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>>17670579
Sounds like he means more to you than you do to him. If you think you're acting clingy anon then that could be a reason he's putting you behind other plans. Do you have other friends you go out with or is he the main one?

You're upset that he does things sometimes without telling you? Yes, that is too clingy. That's clingy even for boyfriends/girlfriends. Why should he tell you that he's going to a music festival? Why does he owe you this information?

You're way too clingy. The idea that a friend should tell you everything they're doing every weekend is ridiculous. Where did you get that idea from?

>>17670531
>overwatch exports
I don't know what those are, and google thinks it's the blizzard game, so I can't help you, sorry anon.

*esports

>>17670531
git gud

Stop getting things wrong.

I always say this to people starting engineering, if you can't handle the material in your first year or you feel it is overwhelming then drop out. No way you are going to survive 3rd and 4th year.

Also, understand that engineering is a very stressful degree. The workload is enormous, the pressure of getting good enough grades to not only pass but to do well so that you can potentially go to your masters and the fact it is damn expensive to enrol in goes to show you that it isn't a place to fuck around.

Either buck up or switch degrees anon. I know 5 guys who developed depression from.

>>17670518

>drop out

2.7 GPA soon-to-graduate EE here, don't know what the fuck i'm going to do

>Why am I so undesirable?

Short
Ugly
Weird
Boring
Creepy

Pick your poison.

>>17670496
There's a spectrum , right now you're on side anon , and you want to be in the middle .

Something happened to you as a kid that caused you to have intimacy issues . This made you a very needy (read: beta) man. Women hate needy men. We get it , you want sex , but you have nothing to show for it . The other side is naracisstic men . They're just like you think . They get sex but don't get much past shallow relationship and only shitty girls because a "good" girl won't stoop so low to be disrespected that often .

You want to be not be needy. Believe it or not , not demanding attraction actually makes you magnetic .

So tonight begins the night where you start to put some self value into yourself and become confident that is in no one derived what women think or how much pussy you get . Good luck , Anon.

>>17670562
But how do I get confidence? I need to succeed at least once somehow to feel confident...

Only problem is cleaning the damn thing and also you will eventually get tired of it. If your hands aren't good enough to satisfy you, then what will a rubbery device do for you? Smarten up dude and face the fact you are running away from approaching attractive women. All the slags you been with are just easy bangs with nothing else but you getting your dick up. Actually having the courage to go up to a girl, asking her out, planning the date, going to the date and watching it unfold is something else entirely.

You have way more text about your sexual history than about the actual issue at hand.

What possible consequences could there be to buying a sex toy? Are you afraid about people finding it and judging you? Fuck 'em. What does that matter?

OP Here. I guess it's more, will buying a fleshlight completely eliminate my desire for wanting to be with a woman. Or actually removing my desire for women altogether would be quite convenient. Idk just the idea of going on a date with a woman seems so fucking cancerous. Like for some reason I feel like I can fuck up so many things and for some reason I give that person power over me, over my self worth. And then when I end up getting rejected I feel like shit. Idk how to get rid of that feedback loop. That's what's leading me to consider a fleshlight.

Well first thing is first, blaming your autism for not getting a driving license is fucking stupid. You are just a lazy dipshit who doesn't even have the balls to do something anybody can do.

Go online, learn the material and do the test. Get your g1 dude.

That is step one. Once you finish that come back for more steps.

>>17670504
>Well first thing is first, blaming your autism for not getting a driving license is fucking stupid. You are just a lazy dipshit who doesn't even have the balls to do something anybody can do.

Not him, but I'm a fellow autist who can tell you that isn't necessarily true. I'm 24 and I've been trying to get my license for the past 7 years. The thing you're failing to keep in mind is that autism doesn't just affect social skills, it affects situational awareness. Whenever I'm in any sort of situation that requires any sort of external focus, I have to constantly fight the almost overwhelming urge to get lost inside my own head and start daydreaming; because of this, I've routinely missed stopped signs and gone as low as 25 miles below the speed limit because I can't help spacing out. This has not changed over the past 7 years.

Then there's also the issue of non-verbal communication involved in driving: I can never tell what other drivers are planning to do in any given situation without whoever's in the car with me telling me. This has also not changed over the past 7 years.

I'd say 1 out of every 5 driving attempts I make, I narrowly avoid getting in a serious accident because of these things.

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I only read autism. Get on my level; I'm a high functioning sociopath. knife knife knife

>>17670465
You did everything right. You were honest & upfront about what kind of relationship you're looking for with her. It wasn't what she wanted to hear, but I guarantee you it would have hurt her more in the long run had you been dishonest & fucked her.

>>17670477
>had you been dishonest & fucked her.

Which it had been before. I feel guilty about it but I hope its something she learns from to.

I really didnt know what I was doing and felt that we could just do the things we did with no feelings. I guess this goes to show I need male friends.

>>17670508
Sorry, my bad, I hadn't read your post carefully.

I still think you're fine though. When you start dating a new partner, you shouldn't assume exclusivity. I mean, if you had wanted to be totally upfront and bring it up yourself before having sex with her the first time, that would have been extra-careful and good of you, but that fact that you didn't isn't a problem.

>felt that we could just do the things we did with no feelings
That is... look, it's POSSIBLE but super difficult and rare. We're biologically wired to grow affectionate with people we have sex with. A frank discussion is always a good idea if you don't know where you stand.

Not every actor starts out as a child. Go for it.

>>17670457
It's pretty much never too late to do anything , especially if it's work related .

Never too late. So go for it!

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There is nothing we can't tell you that you don't already know. Make a greater effort to keep it under control or go to therapy.

>>17670380

This.

You are obviously very insecure, just your post told us that. Take a deep breath and enjoy what you've got. Then, and only after the deep breath, tell her what she has in you. Explain why you want to be her one and only. Then, if issues still arise, explain to her why you don't like her talking to other guys.

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>>17670343

>Does sensory deprivation work to remove the desire to want women?

Kek. No. Thats the dumbest fucking thing I've ever heard.

>Women truly are a great curse to men, they are the only ensured thing in the world to bring a man's destruction.

Sorry, I take it back. THIS is the dumbest fucking thing I've ever heard.

I sort of ignore women on a regular basis. The problem is that it's a conscious effort to avoid women which in turn make you think about them more. It's the whole "don't think of elephants, now what are you thinking about?" Thing. Accept the fact that women aren't going away and live in with your life.

>>17670343

No. Sensory deprivation will not cure your severe autism.

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You are way way way too worried about this, in most contexts eating alone is normal and no one thinks twice about it. Cooking for yourself should be an enjoyable experience, not a chore. If you learn to actually cook something enjoyable it becomes a thing you look forward to doing and not something to get out of the way.

But in the end, it all circles back to the idea that this bothers you immensely for some reason, which means that you should probably relax and stop worrying about what some random stranger thinks of you.

>>17670306
Well, now that I think about it, I may actually dislike eating at home alone and eating out for different reasons. Sitting at my table eating by myself every single day just really seems to drive home how lonely I am. I actually do like to cook, but for other people. It doesn't feel like it's worth the effort if it's just for me.

For eating out, you're right, there's no way random people are watching me eat and judging me. Still, you really don't see that many people eating alone at restaurants. I feel like the odd one out, even if I know it's not that strange.

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>>17670359

People don't eat alone in fancy restaurants, but it's perfectly normal to see people eating alone in food courts, fast food places, cafes, and other low-budget eateries. No one considers it strange.

If the underlying problem is loneliness, then what you need to tackle is that, and the anxiety it's causing in your daily life. I could write a big ass post about making friends but I already did so in another thread, and chances are you would do better going to therapy.

>>17670252
Clubs.

Join one.

Or get one.

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This is probably one of the three most popular questions on /adv/.

People on /adv/ believe that one day they will magically meet people who match with them in interests and personalities, they will immediately click, and form a super-cool squad that no one can break up. This is false.

Friendships are built on time spent together in the same place. People make friends in school, college and work because they are forced to be in the same physical space for a lot of time. These are the prime places for you to make friends simply by exposing yourself to others, making yourself available, and talking.

In order to successfully make friends you need to lose fear of rejection or embarrassment. If you are an awkward person, be an awkward person. A lot of people don't care, some even find it cute.

If you are not studying or working, it is necessary for you to get out of the house simply on account that you will never meet someone new sitting in your room. (You can try online meetups but 99% of people end up flaking, and the other 1% live on the other side of the world.) People meet friends by going to yoga classes, punk concerts, dog-walking parks, whatever. But it's important to keep in mind that this happens after repeated instances, rarely on the first try.

So basically:

1. You need to keep going at it.
2. It won't happen the first time.
3. Friends aren't forever. People's situations and interests change and they make new friends. There is nothing wrong with this.

>>17670262
What if you don't have any classes or places to go after classes? Nowhere you're "forced" to be stuck together I mean.

>>17670245

What about realizing she is not into you?

Don't waste energy being jealous on her. Use that energy to meet new girls.

>>17670249
She don't even know about me liking her.

>>17670253

So? It's not like you made any efforts. I mean, you introduced your friend to her.

Imagine I complain about not knowing any Chinese. I'd love to speak Chinese, but I never make any effort.

If I told I was jealous of people that know Chinese, what would you tell me?

or you could be less of a fat bitch and get in shape

If you don't want to stand for half the day why did you interview for the job in the first place

Yes you should. It will be less of a hassle now than later. People will be pissed but it doesn't matter. This is a no-brainer. If you can't physically do the job don't do the job.

isn't it 質問 not 質間? No middle stroke there

>>17670218
Think of questions about those places similar to the questions from part 1. Then, ask your partner.

>>17670218
Also, I don't know anything about 宮島, but shouldn't your previous answer be すごくおなかがすいている人しか(誰も)いないんですから。
You are saying "because there isn't anybody that isn't extremely hungry," right?