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>>17481318
Well, we talk a lot and nothing out of the ordinary happens but my feelings are growing hardcore ( this girl is perfect. Smart, funny, beautiful, and the most amazing personality ive ever seen in a girl). Fast forward to Wednesday, I tell her I'm going into cities till the weekend and wonder if she wants to hang out. She tells me sadly she has no days off. I suggest maybe after work. She doesn't respond and then changes the subject a couple hours later. Well, I leave to the cities and text her, but she doesn't reply. Thats fine, nothing out of the ordinary, these things happen. But now its Saturday. She hasn't even read my messages since the day I left, though I know she's been around. Ive been completely ghosted and I'm devastated. To make matters worse, I'm at a family get together just hiding around cause I'm upset and don't want to bring others down. Am I over thinking this? Or could something else be going on?
Inb4 op is fat and ugly.
I'm actually very attractive and quite romantic. Girls used to offer sex to me though ive declined and cut them from my life. I just want to know if maybe I did something wrong. I need a second opinion.

>>17481318
>>17481329
You make me tired.

>>17481358
Maybe I just suck?

>>17481317
Only way to find it ts to try to form a relationship and see what the whole thing is about.

>"reach out to old friends"
>they don't care anymore
>"social contacts help with recovery"
>nobody wants to waste time with a boring depressed dumbass

>do nothing in particular, because few things feel worth it
>don't go anywhere because too scared to go alone
>very little experiences, no relationships
>people will pity me or think i'm too weird
>can't talk about my life or reveal to people how i like to spend my time
>it's too shameful
>talk little and stay distant
>friendship cannot be formed

>>17481276
So you're saying that two current employees are engaged in a relationship without advising HR?

This isn't sexual harassment, but it's leading right up to a disciplinary hearing.

Based on what you stated, no.
Problem is, you hardly stated anything

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>>17481293
Yeah, I'm completing sexual harassment training. I don't understand what's going on either. I was hoping someone knew the law regarding this exact situation.

>>17481292
Assuming they didn't notify HR is this grounds for sexual harassment or does it fall under something else?

>>17481269
This guy is a pussy who has a loser's mentality. Don't listen to him.

Prepare for a bunch of rejections, but remember that they don't matter. If you keep doing it you'll get better at it, but not if you let yourself be disheartened by a failure or if you're going to give up just because you're scared or you fear looking like an idiot.

And try to have fun before everything. You most likely won't the first time, but you will grow to enjoy it once the anxiety is gone.

>>17481283
>This guy
I'm not a guy, I'm a girl. We can tell when a guy doesn't know what he's doing, and it's really not attractive.

>>17481298
yes, you can and that's why I said he'll be rejected a lot at first. But how else do you expect him to learn what to do if he never tries?

>>17481250
She's fucking some one else or getting gangbanged
You know this is true dump her

>>17481250

Sounds to me like she wants to slut it up while abroad. If you don't choose to dump her, you'll have to communicate and let her know that it means you'll be free to do similar while at home.

>>17481250
What does that mean? That she broke up with you so she can fuck around if she wants to while she's on vacation?

Sounds a lot like she's not ready to be in a committed relationship. If that's ok with you, I don't see what the problem is. If it's not ok with you, I don't see why you need advice about this unless you're just a desperate wuss.

Whether she fucks someone or not, sure, you could have a talk about expectations and what the two of you want, but she already seems pretty aware that she's not ready for a committed relationship.

>I'm on a budget
>what should my budget be?

it doesn't work like that, anon

>>17481181
I guess no more than $500 not including peripherals or os. I can save that up and upgrade over time.

https://wiki.installgentoo.com/index.php/Build_a_PC

>>>/g/

You could always check out SA. www.sa.org

But you really need to stop self loathing over s very normal behavior.

I'm 2 weeks in nofap-noporn
I'm feeling great desu, my confidence skyrocketed and I got a girlfriend. Like holy shit, I don't even know what happened.

>>17481164
Did you also get superpowers?

>>17481124
5 pm or later. Thus the saying "Hey it's 5 o'clock somewhere"

7:47 PM. Definitely not later than 11:03 PM.

>>17481129
This, but the closer to sundown, the better. after 8 on a Friday/Saturday night and most people will start ramping up their bar crawl game.

chris chan pls go

>>17481118
Ur an orbiter m8

>>17481281
i thought orbiters didn't get sex offers

(Always end a bracket on the right side).

Adults tell all kids they are smart and special.

>>17481102
I was there. You'll get through it. It gets better after high school.

>>17481111
Nice quads

>>17481056
In pic related - what is she even supposed to say when you're talking about some shit she's never heard of?

>>17481056
Hang out with her in person.

Either:
A) she is truly a boring person in general and you shouldnt waste your time

B) she is simply shy, in which getting to know her in person would alleviate and then hopefully she'll be more jovial


But ultimately a relationship can't be mostly texting.

Maybe talk to her in person as if you're both human beings.

I worked in a restaurant, well 2, but over 3 years.
Pros
>forced to be social
>busy days pay well
>get to drink on the job
>talk to qts
>usually free food
>bartenders dictate speed of restaurant

Cons
>long hours
>late closings
>slow days make less than minimum wage
>have to entertain annoying customers
>people will ALWAYS bitch at you
>bar tabs skipped on a lot

Honestly I would say no. Its more of a perk thing like 'oh my friend is a bartender he can hook it up'. I see it as a good summer job or ideal for utlnder the table payment, but I would stay clear of the food service industry

>>17481038
Every bartender i know is or has become an alcoholic..

>three month bartending program
you want to pay money to learn how to serve drinks? how fucking stupid are you?

Go to rehab with him.

>>17481019
He's not going to want help. Your only chance is to prove that he is dying. Thats the case. He is literally dying.
I feel it man. My godfather is a raging alcoholic. He is scared of hospitals and wont go to rehab, but trying to quit made him so bad that his body was shutting down without it. Get help before he ends up irreversible

>>17481025

Can't afford to ruin my career by going to rehab for a few weeks to help a friend, thanks though.

>>17481039
He seems to know he's dying, but won't listen to me. He keeps insisting no one will help him, and when I do, he gets mad at me. He's a lifelong friend, but we only recently came out of a two year fight.

>>17481006
Oh anon thats life

>>17481006
It is too late anon

>>17481006
well you are a dumb frog poster so i guess your main board must be/r9k/ just get out of there


i just visit /v/ /adv/ [spoiler]and /co/mblr [/spoiler]

im still able to make friends and i've been here for 2 years

>>17480970

She talks to you.

>>17480999
Savage as fuck.

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>>17480999
Trips as well?

Holy shit OP you got burned badly.