There's this homeless guy in my town, I see him every day walking to work
He talks to himself and stuff and is clearly mentally ill or maybe just extremely lonely
I was at a bar and I looked out the window a foot behind where I was sitting and he was literally sitting there leaning up against the window staring at me. It was so scary. He was just staring at me for ages, easily 5 minutes. Then he went
So creepy but I feel horrible for him. I'm worried he's going to start stalking me and kill me or something but I also think "Damn maybe he was just wanting human interaction with a familiar face who he sees walk by him every day"
I started crying when I got home and just wanted to scream "Why doesn't anyone help him" mainly directed at myself - why can't I help him. Why is this world so shit. I feel bad for him
You could greet him everytime you come across him. Find out his name and then learn his story, ask around. See if he'll tell you, then you can find out if he should be helped or wants to be helped. I think you might feel better if you helped at a homeless shelter, or maybe get him a drink even.
>>17604056
What if he's severely mentally ill and starts stalking me though and tries to kill me
I'm scared he'll gain some mental attachment to me and expect too much from me and get upset if I don't give him more, I don't know
>>17604061
Just carry on. You could give him some food every once in a while as it'd be nice, but doesn't matter much. Being homeless sucks, and at times I didn't want help as you do get used to things being shitty in a way. Small luxeries only last so long and then you have to get reacclimated to not having things. That may have just been me though.
I just found a pretty sweet job as a flight attendant, but I'm terrified of flying. Should I tough it out?
>mfw flying
Why would you go through the training and whatnot if you're scared of flying?
>>17604005
Decent pay. Not a load of work. Travel.
stop being a pussy and get over flying, pussy
or get a benzo script
18 year old handholdless kissless virgin here
Have tried meeting girls forever, nothing's working. I'm not unattractive, or fat, I have some acne but im taking meds for it now
Where can I meet other virgin girls? I'd rather dump my time into a cute virgin and then the first time I fuck I won't be so embarrassed.
Thanks
18 to 20 is the average age to have sex for the first time, don't sweat it.
Also, yeah we all dream of "that special night with that special someone", get off that shit, if you really, really want to get laid just stick your penis in the first girl that lets you, otherwise you're just delussional.
Looking for love and looking for sex are not mutually exclussive and with a little bit of luck you find them both in the same place, but you gotta make up your mind about which one will you pursue because they don't always come together.
>>17603986
Forgot yo mention, traditionally is expected for a first timer to warn his/her partner but many people don't exactly because for some people is a deal breaker, that one's up to you but yeah, your first time will probably not be that good.
>>17603986
You think if i just get an escort ill be less focused on >Tfw no gf ?
literally what is wrong with this
poor anti-aliasing
>>17603931
Some retard made a building that has an acute angle to two streets. Talk about traffic noise issues.
Horrific lack of context.
Where does /adv/ find women?
Long story short, just started at a PhD program in a new state.
I spent the large majority of my week at the program, with my cohort, but the only available women there are in their late 20s / early 30s, and at 21 I feel that's a bit old for me.
In the little bit of free time leftover, I joined a couple of social things, at the uni. But so far no luck there. One of them is gender segregated, the other just doesn't have many women participants.
Online dating would seem the obvious choice, but I don't really have any recent pictures. Would it be horrible to go to a studio for professional photos just for a dating profile?
What's my next move /adv/?
>21
>phd program
>>17603894
possible
>>17603882
Who are you?
I have the Cassandra curse.
A simple example:
>I tell my friends that X character in a video game is supossed to be played in a certain way.
>They don't believe me and make fun of me for my statement.
>Some time later (maybe a week, maybe a year or more) a professional gamer (yeah, esports, deal with it) plays the character the way I told my friends it was supossed to be played.
Now, this happens too often and I never miss a chance to "I told you" them, yet they still won't believe my statements (and no, this has nothing to do with me being an asshole when proven right, I would've noticed if that was the case).
This situation is not limited to video games nor is it limited to my friends (I don't go "I told you" with other people).
I understand that people is resistant to ideas that differ from theirs and are not willing to accept them, but for fucks sake even if I especify when I'm stating an opinion and when I'm stating a fact they still don't believe me.
How do I make people believe me when I'm telling the truth?
>>17603810
you don't, let people live
>>17603810
Can't these characters be played in multiple ways, depending on situation, meta, updates, etc?
I'd say there are more than one way to play, just because a pro comes to a certain way that aligns to yours, doesn't mean it's the only and best way. But I think I get what you mean, I used to play Dota 2 and people generally follow the meta, the meta almost always being set by the pro players and people are resistant to experimenting or playing in other ways. But you say this isn't limited to this, so throw that away. There isn't much you can do, in fact, it's probably better for people to find their own way. If you believe you're very intelligent and perceptive then use that for something useful, or surround yourself with equally intelligent and perceptive people. Those who are keenly aware of themselves and won't just dismiss your conclusions and ideas. Most people will just dislike you if you try tell them how something is though.
>>17603864
I told my friends Skywrath mid was viable 2 years ago and until W33 played (and won) the TI final's first game with it they would complain whenever I played it, even after winning, again that is just one example of the many.
Fuck, my friends themselves are aware of my cassandra curse and even make jokes about it yet are still unable to accept my statements even if I remind them of all those times I was right.
I think there has to be something about the way I tell it to people, like there's something in me that make people resufe to accept that I am often right... maybe is because of my attitude towards failure (I always deal with my failures with my head high and rarely show weakness) so that's probably what triggers people, but fuck them.
On the other hand, my friends had seen me in my best and my worst and have seen me fail more than anyone else, they have seen me all broken and picking myself up piece by piece. I just find it weird that people still won't believe me despite how different the situation or my what my relationship with them is.
I literally only attract fat/chubby girls.
Because of my body type (im big, tall, muscular but not lean, "bearmode") i get chubby girls attention. I dont like chubby girls. I want a skinny or fit girl.
Wat do? I dont want to change my body type (i love being a bear) but shit, i need pussy, preferably from a girl i find attractive.
Pic unrelated
>>17603780
Whats wrong with them? Faggot?
>>17603796
Im not attracted to whales/baby whales.
If you are, by no means did i mean to offend, im just saying that im not.
ITT "I want a hot girlfriend but I want to continue to be disgusting looking, I want her to put in all sorts of effort to keep herself thin and beautiful without her expecting me to lift a finger to keep myself good looking"
I had a cough for a couple of days, but took a suppressant since I work in an environment with food, so I wouldn't cough on customers things.
I woke up this morning with a deep pain in my shoulders, a low grade fever, and shortness of breath. I vomited and almost passed out in the bathroom, and had waves for fatigue.
I called in to work before 2 hours beforehand. I've been working there for a month. I've not been late (if I was, it was by like 2 minutes due to traffic that made other workers late too). I always stay over my scheduled time to leave to make sure everything gets done and clean. I regularly run and close the store completely by myself and I've not even worked there a month. I'm dependable, flexible.
My boss was off today, so I had to talk to a different manager. He was downright vulgar and hateful to me. I told him I had a doctor's appointment and would bring documentation. He said "you'd better, if that would even work. You're new and we can let you go at any time. "
I went to the doctor and I have pneumonia. Walking pneumonia that got really bad to the point of almost requiring hospitalization. She told me to take an additional 4 days off work, because if I don't rest I could need the hospital. I took a picture of the excuse and diagnosis and sent it to my manager. She will not respond to me, though I know she saw it.
Am I fired? They require you to call every day before your shift even if they are told by you that you will be ill for 3 days. I'm scared to call, which I know is stupid. But the hostility is awful. I'm part of the union, could I report it if they fire me?
>tl;dr sick with pneumonia that could get me hospitalized if I don't recover. Management at work is really mean and hateful to me even though I have the documentation needed, citing that it is because I'm new. Can they fire me? I am part of the union.
>>17603770
It's shit like this that makes me not even want to work at all, period.
I'm sorry to hear you're going through this, anon. It's shitty to possibly lose your job because you have fucking pneumonia.
>>17603847
Thanks for the empathy. Honestly I need to go to a trade school or even become a medical assistant or something through an associates program,
I'm sick of retail and food. All my issues in this field almost always stem from shit management. Any other type of work I've done I've never had issues with my bosses being mean or outright stupid.
Wish I could find a career in writing anything. I used to make money in college (didnt have enough money to finish my degree) by writing certain essays for foreign students. They'd give me cash. Wish I could make legit money writing any drivel from home.
>>17603867
I'm about to transfer majoring in Political Science and it just hit me how worthless my degree will be because of how impossible it is to become a real honest politician in my country.
99% of all other jobs (and this includes my shitty field) all consist of corporate politics, bullshit favoritism, and mind-numbing idiocy. It's like there's no escape.
I swear the meaning to growing up is watching your dreams burn away.
Quick story before question
>be me, 19. M
>Have friend, just turned 20. M
>Been hanging out for a while, normal stuff.
>One day it gets gay
>Now it's gay all day
>Except it's just me now
What do?
>>17603763
>>Except it's just me now
he wasn't gay just bored
>>17603768
I should clarify, I'm the only one who does shit now. Gay still happens, just in my mouth and the general area around it.
>>17603774
so you're a cumdumpster?
should i go smoke weed or just go to bed? its 1 am
Just go to bed
smoke weed
>light up a joint
>burn it like incense
>go to sleep
I recently acquired information that there is a rather large "charity" (National Scale) being run entirely as a scam. I'm unsure of how to proceed, or even what to do. I was certain that if I could find advice anywhere, it would be on 4chan. Any ideas?
>>17603731
Report it to the authorities.
Also name the charity.
Believe me, i would do it if it was an option, but from a legal standpoint, there is nothing that can be done to stop it, and if something isn't done, this organization will only continue to bleed charitable money away from those who really need it.
>>17603859
Keep posting, you're doing good work
>Friends with a girl
>Constantly gets pissed at me like I'm her BF
>Today for example
>I went home from her party she invited me to, had a football game to watch
>She sends me a passive aggressive text asking why I left
>I texted her early this evening to text me if she had plans to go out
>Text me back, "Maybe I'll text you."
This is just one example of many of her getting passive aggressive with me. I feel like I'm her BF. Funny I actually did ask her out a year ago but she declined.
lol nah
nah
she's just playing you, son
i say you cut ties and move the fuck on
especially if you have a thing for her/are attracted to her
it's going nowhere, just like a blocked run
>>17603653
Friend zone emotional support between chads, that's what you are. She's trying to make you feel like you have a chance with her my imitating a relationship with fake "lovers quarrels" to keep you along until she can find some good Chad dick.
It's textbook, you seem inexperienced.
>>17603677
OP here, your probably right
>anytime anything bad happens to you, it's 100% your fault and you should have prevented it
>anytime anything good happens to you, it's either dumb luck of benevolence from others and you did nothing to bring it upon yourself
Why does it always feel this way? Why does everyone always tell me this is the case? Even when I literally roll dice badly, people act like I did something wrong and unskillful and brought the misfortune upon myself on purpose. It goes double when it's stuff of complete chance that I had no hand in, like computer game random factors or market fluctuations influencing my savings accounts. If I lose 12 bucks on something, it's not TD at fault, it's me. If I miss a 99% shot in XCOM, it's not the game, it's that I personally rolled badly. Why is everything bad that happens taken as something I personally did wrong? And what few times it goes right, why doesn't anyone ever credit me?
>>17603648
Why do you even care about others' perception of your successes and failures in life? The fault of every single event is shared among the elements that were actively involved in the event in question. Pinpointing the true cause behind many of life's happenings is not only impossible in practice but probably also theoretically due to the chaotic nature of the Universe. For that reason I ask that you fucking chill my nigga.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7qFN6naZGc
>>17603648
nobody really says the second...
people look up to successful/rich people, even if those people didn't do anything to deserve it
Stop redirecting blame to yourself. If you are able to calm down and think about what lead up to what happened, you should be able to decide how much was and wasn't in your control.
Based on that, you can deduce what should be under your list of worries.
As for good things, well, think of it the same way; understand that lots of things that are good are thanks to others and their labor. It has been like this since the beginning of humankind. Think nothing of it, but give your thanks where necessary/appropriate whenever possible so then you won't be seen as ungrateful. It means a lot to people when you show you thanks.
Also, don't listen to other people because they more often than not speak before thinking about what comes out of their mouths.
Lots of people don't show gratitude when it's due, so you needn't worry about it so much unless you seek validation, which would then hinder your future endeavors because you'll be tricked to think, "What's the point? Why do this when no one is thankful?" In my opinion, you should just do the things you like, and go on in life. When you do do things that are to your thanks, those who matter will go out of their way to show appreciation, and in that time you will realize that it was worthwhile. That's of course depending on what you find pleasurable, but if you're going to rise up in the societal tree, being a sort of independent figure of your own that people look up to (selflessness is a good trait for starters) will attract that sort of gratitude you're seeking. Know that your deed doesn't need to have a large impact: in fact, the small things you do will echo mountains worth of words compared to the occasional large contribution in your community, and people will praise you for it. Personal connections will be made, and people will want to be your friend.
For now take it easy and focus on yourself and/or whatever you need to in order to get your shit together mentally.
What are some ways to get invited to parties? Senior year and I'm not very sociable though I have friends in all classes.
>>17603641
Add them on facebook
Most party invitations are through facebook nowadays, so if people think you're cool, they'll add you to the invite when they're creating the event
Also join your senior class's facebook group
I'm pretty lame but I still managed to get invited to some
>>17603649
My senior class FB page is only 300 people out of the 1k in the class. Last post was sept 1st lol
>>17603695
That's because it's still only the beginning of the year. I didn't join the group till second semester. And that's when people really start posting and joining.
Why can't I send this to her?
Because it's shit?
Because it's pathetic?
Because it's shitty?