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I don't have any way to get away from my controlling parent without becoming homeless. She constantly complains about my inability to drive, get a job, cook, etc, and then actively stops me and threatens to throw me out when she notices me doing these things. I don't have family to fall back on.
What do I do?
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>>17459009
>I don't have any way to get away from my controlling parent without becoming homeless.
Yes you do. You get a job and move out.
But hey, you're going to give excuses as to why you can't regardless of what we tell you
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>>17459009
Maybe learn to drive, get a job, learn to cook ie, be a functioning adult?? How old are you and where is your father?
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>>17459014
It's not that simple if they're dealing with a narcissistic parent. It's about control, and the more OP rebels, the more difficult the narc parent will make their life.
>>17459009
Take any important documents you can find (SS Card, Birth Certificate, etc.), clothes, and any money you have. Then find a homeless shelter. They should be able to help you find the resources you need to get a job and go to school.
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We've all made pretty bad choices right? Have you guys ever made a choice that in retrospect, felt like you signed with the devil? I know there's not always a way out, but can you justify the things you TOLD to do?
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>>17458999
for me, no. the devil deal is permanent, thats the idea is it takes your soul and you cant ever get it back.
what did you do anon?
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>>17459001
I signed up for a certain for a line of work. The picture is VERY related.
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What's that organization about? If you don't mind me asking anon..
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No Sex For A Long Time 2016-08-14 05:24:10 Post No.17458975
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Hi adv,
So basically my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, we met in school and we continued dating after school. We came from a small beach city and we used to hang out at his house on weekends and make love, smoke weed, drink, game etc because his mum didn't care. My parents are quite strict though.
Fastforward 4 years, we have moved to a really big city here, and he has gotten a job as a floor manager whilst I'm studying at uni.
My parents moved with us because they have good jobs and are really stable parents to live with while he and I don't have money yet to live on our own.
We love living with my parents and it's not a big deal as we all get along.
The problem is, we never have time for sex. 99% of the problem is because either one of my parents is always home (different shifts) and our room is next to theirs, and they can even hear us talking at night so we have to whisper.
My mum has broken her leg so she will be at home 24/7 for about 2 months.
He and I are getting really angry at eachother all the time and constantly arguing. And I know it's because of the total lack of sex, we've done it maybe 3 or 4 times in the 4 months we have lived in this city. It's sad because we both want it but we simply can't because of circumstances. Even blowjobs and handjobs etc don't excite us as we want the real deal. It's only natural I guess.
Does anyone have any advice? Or have any of you been in a similar type of situation where circumstances around you prevent you from being able to have sex with your partner??
Tldr: My boyfriend and I have only had sex 3-4 times in many months, since we live in the next bedroom to my parents. Constantly arguing and frustrated because of this.
Thank you in advance everyone for all your help and support.
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>>17458975
maybe rent out a hotel for the weekend?
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>>17459017
Well its just that my dad works on weekends too so one of us has to stay and look after my mum since she only recently had surgery on her leg and needs looking after.
Plus money you know.
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>>17459034
Go have sex in the car next to a nice view or something
Hey /adv/, your generic /r9k/ here. KV, social anxiety, freshman in college, all that good bullshit. However I'm not here for the generic "tfw no gf", don't worry.
My college hosted a raffle as part of the "Opening Weekend Festivities", from what I saw the prizes were mostly 20$ gift cards to local restaurants and about 500-1000 students were signing up so I figured I might as well. So they pass out a majority of the prizes and they get to the "special" prizes. And with my luck I won the prime reserved tailgating space at the football stadium for the home game next month. And since I don't really have a grill, or a truck, or friends to invite I have no earthly idea what to do with this pass.
I can't sell it as it's bound to my student id, and freshman can't have vehicles so if I decide to tailgate I'll need another person to provide basically everything.
So I have this great opportunity to actually use to help meet people but I have no idea how to use it. I know that if I invite too many people it'll turn into a clusterfuck.
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Man, I'd just try and reach around and see who's interested. There could be some people in your common area, even. Maybe try and put up flyers.
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>>17458970
Dude. I only answer "no gf" threads.
you're on your ass on this one.
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>>17458970
>and freshman can't have vehicles
????
you live in a prison?
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How do I make sure I dont make an ass out of myself at parties? 2016-08-14 05:16:13 Post No.17458949
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How do I make sure I dont make an ass out of myself at parties?
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Dancing is usually present, how do I not look like a dipshit doing it?
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don't do it?
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Just keep it cool. Have a cup in hand. All in the head and the knees. Nod and bob with the knees, and you have a decent background character shimmy going. Think of how you nod your head when you hear a good song and enjoy it. Do that.
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Ive thought about doing that, will people be cool with that or think Im a jackass?
I'm about a month into a relationship, and my girlfriend is starting to withdraw from me. When she's rational, she says she loves me and when we are alone, it's traditionally okay, but in groups she gets very anxious about the relationship, and when we are apart she starts getting anxious too. She got out of a very bad five year relationship like a year ago and I got out of a bad four year one like 8 months ago. I've been really patient and been giving her her space, but we went away on two weekend vacations together with mutual friends because we have so many mutual friends. It's been difficult to talk about it, but when we do talk about it I make her feel better, but we just haven't been able to talk this weekend on this vacation much. When we do talk, we get interrupted. She's worried the relationship is moving too fast and is worried that maybe she jumped into a relationship too quickly. I keep telling her everything will be okay, and we just have to let things play out a bit. But how should I approach this? I've just been giving her her space.
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Tell her that you're okay with taking it slow. You're a month in, this kind of thing is natural.
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I said that, but she still feels anxiety, is thinking about breaking up.
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sounds to me like the relationships not wokring. you guys jumped in and had fun but now the bubbles are fading and shes unsure of the actual validity of the relationship.
let her go if she wants. if you have to convince someone to stay with you one month in it only gets worse.
It seems like every day I wake up feeling okay, and I want to do things, but every night I go to bed I feel miserable and I just want to give up.
Is this normal? It's really fucking me around.
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i wouldnt say normal, but it is common. and it can be for many reasons, often times multiple.
first and foremost: physical health.
when you wake up in the morning you are physically at your peak for the day really. i mean if you got a good nights sleep. once you get past the grog and had a breakfast you are fully energized in every way, ready to take on the world.
when you go to bed you are arguably at your worst, exhausted. couple that with the shitty diet you have dragigng you down, and the possibility that you either over or under exerted yuorself, and you have a recipe for misery.
than there is the psychological side.
you probably woke up on a weekend thinking 'wow i can get so much done today, but its still early so i might go on the chan'. at first its fun, refreshing, a good experience. but after 4 hours you feel kinda itchy and to owarm in your chair. your eyes burn and hurt, and you got a hollow headache, but you dont think to use ibuprofen. this is now 'life'. you think about the stuff you want to do but hwen you look at the list its almost hard to read. you go back to 4chan where all you have to do is respond, or you think 'ill lay down a minute to get some energy'.
than you spend the next two hours watching TV. you want to get stuff don,e but then 'wow im hungry'. you eat, and your so full that you got to sit down for another two hours watching TV. you're uncomfortable and should probably get some wokr done, but you might as well fap first. so you do that. now you feel lazy and tired, and kinda hungry. so you eat, relax then fap again.
then its night, you wasted the day but theres no point in starting now. back to 4chan but you feel empty. not as happy. instead of giving advice you go to a baww thread and ask for help and whien a little.
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>>17458932
You need to feel like you've accomplished something.
It's all about momentum. Once you get the feeling of making progress and seeing results it becomes addictive and you will want more.
Harness your morning energy and get somethings done that have results you can see or feel. Don't over-commit the mistake a lot of people make is setting the bar to high and when you don't hit it you beat up on yourself for it and feel down.
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lmao I am the opposite, which I feel is worse actually. I would go to sleep thinking about all the stuff that I have to do and how I will spend the next day completing them. Then I wake up and have no motivation to do any of that.
What worked for me was waking up early so I didnt have to rush to get to work and still feel terrible enough after work to not do anything. If I have time in the morning I can take a longer shower, eat breakfast, maybe go running. In general I felt better about myself during the day, so that day could be when I start acting on my desires instead of waiting until the next day to feel better and start. I have a post it with stuff I have to do. Seeing that list dwindle down is the single most motivating thing I have ever done.
Being motivated, getting things done, being productive, these are the best things you can do to stop feeling miserable and start feeling good about yourself all day, every day. For the longest time I was stuck on the actually starting to get things done part. I dont know if that's what's actually getting you. I dont know if you already get up pretty early anyway. But this is what worked for me.
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Sup /adv/
TIL that of people born in the 1980's when they were the ages of 20-25 6% of them were virgins. 4% female 8% male. Of people born in the 1990's aged 20-25 5% of females are virgins and 24.6% of males are virgins. Can /adv/ please explain as to why ugly/fat girls are still getting dicked down but 1 out of every 4 guys can't even sniff a vagina. Pic related
the sauciest of sauce: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/aug/02/less-sex-please-were-millennials-study?utm_term=Autofeed&CMP=twt_b-gdnnews#link_time=1470171485
I'm reading a study through an article, so perhaps something is lost in translation, but... is the following reading correct re: gender disparity? (percentages correspond to not-sexually-active respondents)
"6% among those born in the 1960s, [compared] to 15% [...] born in the 1990s." (all genders) and "2.3% of women born in the 1960s are sexually inactive, compared to 5.4% of those born in the 1990s"
This suggests that the male stats would have to balance out the women numbers on the other side. (assuming equal numbers of men and women surveyed) that'd be 9.7% (for men from 60s) and something much, much higher for the 90s (~24%).)
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Probably because guys like you sit inside and whine about how unattractive you are all day (when you're actually probably average but have the personality of a wet paper bag), while girls are out there, living their lives. Also, guys here place far too much emphasis on sex and losing their virginity, which just makes them desperate. Girls just have a "it'll happen when it happens" attitude. Also, the more desperate guys get, the easier it is for girls to get sex.
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But that doesnt explain why 1/4 of men arnt getting pussy while almost every woman is getting dick. I know plenty of girls that sit at home watching netflix all day but are just waiting for a guy to come by and make their life interesting. Pic related. And im not whining about shit. im not part of that 25%. It just sucks that literally 1 out of ever 4 guys have to deal with that shit.
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>>17458914
That's the meme, bruh. You can't talk about it unless you're a complete neck beard fedora basement virgin, and if you aren't, you apparently have no right to talk about something that affects your gender, even if it doesn't affect you.
What's worse is that it's always more sad, pathetic losers like said mentioned that are pretending to be girls that perpetuate the meme. Notice how they talk about having no personality while having no personality? Kind of a big fucking hint.
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So my GF broke up with me about 6 weeks ago, and at first we didn't talk, but then she invited me to her house for dinner so we could catch up and talk about the relationship. (Important background- before our relationship, we were best friends). That night, I hooked up with her, and we talked semi-normally for a few days after that. Then one day, when I was viewing my instagram feed, I noticed that she blocked me. I looked around and saw that she also blocked me on snapchat and facebook, and to my dismay, all of her pictures I was tagged in and all her posts on my wall were gone. I panicked at the time and texted her asking if she had blocked me and she didn't respond. I spent the next three weeks being sad and trying not to think about her. This past week, I have been in events in the same room as her and she seems happy and normal when talking to her friends, but every time she gets near me, she gets cold and acts as if I'm not there. I still love her, but it's like she's a completely different person now. I want to rebuild at least our friendship, but I'm not sure how to start while I'm totally blocked out from her life.
Any advice on where to start?
(this may or may not be relevant, but her best friend hates me)
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Give yourself time to become more emotionally distant before you do anything involving her. I know it's hard to not think about her right now, but you gotta focus on just you for now. You're experiencing a lot of emotions right now and we all know that can pollute rational decision making and distort perception. Now's a great time to pick up a new hobby or practice an existing skill!
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OP here- I'm still in school, and she'll be in my psychology class this year. Any tips with that?
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>>17458908
Drop the class and take something else.
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There's this guy who I've been chatting with for a while, and he's told me a lot of things about himself. He says he does it in hopes that I'll be more open and trusting toward him. He says he likes to understand people and play around with their brains.
I actually really want to tell him about some abuse I've gone through in my life, but it's definitely for the wrong reasons. All I actually want from him is attention and validation. In a way, I'm almost glad to have gone through such things, in spite of the fact that they caused me mental/emotional damage, because I guess it gives me an "interesting" past, and it's an easy way to get attention.
Is it normal to feel this way? Should I tell him, or will it just be encouraging shitty behavior in myself? I'm scared that if I never open up to him, he'll get bored and stop talking to me. At the same time, if I don't keep him guessing and just spill everything, he'll have me figured out too quickly, then get bored and stop talking to me anyway. I know this is unhealthy, but I'm not sure what to do.
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>>17458837
Get cancer you fucking attention whore.
No one gives a shit about your "sad" past :'(
Stupid cunt.
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>>17458885
Obviously not, which is why I'm not getting into it here, you fucking sperg. The other person I mentioned actually is interested and does care, though. You're the stupid one if you can't even see that far.
I don't want to be an attention whore, but I'm not sure how to stop it or if I should just live with it.
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>>17458837
>Is it normal to feel this way?
Probably, if you don't feel you get enough attention.
>will it just be encouraging shitty behavior in myself?
Depends on your personality, you are at least self-aware of the desire for attention and reluctant to use your past to get it. That takes Character.
I don't think you should tell just because you want attention. You should want to tell him because you want to feel vulnerable towards him. Keep in mind there may be cues that you have a trouble past that he's trying to take advantage of you.
If you don't mind what's the nature of your troubled past? Don't need intense details just give me a brief overview. depending on the content it may not give you the attention you want or are craving.
21 Dropped out/failed out(stopped going, also fucked up some) out of community college about a year ago. Could never focus on studying/doing the work for the life of me, always at the last minute. Was an associates in IT, which I don't think I even really want to do.
About 10k in debt, if I went back it would be 9 courses out of pocket. I currently work retail part time for 10.50 an hour. The 115 a month, while I don't like paying for something I shouldn't of done, is not an issue. The issue is that I don't know what the fuck I should do from here. I already have debt so I don't think I can really make any big investments on my future when it is just taking blind shots in the dark at what I can actually do/ what will make me money somewhere.
On paper it sounds like I should go back but realistically that would take around 2 years since I would not want to pay for a lot of credits at once (Not that I would be able to in the beginning, or if I would even able to do all of them at once, or at all. I wanted to blow my head off doing a course on spreadsheets in excel which is a class I would have to retake, hate networking too, hate programming too because I can't wrap my head around it at all/have no patience for it).
Even if I got the associates I don't think it would help me since I don't actually give a shit about IT and it can only help me get shitty low end help desk jobs that apparently you don't even need a degree for.
I have no passions for anything but I need to do something, I am terrified of being a piece of shit still doing entry level jobs at 25. I need some type of skill/something, but everything requires dumping money into it and when you don't sentimentally care/like it they are shots in the dark.
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Also, I have thought about military but no way on earth I could bring myself to commit four years of my life into it. Have worked with too many people that were either veterans or got discharged due to some injury, doesn't seem like it has done shit for them since they are stocking shelves with me.
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Don't know about you op but if I was in your case I'd grab that noose
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I was at the same place as you, except I started a little late. I was 28 when I dropped out of CC. I have roughly the same amount of debt you do (around $9k)
I decided that it didn't matter what I did, I just needed to do something that earned me more money than flipping burgers and delivering pizzas.
Like you, I considered the military, but talked to recruiters who claimed I was probably too old, in addition, I had a couple of dings on my criminal history.
All I knew, was I needed a big reset. A reset from everything... so that I could level out, and figure out who I am. I realized to do this, I needed a lot of time alone (I'm very introverted).
So I started really really really researching what would be the most economical way to do this... and I think I found it: truck driver.
Over-the-road truck driving.
Fast forward a year, and here I am. I will have been driving solo across the country for a full year in october. I've had a lot of time to think. A lot of time to see places. A lot of time to rationalize my values and expand upon them. And a lot of time to plan my next move. I've been to every state in the lower 48 except for maine. I got a little puppy from Laredo TX craigslist to keep me company. I talk to her all day, and it's great therapy to have a dogger on board.
I'm happier than I've ever been. The money isn't great (about $1000/week) but it will get better if I stick with it. And what was meant to be temporary for me, may now be what I was looking for all along.
Yeah I just spend the last 2 years lifting, training BJJ, putting myself out there, (I am actually very physically attractive including my body) and some fat neckbeard chubby just walked in with a drop dead gorgeous redhead in tow (I love redheads).
I'm done. After all my hard work I'm never talking to ANY girl again. Im just gonna kill myself since I'm never gonna reproduce. What's the best way to go? Shotgun sandwich or drop to my death?
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Just wait until chubby stops being in. I know what you mean, honestly hate seeing all of these fat fucks with girls, but once a few heart attacks start happening, they'll learn.
$50 says that chick had a kid already before she dragged tubby along to pay for her tuition.
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>>17458791
You should give up you sound like a conceited butthole
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>>17458791
Ok faggot he may have a neck beard but you're the one with the fedora and nice guy anti-swag... Why are you basing your self esteem based on what other people have??? Pure bs selfish envy get over yourself
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Hey /adv/, I got cheated on by my last boyfriend of 3 years and it has really fucked my view of relationships. It's been 7 months since we broke up and while I'm not hung up on him anymore, I don't know if i want to enter another relationship ever again honestly. I thought he was the one, I put everything into the relationship and he still cheated.
I'm at the point now where i'm pretty disillusioned with the concept of marriage and relationships in the first place. I feel like falling out of love or cheating on each other is inevitable, due to my experience and seeing other friends in longer standing relationships cheat as well. Am i wrong? does anybody else feel this way?
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It depends on what type of person you are getting into a relationship with. Some people are more likely to hurt you than others.
Unfortunately, cheating is a common way to exit (or conduct oneself) in a relationship.
Based on actual statistics, I wouldn't say that marriage or happy monogamy is completely hopeless. It is definitely a challenge.
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feelings aren't right or wrong, they just are what they are. and yes, it's pretty common to feel disillusioned after being betrayed. but betrayal is not inevitable. your personal experience is not an accurate reflection of the possible outcomes of a relationship. not everybody falls out of love. not everybody cheats.
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I suppose that's true. I thought my ex wasn't the type to do that, gave me every indication up until the last 3 months he wasn't that type, but i was wrong. I guess i feel like it just came out of nowhere, it was a huge betrayal of trust for me.But numbers don't lie, that is a little comforting
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Can someone be charged for negligence in an aiding and abetting situation? My dumbest friend accidently gave some keys out to the wrong person and a guest was mugged. He's stressing out though and I can't find an answer online.
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Probably not, the more likely scenario is the motel gives the victim a bunch of money and your friend is fired.
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I don't know much about legal stuff, OP, but your friend is probably ok if he didn't know that a crime was going to take place.
you might get more helpful replies if you said where you live. different places have different laws.
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>thug walks in lobby
>"ayo my nigga, my girl is up in room 278 but ya'll forgot to give me an extra set of them keycards"
>your stupid white beta friend, immediately knows that this is trouble, but is afraid to acknowledge the situation for fear of looking racist and starting a confrontation
>"h-h-here you go, s-s-sir"
>"thanks my nigga haha *snicker*"
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Hey everyone I need some /adv/ice.
I'm tired as fuck all the time, like everyday no matter how much I sleep I always feel tired, I can't concentrate on studying for more than 10min and generally feel like doing nothing when I'm at home.
Any idea what is wrong with me?
I work shift so not sure if that is the cause, I mean yeah sure it definitely is hard sometimes, especially when I have to work 10days straight, which happens on a regular basis, but I dunno I'm not that old (24) I think it shouldn't fuck me up that bad.
The thing is I planned on quitting said job and going back to school, I wanted to learn some stuff in advance to prepare myself but I just can't do it.
I don't want to waste more time, please help me.
I already tried going to the gym to get in better shape hoping that I wouldn't feel so weak all the time but it didn't really help and I wasn't enjoying it at all.
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Diagnosis : Depression
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>>17458677
Although there are days where I'm really kinda depressed, most of the time I'm thinking positively and enjoy my life.
I just wish I could use my time more efficiently.
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there's no way of knowing. could be depression, a sleep disorder, an immune disorder, a thyroid disorder, or any number of things. nobody on 4chan can diagnose you. see a doctor.