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Community college is like a high school where it's almost impossible to make friends, and the only person who will talk in class will be a 34 year old mother who relates everything the teacher says to her kids, or a 28 year old guy who claims he was in the navy and has no self-awareness.

I went to CC before I transfered to Uni.

It highschool 2.0 in the entry level classes like eng101.

but in higher level classes it starts to feel more like college, but smaller.

Dont fuck up OP, get good grades or it's over for you.

>>17482217
thank you dad. i won't fuck up.

Of all the places you could teach English, why would you pick Russia?

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>>17482169
I like the culture, I'm really fascinated by it and I think that I would do well over there. Plus, I have a thing for slavic women.

>>17482163
Suppose you were trying to learn a foreign language. How well would you want your teacher to speak English?

What's your personality like?

>>17482125
I can be quiet at times, sometimes goofy/awkward. But I can hold a conversation, so it's not like I make things just unbearably awkward. I'm not really funny, and that works against me.

It's kind of hard to answer since this is 4chan and we don't really know what you're like in real life.

Is it possible that you just don't have a friendly appearance? Maybe you frown a lot or have a slumped over posture, like you don't want to be bothered?

Or maybe you're intimidating looking? Like are you a 6'7", 250 pound guy?

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>>17482081
Was smoking for three years, tried quiting cold turkey and failed. Tried again, havent smoked in five years. Its literally all in the brain man. Just gotta keep telling yourself no when you get the urge. Its the same with any addiction. Mind over matter. Its harder than it sounds, but everyone is capable. You just have to be able to tell yourself no. Its like forcing yourself not to scratch a bug bite, because the more you do, the more it will itch.
Quoting an addiction is the best discipline you can learn. Complete this and you will be a lot stronger.
Keep your stick on the ice. We're all in this together.
>also, ecigs are better for you, but they do not remove the addiction. They just move you to an ecig addiction and make you more prone to addiction in the future. I wouldn't do it

>>17482115
thanks man, this is what I need. And that picture of goku oddly helps too

I've quit a couple times but I'm back on rollies.

Every time I quit I replaced the addiction and soon I couldn't supply that new addiction, like getting a frape every time I craved. The entire process of driving, buying, and waiting for the frap cured me for that time being.

I was actually fine until I fell into stress and started vaping again. I was even warned but thought I could handle it. I was clean 3 months.

So quit, try to remove the excess addictions when you can, and whatever you do keep from being stirred by your mind saying you need it. Even if your dealing with a stressful situation, you never need it.

>>17482014
The chances are low you paranoid idiot.

>>17482014
Cross that bridge when (and if) you get to it.

Realize life is fleeting and appreciate what you have while you have it.

>>17482005
Obsessing like this is pretty autistic

Autism is a spectrum. You sound like you lie some on it, but not near either end. Our understanding of autism is better now than when you were a kid, so it might pay to go and see a professional about this.

>>17482032
I feel like it's more of a paranoia and constant anxiety. Also because autism is about "not being able to tell one is not normal" it's like how am I supposed to know if I am autistic or not even if I feel normal?

>>17482046
How would you know if I laid somewhere on it?

Also I know they're worthless but every online test I could find said I was normal, and I answered honestly

>>17481980
You have to push a button to reset it, probly in the glove box noob.

>>17481980
Your tire pressure sensors might be going. How old is your car?

>>17481980
Go to a car mechanic or read the fucking manual. Are you autistic? This isn't deserving of a thread nor did you provide any details on the situation at a all.

>>17481975
I don't understand. You have the weed and something to smoke it out of. Are you just unclear on how to smoke marijuana?

>>17481975
I think this thread is evidence that you are high enough, put down the bong and turn on some music.

>>17482012
I feel absolutely nothing

>>17481931
Great details faggot

>>17481944
hahaha, no more details i just wanna know what will you do and why

>>17481931
How big is her penis?

The was supposed to be a short backstory, not a life-story, story...


Ive known this girl for awhile now, she acts interested, and its known that im interested in her.

Ive asked her out for dinner before, she said sure, she blew me off, not in the good sense of the term either. I was a little hurt but got over it.
>Decided not to ask her again.

Fast forward a roughly a year, about a month ago, and she asks me to hang out, late at night because we have conflicting schedules, on literately the one night a year I can't. Kinda of agree on another day, she gives me her number (prior to this we just talked in person and on via FB), all is well. Text her day of, blows me off again. Figure whatever, maybe she was tired, she worked a 10hr shift.

Text her a few days later asking if she wants to meet for lunch, no reply.
>Decided for a second time, not to ask again.

Saw her last night, at her work, been going there regularly since before she worked there so its not like i'm going there just to see her. She sat with me with her head resting on my shoulder, my arm around her and we talked for awhile.

Go to leave and her is helping another customer, normally i just kind of wave goodbye if shes helping someone, she told me to wait a few, so i did and she came up and gave me a hug (as is normal when shes not helping a customer) and gave me a lighter she painted with hearts and my inital on it, gave me another hug and told me she loves me.

Im trying my damnedest to stick to not asking her out again, because literately three strikes. But fuck its hard for me. Everything points to her being interested in me, friends that know her say shes interested in me, i like this girl, shes smart, funny, and goddamn beautiful, but idk if shes just fucking around with me or not.

hold ground OP.
men asking women out is an outdated cultural convention. When shit goes wrong women have the legal initiative to break contact.

let her initiate contact, you're also assuming a masculine role by keeping/setting boundaries as opposed to being a clingy POS which will eventually get you screwed over.

btw showing up at someones work is stalking which if she's not into you will get you in trouble.

I wouldn't break 3rd strike, everyone is cognoscente of who's court the ball is in.

>>17481998
Okay.

She works at a restaurant, i should have mentioned that. Been a regular there for a long time, had family that worked there and im good friends with alot of the staff. In this case i dont think anyone would consider it stalkerish. Otherwise I would totally agree with that.

At 711 staff members there give me ditry looks - a remarkable feat considering the wide variety of human refuse that frequents it.

One night I came to get wedges and chicken and it was only me and one other staff member there. She made up an excuse as to why I couldn't buy any of the hot food and then proceeded to allow the next guy to come in to buy from it. Every time I would make eye contact with this woman she would shower me with utter hatred.

I went to order a $5.00 pizza at Dominos and the man at the till gave me a strange nervous look and excused himself and then another guy manned the till who didn't look up at me but told me that there was no 5 dollar deal and charged me eight ,(someone I know went in and bought that same pizza for 5 dollars right after and showed me the receipt).

WhIle waiting for the pizza I felt this unbelievable hostility in the air. The man who called my name to pick it up was one who delivered me pizza once -when he tried sincerely to engage with me I just looked past him and said something generic to end the interaction because I don't know how to socialize. He looked at me frozen like a dear in the headlights until a girl near him took it from his hands and handed it to me. Even ordering pizzas somehow results in me being scammed and abused.

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A life time of being bullied and abused when I would engage with people sincerely resulted in me withdrawing and attempting to minimize human contact as much as possible, but instead of making people less hostile they've become more hostile than ever to the point where people go out of their way to commit white collar crimes to spite me because they know I'm meek and passive.

I'm trying to get by with the bare minimum of human contact and only talking to people through a canned script of socially acceptable responses so that I can never reveal anything about myself (to avoid abuse ) but this results in people taking adavantage of me and openly hating me to a ridiculous extent.

At work I only spoke about work related things and avoided coworkers completely before and after work and went to be by myself during breaks so I wouldn't bother them .

When I would be walking somewhere I would keep a good distance away from them to avoid bothering them by entering their personal spaces, when waiting for the bus after work I would sit 50 m away at a picnic table.

Whenever I've been around people it's resulted in ostracism and bullying so when I give people their space and disengage they openly taunt me , steal from me and hate me outrighto viewing me as strange, suspicious and aloof.

What do I do? Even participating in society at a bare minimum they attack me.

>>17481927
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>>17481966
You must have some sort of horrible luck or something OP. Most of the time people just prefer to do their own thing. Do you smell bad or dress in really ragged clothes? I am wondering if they have a reason to believe you are homeless or something. Very strange.

>>17481913
Not by whoring yourself out, trust me. Don't try to validate yourself, only makes things worse. Instead, focus on a hobby, activity, gym, school, work, etc. for a bit and better yourself and life before moving on. Eventually you'll find that you are worth more than any scumbag cheater could ever be.

>>17481919
Why do you assume he's a cheater, man hater? He could have simply had feelings for a different girl and declined her.

>>17481919
>>17481922 is how I interpreted OP's post too. OP's just sad that the guy she liked wants to date another girl instead

>>17481842
>wait an hour or so to reply so that it looks like i'm doing things
Sure
>always make it so that they're the last one to text instead of me whenever possible to make it clear I don't need them
Ehh
Depends on if you're actually interested in talking to that person or if the conversation is at a dead end

>>17481842
sure it works for a while untill they inevitably find out what you actually are

jby d00der

>>17481842

Communicating with you sounds tiring. The only way I'd continue talking to you is if I was some emotionally damaged bimbo seeking approval from every dismissive asshole that crossed my path.

In short, normal people won't put up with it because its irritating and unnecessary. Damaged people will fall for your tricks and adolescent aloofness because thats what damaged people do.

>>17481781
>dont think
there you go

Never talk about yourself or your experiences unless directly asked. Never show any affect except cheerful amusement. If the situation is really bad, change social circles. Whatever you do don't try to be "cool."

>>17481781
You can improve greatly simply by not whining and not being an asshole. You have control over both of those things.

an associates in business is only good for a low level management job, the kind you could get with a year's hard work and a GED, so yes, go get that bachelors starting next semester

>>17481769

>Associate's in business, basically a general 2 year business degree
>have a job in low level managemen

Fast food?

>>17481769
You'll hate marketing, trust me. Go with management if you can't get a general bachelor's. Whatever translates into a general MBA or management MBA would be best too. Marketing sucked shit trust me.