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That's really the most annoying thing about him? Sounds like he deserves better

>>17478669
You don't understand. Imagine if your gf demanded to go to bed at 9pm every day. You'd go mad.

He's so boring when he's asleep.

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>>17478662

>cucking me with his circadian rhythm

um, whut

>>17478659
My son is 4 by the way.

why did you marry a turbo trashcan of a human being

>>17478659
My advice is not to take ANY advice from the Internet and go seek a specialized lawyer immediately, if you are serious about keeping your children. From the get-go, you should document and file every single goddamn evidence that builds a case against your wife, your lawyer will thank you massively for that.

Beyond this, you should seriously leave it to a professional. Good luck friend.

Call a warm line/suicide hotline for immediate help (use google for either)

In general if you are actually about to do to something to kill yourself you're cool to check in for a mental health institution (I would if I was ever at that level) if not, check above

Those are short term fixes but the long term fixes come on your own accord and aren't that bad. I'd stay away from drugs and alcohol for a little. Once you've sat in negative despair for so long things start to brighten up. God bless.

>>17478630
I've been in dark places.
I lived 6 months in a room eating fucking balogne sandwiches every day.
It was sad and I was alone.

I got over it. I got further.

It got harder after that. At the bottom, I had no emotions. Just day in, day out.

Now that I'm human again, I had emotions. And I felt terrible. Terrible about all the time I wasted.

What I'm getting at is that your life is fuel. Fuel for you to do shit.
At the least, fuel for you to sit under a tree and watch the sunset.
That's one of the few memories I have from my depressive period.

Even if you think life is shit, surely you recognize the body's ability to find pleasure.
And pleasure is the ultimate goal of any absurdist.

if you're planning on something to hurt yourself, seek immediate help (hotline, friend, etc.).

it's tough, we've all been in ruts, some tougher than others. I've been there, wondering what the purpose of being here is and wondering what awaited after. I drew up plans to kill myself after getting dismissed from my university, I felt like such a failure and didn't tell anyone about it (still haven't told many people); I thought if I took my life, I wouldn't have to repay my loans and live with the stigma of failure (up til that point, I'd never experienced failure at such a level). Only reason I didn't kill myself was because of my mom, I kept thinking of the pain that she would have to go through.

It took a while, but it wasn't til I finally got tired of being so pitiful that I was able to open up and get help. I'm not gonna lie, it was the hardest thing I've ever done; in our current culture, it's implied that seeking help is a sign of weakness--you're supposed to just power through any type of mental and emotional pain. It's one of the worst things we've ever done; it's ok to seek help, to break down, and to want to change.

OP, suicide won't solve your problem; suicide is just a short term answer. You'll be leaving behind long term pain for your family and friends--and if you say you don't have any, you're lying (we all have them, even if they seem cold and distant, they are there and do care).

Do yourself (and us) a favor: go on a hike tomorrow, doesn't matter how long it is, just hit your nearest trail (the earlier in the day, the better). Don't take any music or any other type of distraction, just follow the trail and take in the scenery. If you see anyone there, just say good morning/afternoon (or nod) and keep going. Once you're done, go home, reorganize your room.

She autistic?

She may be upset about something unrelated, and not dealing with it well. Wait for her to calm down, ask her if there's anything bothering her, figure it out. Then tell her it's totally unacceptable to blow up at you for unrelated shit like that.

>>17478626

Honestly? She's not.

I've been noticing she does shit like this.

I fixed the internet at her house. She got mad at me and blamed me because it was down for 2 minutes where before that she'd be lucky to get internet.

>>17478602
Pig farm

>>17478602
Deeeep woods.

>>17478605
I were thinking gators but this is basically the same thing.
Thanks anon

yeah you're good post a pic

Probably loosely circumsized.

>>17478595
host on imgur or some other image hosting site and link it. Always a safe bet


There is a type of circumcision where the foreskin is slit at the top but is not fully removed, leaving a lot of excess skin at the bottom of your dick.

well start with the car do you have any money? job? education? get money get a car. maybe read some books about dating?

wow, two whole years

you poor fellow

>>17478536
Who gives a rat's dingleberry if you're 5'7" ? Why do guys worry so much about height, hairline, hair color, and other nonsensical things? If you meet the right girl, you'll bang. Forget the height nonsense.

>>17478526
Who are you banging at work?

>>17478575

We're both resident physicians at a hospital. She's in my "class", as in, what year you are into your 3 years of residency before you can graduate and work on your own

>>17478526
because established relationships usually (not always but usually) produce a lot less drama than new relationships.

>>17478525
How would you convince your girlfriend to ditch her male friends? Would you try and intimidate said friends? Would you make her cut them out? I hate to break it to you but it's unlikely that she's going to dump her friends for you since you're most likely temporary.

>>17478574
Yes, instead you should get a really hot female friend that makes her insecure

>>17478574
Hence why I don't date anymore

>Date girl, commit to girl, be loyal
>Some other nigga comes along and she cheats

>>17478516
Your dilemma is not special, approach guys you'll find pretty quickly that they're shit too, but you'll learn to deal with eachothers short comings.

>>17478519
Yeah I know but I still have this weird feeling that I am not allowed to approach guys I like before they know those bad things about me. But then I am afraid to tell them because most people freak out. In mu country it's really looked down upon if you have the kind of debt I have. And the scars are of course always a bad thing.

>>17478541
what country? and also
>I like before they know those bad things about me
Do you tell them right away? If so maybe keep the self disclosure for a bit later. At least wait a bit after introductions. Besides, we all have shitty things about us but not all of us feel other people NEED to know right away. Maybe thats something you should work on if you have access to a therapist they can really help you get over those blocks.

>>17478489
How old are you?

Do you want to lose your virginity? Stop acting like this matters, as you are obviously young, and this relationship is one you will barely remember in five years.

Enjoy her, hit it, and learn.

>>17478489
cut contact and don't approach the dating market until you are at least 18.

>>17478521
18, don't want to lose virginity for religious reasons
>>17478522
I am 18, she's 17

You just masturbated like most average people. By masturbated I mean literally and metaphorically

>>17478488
i know how you feel op :^(

i did work out but not like a lot. but my teachers told i lose some weight so im good with that

You are average. You think you have a lot of time... it's usually after 26 or something that people start feeling like they are running out of time. That is the best motivation out there.

"I'm sorry, I can't. Thank you, though."

"I'm gay."

"You know we are just friends, right?"

Works if they're trying to be super flirty, etc. and smart enough to get the message

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>>17478436
me again, should i kill myself? lmoo

I like your afro. the way you act doesn't really suit you. The way you look doesn't match what you've described your personality to be.
You have pretty cool masculine features, you could pull off a more masculine/alpha male personality. Then again, in the OP image you look pretty cool, and what you described does seem to match, it's just the second image where it shows you've got like a hidden alpha male persona hidden behind a girly personality.

>>17478436
Personally I think you look cool, like that guy from The mars volta.

But in order to look better to society (if you really want to do that)

>Cut your hair short.
>wear nice clothes
>lift weights
>eat LOTS of food, probably 3.2k cal a day
>shave your peach fuzz

>>17478415
So I have a STEM degree (with a philosophy double major) and I'm a professional musician now. Took a fuckload of music theory classes as electives, but I majored in neuroscience and philosophy.

Don't think of it as certain careers not being worthwhile, but rather as the traditional university model, which is now so expensive and formalized, failing to be useful for certain careers.

"Do what you love" is actually pretty good advice, especially now when everyone wants internships and extracurriculars and for you to show "passion" for the field you're choosing. It's just that you need to assess what it means to do that thing, and majoring in it in college isn't synonymous with that (especially if it involves crushing debt). It also doesn't necessarily mean "rely on that thing as your sole source of income." You don't need to draw a paycheck from something to be doing it for real. You don't need to get a diploma in something to receive a rigorous education therein.

It is a good idea to get a diploma, especially if you have the opportunity, to open doors for providing for yourself, but don't pigeonhole yourself. There's nothing wrong with hedging your bets by becoming literate in a field that can make you money; you don't have to commit your life to it or always stick with it. But also maybe the thing you love is a certain way of solving problems or thinking about the world. Maybe the thing that drives you to make music also drives you to do something else "marketable" (or at least tolerate it) That's what I realized about myself, and it's really put me at peace. You can do more than one thing, and true success comes from bringing those things into harmony with the kind of life you want to live. Now more than ever, there is no set path.

>>17478439
Do you actually make a living off of your performances? That's my dream.

Very good advice. However, I can't agree with the follow your passions statement. If j were to major in music, I don't think I'd be employed. I'm attending Yale, but even then, the prestige of my college won't make my job prospects and brighter. I agree that the university sort of thing isn't going to determine my life, but it has a huge impact.

A a musician, how did you get stable income and such? What would you have done differently?

>>17478415
>realize I won't have time for my passions

I was in a band that was practicing once a week and playing three shows a month in graduate school with a full course load, 20 hours a week of practicum, while applying to internships, studying for comps, and writing my dissertation. I was also married. It sucked, but I was able to find the time to make it all work.