I managed to get a girl's phone number, but I found out she has a kid. That bothers me quite a bit, because that's apparently a dealbreaker for me, but also, I'm perfectly aware that I'm in absolutely no position to have dealbreakers.
What do.
Be honest with yourself.
Imagine another girl of equal caliber whose number you also got, but who doesn't have a kid. Which one are you honestly gonna be more interested in pursuing?
Don't settle. It's just you trying to convince yourself that you're okay with getting less than you really want. Never goes well.
>>17474116
Are you really prepared to raise another man's child? Fuck that shit.
>>17474152
No, but I did just find someone who would agree to go out with me, which doesn't happen. And I'm at an age where I probably would have a kid if I'd bothered to get my life in order when I was younger.
But also, it does actually bother me.
I feel like my inner demon is strong.
I bottle it up and fight it since I don't enjoy it and I don't want to hurt people , but it affects me and I think my body language and micro expressions hint about my inner feelings .
1. Smiling at people doesn't happen naturally
2. Complimenting people doesn't come naturally either. I have to remind myself to do it and force it. I instinctively want to criticize.
3. I build up intense resentment and hatred towards people/colleagues who don't perform or overshadow me in one way or another
4. My thoughts are negative by nature so I have to twist them and make them positive before I let them out to not be a constant energy vampire
And so on. I sound like a horrible person. But at least I fight it... and I want to become a friendly person starting from the inside.
How?
>>17474034
let me guess you are a taurus?
>what does that have to do with the price of fish in china?
everything. taurus will bottle up all their emotions and not really let them out untill an unappropriate moment...
best thing for you to do is write down the feelings in a journal and when its full burn it. once you have written down what you need to say it will be like huge weight has been lifted off those heavy shoulders.
stop seeing the people who try to help you as "villans" or time bandits your negitive thoughts are because of you negitive actions you are basically fighting yourself. its ok to feel good you dont need anybodys permission but yours. smile because you want to not because says you should
>>17474034
You're on the right path. Fake it until you make it. I'm a naturally hostile person as well. It took me years of forcing myself to be nice and lots of trial and error until it stuck. Even then I have to keep it in check and I'm still pretty rough around the edges. It paid off though.
>>17474642
Hahaha fucking astrology faggot.
>Be with girl for 2 years
>Assume we are boyfriend/girlfriend/one on one
>Never talked about commitments assuming we were good
>She says she loves me, we talk daily for hours.
>She moves and we figure we can work it out
>She joking said she wants me to date this guy from France... It's a joke yes I play along but deep down it's like she's removing my masculinity and pushing me away.
>She keeps hanging around these new friends she hates
>One night this guy was drunk and tried to rape her.
>I tell her that those people are awful and she needs to stop being around them ASAP. I know I sound controlling so I kinda let it go.
>She tells me she is tired of flirting.
>I mix it up, soon sexuality isn't even brought up
>I ask which one of us will make the move
>She panics, "Anon, you shouldn't commit to me!"
>Things are awkward. She isn't very supportive of my dreams/goals anymore.
>She randomly gets angry at me and blames me for everything. Says I lack commitment yet I'm the one who is making the goals and planing my future.
>She says she gets jealous when girls fawn over me.
>She can never take compliments gracefully.
I'm just not feeling it anymore... The love feels lost and I wonder why she said she loves me? I don't get her endgame but it's starting to make me depressed.
>Be with girl for 2 years
>Assume we are boyfriend/girlfriend/one on one
lol what? How do you not know after two years?
>I ask which one of us will make the move
You, a man, ASKED a woman which of you should make the first move?
top kek
>>17473942
Why don't you have a conversation about what you want and what she wants?
I gotta say though, someone who hangs out with people they "hate" is a loser. These are people she's choosing to associate with, and if she doesn't like them, that's a huge warning about what kind of person she is. Mostly I associate that with a shitty sense of self and an inability to maintain whatever sense of ethics and boundaries she has.
That she's acting out at you and blaming you for her unhappiness is also really not a good thing. That's either a guilty conscience over her behavior and trying to blame it on you, or she's just unstable and isn't able to handle the consequences of her own decisions.
Whatever. You need to have a talk about expectations and goals with your relationship and then figure out what to do based on the result of that. The way it sounds though, it seems like it would be a bad idea to disrupt your own plans for securing your future.
>>17473958
Dummy, they don't leave near each other. He's trying to figure out what her plans are and how they're going to change their long distance relationship back into one where they're near each other.
>>17474011
Honestly the fact that she bashes these people and still stays with them bothers me greatly. It seems kind of shady. And I'm not gonna stand for her not showing much support.
/adv/ am I too jealous of a boyfriend or do I have a right to feel uncomfortable?
Gf is transferring to a university about a 5 hour drive away, she goes to its orientation and basically at some point a couple random guys just walk up and ask for her snapchat and she gives it. She says they were just desperate for new friends, but I think we both know they wouldn't have approached a girl they knew was taken, but whatever. The big thing though, is today she says "would you be upset if my new roommate was a guy?" And I tell her honestly yea, then come to find out pretty much all the arrangements have already been made, and that question was just her awkward way of telling me.
I am pretty annoyed, and even though I love her the long-distance thing plus living with a dude makes me just want to end it.
Been there, done that, won't last OP, find a new fuck friend.
>>17473812
id be annoyed by the snapchat but not by the rooming situation. if a guy asks for snapchat of a strangers its pretty clear what kind of pics he hopes get sent
>>17473812
I'm normally a guy to say trust your girlfriend, but honestly I don't see much good coming from this sitch OP. I'd probly just end things so you don't have to deal with finding out you got cheated on/dumped by text while she's under some dude
Alright, we are east indian(look middle eastern) and we live in the USA and my parent's are paranoid people will want to hurt us if we go outside. I tried explaining to my parents nothing is going to happen because no one pays me any mind outside anyways but they don't care.
They think I will get killed or hurt if I go outside. So they try their best to overprotect me. I now have depression, anxiety, learned helplessness.
They became overprotective since moving here. They always think people are against them and want to kill me becaue I look like a middle eastern man.
I explained to them that I am not a muslim but an atheist but they don't care. They don't let us( me and my brothers) go outside often especially at night.
I am 26 now and I have depression, anxiety, leanred helplessness because of this. Can anyone give a advice on what I can do?
I know I posted this before but I went to psych ER that day and didn't have a chance to read the replies and advices.
>>17473765
Dude you need to get the fuck away from your parents. Give it all you got and try to find a normal life. Can't go much into detail since I'm in a hurry but I'm sure other anons will fill in.
>>17473765
Where do you live? Some people in some cities in some counties in some states can be complete dickheads despite being a US citizen. Liberals will try to hump your leg and be your human shield and conservatives will not give you a shit unless it is important. You're probably not that important. Radical hill billy, aka backward-ism lame stream media idiot non-fact-checking-generalists will probably try to murder you.
Get a job and move out duh.
>late 20's
>i dont go to bars/clubs anymore
will i ever find a gf? I think i will be single forever, not bad looking but im not too lucky desu
>>17473747
You mostly don't want women from bars/clubs dude. Just be bold.
One thing I've done is to start acting like those old men who give compliments to women. They are so bold behind the guise of old age, but man-to-man I know he's the same guy he was in his 20's.
So go and hit on women for your own enjoyment. Don't expect anything. You might be creepy at first, it's just a matter of practice, but you learn and eventually they'll think you're sweet and you'll get a date out of it.
>>17473747
>late 20's
>Still desu-ing
You're probably still good enough if you have a job. Just put yourself out more.
>>17473775
>Out more
Like where?
Event: Birthday
Main dish: Oreo Ice Cream Cake
Two non-wine drinkers gettin' a little romantic.
I have a bottle of Lambrusco in my house at the moment, and I know it's a sweet, easy drinking red wine. I don't think it'll go too well with the cake though.
So, I was looking for advice. I was thinking possibly a Chard, or a Riesling because they're a pretty dry taste that wont get in the way too much
But at the same time I was leaning towards red, just because. I got a couple bottles infront of me I had considered, but I'm not sold on any of them, and am still open to suggestions.
Bottle should be less than 20 dollars, what I have in mind currently is a Stella Rosa Red, Roscato, Syrah, and a Tempranillo.
I'd like it to have some alcohol content. So, most moscato's are out of the picture.
not much goes with ice cream cake. that's some serious stuff for your pallet and stomach to tackle alone.
>>17473714
Would champagne work better potentially?
>>17473724
maybe just pick the wine independent of the cake. people can have one or the other or both.
Hello, i have a little problem, or a fetish : I always get a boner when i see people with anime cute girl so i'm not a weeb or anything but the thing that most of them are retard or are trash (uglys or not) excit me, and when you mp them its almost like they are girl, i love masturbate on their post
Anyone else in the same case as me ?
>>17473655
>>17473655
what ARE you even, anon. =_=''''
You sound like a sadist or a person with low self esteem who likes people they consider "inferior" desu
How do I deal with the fact that I used to be an awful person? Thinking about my past misdeeds makes me cringe every time. The ride never ends.
Forgive yourself and never be that person again
It helped me
An awful person in what way? Like mean or harmful? Because I spent a lot of time blaming myself for things that weren't my fault (hating myself for being depressed / anxious and letting it ruin friendships / relationships) but it's a different ballgame if you used to be a toxic person.
If that's the case then I would advise you to think about what misdeeds bother you and see if you can reach some type of reconciliation and move on. Maybe reach out to some people and apologize and even if they don't accept it or don't answer, just tell yourself that you tried and let go of it.
just never be that way again
Hey, guys.
So, this may be stupid as fuck, but I just moved to Colorado by myself in a tiny house close to my campus at CSU. I currently have no friends, much less anyone over 21 to help me out. Tell me, Colorado fags, how can I get weed here? I feel like it should be super easy. Anyone willing to help out? Advice for getting a contact? If YOU can help me out, I have contact if you want. And, yes, you'll make money if you do.
>>17473572
You degenerate
Call 911 and start the conversation with your address and what drug you want to order. They'll send an Uber to deliver the goods within 30 minutes.
Which CSU ??
>have only had serious long term relationships
>have literally never been on a genuine date with a girl im interested in
>have been texting an acquaintance that im pretty sure likes me
>we met up the other night for a beer
>ended staying up all night long and talking and cuddling
>definitely want to move forward with her
>i have no idea what im doing
>dont want to come off as desperate but want her to know im interested, while trying to gauge how she feels
I had no idea dating was so fucking frustrating. How do I find that sweet spot middle ground between seeming needy and clingy, and being confident and aloof?
>>17473564
First of all I'm genuinely so fucking happy for you man.
If she's in to you she's nervous too. All you can do is try and describe how you feel as briefly as possible; something like "I could say a lot more if you want, but I'm really in to you and I want to make something more out of our relationship"
Good luck dude I sincerely hope she likes you back and you two end up being in a happy relationship
>>17473592
Thanks a lot man, I'm excited but scared. Its just super new to me and I want to get it right. Im not even really concerned about becoming exclusive partners or anything yet, it's just the introductory dating part that makes me nervous.
>>17473564
How is this at all frustrating? You had a good date. That's great. Ask her out again.
It's a huge mistake in dating to decide "oh, well, I want a girlfriend, this person seems nice enough and is attractive enough for me to want to fuck, thus I'm concluding that I must have THIS girl as a girlfriend."
What you should want is someone that you like (and you can't get to know someone without spending real time with them) who likes you. Yeah, it's disappointing when something promising doesn't work out, but that's better than being with someone who doesn't want to be with you, or that you don't want to be with, don't you think?
Fuck "getting it right". If someone likes you, you're going to have a lot of slack with them. If you have to jump through some very exact hoops to be "acceptable" then that's not someone who's really interested in you, that's someone who wants a person to fill a tightly defined role.
Why can't I be cold and aloof like you? Why can't I use people like people use me? Why can't I be mean and cruel to whoever I want? Why cant I just not care? Why can't I take everything without feeling the need to give back? Why can't I be selfish? Why can't I be like everyone else?
I love power. I love the buzz that comes with even a little bit of it. I've never abused my power, but just knowing that I can sometimes gets me through the day. In my first job as a clerk for a city department I had the power to levy hundreds of dollars in fines, process paperwork to send out a bench warrant for someone, or to wipe all of that away if I felt like being merciful. Sometimes when someone I was dealing with was being particularly irate, I just thought of how easy it was, sitting there with complete control over their accounts, their records, and their personal info, I could arrange to have them arrested and forced to pay hundreds of dollars in fines with it looking like it was their fault and even if they could prove otherwise never have it traced back to me. Just knowing that I could was enough, I never did it though I was sorely tempted to.
I've fixed fines for low income families. I've cut privileges to spoiled, entitled assholes who think that money equates to power. I've dined with mayors, state congressmen, and political PAC chairmen. I know that I'm smarter than half of them, and they know it too. Both sides of the aisle have been grooming me for years.
I know that now that I've had even the barest taste of it I can never go back to being just a normal guy.
>>17473547
Every time something stressful, or unpleasant happens in my life I start to think of suicide. This has never happened before, I dont think im suicidal, I dont think id ever actually do it, but some nights when im trying to go to sleep I cant help but think about all the different angles I could point a barrel of a gun to my head and which one would be the least painful and most effective. I've been told by other people I should go to a shrink, but I feel like they're all scams. I dont want to be medicated to the point where I dont feel anything anymore, Id rather be tremendously sad than completely numb.
Fuck everyone. I want to be cruel. I want to rid myself of following the golden rule. It's a fucking scam. I wish heartless.
I saw some qt3.14 playing pokémon go on the bus the other day. I think I've seen her before on the same bus at the same time. In case I run into her again how do I strike up a conversation? I mean I can just say "hey is that pokémon go?" but I don't really know too much about pokémon besides watching the first anime season when I was 10.
Also I used to have no problem making small talk with strangers when I was younger but now I somehow can't help thinking "s/he is gonna think I'm an idiot" or that strangers on the bus don't want to talk and just want to mind their own business.
I'm 22 and the girl seems around my age though I REALLY suck at telling what age people are so she may be 17 or younger in which case it's kind of useless to talk to her.
Just take her home,
Open the door,
Everybody walk the dinosaur.
I guess I should have asked in the anime board
>>17473542
I've never done it but I assume women don't like being bothered by greasy trash on the bus.
Honestly just say hey I've seen you play pokemon if you're looking for someone to play with that'd be cool
The worst that can happen is she acts revolted and you have to endure the rest of the bus ride in shame with all eyes on you
and then every bus ride in the future
I'm 19, turning 20 in October, and I've never had sex. I keep getting really close and then get dicked over at the last second. Last fall my GF unexpectedly dumped my ass because I was going off to college. At college, I was naked in bed with this chick but got whiskey dick. This summer my FWB ended things with me because she was getting "emotionally attached".
1. Do you think it would be weirder to remain a virgin possibly at the age of 20 (which makes me want to vomit) or to hire a hooker?
2. Should I lie to all of my friends at college and claim that I banged my FWB over the summer?
Lying about it and feeling bad about it is beta as fuck desu.
OP how the fuck can you have a FWB and never have had sex?
>>17473539
We did everything but. Before we fucked she ended things as stated above.
I hereby declare my will to exact revenge on women and society. But I won't use violent means- it'll be on the news for a week, I'll be in jail, and then it'll be forgotten. I want to damage people where they can't heal: their minds
How do I manipulate those around me without them even knowing it? My ultimate goal is to socially engineer situations, to create circumstances and control others. To Reprogram other minds with propaganda. How do I do this?
>>17473406
step 1: Find at least 3 people who lives you are willing to destroy
step 2: talk to them everyday. make them feel comfort around you
step 3: graduate middle school with your new friends
hope this helps faggot
>>17473517
I will skullfuck your grandma
>>17473626
You won't do shit because you're just a little kid with daddy or mommy issues behind a screen and keyboard. Maybe your uncle or babysitter diddled you.