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I fucking hate doing it but my brain always seems to get ahead of itself or just sets itself up for failure.

Any tips on how to stop this in general?

This happened to me as an example of my worst overthinking experience..

Recently got intimate with this girl, we both wanted to fuck and me being a fucking idiot I overthink, got nervous, noticed I wasn't getting hard from it, and couldn't get hard cause It just kept thinking to much.

I've had sex before, my numbers aint high but I know I could do it. I am attracted to her. I might not be the most confident in my abilities(foreplay) but I get worried and actually convince myself that not trying is the better option than just trying at all. Just that my mind always thinks I'm gonna fuck up or I start worrying about one mistake and never recover from it.

Any help?

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Hey Uncle Tom here, cute ghetto girl just moved into my college apt (shared).

really like her but don't know how to get her to notice

She's sitting in front of me on the couch

wat do?

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So /adv/ I need some help. This is sort of embarrassing and makes me feel like less of a man. Now I've been fucking this girl for a while and I really want to help her and myself achieve our sexual fantasies to the max. I want to be able to drill her. But here's the issue. I fucking cum so god damned quickly it pisses ME off more than her. She said it doesn't even bother her but we all know it would be better if I lasted longer. With a condom I do last, and somewhat longer if I masturbate beforehand. But when I say I cum quickly, I mean QUICKLY. Like if I wanted to I could come within 30 seconds or less. What do I do to stop this, our sex is usually discrete so I would hope the answer included something I can discretely do also. Pic related is my face every time I cum.

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I want a hot friendly woman to LTR and have her actually desire me rather than my wallet.


I am doing everything I can to achieve this. I'm exercising, doing my job and earning money, reading, playing sports, going outside, dressing well, etc.

I have been using tinder and other dating apps to bang women in the meantime. I have had to lower my standards to pull this off, and I'm basically using these girls as practice until I'm at the level where I can snag someone great.


Should I keep doing the "practice" thing, or should I just stay away from girls until I find someone I actually want to commit to? Is this ethical?

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Hi, femanon here, please here me out.

I've been dying to get with somebody, yet I don't even know how.
I've only ever dated one guy, for a year. We never fucked because of something that happened to him in the past. We loved each other but it became really difficult being abstinent so I left him. I haven't been with anyone since. I've still never had sex.

I'm a pretty average person, decently attractive and not too dumb, but nothing special.
I don't have many friends, just a few very close ones and that's it. I'm not very social, and it's even harder since I don't live in my native country so I don't speak the language here very well..

I don't know where to meet people. I don't socialize with anyone. I just.. I just don't know how to find people.
All I wanted was to have a special someone to spend the evening watching a movie with. It isn't that much to ask for, is it?
But at this point, if somebody came up to me on the street and asked me if I wanted to fuck, I'd jump in their arms. I feel pathetic for this. I need to change something.

Which brings me to my point. Where should I go to meet new people, if there's barely any english speaking places around here? Where should I find people? Even for a one night stand..

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Why would you want to ask me shit?

I'm 28 years old fucked about 130-140 women so this may be relevant to your intersts

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off

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This may be a bit of a rant, but I am fucking done, I crave having a girlfreind so much, I dont know what to do anymore and the worst feeling is that I have NO FUCKING EXCUSE to be such a failure. I am white( not that it would matter to me, but sometimes, other races have it more difficult). 180 cm tall, enough money, no handicaps. Speaks multiple languages, good academics, good hygiene, good face ( no major problems in terms of acne or something) There is no fucking excuse for me to not have gf.
in b4
>maybe you actually need to ask the girl out

I did few times, always setup a date, pay for the date, make a plan, etc... nothing works
>maybe you should lower your standards, do not expect a 10 if you are 6

I very little to no standards, I dont mind if the girl is fat ( up to BMI 40 I tolerate), I do not care about looks really (95% of the girls would pass), last time I showed to my friends the girl I tried to date, they would laugh and tell me to get some standards... still got rejected even by her....

I just fcking want to hang myself, no point of working for anything, if I am going to die alone, just work to feed myself...what is the point...

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Do girls like to be grabbed by their pussy and dragged around like property?

I'm a nice guy but I can't keep getting the thought that women wanted to be dominated and treated like shit and degraded. Is it true or just a meme? I'm attractive so that's not a problem there.

Do girls like to be grabbed by their pussy and treated like objects? I don't think I could ever respect a girl that does. I'm attracted to nice and sweet girls and If I find one I will always worry if I'm doing it wrong and she really wants me to grab her by the pussy so to speak.

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What can a guy do to be more likeable, and im not talking about looks but rather personalitywise.

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My sugar daddy broke up with me and I can't afford burando anymore. How can I find another one who isn't a scumbag or a creep, and who will actually fund my hobby? Any other seagulls w/ sugar daddies have advice? General sugar daddy thread!

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How do you get sex to pass by quicker? If he's horny and I'm not, sure I'll put out anyway. But then he gets mad that I'm not being enthusiastic enough about giving it up out of obligation, and I say if it isn't good enough he can just go finish it up himself, and then we're both mad.

Are there any ways to ensure he'll finish in 1-2 minutes before he can figure out I'm bored?

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off

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