancer/birth defects right this second, and you're posting on 4chan. Get out there and do something interesting FFS.

3) KYS fgt.

Protip only the second one is the healthy option.

>only 23 but my youth is over

Nope.

t. 33 year old, still feel young

>>17461896
Just turned 33 with a life expectancy of 50. I can't wait to die and be rid of this faulty shell. Until then, I'm going to grab as much life as I can because I sure as shit don't have the time not to.

We're all going to die. Not all of us will be remembered. I will be remembered by my friends and family.

>>17461896
Kinda funny how every 20 something starts thinking their lives are already over or will be soon.

Look son, you think you'll die in 60 years and that is bad, but your fucking heart could stop beating every fucking second.

Think about it, you could die any fucking time for whatever stupid reason.
So man the fuck up and live.

>>17461892
>She told me she couldn't have kids

Holy FUCK why do guys always fall for this?

>>17461918
She has cancer.... I was stupid.... Idk nigga , we think pussy , no babies , fuck it , let's do it.

>>17461892
Bump.

You should really go man.
I'm gonna go to Japan some day soon as well, I think it'd be a whole lotta fun in weaboocountry.

I've already been to Vietnam and fucking loved it.

>>17461874
>personality is ENFJ
>ENFJ
>E

KYS faggot

>>17463259
Aww can't handle extroverts anon?

Live the best life you can, why waste time on energy on them? Use that energy to make your life better.

>>17461843

living your life without them.

then waiting til they eventually add you on facebook (if they ever do) and acting like you dont quite remember them. every time they send a message just be like

>cool
>yeah
>okay
>lol

never the instigator while they see the stream of you being happy

>>17461843

Someone cheated on you for an egg?

Dammit eggman strikes again.
You clearly need to turn the heat up and fry him.

Look though, if you want revenge, you need to remain calm, you can't get too eggcited.
I'm not eggsaggerating, if you work yourself up, you'll just find yourself eggshausted.

That said, if you want revenge, you also can't hide away in your shell. That's eggactly what they want you do to.

Play a barbarian and spend the adventure purging out all those filthy magic scum.

Which edition?

Doesn't really matter, Wizard is always the answer, but humor me.

Play a Monk and say you're a Muscle Wizard who casts Fist.

Alternatively, play a Barb and spend the entire campaign playing a dude who has no magical skills whatsoever, but has convinced him that everything he does in life is a result of magic. Kinda like how religious fanatics think that every good thing that happens is a result of their God praising them, and everything bad is just a test.

He's gay

>>17461833
I'll be sure to let his girlfriend know

>>17461827
Ironically enough I just started training.
If you don't like wrestling, don't take part in it. It's a pretty serious line of work in the sense of putting your body through a lot of shit.
As for breaking it to your friend, he should understand if you tell him your heart genuinely isn't in it. I'd love to be able to train with a bud but if they told me they just weren't into it I'd never hold it against them.

When does he go to work?

>>17461831
He has a ton of money saved up, and he does random freelance writing jobs on the internet. He is a pretty fucking good writer.

Outside of that, he doesn't.

This guy seems pretty cool. Honestly why would you dislike him for his schedule? If you enjoy his company and like him as a person why is this a problem? He deserves better.

>>17461813
>female

There's the first red flag

>Published scientist

nice

>She has a Master's Degree from a top university

nice

>Wears very revealing clothing when not at work

hmm, not ideal but not bad either

>Works a few nights a week as a stripper

holy shit, abandon ship

>>17461813
>Published scientist
What department of science she is in? Because if it's social studies like gender studies, sociology or psychology it's not really science at all this days and classify rather as a minus and red flags than props on her side.

All as the other shows that at least she has some toxic life philosophy and probably major psychological issues. Abandon ship!

>>17461811
Fuck her and then throw her away.

Stop being such a fucking pussy holy shit. If you're the only guy interested in a girl, you should raise your standards a little.

Literally no reason to turn off from this.

I think you're giving too much of a shit about a girl who's not even your girlfriend

Get over it. If you don't feel like seeing her, then don't. Stop thinking about the logistics

>>17461795

life is a struggle to find balance between being yourself and being accepted. at what point is 'self improvement' simply lying about who you are? there are no solid answers, and its up to you to make your way through life.

I have a hard time maintaining friendships beyond 9 months. and im pretty sure its just because im annoying. my antics and humor are funny at first but it gets aggravating fast, to the poitn wehre i become more of an annoying little brother you feel obligated to invite but only to group functions.

I have on friend thats lasted three years, and its only because hes just as annoying as me. but we work so well together and i wouldnt trade him for the world. one day it will of course end, a thing isn't beautiful because it lasts. but until then, I'm content to just be birds of a feather with him.

what im trying to say here is that you need to find more people like you. and its hard, but we clearly exist and the itnenret makes it easier. stop focusing on what ends and just focus on what you have in front of you. and if its nothing, create something new.

i met my most recent friends via meetup.com as there were anime parties and horror meetups with people i could bond with. its worked great so far.

>>17461805
Huh. Thanks man that helps!

>>17461879

anytime man. weve all been there. even normies feel like they're there at some point, even if its not quite the same.

>>17461790

there is no magical location where the monthly meeting of 'interesting girls anonymous' takes place. you are in a situation where allllll types of women are forced to interact with you but find yourself bored. if you dont know your niche, stop asking.

>>17461790
>lives in SoCal
>can't find girls

You're a fuckin homo

>>17461790
rock climbing maybe? I see a wide range of women come through my gym and bouldering is conducive to chatting up strangers. Plus there are almost no fatties.