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Sounds like for some reason you don't feel relaxed around her. Are you not able to be honest with her about everything? Are you afraid of disappointing her? Is she boring?

>>17632986
OP it is not the girls you are choosing and it's not depression but it is you. No idea why you jumped out of one and right into another relationship when you should be single for awhile. Not a month but like a year or more. Date or don't but do not get into another relationship until you work this shit out. It's not fair to the girls and you are wasting time.

>>17633241
There are somethings I worry about coming up, but not to the point i'd want to actively avoid it - just things like kids, moving in and those big life things.

But perhaps it's a mixture, I hadn't thought about it from that point of view and perhaps it's something I'm not being able to accept in myself and I worry that it'll be the cause of a break.. for i push myself back which is utterly idiotic when saying this.

She isn't boring no, I have a good time with her, just apprehension.

>>17633311
There was a 2 month break, but I somewhat agree. Right now I'd like to work on this without ending my current relationship if possible, the girl means a lot to me and I would hurt to lose her. It's more an issue of what exactly do I need to do to fix this and what exactly do i need to fix. Those are the two biggest things i'm having problems with... identification and solution.

I realize how idiotic and dumb a "problem" this is but it's been eating me up for a while.

i'd go

Maybe ask yourself will your regret not going after he passes? If you think you won't, then no need to go. If you think you will, then you should go.

>>17632967
this is the only correct answer

No, you can can't.

This is why interactions over text do not count. Text hides your autism, something real life can't hide.

>>17632954
Sounds like she is shy and more comfortable with texting. You should worry a bit. I mean do you like this girl? Do you want a relationship? As friends, this is fine. But if you want something more, it won't last until she comes out of her shell.

Take her out more. When you talk about stuff, start talking about the stuff you talk about via text, then go from there.

>>17633025
>>17632954
That's weird cause I'm the opposite.
Autistic over text, fast-paced fun conversations in real life.

>>17632897
just because she likes school doesnt mean she wants a book for her damn birthday. how about a night out.

>>17632897
Are you trying to get together? Make her a mixtape(or anything else, the point is that you made something for her), get her a gift card to a spa, some comfy reading socks maybe, some small item that brings up a memory you shared together

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You could go for a little Statue /or/ sculpture of something either Science or Psychology related ...

Else you could buy a nice carved wooden box on amazon for something like 20bucks and use the rest to get a necklace or some earrings. ( there are some which are in the form of synapses and shit like that ... )

>>17632896
Since when does the govt need a reason to do something?

>>17632896
read "the emperor wears no clothes" by jack herer

in the us, it's so they can have a reason to lock up black people

>>17632822
it's definitely possible.

what has your experience been? what do you mean they aren't cool enough?

Yes you bitch

>>17632841
Starting talking to this girl at school. Hanging out with her after class. I thought we were really getting along and we had common interests. I find out she has a boyfriend and I just go OK idrc. Keep talking to her and ask her to go to an event and hang out. I even said bring your bf idc. She just responds on fb by saying that she doesn't think we have any similar interests or think the same. With my guy friends, even if we are completely opposite in every aspect we can still get along and be friends. I don't get it.

>>17632766
if they're anything like me, they're there to get fucked up without the social stigma of doing lines alone in your kitchen

why do you want to party? is this in a college setting? there are very different kinds of parties.

>there are very different kinds of parties.
Yes
For me, a party means a group of friends at someone's house, drinking alcohol, maybe some people will be smoking some weed, people are chatting & eating chips & playing board games. I don't host parties that you can just show up to to. If you show up to my house and I don't know you (unless someone I trust vouches for you), & you expect to be let in, you can go fuck yourself.

>>17632766

where i live, house parties are not that popular past the age of 18. Clubbing is the go to here so what i have to say may not be the same for you.

>What are people doing there?

drinking and talking shit. some might be dancing, depends on the enviroment.

>Why are they going there?

depends. some people think they can get lucky with a girl, some people want to get drunk, some people generally enjoy the experience. main reason i have went to parties is because i wanted to see certain people that where going, and to drink.

>>17632694
Frumious Bandersnatch

>>17632694
oh so it's thaaaaat kind of band...

>>17632694
Brendel

>>17632665
100 year old vaudeville joke:

PATIENT (moving arm or something): Doctor, it hurts when I do this
DOCTOR: So don't do that!

Modern version

YOU: When I get drunk I get stupidly suicidal
DOCTOR: . . . .

>>17632711
The alcohol definitely played a part last night, but suicide has been a strong theme throughout most of my adult life. I had a gf that killed herself, and ever since its been a struggle to stay alive. I've done the same thing sober several times, although I was in a much worse place. Valid point, though

bump please

I'm in AF ROTC as well so I'm kind of biased, but I heard pilots slots are opening because most pilots are retiring. So if you want to be a pilot now's the time.

Though make sure you're prepared for life if you don't become an officer. You might not like military life or you might get kicked out of ROTC. I'm not saying you will, just that you probably need to consider it.

Also you should probably ask yourself if you'd like to work the rest of your life as an electrical engineer/computer engineer. Don't pick degrees because they're trendy. They'll probably give you decent salaries, but if you don't enjoy it then you shouldn't do it. It sounds cliche/naive, but the truth is that a large portion of your life will be dedicated to this job.

I know a bunch of engineer majors who picked engineering as their choice because of the money, which is more than a reasonable motive really, but they end up hating the work/math. I also know a bunch of engineers who find designing and building their own creations very rewarding, and some engineers who just deal with it to get a good living.

At the end of the day just be honest with yourself on who you are and what you want to do. Though be reasonable. Don't take a vow of poverty and become a freelance writer or major in woman's studies. Ideally try to build off your hobbies, and balance your interest with the viability of making a living off of those interests.

>>17632641
Go guard, get your schooling paid for, get the degree then leave the AF at the end of the 6 years.

If you go AFROTC you will get a similar free ride, go yay I'm an officer then get stuck in the AF for 4 years while the skills from your degree melt as you end up with two people inbetween you and actually making decisions and two people inbetween you and actually doing stuff.

Also would recommend EE or CS. CE seems to be niche.

You've let the army talk you into thinking their path is the best path you could be taking with your life. Don't fall for it. When I was in highschool the recruiters did the same thing to me. They painted this picture of how good being in the army was and because I really wasn't looking into any other option at the time the army looked like the best. That's how they get you.

Take a good month or two or even longer to research other careers and things you could be going to college for instead. You will probably find a career that is significantly more rewarding and better for your life than being in the army. The instant you find that new career you won't want to be in the army at all.

Every friend and person I know who bought into the army ended up being unhappy when they joined. It is not the life you'll probably end up enjoying.

>>17632628
I spelled brief wrong, apologies

Sounds like she wants to get to know you better before moving on to something more serious. Don't try to move too fast, but keep chasing her.

>>17633247
Thanks anon, I was thinking its something hta

Quick bump

>>17632562
Tell him to stop being stupid

Man, I've watched so many relationships that I put people in go to shit because my friends have no social awareness whatsoever.

Short answer is, you've already done everything you can.

>>17632506
less expectations imo

>>17632506
Any evidence that women are "stupid and useless"?

>>17632506
If you had the opportunity to cruise through the first 25+ years of your life based on looks alone, would you?

There's your answer.

>>17632474
You should close your blinds if you don't want people to see you naked. It doesn't sound like he was peeping on purpose, he just happened to look out his window and see a 19-year-old girl taking her clothes off.

If you catch the guy camping out with binoculars, you can make a big deal out of it. This sounds like an honest mistake. Close your curtains next time

>>17632493
>creeping on someone is an honest mistake

t. rapist

>>17632778
Shut the fuck up.

>>17632441
why dont you go to bed with a guy instead, he might be more willing to overlook your issue.

cotton underwear?

>>17632441
A rough case of samata