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hey /adv/ I want to talk with someone who knows about psychological blocks because I think I have a chronic block or something that feels like that.
21 yo, studying at school, living with heavy bills (mother has cancer, sister is a schyzo), I'm unemployed but looking for a job, not a lot of friends, overweight but not obese all that mambo jambo, used to be fit and go to the gym but I don't have the money anymore. So
I really need someone who has a similar problem. I wouldn't call this stress but suppose I want to commit to something, be it a hobby be it studying something be it working on side projects etc. the thing is I can't. I just fucking can't
I just stay static, all day on 4chan or applying to jobs or playing pokemon, I am not depressed or anything, I am not dull either, I'm happy whenever I'm with my friends (once a week) but I feel like my dreams are all useless and I can't move to do things for the sake of me, I'm afraid of something, It gives me an insane amount of anxiety and I don't know.
people say it's temporal (because my sis and my mom will get better) but I feel like this state it's never going to end and I just want to cry sometimes
I also believe in strong will and I value will a lot. not having a strong will to do the things I wan't to do is making me hate myself for being so useless. and I compare myself to others so much, they all have such happy life I don't want to be a bitter person.
what can I do to get out of this block? is there a name for this? and I'm sure it's not depression anyway I wouldn't have money for a doctor but I want to get out of this
any similar experiences?
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>>17464552
bump
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pick something and work on it, stop making up reasons not to pick something
it's because you're not improving on something
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>>17464816
I'm not making up reasons not to do things I love. I just find it extremely hard to do them till the point I don't do anything.
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need some advice
got an email from a betting account I haven't used for a few months saying I had cash in my account still. logged on and had £1140. I could only see 4 months bet history and I used it last 8 months ago. thought whatever and must have won a bet and completely forgot about it (I've done this before). withdrew the money and now, 4 days later it is in my bank.
I rang the company earlier to confirm it is mine and they said they had a system error and said that it 'would be nice if I could return the payment'.
also 24 hours after I withdrew from my bet account, I had an email to say it has been confirmed and will arrive in my bank in up to 3 days... so they've actually confirmed it. surely I can't be in the wrong here and they've made a mistake..
what should i do? can I get in trouble if I keep it?
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>>17464540
>can I get in trouble if I keep it?
Where are you?
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>never able to keep friends for more than 6 months
>always seem to get in a fight with them
>when i go over the chatlog it always seems like they initiated it
>often been called a cunt
>genuinely don't know if i am a good person and just attract shitty people because i was abused or if i really am a massive asshole
>become depressed as i feel like a piece of shit
>realize i never really add anything to relationships
>too poor to see a therapist
What the fuck is wrong with me?
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>>17464496
Stop feeling like your opinion is the only thing that matter and that you have to share it otherwise everyone will be idiot.
Try to genuinely enjoy learning about people and their lives. You would be surprised how interesting the most random of people are if you just let them spill it.
I try to see people as tv shows with really unpredictable plots.
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>>17464507
That's not what causes our fights though. It's generally dumb shit but it always seems to happen.
Trust me, I want nothing more than a friend who confides his feelings in me.
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>>17464496
> relationships
> chatlog
I know this is 2016, but you should really get out more
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So I've been chatting and hanging out with this girl for about 2 weeks now, and she seems super into me, to the point that even an autistic retard like me can't really miss it.
And yet, she is an international student, and i just discovered she is finishing her degree in January and going home to her country, for a while.
So what the hell, it doesn't make any sense to me, and i feel like this is now a bad idea, I'm falling for her hard, but she'll just be gone in 4 months. I know you might say she just wants to fuck, and I'm down for that, but the way she is going it seems like she wants a relationship. I mean we spend hours all night talking about books we're reading and things we want, etc.
What the hell does she want? I'm pretty sure i wouldnt get involved with someone if i knew i was leaving soon.
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Sounds like she just wants to be friends. What does she do that makes you think otherwise?
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>>17464495
women are happy with brief emotional flings.
That is what you are.
You can swing and try to hit that before she leaves or just let it roll.
Don't get emotionally attached though! Women don't give a shit about the logical heartbreak and long distance suffering that will happen if you try to make it work.
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>>17464523
Keeps calling me cute, asking to hang out, offering to cook me her countries food, wants me to teach her games, talks to me for hours every night, stares at me like crazy and thinks i dont notice, same thing with making sure we end up sat together.
>>17464526
I'll try hit it, but i do really like her, she's so intelligent and funny. I'm not doing LDR though, not again, fuck that.
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Grill here, whats the best sites for seeking a sugar daddy where i will less likely raped and thrown off the turn pike?
I'm 23 and in college and not obese and hideous by personal standards
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>>17464435
i hate you
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>>17464435
being with a sugar daddy is pretty much prostitution.
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>>17464435
>thrown of the turn pike
I hope you get impaled on a spike
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I need help guise
My gf was sexually assaulted by her hick cousin a few years ago. Under the state's law it happened in, sex crimes against any person under the age of 16 has no limit. I want her to report the fucker to the police, get a trial started, since her shit parents didn't do anything, since her dad is a hick himself, he didn't think it to be a big deal. What do? She doesn't wanna do anything, and it's out of pure laziness. Do I go behind her back? Do I pressure her? Do I buy a gun and shoot the fucker myself?
>Inb4 kys
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If you have proof everything could work out your way
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>>17464429
Girls pull this shit all the time. They say they were sexual assualted so you shower them with princess attention. But they always have an excuse why not to report the crime despite the fact that if they just say rape or sexual assault the dudes in jail for 48 hours and cops will believe anything she says.
Just ignore it. Even if she was assaulted you need to respect yourself enough do what needs to be done.
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Yes because a girl who was actually sexually assaulted wouldn't go to the law immediately. Fucking cunt is lying trying to get attention.
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>go skydiving and diving
>never felt fear
>3.8 GPA
>never excited before writing an exam
>see cute girl
>want to talk to her
>FULL PANIC MODE
>cant think straight
>dont know what to say
>1000 ifs and whats aa re running trough my head
>she leaves
>feeling stupid
>make up lame ass excuses why it was right not talking to her
why am i such a beta cuck when it comes to girls? I'm 25 and never had a girlfriend. I also hate parties so its kinda hard for me to talk to a girl in an "easy situation".
How to get qt3.14?
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Why did you include your gpa in your story you autist? What does that have to do with anything?
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>>17464428
Just go to parties faggot. No one has to know you don't like them and it's 10000% harder otherwise.
Other than that, join a hobby, do interesting things, grils are bound to be there. If you want to get grils you can't act all high and mighty even though you're some virgin cuck.
It's the sad truth lad. Get gud and good luck. You're obviously smart and interesting in SOMETHING.
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>>17464447
Also, if you're 25, you're probably well out of undergrad so all the easy ways to meet people in college are essentially gone. So, I reiterate my party idea. GO TO THEM!!! Just tag along with any chad friends you have.
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What the fuck am I doing with my life.. 2016-08-15 21:31:57 Post No.17464423
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What the fuck am I doing with my life..
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I don't know what to do next. I'm so anxious, I hate everything.. I don't know if i'm ready for the real world yet. I was in special ed throughout all of school. I'm living with semi-senile parents. I've been sitting on my computer for the past month or so and I can't figure out how to move on. I don't even have my license yet. I'm going to college I guess.
All I want to do is sit at my computer. How fucked am I? I also asked out a girl and got rejected, and as an ENFP this has led me into a downward spiral of depression. I used to have motivation.
I want to be successful, have a beautiful wife, kids, nice car, have a nice house, etc. I want money, yet I don't want to work. Help?
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>ENFP
>This Mayers Briggs bullshit isn't gonna die, is it?
OP, for someone in special ed and your family, you sound quite normal.
Read this first for motivation (I know the site is shit, but this article sums it all up): http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person/
My personal advice: Shut down your computer, plug it off and put it in a box far away. Then go outside, talk to REAL people and sit on a bench until you figure out, what really interests you. Then come back here.
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>>17464423
get out more.
Growth comes from suffering. even suffering as minimal as getting off the computer.
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>>17464465
Okay, I'm feeling motivated now. How do I deal with my semi-senile parents then?
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Help me with my collegs major 2016-08-15 21:25:35 Post No.17464408
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I'm deciding between majoring in Petroleum Engineering, or something with Renewable Energy Engineering.
At the moment, I would like to do my Bachelor's in America, then get my Master's in Norway since they have tuition free university for even international students. I would get my Bachelor's there, but they only have about 5 courses for Bachelor's taught in English. I plan on taking Norwegian Language Courses while I'm there too.
I planned on moving to Norway sometime in my life, & I've heard that it's almost impossible to get a serious job with just a Bachelor's since everyone has access to tuition free education so this just gives me more reason to study there. Norway also has a huge Petroleum industry, but I am afraid that Renewable Energy will overtake Petroleum & I'll be fucked over if I major in Petroleum Engineering. Is this possible in my lifetime? (I'm 18).
I know you get taxed to shit in Norway in exchange for free shit but this is what has drawn me to Norway in the first place.
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Just out of curiosity, have you ever been to Norway (or any other scandinavian country) OP?
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>>17464420
I actually haven't, but I have family in Sweden & very close friends of my parents moved to Norway a couple of years ago.
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>>17464408
You should major in Chemical engineering, the petroleum industry will still hire you and your major won't be so niche that you'll be locked into a boom/bust.
It'll also help you transition into renewable energy if your economic situation changes.
Just look what classes the industry wants you to take.
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Sorry, I would've posted this at 420chan, but I wanted a response sometime before 2017.
Relative newbie to sniffing drugs, I've done small bumps of cocaine but never really got high much. Most recently I've done Molly, but the same thing happens every time. I end up just sneezing it all out and being congested the rest of the night instead of high. What am I doing wrong? Not sniffing hard enough? I heard you can snort too hard and end up swallowing it anyways. Please help.
In b4 drugs are lame and I'm a degenerate fuckbag and I should kill myself. I'm working on it.
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I thought this was funny.
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Don't do drugs
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>>17464406
You are too hsitant in your snorthing.
Snort hard, close the other nostril with a finger, don't sneexe the powder away or your friends will kill you.
After snorthing once, keep sniffing to keep it inside
You WILL get nasty drugslime coming from your nose down your throat, this is normal.
420chan is still a better board for slayer than here, even if response times are slower
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How do girls feel about former drug addicts? How do you guys feel about drug addicts in general?
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i dunno, every person is different in how they act and deal with addiction.
i'm currently dating a recovering alcoholic. i like him enough to stick around, i used to smoke 420 every day for over two years until i moved down closer to where he is and my best friend. i've been mostly clean now that we are dating, since i know it's a big thing that their significant other be clean too.
i have a lot of empathy and he says i have a lot of patience and that i'm so good to him. i know it can be hard on the person recovering, the loneliness, how they think no one understands and the immense pressure it is being in a program that seems like they are too hard on you or it's your life in jail...but it doesn't have to be, i try to let him vent. i'm not perfect either and some times i mess up and he gets upset, but i know we all have room to grow and can say we can do stuff without the help of drugs and alcohol. create goals together. etc.
i hope anyone out there reading really listens when i say YOU CAN DO IT, I BELIEVE IN YOU <3
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I think that's great that you were able to overcome that, but I don't think I could ever date someone who is. My dad was an addict, and I'm basically a teetotaler in terms of all drugs.
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>>17464336
Sad. Drugs are way overrated, nothing but a poor substitute for real achievement.
Go out and do something to find profound happiness. Best drug there is.
Remember: Work is its own reward.
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My bipolar girlfriend and I have been living together for a year as of this October, and it's been rough. For the first six months it was fight after fight after fight followed by making up, etc. Got better for a while, but recently she has been depressed and she went on Wellbutrin because the doctor doesn't understand she wants something different. She got mean, hateful, weepy, etc. Same stuff as in the first six months.
For a while, I've been complaining about having no friends. Well, there's a local place where they play tabletop RPGs and I wanted to check it out. Also wanted to try playing online. Since I decided I was going to do this, she's been crying nonstop. I've got a game of D and D on roll20 in three hours and she went to her sister's after crying all day. She told me to find a game today since I spent the weekend taking care of her, then she got sad again. It's at the point where I'm not sure I could enjoy the game tonight or the event tomorrow that they call "Tabletop Tuesday". She rarely wants to do anything, and she doesn't like video games (though she did play some in the beginning) or anything else, really. I bought Game of Thrones Monopoly at her request hoping that would give us something new to do together that involves staying home, but we played twice and didn't finish the first game. We watch Netflix, but she gets bored with that too.
I quit my job to take care of her because of some badness that happened early this year, and now I'm wanting to get another one.
All in all, she's doing better, but I need some way to convince her (and I do everything for her) that this isn't some huge change, I just want a friend or two to talk Trek or play vidya now and then.
She kept saying before she went that she wanted me to play and have fun, but it made me feel so awful, I'm not sure how that will work. I took a mg of klonopin a few minutes ago, and about to light up while creating my character, but I just don't know if I'll be able to have fun.
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I love her, and I know she loves me, but how do I make her understand that having a friend or two won't change that.
She's older than me by nearly six years. I'm 26 as of May, and she'll be 32 in October two days after our first anniversary. She's been married three times and she's constantly paranoid I'm gonna leave. Sometimes she shuts down and says she's leaving (happened several times, breaks my heart every time) or yells at me, calls me names, etc. I've done some yelling and lost my cool a few times too, but usually after days of enduring her treating me badly. She can be so sweet. You wouldn't believe it, but then other times the dark passenger takes over.
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>>17464326
In the words of the great Nelson Algren,
Never eat in a place called Mom's, never play poker with a guy called Pop, and never fuck anyone crazier than you are.
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So yeah, how do I convince her having a couple of friends isn't some first step to me leaving her?
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Is free will a meme?
I don't like who I am, but I feel like it's impossible for me to change it. I can't help but feel lazy and unmotivated about doing my job. I can't stop feeling insecure and anxious. It feels like the harder I try to "will" myself out of these things, the worse they become.
Anyone here been able to better themselves?
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>be mentally ill (depression)
>be surprised you can't get over it on your on
Look up the symptoms of depression. If it sounds like you, go to a doctor.
To answer your question: yes, you can change yourself. It's hard, but possible. It's REALLY hard if you're depressed.
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>>17464306
I started getting treated for depression when I was 13, I'm currently 20.
I'm on Citalopram, which helps me not be an anxious wreck, but I still feel like shit. Therapy e.g. CBT never did anything for me.
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>the antidepressants meme
Holy shit, when did people become so lazy and gullible that they believe simply taking a pill will fix their lives?
OP, you need to fix your life. Get a hobby. I'd say start lifting, and also put your feelings into writing or literature. Also, go out and try meeting people. Talk to girls at work or get Tindr. And if your job is really bringing you pain, quit.
Try to do this daily: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zD-3j2g9w9U
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I just broke up with my girlfriend of 1 year last night and I just can't stop thinking about good memories, such as hanging out last summer, the times talking hours on the phone, going on our first couple dates. How do I stop thinking about these memories? I want to stop thinking about her.
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>>17464287
Come back if you're still obsessing over her in a year.
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Day by day.
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>>17464287
you're gonnna carry that weight
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Any good studying techniques for someone who's never studied in his life?
High school was piss easy so I've literally never sat down and studied and I start Uni tomorrow. I am studying Japanese on my own, but I only do my Anki reps everyday and read visual novels or something for that.
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Study engineering and don't waste your time with Japanese crap. Seriously stop wasting your time and money with shitty degrees.
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>>17464276
>Study engineering and don't waste your time with Japanese crap
Japanese isn't my major. I'm getting a Math degree with intentions on going to graduate school and becoming an astrophysicist.
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>>17464279
A math degree is useless. Fucking idiot.