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Boyfriend's insecurities 2016-10-03 14:38:47 Post No.17632403
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My boyfriend and I both have crippling self-image issues and insecurities, even though they manifest in different ways. Currently, I am grappling with how I should comfort him when he mentions that he doesn't think that he's good enough for me, or that I can find someone better. How do I convince him that even though this statistically might be true, just as he can find someone better than me, I want him for the amazing person that /he/ is and the connection that we already share?
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You can't. This is something that only he can do.
That doesn't mean you shouldn't try, or that you shouldn't support him. You should. But when he continues to shit on himself, you must absolutely not see it as a failing on your part.
You are absolutely not responsible for his self-image (by which I mean that it's not your obligation to fix it, yes, but by which I also mean that you do not have the power to fix it either).
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>>17632403
you sound really annoying how hasn't he shot himself yet oh my god
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>>17632428
Very motivational, thank you. Now I have the new-found motivation to go and clean up my shitfest. Peace out :P
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Pain which I believe might be to do with perineum/epididymis after a few days of non stop rough sex. Girl has no STDS or STIs. Can anyone medfags give me suggestions?
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define pain.
and what, perineum or epididymis? those are quite apart.
keeping the region cool wouldn't hurt, I guess.
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Very dull ache but the left testicle is quite tender to touch. It doesn't hurt to touch but it makes the ache more intense. The ache originates from both just behind the testicle and below. Worsens when sitting down.
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>>17632434
She probably landed on it wrong once and you didn't notice.
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I'm self-employed and have the ability to work from anywhere from the world as long as I have a reliable internet connection. I'm also incredibly pathetic with women and I want/need to get better at it. What city should I move to in order to gain the most experience with dating? I'm currently living in suburban massachusetts which, as you can imagine, gives me literally zero opportunities to meet women.
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>>17632322
Saint Petersburg
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>>17632322
vegas
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>>17632322
Try moving to Anchorage or Fairbanks or Barrow, all three of them are in Alaska. I hear these are great places to meet women.
So /adv/, how can i change my way of living? up until now i been living like a fucking basement dweller, gave up in studies and friendship a long ago and now i just can't take this way of living anymore.
I want to change for the better, maybe start studying again and get some friends dunno i just know that i want to change little by little and the problem is that no matter what i try i always give up after two days, how can i hold for more time?
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>>17632276
Either you use discipline or you don't. There is no third option.
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>>17632317
How do i use it when i don't even have? just get accostumed to it or what?
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>>17632276
You will get back into it and feel fresh and optimistic for a few weeks and then you will fail again for the same reasons and it will feel exactly the same as the first time. All of your hopes will slip through your fingers and you'll be back at rock bottom with nothing to show for it but wasted time.
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>senior year
>feeling completely overwhelmed with college and all the work I gotta do
>where the fuck am I even going in life
>everything is pointless
>been having emotional breakdowns every week for 2nd or 3rd week in a row
>mom has been taking it hard
>feel like a guilty piece of shit because of it
>find it hard to work for fear of failing
>often find myself paralyzed by fear
>parents suggested me seeing a shrink but I don't think I literally have the time
>taking a break from college isn't an option
>tfw what the fuck do I do
I don't think I can cope anymore. I just feel suffocated by all of it. I can't sleep well at night, anxiety attacks are becoming routine and I'm losng my appetite. My stomach feels like shit.
What do I do to solve all this? I've been contemplating suicide for a little while now but I'm not sure if I could go with it. All of the painless ways to an hero don't seem easy to attain so I feel out of options as of right now
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aren't even my trips good enough to get some advice? Or am I truly fucked?
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>>17632620
Those don't count newfag.
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Stop being a faggot and go to therapy. Shape up then go to a CC while you work. Eventually work full time and learn to balance school. Then by your second year you should have an idea of what you want to do from exposure whether it be from work or school. Plus, workinf will allow you to see firsthand what kind of job market you're dealing with. Once you have a plan transfer to a nice university where you won't be paying more than $15k a year (and that's pushing it) and focus on school while mainting some career growth. Get your degree, network, and start on the new path of finding your endgame career.
Congratulations, you're now better of than ~90% of people your age.
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>>17633144
I'm not a newfag, the trips thing was an attempt at being funny.
I'm also not in the US, there's no CC equivalent in Europe as far as I'm aware. Besides that, leaving college is out of the question, even if for just a year. I was looking more towards ways of not letting burn out beat me completely while keeping college work in check. But I guess that's probably me wanting to have a cake and wanting to eat it too.
Thanks for the advice anyway. 6h later and I'm guessing I got absolutely no choice but to keep going and pray that shit doesn't hit the fan beyond this point
Hey /adv/ I might be in a bit pf a pickle, see i've been talking to this girl for a little while. Dirty talk and all, she's been sending me nudes and what not, but there is this thing about her pubic area that really doesnt look right, and im wondering if she might be a trans... So just to make sure, i want to know how to be able to identify what i'm looking at and be quite sure of which caracteristics I need to pay attention to
TL;DR I want to know hoy to identify a tran woman easily
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Her/His shit would look really off if he was a tranny. Look at the hands too and try to detect in the facial features masculine features.
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you got nudes and still cant tell? what
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>>17631922
Thanks, what else can there be fast to notice?
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I just dropped my only (online) class because I can't even handle that with my disability (CFS). Looks like I'm going to have nothing to do again until I get better which might be years even.
What do I do to not go insane from this situation?
I never leave the house and can't even play video games for longer than 20 min at a time.
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Please respond. I need something to do that doesn't overly tax my headache prone brain and cacked as hell body.
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What's wrong with you?
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>>17631810
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
Like the author of Seabiscuit. It took her years and years to write her books though.
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I have a boyfriend who thinks I cheated on him and I don't remember doing this?
I'm too weirded out to talk to him about it because it was kinda long ago but I've "cheated" in the past because I've assumed me and the person weren't dating anymore I tend to get over relationships pretty quick.
I literally cannot remember a time with this other boy that this happened. My memory isn't the greatest but I remember these kinds of things. Help
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bitch you better remember
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>>17631772
Kill yourself dirty whore
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top kek
havent heart this before
>uhm i dont remember cheating
yes you do dirty skank, you just hate being caught
kill yourself
whore
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I need help being sociable 2016-10-03 06:04:24 Post No.17631637
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I need help being sociable
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2016-10-03 06:04:24
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I seriously need help, I can't figure out what to say. My jokes usually are " Thank god for the confederacy"," I'd like my watermelon with a hole please", " When I get scared I go " REEEEEEEE"
as you can see I am beyond help. But maybe the thing that messed me up( 4chan) can fix me.
Example:
>Me sees normie
>Me is very sociable so wants to talk
> This happens
Me: " How's your day normie? "
Normie: " Good dude! "
> Wants to continue conversation but doesn't know what to say
> sweating heavily
> Normie leaves.
>Sad.
Example 2:
> Boy eating lunch
Me: " That's a nice lunch. Do you like the lunch? "
Normie Boy: " Uh I guess. "
Me: " hmmmm"
> me walks away
> Me cringes at the conversation
> Sad
Example 3:
> co-workers talking about Putin and U.S and refugee crisis
> Me scared to speak so doesn't say anything.
> Wants to speak but remembers cringey conversation
> Doesnt speak and co-workers are back to work.
> sad
Help me /adv/!
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>>17631637
Stop going on /r9k/ and 9gag. Read more books and watch more television and movies and play more dialogue heavy games. Bing bang boom. Problem solved.
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People like you need to be rounded up and put in concentration camps
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>>17631637
REEEEEEEE
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i manipulate people into beliving im completely useless and enbling me or constantly being around me trying to fix me because if i accept that im an adult and im responsible for myself and my own happiness and fully able to pursue it then i must also accept that my childhood is over, that is was horrible and that im never getting it back.
I finally understand it now
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Fuck you.
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>>17631605
if its worth anything i just realized that i was doing it all my life, i had 0 awearness previous to this day
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>>17631601
And what do you want advice on? Just kill yourself, fucking retard.
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Can i move to Chicago without having a ton of money? I looked around on Craigslist and it looks like you can get a room for about 500 a month. If you get a job right away couldn't you pretty much not be able to fuck it up at all as long as you got a full time job?
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The only way to live in Chicago without lots of money is to live in dangerous slums
I interviewed there for a software job at a trading firm and even literally outside the big buck company building there are tons of black hobos mumbling to themselves. It's a rough area everywhere and I don't personally like it
You have to be rich to maintain a decent level of safety there.
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Chicago
Why
-Bostonfag
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>>17631568
>If you get a job right away couldn't you pretty much not be able to fuck it up at all as long as you got a full time job?
That is a big fucking if. You should have enough money to support yourself for at least 3 months before moving anywhere without having a job literally waiting for you.
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Does my supervisor like me? 2016-10-03 04:38:17 Post No.17631449
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Does my supervisor like me?
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2016-10-03 04:38:17
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Ok let me explain. Idk wtf it is but whatever.
Please ask me any questions so i can give you insight because i'm kinda scared, i'll answer honestly. Now i started my job about 2 months ago. My supervisor is 2 years younger then me and i don't know how she can actually be flirtatious / attractive to me since she makes double what i make and i'm just a low level worker.
My supervisor seems to like me but at the same time i don't know, she makes so much more then me and she said she had a boyfriend, although she told me she had a boyfriend in a quick flybyish lower tone.
Some shit she does is she always, always smiles when talking to me and she always faces me, i notice she also copies things i do, for example i point my fingers amusingly and she also started pointing her fingers like me. I told her i liked her hair once and a week leader she came in my work area giving me a direction with a big smile while doing her hair, i stress she seemed to be doing her hair not teasing it.
Another thing that i'm not sure of is she seems to act more energetic around me. I don't know if i'm just seeing it tho. Like she seems to be more happy and talkative when she's working around me but i don't know if its just me. Just last week she was playfully tapping a window right next to this fat guy saying hi to him and he was dumbly saying hi to her. Another time i was walking next to the same fat guy and he nervously said "hi" to her and she made a "hi!" like a high school cheerleader and i THINK it was because she saw me next to him since again the guy was nervous and unattractive, no offense to him since he's a nice guy.
help plz
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there's no way to know for sure without asking her. and I would not recommend that. too much potential for drama regardless of what her answer is.
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>>17631449
one more thing, when me and her were talking and one of the other supervisors interrupted her and she looked annoyed by him.
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>>17631477
That's why i'm asking and that's why i'm scared.
How do I git gud at music if I have zero talent at it
Is 18 too late to start a career
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>18
>too late to start a career
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>>17631364
>How do I git gud at music if I have zero talent at it
same way talented people do it: lots of practice. you will just need to do more practice if you don't have talent. taking classes will help.
>Is 18 too late to start a career
no. but even people that have talent and work nonstop won't usually have successful music careers. unless you are one of the lucky few who get famous, your best bet for a semi-steady income in music is to be a session musician. basically someone who people hire when they need a guitar part, violin part, whatever it is you play. but for that you have to be extremely skilled and able to work with all kinds of people. creative folks are often temperamental or straight up nuts, so be ready for that too. failing that, you can earn a few spare bucks here and there giving lessons. but it's not a living.
tl;dr, don't quit your day job.
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get the idea that you will have a career in music out of your head and do it because you love to do it
cause what >>17631397 is true, but if you're just grateful to get to do it at all then failure is not an option
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Experiences with Zoloft/Sertraline 2016-10-03 03:03:27 Post No.17631196
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Experiences with Zoloft/Sertraline
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Who here has had experience with this drug? I just got prescribed 100 mg this week for severe SAD and depression.
Will this actually make a difference in my life? Tell me about how it worked for you.
Also, how do I take it at a consistent time? I don't really have any consistent daily routine, so I'm having trouble with this.
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I used zoloft, i liked it , i wish i could have some now, it made me not to feel anything. Good old times
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Give me that Z-O-L-O-F-T
No longer pissed
You don't both me
I'm making it through
I'm giving my all
When bases are loaded
I'm whacking the ball
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>>17632139
bother*
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I've been cutting my own hair now for several years and have finally decided to see a professional. What chain do you all recommend? I can't afford an actual stylist.
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Slow night..
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>>17631126
Is that you
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super cuts. they cut your hair soo good you wish they no cut your hair soo good.