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Post a picture too. They can't guess what your hair looks like

The problem with haircuts is all the guys modelling them are incredibly handsome. The most important thing is getting a haircut that fits your face.

head shape really makes or breaks that one. Also, you can get away with long hair in the vast majority of universities as long as you wash/brush adequately. Honestly, unless you're trying to make friends in a professional organization, you can be as sloppy as you damn well please.

Brace for a shit storm.

>>17460655
I put her outside... will she be ok?

dont stand behind him.

get local providers. i made this mistake from getting an isp 400 miles away and even tho it was good internet, 800 fucking ping wasnt.

>>17460632
I can't call it for sure but my guess would be that it's an issue with either your wireless adapter if you are using a USB one or the motherboard if you have onboard shit. It could also be your router. Check and make sure all your drivers are up to date. If you have a laptop of something else you can connect wirelessly connect it and see if it stops with it too. If it does then the issue is your wireless router and you just go from there. It's not your ISP since it worked find with a Ethernet cable.

>>17460632
Could be interference. Do a scan to see if most of your neighbours are using same channel as you. If yes then switch your channel and see if that helps. Of course best option is to always use ethernet.

>rape

You need to get out more and talk to people and meet others. Stop watching incest anime . At 17 you're still in puberty and hormones are going crazy so while it's not good, it's understandable that if the only female around your age was your sister you would have these thoughts.

>>17460630
Domo arigato

>>17460626
She sounds kinda like a ho who doesnt know what she wants. So dont feel bad at all. She brought everything upon herself.

Nobody knows if there will be. You got two options jabroni. You either sit around and worry about it. Or you say fuck it. I highly suggest the second option.

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>>17460549

There is nothing to do but spam this. We get this thread every day.

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>>17460549
>>17460559

Anyway, to answer your question specifically, there is this quote, along with picture related:

"You can't wait for inspiration. You have to go after it with a club." -Jack London

The point is that motivation disappears. I am sure you have tried this - get super hyped up by an image, a video, a song, etc. Then, after a day or two, it loses all meaning and does nothing for you.

On the other hand, trying to be a cold, efficient machine just isn't how we work. That's why I sort of encourage people to go to tournaments, share your work on forums, etc.

Getting feedback and praise may keep you motivated. I actually don't do this myself, but I think it's a mistake. Getting hyped up for something definitely gets you going, at least. I do believe most things have to be a well-planned grind though.

>>17460559
>>17460572
thank you for this, good man.

Then break up with her. What is the point of a relationship if it makes you feel like shit.

>>17460568

First reply best reply.

If you try to talk to someone this deep down the rabbit hole then she'll jus accuse you of mansplaining again or think that you're trying to use your patriarchal privilege to manipulate her. Tell her that her attitude has diminished any concept of being equals in the relationshup since you cannot even voice your opinion and you want someone with whom you can speak with at deeper levels than "lol mansplaining" then leave.

>>17460547
The mute button is your cock.

Why are you bringing your other friends into this you moron? It's not their business. Just keep dicking her until she either gets weirded out or falls for you

>>17460600
Yeah man but sometimes you gotta talk it out with someone (preferably with a same-sex friend who maybe had a similar experience). We (with her) agreed that she tells a friend and I tell a friend. For me it felt great to ask for advice, but now I'm here. Thanks for the input anyway, but to keep boning her I have to be in a similar situation which is hard if we don't talk it out and it becomes weird. Even in the 'worst' scenario, I don't want to lose her friendship.

bump for answers

>>17460534
Where do you live?

>>17460540
Is this important?

>>17460534
It sounds like you need to fix your fetish.

Either get help or be a cocksucker.

Cocksuckers never prosper.

T. Big Boss

Nothing wrong with being awkward, you can still get a girlfriend by just being yourself. Never under estimate serendipity. Listen opportunities will come to you into the future and you can fake it or just act how you normally act. Believe me being genuine is a lot better than being fake.

>>17460524
>Believe me being genuine is a lot better than being fake
This is so true

>>17460502

the bobcat is a native american spirit totem that teaches those born under its guidance how to be 'alone without being lonely'.

that being said, here is some of the best advice you will ever here:
>no one takes you as seriously as you do, so stop acting like they do

you assume the entire world is watching you and judging you the same way you judge yourself. you are a peripheral character in everyones life. instead of going in like 'UGH IM GOING TO BE SO CREEPY BUT I HAVE TO TRY' just go in and say hi. if people dont like you they will remove themselves from the situation, and then forget you exist in half an hour. life no better or no worse save for some experience improving your interaction.

keep in mind that just cuz someone isnt into you doesnt mean you failed an interaction. socializing is not 'pass or fail'. its like playing an mmorpg with no endgame. you're simply running around doing whatever interests you. dying out in the wilderness and respawning in town doesnt mean you failed, it was part of your plan cuz you have to go out there several times just to get enough XP.

and even when you get enough XP you just go into wilderness with even stronger monsters. the game is built around respawning over and over and over again. its not actually bad. its just life.

Why, in the ever loving hell would you take a guy's number you met at a fast food line? Idiot. It was totally gay. At most the convo should have ended after you got your order but no you were too much of a pussy to do what was comfortable for you. Instead you got whisked away by his words and he has you wrapped up in web. Now you have to awkward get out of this mess by telling the guy you aren't gay and that the whole thing is a misconception on his part.

>>17460494
Yeah, I realized that. I was fairly tired that day and wasn't quite thinking straight at that time but I want out. So what that fuck should I do? Tell him straight up I want to cut contact with him? Just need a small advice.

>>17460554

Tell him that you are having problems with your girlfriend and that you are looking for his advice. That should give him that message. He might not be gay and so you could still have a new friend.

>>17460481

>rather that losing optimism and being increasingly pretentious is uncool.
>Should I just start pretending to be the youngest age I can pull off

The two are unrelated.

>>17460517
pls elaborate that is too few words to get definite meaning

adult life is shit and will be a manchild as long as I live
fuck your mortgage, car payment, insurance bills, alimony, child support, "hobbies"
it doesn't matter what you look like, act how you want and everyone else can go fuck themselves

>>17460478
>Ira
Leave it alone, when you retire it still won't be much but in 40 years it'll be a few times more than what it is now.

Your #1 priority is paying down that debt. As a general rule you should try to budget your money as 1/3 for housing, 1/3 for expenses, and 1/3 for savings. That savings third should be used first to set up a cushion emergency fund of about 5k that you leave in the bank and never touch unless you lose your job or have unexpected medical or auto bills. Once you have that then start using your savings third of your paycheck to pay down your debt so you can minimize the interest.

After you're debt free you can start investing to save for retirement or major purchases like a home. Personally I favor using a vanguard s&p500 index fund for the bulk of my portfolio since it mirrors the market and has very low fees.

Also if your job has a 401k make sure to pay into it atleast up to employer match since it's literally free money. Also when you put money into a 401k it's pre-tax value (up to a limit, but you'll never come near it at 14/hr) so that's better than taking your pay which already got hit by payroll taxes and investing it on your own, since you'll have to pay capital gains tax when you cash it out.

>>17460520
Right now the ira gets .1% interest I think? Should I try to find another plan with the same bank? Or just leave it like it is and grow slowly? In 30+ years it'll be 8-9k I think.

And yeah, the debt needs to come first. If I added right, it'll all be gone before my next birthday, in January.

What about stock? I'm invested in my company for about 500$ or so, what kinda long term investments are good for people like me? Just land?

>>17460552
that's a retail bank IRA not a real one I don't even know if it has the same tax advantages

also holding a single company stock is just about the worst thing you can do with your savings

Go to Reddit personalfinance and read the sidebar

>>17460432
I forgot to add there's kind of an age gap (she is overage) but it would feel kind of weird. Maybe I'm just overthinking it.

>>17460432

No. She might just be in a good mood, a lot times girls have good energy at a time and might feel friendly in terms of passing out of complements.

Ask her out after work if she wants to go for coffee. That is the true way to know.

>>17460437
I kind of have a thing against dating coworkers just incase everything goes tits up and you have to keep working with them. She would have to be an exception to make me go against that rule.
But I have secretly had a thing for her regardless

>>17460418
i have a bycicle, and i wanna use it, but i cringe at thinking how people would react, and its the same for everything

as a teen i listened to edgy music and people knew it, now wont listen to music i actually like because i fear people find out that i do

what do ?

>>17460418
Move far away. Get a job. Stop caring about other people.

>>17460418
You can get criticised for anything by people who want to pick at you, so just do it anyway. Even if you looked and did the exact things as themselves they would make fun of you for having certain interest or find the smallest little thing they can point out, not even noticing their hypocrisy.
No one is going to make you happy, so you got to start with yourself. Make yourself happy. Do what you like.