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>>17462425

do you want to?

or lets put it this way
>if no one would ever find out, would you want him to?

Do you care about doing homosexual things?

No? Go for it. Yes? Still go for it since you're still a fag

>>17462430
I feel like i do, but i feel like id feel ashamed after

How to know when you should not let it pass, like what if i feel cognitive dissonance like many
How do i know its worth it man

>>17462423
You are in love with the memory of your lost youth. Go buy yourself a red sports car.

Feeling will pass.
It's just youthful nostalgia. Don't be one of those sad old people who desperately try to cling to it.

>>17462421
Strabismus is usually an issue with the muscles that control how the eyes track, probably not what you have going on. The surgery fixes their alignment by shortening or lengthening the muscles such that they're symmetrical across both eyes, but that's not likely to help you if yours is due to blindness. There are other means of treating eye-tracking problems, some of which are just exercises and shit. Have you tried looking in the mirror and trying to look left and right, for instance?

What is the cause of your blindness? Was it trauma to the eye or something neurological? Also, why aren't you asking your doctor?

>>17462421
>due to sports

well, that's your own fault

>>17462452
trauma from a retinal detachment. I am going to make an doctors appointment soon about it. My retina doctor said it might not work, but my cataract doctor said he would do it if it were him. So they recommended me to a normal eye doctor and I need to ask him

>>17462416

buy one in person. the only person who will know is the person working the register. you leave with it in a bag and bring it in to your home at your leisure.

>>17462416
Buy a visa gift card/prepaid credit card with cash. They sell them at big grocery chains. Or use ebay and paypal balance (shows up on your statement as deposit to paypal).

Don't worry about the shipping, usually they come in discreet packaging that says nothing about dildos or sex.

Also, come to think of it, they're usually billed as something vague on the statement. My fleshlight showed up as "ILF entertainment inc." or something like that. You could probably google it hard enough to find out what it was, but on the statement itself it looks pretty innocuous. They're used to selling to people in your position.

>>17462422
Feel anxious to walk in and stare them in the eye with a toy like that

>>17462414
bump, also interested

>>17462414
Well, you'll need to learn the alphabet. The way I got good at it (besides writing actual russian later on), was to try and transliterate every word I saw into cyrillic. Literally anything written in front of me I'd try to rewrite in cyrillic underneath.

The language itself is kind of confusing because it uses cases, whereas english doesn't do that all that much (besides things like who and whom technically) because our language has strict word order and different grammatical structures. Knowing how these cases work and what they look like in sound and writing is an important fundamental. Same goes for grammatical gender. There is also some weird shit with the verbs they use for going/driving/walking etc. that is hard for english speakers to grasp, but you don't need to worry about that too much as a beginner.

I would suggest torrenting the pimsleur course on russian for some phrases to memorize (they're usually pretty touristy) to get some vocabulary and speaking practice, and then looking on the internet for lessons on russian grammar so you can try and figure out what's going on in the phrases you've learned.

Eventually, with enough vocabulary and a grasp of the grammar, you can basically absorb the language organically from then on.

There is also a russian duolingo now, I believe, and that's pretty helpful too.

>>17462474
Wow! Thank you very much for taking the time to time all of that out. Really appreciate it!

>>17462385

b/c you're a faggot without real problems

>>17462466
Thanks for the shitpost anon, but that doesn’t make me feel much better :(

>>17462385
I get anxious over stupid minor shit a lot too. One example is I bought one of those "adult coloring books" where the cover has all these taglines like "stress free!" "relaxing" "relieve stress!" and I'm having trouble even starting on more than half the pages because I'm worried I'll regret my color choices, and have tried desperately googling looking for examples of filled out pages so I can just copy them and not have to choose.

Most importantly I'd advise you not to go for the self diagnosis route. It really doesn't sound like you actually have obsessive compulsive disorder, and there's no real call to call it that. People who tell others that they have a disorder without actually getting a diagnosis just sound like they don't know what they're talking about, imo. If I were to sum up what's going on with you in just a simple descriptive word rather than a clinical disorder I'd call it being neurotic. I think a licensed therapist could identify it or diagnose it best, though.

As for actually getting rid of it, I'm not sure I can be of much help. I just try to avoid situations that make me anxious, and if I find myself in them I take some time distracting myself doing or thinking about something else to chill.

Check with a doctor on that anon. I'm pretty sure they can use botox injections in certain parts of the body so if that's something you'd be willing to try it might be worth it.

>>17462377
There's a pretty good chance doctors won't be able to sort that stuff out.

What about just washing your sheets/pillowcases every day? Would that be a viable solution?

>tfw no sweaty gf to lick sweat off of

you're living the dream OP

Not sure if this is b8 or not, but if you're serious about this…

Own up and embrace that name. When you get given a nickname, it sticks. If you run like a coward because your friends are making fun of you, you'll just look like a moron.

Also, the sooner you embrace that name, the sooner they will get bored and stop calling you that.

>>17462364

>'puddin

You mean smooth and sweet and makes people happy?

Sounds like you really need to take a look at who you associate with and why. If they go out of their way to make you feel uncomfortable, then that's pretty abusive. Why are you distraught over setting boundaries?

Think about this, 'Puddin.

>>17462364
>It's fucked up!
You know who else gets called Puddin'. OP? The Joker. The motherfucking JOKER gets called Puddin', and by Harley fucking Quinn, no less. You do not fuck with the man called Puddin'. He will fucking END you, and that's if his fucking batshit sex-warhead of a girlfriend doesn't get you first. Fuck.

Ahem. So what's the problem with Puddin' again?

>>17462357
You are the only constant. Your fault.

But.. cheating is your fault
Sounds like a lot of this is your fault

Welp, thanks, I know what to do now

>>17462310
>Not really advice, I kind of just want to do some half-ass venting. How many of the rest of you have violent OCD where you see yourself killing someone, or doing something gross, or doing something embarrassing, especially in a social setting?
This is called unwanted thought syndrome. I think everyone experiences it sometimes to some sub-clinical extent, but it is a very common form of OCD.

I do the talking to myself thing, though. I never do it in front of others because I'm hyperaware of my surroundings, but I definitely do it whenever I'm alone. It's like I'm talking to an imaginary observer, or sometimes I imagine how I would explain things to my imaginary kids and I find myself doing it out loud.

In any case, you could manage both of these with some really entry level CBT.

OP,

As far as the talking to yourself thing, I started doing it more and more when I started living by myself. I enjoy it to be honest, it makes my life a lot more fun when I can happily tell myself jokes and laugh.

This really hit home for me, everything you said. Except the punches in the air. When I think of myself in embarrassing moments I make a loud noise to clear my mind, my family is used to it by now.

>>17462281
arugula

Post a pic and personality traits so we can think of one that's fitting

>>17462281

Draven (prounounced Dray-ven)

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>>17462277
I think you mean bernouts

>>17462288
What a funny sage.

This is what happens to chads once mommy and daddy let them out into the real world.

What does this IP configuration error mean? It sounds like something that could be related to my method of connecting to the internet, but I'm really not sure.

Whenever my session runs out normally, or when I connect with a new address, I connect to the internet fine but I'm redirected to an xfinity sign-up page where I start the session. This error started when I hadn't changed the address or anything, and it's definitely the same address that always works (and still sometimes does) so I don't think it has to do with the legitimacy of the method itself

I've also tried to re-start the extender/internet in every possible way but simply disabling and re-enabling it never did the trick. I also tried connecting without the extender and it didn't work but I don't know how long it would normally take to connect to it that way.

What could the real problem be? I'm pretty sure it's not the extender (I did manage to connect to another public network but the connection is only randomly available and I had only 1 bar and couldn't load any pages so it's hard to be sure) and I don't know if it's my computer or xfinity at fault here.

If you've used an xfinity public hotspot, can you confirm that xfinity has been down (with the problem being on their end) but seemingly available when you don't try connecting to it? How probable is it that my windows network diagnostics were wrong, that it was a different issue or that it was xfinity's fault? Why is network diagnostics able to fix the issue occasionally but not usually?

>>17462380
accidentally deleted this paragraph when I was removing some unnecessary information

This problem has occurred occasionally in the past, but every other time I just unplugged my internet, went to sleep, and woke up to it working again. This led me to believe that the problem was on xfinity's end, but I can't test it with other networks as no unprotected ones are in range. I do know that regardless of my connection, the xfinity hotspot is ALWAYS available, it just doesn't work after I connect to it. I also always have full bars and the wifi extender's program always displays varying levels of speed as if I'm actually connected.

I realized a probable source for the problem while typing this all out. Although it wasn't the case in past occurrences, every time that my internet failed after working this weekend has been while torrenting. I didn't consider it would have this effect on my internet, as I've torrented a lot in the past

The problem always came back shortly after network diagnostics fixed it, but I just tried leaving my torrents alone and now it's lasted for over an hour. The problem also started while I was torrenting last night. I should have tried this before writing the previous posts, but I'm still not sure if it's the problem as earlier in the week I got this issue but wasn't torrenting

>start torrent
>average-solid speeds (for free net anyways, like 60-200 kbs)
>slows down after a bit to like 5-30
>unplug extender and plug it back in, which has helped jump start my torrents plenty of times before when they were being slow
>speed goes to like 200 kbs minimum almost instantly
>within 5 minutes the connection dies
>get IP configuration error again

could download speeds that are too "fast" put a strain on my shitty connection or something and cause it to break until I fix it again? Would xfinity throttle some specific user's connection completely like that for such a low number? I've gotten 1mbs on this connection and been fine in the past. I mean if they kept having to do it wouldn't they have a better way to lock me out? What does a valid IP configuration have to do with this kind of thing? It's not like I did anything to change it, unplugging the extender never disrupted it before and it seems to be the only thing that fixes the torrent speed issue (which always drops to snail speeds)

and as I was typing this my internet died again of its own volition without me torrenting or even loading any new pages, so maybe that isn't the issue here

I should have written this more succinctly and won't get any replies but oh well I'll check this thread once in a while anyways

>>17462224

until you are ready to say 'you're my girlfriend' you cant expect someone to throw everyone else away.

if you are still deciding whether or not they are worth being your girlfriend, then why shouldnt they be allowed to do the same?

thats the general cut off time. once oyu sit down and have a talk, however shorti t may be, about what you are.

Just bring it up like. "My friend is dating like five girls, that shit is to complicated for me. I guess I'm more of a traditional romantic." And gauge responses.

>>17462235
Cont. Also you can't really get them to change their dating habits in one date. Or expect them too. If it's that much of a turn off what you want basically is to get the information of "do they do X?" Earlier, so as not to waste time.

What even happened? It's hard to give advice when we don't really know what's going on.

>>17462219
Someone posted my real name replying to a post I made on /co/ while I had some artwork I had done posted. I keep my artist pseudonym separate from my actual name due to the pornographic and offensive art I sometimes draw... the person also suggested, I stop playing a game I had open at the time on steam which is how I know it was someone I know irl because I never give people I met online my real name, nor do I ever give them my steam.

cry more faggot

every developed country is now a police state so any anonymity you thought you had was an illusion anyway

get over it.