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It's your move

>>17462225
How can I improve that? I've always gotten along with people but whenever I get really emotionally close to people, I start feeling nauseous and uncomfortable.

Yay:D I am the same: D
I've read some stories about living alone for the rest of my life and about being alone in general and I somehow accepted it as a game rule and now it's fine to be like this
Had a girlfriend few years back and looking back it was terrible
Good thing about this is I don't have to care about how girls perceive me because I don't want to have anything with them
You either accept it out go gung-ho about getting rid of this trait. If you choose the latter and you have an opportunity, get a psychotherapist, they can do miracles

The correct answer is whatever honestly works for the individual and don't manipulate other people into your thing and don't let yourself be manipulated into something.

Monogamy is pretty damn great to me.

>objective
No you idiot.

This word really triggers me.

>>17462167
>just for the connections

Depends on how talented/lnowledgeable you are. For example, why is the picture in your post so appealing? If you can't answer that, than you should seriously consider studying film.

>>17462301

>why is the picture in your post so appealing

lol thats leondardo decraprio he starred in the titanic one of the greatest films of all time????

>>17462167
... you're going to meet fantastic connections no matter what you major in at an ivy. the better the ivy, the better the connections though. which one are you going to?

walk away when they interrupt you.
when they ask why, be honest.

>>17462170
I really should.

It just fucking hurts the most when you'd think someone would know better does it.

Today just wore me out, I guess.

>>17462151
What kind of stupid question is that?
You explain it, only explain the essentials needed to understand it though and if they don't listen call them out for it.
Not listening to what others say is pretty rude imo, so I would just ask if they don't give a fuck about what I have to say or why they interrupt ignore me.

Try to get to the point real quick though, cause I personally hate it if people go on forever without telling me what they initially wanted to.
For example my mother tends to add unnecessary information while explaining things so I often just tell her to get to the point already.

The best way is to make quality content. All the optimization and shit comes second to that.

>>17462129
This OP

Post your channel

>>17462104
Post it on a related forum. I posted a video for a couple of people to look at on a forum, then forgot about it, ended up getting a fair few views and some comments. Literally the most boring, extremely specific video of all time.

>>17462101
Plan on going. You don't know for sure you will ge your period at that time.

If you're sick the day you're supposed to go, THEN give her the $20 to cover the fact that you're bailing.

>>17462110
This is what I planned on doing in the first place, but then I wondered if it would be worse to cancel the day of? It just seems so flakey.

Why not just tell her what you just told us? Also exercise helps with cramps, so maybe hiking will do you good?

>>17462070
Get a job. Jobs instill responsibility because you have to get up and go out to report somewhere. You have work to do, And you get paid, which in turn improves your self esteem because you earned something.

You also meet people at work. A lot of people form lasting friendships with people they meet at work, because it's an instant factor that you have in common with them, and talking points you can bond over.

Socialization is a positive thing. Humans are social creatures by nature. By not socializing, you're denying yourself a very basic need of your species. Whether it's work, casual friendships or relationships, those forms of human interaction are positive to your sense of purpose and growth.

>>17462091
>he thinks getting a job will change your ways

>>17462070
Did you have fun doing that?

>>17462059
Keep going.


In about five hours from now I have to wake up, go to a job I hate, physically exert myself for the majority of the day and come home do more studying/work in a course that I hate. I do it for the future. I'm hoping that my hard work and dedication mean something. I know it's not much saying this to you, you're in a different boat. But I'm trying my best, and I hope you will, too. Maybe we can find solace in that we aren't alone in struggling for a better future.

Good luck.

Talk to your mental health people at your university and explain the situation. I thought I could tough it out like you. I couldn't, burned out, and had to medically withdraw for a semester. I graduated with a decent gpa (3.6+ at an extremely difficult uni known for grade deflation), but lost my ability to compose or intellectually concentrate for a solid year. Do NOT get burned out. It is NOT worth it.

>>17462059
Well your schedule alone is a lot to have on your plate, plus your health issues. It'd be a lot for anybody. So do remember to recognize legitimate stress from outside sources as something separate from your emotional health. You're working really hard. You're probably more mentally stable than you realize, and just suffering from being stretched too thin.

If you really feel like it's fucking up your life and physical and mental health in the long term, it might be worthwhile to take on less strenuous of a workload. However, if you feel like you can make it out the other end of the tunnel, I'd encourage you to remember that a semester is pretty short in the grand scheme of things and you'll have conquered a lot of your stressors in just 12 weeks. I guess you just have to weigh objectively which scenario is most detrimental to your long term goals and well being.

Also, do you still have a therapist? It's important for people, especially for students and people at your age, to have a trusted support network. Even just having someone to talk to for some CBT can help you out a lot when things seem like they're too much.

Good luck anon. I went to a rigorous college and it was hard for me with my mild anxiety, but I had a lot of friends with more serious mental and emotional issues (including one with T1D who got hospitalized for ketoacidosis during his worst year actually) and it took them a lot but eventually they all made it through, even if it took six years instead of four because they needed a break in the middle. Think long term, and push yourself but don't hurt yourself.

>>17462046
>living with socially awkward female best friend
>wears frumpy clothes
>frequently walks around nude
>8/10 underneath
>Boner.exe

I don't want her like that, but she way underestimates herself.

>>17462046
>I don't even want to date her
>>17462067
>I don't want her like that

Why not? You're best friends and you find her very attractive. That's pretty much 2/3rds of recipe to a very successful relationship.

>>17462046
go to bed, ben

>>17462026
>Smoke Weed
>Drink
>Fuck a Whore

Basically live a bit and your find life is more interesting.

so many posts about this. at least I am not alone.

kill yourself then and stop shitting up my board with your nonconstructive posts

if she belittles you she either isn't your friend or doesn't know because you haven't told her

>>17462035
She doesn't do it directly, she hates like any idea I have though, and thinks I'm wrong on many things, when I know that I am right.

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1. being an INFP, you probably keep all your feelings to yourself and expect others to just know what you're feeling

2. why are you friends with someone who makes you think less of yourself and belittles you?

Find something to occupy yourself with, the emotional crap will clear up eventually.

>>17462072
I'm always outside with friends hanging out, playing video games but it doesnt seems to be working.

>>17462015
I did the same thing except 3 years instead of 4. My advice? Ascertain how you feel about the girl before you make any moves.
If you don't love her, you will eventually move on and you'll have a similar or maybe even completely different relationship that you'll love.
If you do love her, you have a lot of hard work and hurt ahead of you bro.

I'd imagine they'd just ask you to explain the situation. I cannot imagine they would punish you for what you did.

>>17462018
Why not do it that day? I mean the situation is pretty clear...what needs to be explained

>>17462029
They probably have procedures they have to follow. Bring you in, bring them in, figure out what happened.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. You should be fine.

>>17461999
You can fuck my pucci anytime, OP

>I'm trying to figure out how many apples I'll have if I take the two I already have plus the two my friend gave me, don't tell me it's four, because that answer isn't nearly complicated and interesting enough to be right

This is how all of you faggots asking for self-improvement advice sound. The answer is obvious.

>>17462482
Care to enlighten me then? Or are you going to continue to shitpost?

You're a faggot OP. You're probably mediocre at drawing and will be a wagecuck/manchild for the rest of your life. Good night

feelings and the desire to do things are intertwined. people doing more things than you (or me for that matter) aren't necessarily more optimistic about it. the common answer you'll get is, "what the hell else am I going to do?" they are compelled to...contribute to society, mate, steal cars, learn about philosophy, pick their nose, draw things...

>>17461983
Forget drawing. Do something you hate to make money. Doing something you love and making money at the same time is a stupid meme